Question for people who like to cut ties

[Luffy]

If you don't like people less successful than you then why do you think people more successful than you would want to be around you?
"If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." - JK Rowling

 

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[Mattie]

Ha ha! Well, I don't think anyone wants to be around me. And I don't have expectations of people.

1. Depends on why you're cutting ties? Some people don't need too and others do. Depends on the situation.

2. If for example: You're in the side walk, naturally the more you grow and develop your beliefs and mindset change. You're choices are different then theirs. You're not on the same page or level. In my experience it's kind of like speaking a foreign language and they clash with you, because it's to much for them to believe where they're at, with their mindset. As one person just said to me yesterday, "Good luck with your new life." Why? Our mindsets are clashing. Different rules how to succeed in life.

3. For those I do talk to and get along with, you just naturally do, because you're like minded.

4. The more you grow, develop, learn, and change, people just naturally go their different ways, because they're on different paths.

 

[Luffy]

Ha ha! Well, I don't think anyone wants to be around me. And I don't have expectations of people.

1. Depends on why you're cutting ties? Some people don't need too and others do. Depends on the situation.

2. If for example: You're in the side walk, naturally the more you grow and develop your beliefs and mindset change. You're choices are different then theirs. You're not on the same page or level. In my experience it's kind of like speaking a foreign language and they clash with you, because it's to much for them to believe where they're at, with their mindset. As one person just said to me yesterday, "Good luck with your new life." Why? Our mindsets are clashing. Different rules how to succeed in life.

3. For those I do talk to and get along with, you just naturally do, because you're like minded.

4. The more you grow, develop, learn, and change, people just naturally go their different ways, because they're on different paths.

Hahaha, I like your response though I was thinking more along the lines of aspiring entrepreneurs or wantrepreneurs who cut off good friends because they don't agree on something or have a different world view, not because it's a natural progression.

 

[Mr.B]

I aim to treat everyone with respect, regardless of whether I like them or not.

I also don't base friendships on whether I consider someone as successful or not, but rather if I think they are a good person.

If you cut a good friend out of your life because you don't agree on something or have a different world view, then perhaps you are not a good friend.

 

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[Mattie]

I've done that! Just found it to be natural eventually. I've cut out just about every friend I've had since 2007. They make bad money choices, relationship choices, and lifestyle choices in general. After awhile it just becomes natural to spot who is a good team player and who is not. I used to think I was being cruel. When I look where they are at today, they're in the same place doing the same thing. I'm in a different place. You become who you hang around. People tend to become what they believe.

The thing is if you're serious about success: It's just something you do. It's necessary to succeed. It's a journey you take alone. And many aren't happy with you taking this path. In essence, you're leaving them behind financially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Dependent or independent. If you're an entrepreneur you have to be independent. If you want tons of people influencing you with bad guidance and advice it kind of distracts you.

And at the same time, you're learning the new rules, applying, and learning. And like they have around here somewhere, you earn your trust and place.

 

[jesseissorude]

Is this question posted in response to something someone on the forum said that led you to believe they had that mindset? Or maybe it was some situation you saw IRL? I'd be interested to know.

 

[Esquire]

Aristotle explained friendship as an exchange between equals.

The exchange need not be like in kind ... but there must be an exchange.

Imbalanced relationships tend not to sustain.

So to your question ... do I cut ties ...? I suppose I do. But I think (more accurately) I just don't make unwanted friends in the first place ... so there is nothing to cut.

I prefer the company of books.

On the flip side ... I don't expect to be openly embraced by those who I admire and whose achievements exceed my own.

I'd love (for example) to be friends with MJ ... but to command his respect ... and peak his interest in such a relationship ... I have to earn it first.

I have to show him I can ball in the Fastlane ... and more importantly ... that I have achieved a similar success.

I have to become his equal.

And last I checked (looking at my bank account) ... I'm not.

Not even close.

So rather than fret about where I am today ... I just focus on the task ahead of me.

And as I recall MJ having said in of his videos ... when you succeed ... sucessful people seek you out.

So also it will be with me.

So for now ... I walk through the valley alone. Leaving behind those I don't want to associate with ... and working hard to earn the respect of those who I do.

I'll get there.

Mark my words:

One day MJ ... I'll be sitting in your living room (or vice versa).

Just a matter of time.

 

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[Esquire]

Here's a more "colorful" example:

You want to date a hot chick.

Just one problem:

You're 100 pounds overweight and broke.

Good luck with that.

If you want her to be interested in you ... you had better hit the gym hard ... make the big bucks ... or both.

Might not be overnight ... but if you get in shape ... and bring home the bacon ... you just might have a good shot at getting her to accept.

Now that doesn't mean (in the meantime) you have to mosey on down to the local dive bar and start banging fat chicks who ruin your wood ... it just means you have to "go without" (or "service yourself") until you make yourself sufficiently attractive to warrant mutual interest.

Same in business. Same in friendship.

 

[Luffy]

Is this question posted in response to something someone on the forum said that led you to believe they had that mindset? Or maybe it was some situation you saw IRL? I'd be interested to know.

