Hi all,
Just trying to reach out to people who, I am sure, have been there done that with this situation. Backstory:
I am completely head over heels in love with my girlfriend. We have been together for a long time now and are planning on moving in together. I am sure that there are future plans for us being together for the long run and I have no problem at all with that. She is my best friend and lover.
That being said...she has very "itchy feet." She has the best of intentions with working with a non-profit and will not settle for any job until she gets what she wants. Problem is this...city that I am in has a ton of opportunity in that sector. Why is that a problem you ask? She doesn't believe it...she wants to be in DC, NYC, or Cali...or even Africa. I try to stress the importance of starting on a local level and gaining ground/momentum and experience, THEN getting into the perfect job.
I don't really know what to say. Her family is here and is really excited that she has finally come home (she has been gone 3 years after college across seas, travelling) and I have, basically, pledged to my boss (very small firm I am helping him grow) that I will stick around for at least 2 years before I start my own (which I am already in the process of doing, but hoping by the 2 year mark I can make it my sole source of income).
I try to listen and I would love to follow but I can't. I don't want to hold her back. I don't want to tell her that I think it is selfish and she has to choose to be an adult at some point in life. I don't want to tell her this because if I say this, then it is going against all I stand for. I have let no one dictate my future and whether I am successful or not (told me I would never go to college, once I started the college path then they told me I would never get into the one I wanted, then once I did get in they told me I would never get the money, then once I got the scholarship they told me I would never make the grades, etc...).
I have to stay here for a bit longer. I don't want to lose her. Advice?
I come to you guys more than I go to my best friends, haha.
Any and all accepted and appreciated.
Best,
Josh
Just trying to reach out to people who, I am sure, have been there done that with this situation. Backstory:
I am completely head over heels in love with my girlfriend. We have been together for a long time now and are planning on moving in together. I am sure that there are future plans for us being together for the long run and I have no problem at all with that. She is my best friend and lover.
That being said...she has very "itchy feet." She has the best of intentions with working with a non-profit and will not settle for any job until she gets what she wants. Problem is this...city that I am in has a ton of opportunity in that sector. Why is that a problem you ask? She doesn't believe it...she wants to be in DC, NYC, or Cali...or even Africa. I try to stress the importance of starting on a local level and gaining ground/momentum and experience, THEN getting into the perfect job.
I don't really know what to say. Her family is here and is really excited that she has finally come home (she has been gone 3 years after college across seas, travelling) and I have, basically, pledged to my boss (very small firm I am helping him grow) that I will stick around for at least 2 years before I start my own (which I am already in the process of doing, but hoping by the 2 year mark I can make it my sole source of income).
I try to listen and I would love to follow but I can't. I don't want to hold her back. I don't want to tell her that I think it is selfish and she has to choose to be an adult at some point in life. I don't want to tell her this because if I say this, then it is going against all I stand for. I have let no one dictate my future and whether I am successful or not (told me I would never go to college, once I started the college path then they told me I would never get into the one I wanted, then once I did get in they told me I would never get the money, then once I got the scholarship they told me I would never make the grades, etc...).
I have to stay here for a bit longer. I don't want to lose her. Advice?
I come to you guys more than I go to my best friends, haha.
Any and all accepted and appreciated.
Best,
Josh
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