Sorry, But MJ (or the forum) Can't Make Your Life Decisions For You!!

[nothingness]

Now wait a minute, how am I supposed to pick the right colour for my Lamborghini without MJ's advice?

 

[Vigilante]

Read this

 

[MJ DeMarco]

but I have posted a few times in here and expected to receive an opinion from you but you remained silent

My apologies. I'm sorry about that and it has nothing do to with an icon.

It's because I haven't read whatever was addressed to me. There are dozens of posts made here daily and frankly, I probably only get to read a tiny % of them. So if someone is asking me something in a long thread somewhere, there's a great likelihood that I'll never read it, or I scanned it over.

 

[Dutchy]

I can guarantee that anyone who would ask someone to make life changing decisions for them are not cut out for the fastlane and very likely to fail. Fastlane is not for everyone, that's why the slowlane and sidewalk exist. Again, I don't mean to be mean but I have a hard time understanding some of these guys' behavior.

Excellent post, very well put!

 

[PND]

If you are having trouble making a big decision in your life, I suggest you use the WADM decision matrix that I have used so many times in my life.

Got a Tough Choice? HelpMyDecision.com Helps You Make Better Decisions!

I used this method on paper. I tried it on your website. The "issue" is that I would have "liked" the result was different.

I have a difficult decision to make nowadays. Deep inside I know the right answer but I am really afraid. I know I need to change my plan. I know if I don't change that will be a sidewalk action. I know in the end I will surely change my plan. The fact is if I send you an email and you say to me "Yeh you should change" it would help me. I could say "Even the great MJ thinks I should change".

Actually I didn't asked you by email because I know already which is the good answer, I know what I should do (even if not yet decided). However I thought about asking you. I understand some people may need your answers when crossing roads.

 

[Darkside]

I find that often people seek others to help them with major decisions just to have a 'fall guy' in the event the decision turns out to be the wrong choice.

Yes, that's what I was trying to get at. They want to remove the responsibility for the decision from themselves, so that if it turns out to be a bad one, they will feel like someone else is to blame: "It's so and so's fault I quit my job and started a business because he said that's what I should do!"

 

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[millionairesol]

It still will not be a bad idea to open Help Line to "ASK MJ This" MJ may not necessarily answer all. But the ones that involve the individual's personal decision will be skipped. and the ones that could help even other members might be treated. If there are other admin members in here, they can even help out. Some of these questions might even be good and ideal for discussions on the forum here and everybody learns at the end of the day.
But questions on SHOULD I QUIT MY JOB and bla bla bla, could go for consultation service charge.

 

[andviv]

I read this and a thought came to my mind... MJ, get your "Guru-style" answer ready:

"We have a seminar for that, Free. For free, we will up-sell you a $500 seminar for more details. After that, another up-sell to a $50,000 seminar where I will tell you read my material and do what you want, cause IO don't care anymore"

It must be Monday, cause I keep thinking of bad joke after bad joke....

 

[Rickson9]

Sigh. I wish I had hair... J/k

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bumpety Bump!!

 

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[hrishikesh]

I am a very slow decision maker, although my decision are almost always the right.
There is this book about decision making which has 5 star reviews. I have ordered it. Lets see.
Do it! or ditch it!

 

[ClintonSkakun]

This tool is awesome, I use it now and then when I have super pressing decisions to make.

 

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[Vigilante]

MJ.... will you adopt me?

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

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[SPX]

nice website, i was using it and half way through I knew what I needed to do.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

[FastNAwesome]

I can guarantee that anyone who would ask someone to make life changing decisions for them are not cut out for the fastlane and very likely to fail. Fastlane is not for everyone, that's why the slowlane and sidewalk exist. Again, I don't mean to be mean but I have a hard time understanding some of these guys' behavior.

Speed++

 

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[AllenCrawley]

Bump

 

[Vigilante]

bump

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Thread title and article edited.

 

[Twista]

How did I not catch this thread earlier? Good stuff here.

 

[jockinbox]

bump

 

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[Deleted27835]

I'm really glad I read this prior to posting a lengthy article asking for major life advice...

 

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[7elusal]

Thank the fates! choices is all I have!

 

[Jon Snow]

Well, some people just don't have courage to make big decision, to take big risk for their own life.
Gladly I has adopted the right mindset from reading Victor Pride's blog.
I also read your book because of him.

I chose my big decision 4 months ago.
Yes, it takes some balls. Yes, I was scared.
I'm not yet in the place I put my mind to.
But life never been better.
No more dead look in my eyes.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

[Bellini]

Now what?

That's hilarious

I guess you chose Florida?


I was trying to decide wether or not I should make a major geographical move, and decided to go to MJ's helpmydecision.com.

I knew between my options there was one that was a little more scary, and of course, that's the one that came out #1.

So I went back and did it again, just to make sure. ha. I even weighted some of the factors differently while still being honest.

It still came out with the same answer. lol

Oh well..... I might be moving west soon!

 

[Ronnie Bryan]

Should I work two jobs to raise the income I need for my prototype?

 

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[Ronnie Bryan]

Right, okay then let's reword this MJ? in your BIASED opinion if you were me, which your not TODAY, but there was a time.you have less than $1000 you want to feed your baby and are working full time, thinking you want to hop off the sidewalk and skip the slowlane,your resources are TINY heck your spending money to use OPR would you look for a second job.