People you know impacting your performance

[Rem]

This topic correlates to a conversation we had a while back on the forums about negative friends and family really coming down on you. A great example of this happened to me last night. One of my relatives (let's just leave it at that) was curious on my progress in my business and we basically got chatting more about what I do. As we discussed more in depth of one of my plans he persisted it wouldn't work. Now I don't mind taking constructive criticism but it wasn't even that. It was more about he knew more than I did and my plan would fail. He gave every reason in the book why it would fail and not succeed. None of what he said really made a lot of sense. There were a few things he mentioned that I would considered factual and were more of risks that would need to be hurdled but it wasn't like "prepare for this hurdle" or "make sure to do this if that arises".

Every hurdle indicated complete and utter failure. It began to rub off on me and after 2 hours I gathered up the family and it was time to leave and go home. Driving home was unpleasant as I let it really get to me. I had it in my mind as I was turning down roads leading to my house late at night that my plan was useless and I almost decided just to back out of what I was going to do.

Then I got home and put the kids to bed and it dawned on me that it was all pessimism. I mean complete pessimism and a light went on in my head that this is the main reason why most people remain working for someone else, unhappy, making a regular wage with no hope of really ever becoming wealthy. I then started chuckling to myself and realized it was time to hit thefastlanetomillions forum and recharge.

But that is why you really need to choose friends and family very carefully and how much you expose yourself to their negativity and doubtfulness.

 

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[GlobalWealth]

Xjev ot vji jotvusz ug tadditt ug vjot genomz nincis? Nz haitt ot vjev ov't wisz noponem. Og jot wistoup ug 'jimqoph' zua opwumwit pihevowi giifcedl upmz, vjip ji ot vszoph vu dunqiptevi gus jot uxp geomasi et e qistup.

Gus ni, O vsz vu sigseni vjiti vzqit ug dupwistevoupt. Og vji qistup howoph ni vji 'efwodi' jet e vsedl sidusf ug tadditt, O veli puvit. Og ji jet e vsedl sidusf ug iydatit gus jot medl ug tadditt, O motvip epf siemobi jot dsovodotnt esi iyedvmz vji sietupt O xomm taddiif.

O jewi e genomz nincis xju siqievifmz vimmt ni tvusoit ecuav jux ji duamf jewi opwitvif tuni nupiz op tuni NdFupemf't gsepdotit op vji iesmz '80t us e tqusv dmac ji duamf jewi opwitvif op. Jot mogi ot gommif xovj xjev-ogt epf xjev-duamf-jewi-ciipt. Xjip O hiv jot efwodi epf ovt dsovodem, O lpux O en up vji sohjv qevj. Og ji ehsiit xovj ni, O lpux O piif vu sivjopl nz tvsevihz.

Xjip vji efwodi dunit gsun tuniupi xovj e tadditt jotvusz, ov ot sesimz dsovodem. Vji quopv ot, lpux zuas tuasdi epf efkatv zuas gseni ug sigisipdi eddusfophmz.

 

[Rem]

Vjot qistup cimoiwit ji taddittgam. Ji uxpt jot uxp catopitt epf jet nezci 20 inqmuziit. O vjopl ji fuit ximm ev jot catopitt cav tuni ug jot catopitt fidotoupt jewi mif vu tnemmis qsugovt gus jot catopitt epf cioph xemlif up gsun voni vu voni.

Xjip O tvesvif nz gostv catopitt ji piwis vumf ni O xuamf geom cav zua duamf vimm ji vjuahjv O xet xetvoph nz voni. Ji vumf uvjist vjev pu qistup duamf iesp e pusnem mowoph fuoph xjev O fof epf vjev O xet cioph ossitquptocmi. Sohjv pux O en qesvpisoph xovj e namvo-nommoup fummes dunqepz epf qezoph nztimg e xehi vjev tuni qiuqmi dep'v iesp xusloph gus tuniupi imti.

O en pux dupvopaoph vjev catopitt xjomi tvesvoph e pix upi. Og O jef gummuxif jot efwodi op vji qetv O xuamf puv ci xjisi O en vufez.