I've seen in this forum and over the internet aswell, don't know any wantrepreneurs IRL.

 

[OscarDeuce]

You might find that people more successful than you are interested in mentoring someone who shows the initiative to stand out from the crowd.

Also, people's willingness to show you friendship isn't just about your financial success. It has more to do with who you really are, your demeanor, manners, ability to discuss a wide range of topics intelligently, the list goes on.

Somewhere on this board I posted about how I realized my former hard drinking, brawling, and at times somewhat criminally-inclined friends were not taking me where I wanted to go. You seldom lift them up, they drag you down. So, I set about a deliberate plan to replace them with "people more successful than me" - CEOs and high level executives, Government officials, the dean of the engineering school at a well known university, the list goes on.

Now that I've achieved a good bit of the success I was desiring, I try to pay it back by doing the same to mentor others who want more out of life than a paycheck from a 9-5 job.

Cheers,
O-2

 

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[Ninjakid]

Wow, people actually do that? Douchbagery level: 99

Edit: I'm referring to people who cut ties with people less successful than them

 

[OscarDeuce]

Wow, people actually do that? Douchbagery level: 99

Mentoring others who want to be successful? You're right, gotta watch that!

 

[Ninjakid]

Mentoring others who want to be successful? You're right, gotta watch that!

I'm referring to people who cut ties with less successful people; I just edited my post to clarify

 

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[OscarDeuce]

Ninja,

I was pulling your chain. Maybe I should clarify as well. No reason to cut ties with people who are "less successful." However, there is every reason to cut ties with people whose choices and lifestyles will prevent you from achieving you goals. If the majority of the people in your life fit that description, they will drag you down unless you have some superhuman willpower, and even then, you may end up a victim of being in the "wrong place at the wrong time."

Cheers,
O-2

 

[Ninjakid]

Ninja,

I was pulling your chain. Maybe I should clarify as well. No reason to cut ties with people who are "less successful." However, there is every reason to cut ties with people whose choices and lifestyles will prevent you from achieving you goals. If the majority of the people in your life fit that description, they will drag you down unless you have some superhuman willpower, and even then, you may end up a victim of being in the "wrong place at the wrong time."

Cheers,
O-2

There's many different areas of success, and I'll assume we're talking about success in business. If you're around someone who isn't an entrepreneur, then they aren't less successful than you, are they? They do their thing, you do yours. If that brings you don't, you're waaaaaaaay too sensitive.

 

[StayOnTop]

I actually just posted a quote about this on Instagram today lol

I feel a true person in power helps those who have not yet achieved the success they have.

However, I do believe in distancing yourself from friends is necessary evil (if your friends are not on the same wave length as you or aspire the abundance you do)

Ex: I'd rather work until midnight, go to sleep, get a good workout in bright in the morning and repeat... As opposed to my friends who get high and laugh at geico commercials.. Not for me

If my friends want to learn and change then I am always there for help and a push that we all need. However , if they are oblivious to life , then I'll let them be. We all grow down different paths


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[Digamma]

If you don't like people less successful than you then why do you think people more successful than you would want to be around you?
"If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." - JK Rowling

You don't cut ties with less successful people, you cut ties with losers. If you don't know the difference, you are one of them. It's not an external factor, is something in their mind.

Hahaha, I like your response though I was thinking more along the lines of aspiring entrepreneurs or wantrepreneurs who cut off good friends because they don't agree on something or have a different world view, not because it's a natural progression.

Those are the same things. You will know when you go through it. The way you think shapes your behavior. One day you will find yourself drinking a beer with your friends and the conversation will make you cringe. You will feel repulsed by the fact you used to think that way.

 

[Mattie]

If the majority of the people in your life fit that description, they will drag you down unless you have some superhuman willpower, and even then, you may end up a victim of being in the "wrong place at the wrong time."

Bingo! Exactly!

 

[ddzc]

I believe in cutting off people who get in your way and try to drag you down to the pathetic lives which they live by. I have a friend or two like that...negative energy doesn't go well with me. Cutting off someone who is less successful than you and that being the only reason is stupidity imo.

 

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[Shdreams]

Keep your friends. when you crash you need somewhere to land, wealthy or poor. Tell The haters to go fly damn kite. There as useless as Titts on a Bull.

 

[Lathan]

I've wondered this too. People say "successful people hang around other successful people". Where does that leave room for the not successful people to begin hanging with successful people?

Maybe it isn't meant to be taken literal?

 

[BeDoHave]

You shouldn't cut ties with your friends solely because they are less successful than you.

However I believe that you should spend less time with them - and instead spend more time with people who are currently on your level (that share similar goals to you) and also people that are miles more successful than you who you can continuously learn from

"If you're the smartest person in the room, then you're in the wrong room".

 

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[Mattie]

Where does that leave room for the not successful people to begin hanging with successful people?

Hmm...I think that takes a good mentor that that teaches you to be responsible for yourself, and then naturally you just fit in. That's what happen in my case. lol