Self-identification is destructive. Your identity is not actually "yours".
You don't need to identify yourself as anything. It's a placebo - it doesn't matter.
What really holds a person down is self-identification.
It starts with "My name is", but it absolutely doesn't matter what your name is. Your name is not your substance. It's an attribute for others to identify you.
"I'm 30 years old" - your age is irrelevant. Time has no substance in existence. It doesn't exist - it's a concept. Identifying yourself as something that doesn't exist is a destructive process as it makes you apply attributes to yourself, that have no substance, but change emotional conditions and sense of yourself.
"I'm a good looking person" - it doesn't matter how you look from that perspective. I'm a pretty "good looking" guy with more "aesthetically pleasing body" and genetically I'm "superior" to absolute majority of people.
Doesn't it sound a bit pretentious?
Well, that's because this identification conflicts with your identification. It may or may not be "true" in a certain context, but it is completely irrelevant as long as it not viewed in this certain context.
It doesn't matter how "good" you look in context A if in context B your qualities and attributes have no weight.
Therefore identifying yourself as "good looking" makes absolutely no sense - you live in a number of contexts approaching infinity during your life span.
Identifying contexts will make you perform more effectively than identifying yourself.
This is how our conscious and unconscious function - we process each frame of situation to find similarities between them to develop stronger ability to effectively survive in these situations.
Identifying ourselves is what society teaches us. One who escapes self-identification is by definition above the society, which you can also observe in this very society.
"I'm successful" - is completely irrelevant. The fact that you have succeeded 10 times doesn't actually have anything to do with you succeeding 11th time.
Average person considers precondition, efficiency is in the moment.
You can fail during 99% of your journey, but the last percent will determine your success.
You can play football and lose 0-3 at 85th minute, but win 4-3 in the end.
There is a book called "The power of now", which I don't like.
But what's good in it is its title.
The only thing that matters is the moment called "now".
Once you realize that no future and no past has anything to do with this exact moment you're in - life will change.
It takes time and insane efforts to stop living in reality the way it's commonly perceived. We are taught to live this way from our day 1.
It takes insane efforts to step above your pre-convictions about life.
Copy this writing and put into some file on your computer, one day it will click. Probably you won't even find this thread, but it won't matter. It will change your life and it will get you where you would never be otherwise.
Here is a much more detailed writing where I explain how to apply this concept in real life: The Power of Dedication.
This writing is merely my comment taken from this thread by @AndrewNC: https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/who-here-is-still-a-slowlaner-read-this.70781/ which I decided to post on its own, as I find this kind of mindset destructive.
Consider it a food for thought.
You don't need to identify yourself as anything. It's a placebo - it doesn't matter.
What really holds a person down is self-identification.
It starts with "My name is", but it absolutely doesn't matter what your name is. Your name is not your substance. It's an attribute for others to identify you.
"I'm 30 years old" - your age is irrelevant. Time has no substance in existence. It doesn't exist - it's a concept. Identifying yourself as something that doesn't exist is a destructive process as it makes you apply attributes to yourself, that have no substance, but change emotional conditions and sense of yourself.
"I'm a good looking person" - it doesn't matter how you look from that perspective. I'm a pretty "good looking" guy with more "aesthetically pleasing body" and genetically I'm "superior" to absolute majority of people.
Doesn't it sound a bit pretentious?
Well, that's because this identification conflicts with your identification. It may or may not be "true" in a certain context, but it is completely irrelevant as long as it not viewed in this certain context.
It doesn't matter how "good" you look in context A if in context B your qualities and attributes have no weight.
Therefore identifying yourself as "good looking" makes absolutely no sense - you live in a number of contexts approaching infinity during your life span.
Identifying contexts will make you perform more effectively than identifying yourself.
This is how our conscious and unconscious function - we process each frame of situation to find similarities between them to develop stronger ability to effectively survive in these situations.
Identifying ourselves is what society teaches us. One who escapes self-identification is by definition above the society, which you can also observe in this very society.
"I'm successful" - is completely irrelevant. The fact that you have succeeded 10 times doesn't actually have anything to do with you succeeding 11th time.
Average person considers precondition, efficiency is in the moment.
You can fail during 99% of your journey, but the last percent will determine your success.
You can play football and lose 0-3 at 85th minute, but win 4-3 in the end.
There is a book called "The power of now", which I don't like.
But what's good in it is its title.
The only thing that matters is the moment called "now".
Once you realize that no future and no past has anything to do with this exact moment you're in - life will change.
It takes time and insane efforts to stop living in reality the way it's commonly perceived. We are taught to live this way from our day 1.
It takes insane efforts to step above your pre-convictions about life.
Copy this writing and put into some file on your computer, one day it will click. Probably you won't even find this thread, but it won't matter. It will change your life and it will get you where you would never be otherwise.
Here is a much more detailed writing where I explain how to apply this concept in real life: The Power of Dedication.
This writing is merely my comment taken from this thread by @AndrewNC: https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/who-here-is-still-a-slowlaner-read-this.70781/ which I decided to post on its own, as I find this kind of mindset destructive.
Consider it a food for thought.
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