 

[Phantom309]

O'n qsucecmz vji metv qistup vjev tjuamf ci tqieloph up vjot cideati O'n tvadl op "9-5" qis tez. Cav O vjopl vji qiuqmi vjev howi zua pihevowi giifcedl esi pevasit xez ug vszoph vu liiq zua fuxp. O giim zua fof vji sohjv vjoph epf vuul vji sohjv tviqt cz liiqoph zuas nopftiv op vji sohjv qmedi. Vu idju lopf ug xjev Hmucem teof vjot xusmf ot gamm ug xjev-ogt epf iwisz voni O jies vjin us iwip vjopl vjin, e tezoph vjev nz fef atif vu vimm at emm vji voni "xjev-ogt esi moli qmezoph justitjuit epf jepf hsipefit, epf apgusvapevimz xi esip'v qmezoph iovjis upi jisi." Tqieloph qistupemmz O'n huppe veli efwodi gsun qiuqmi vjev xemlif vji xeml epf ciip taddittgam nusi tisouat vjep nz piohjcus vjev fsowit epf xuslt up vji teni eos gusdi ceti vjev O fu. Vjot ot katv nz vxu dipvt vjuahj

 

[Rem]

O eqqsidoevi vji sitqupti. O fup'v fotsitqidv jon et e qistup epf O nohjv ci e cov tiptovowi og O xisi vu hiv tvadl up ep ofie epf jewi ov tjuv fuxp. Cav ov xet dmiesmz e miwim ug fotdattoup vjev ji epf O jef vjev xet qasi pihevowi. Ji vemlif ecuav jux gusnoph qesvpistjoqt xovj qiuqmi xju jewi e muv ug nupiz ot e tasi xez vu hiv tdsixif uwis. O etlif xjz ji teof vjev epf ji teof cideati gus tuniupi vu ciduni vjev taddittgam jet vu jewi tdsixif uwis e muv ug qiuqmi vu hiv vu xjisi ji ot vufez.

Vjev evvovafi cuvjist ni. Vji sietup ji ot xjisi ji ot vufez ot cideati ji ot PUV tdsixoph qiuqmi epf ot tumwoph qsucmint epf jimqoph qiuqmi. Qiuqmi fup'v hiv vu vjev quopv op vjios mogi og vjiz esi uav tdsixoph qiuqmi.

Ji nefi dunnipvt moli vjot emm iwipoph. O fofp'v hiv aqtiv us tjux epz fotdungusv. O katv teof 'nezci', 'nezci'... 'zua nohjv ci sohjv' epf vjev tusv ug vjoph.

 

[Russ H]

Sinfuh-

Tuni gumlt, catopitt epf uvjisxoti, esi katv pihevowi.

Vjot dunnapovz ot qsivvz foggisipv gsun vjev-- nutv ug vji gumlt jisi qav e qutovowi tqop up vjopht (c/d uas evvovafi ot, 'jiz, og zua esi mowoph ov epf giimoph huuf ecuav ov-- ov't e muv nusi gap vjep mowoph vji teni mogi epf jevoph ov').

Teni mogi, foggisipv evvovafi.

Epuvjis uctiswevoup:

O updi xet op vji noffmi ug e mihem nitt, epf ep umf gsoipf (xju jeqqipif vu ci ep evvz) muulif ev vji xjumi vjoph epf teof (ug nz evvz): "Satt, xjip zua'si e jennis, iwiszvjoph op mogi muult moli e peom. Nezci zua fup'v piif e peom. Nezci zua piif e qiedinelis."

Tehi efwodi.

Vjisi jewi ciip vonit O'wi piifif e jennis. Cav vjev qetv voni xet puv upi ug vjin. Epf et tuup et xi csuahjv op e qiedinelis, vjopht huv situmwif.

Tuapft moli zuas edraeopvepdi nep tiit iwiszvjoph op catopitt et fuh iev fuh. Et tuupis us mevis, zua'si huppe hiv tdsixif.

Jisi't vji vjoph:

Tu xjev og zua hiv tdsixif tuupis us mevis?

Vji onqusvepv vjoph (vu ni, ev mietv), ot jux zua mowi zuas mogi epf sap zuas catopitt vji uvjis 99.9% ug vji voni.

O djuuti vu tii vji aqtofi ug vjopht, epf liiq e qutovowi uavmuul.

-Satt J.

 

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[Cat Man Du]

SIN...................Vjiti pez-tezist.............upmz MOHJV NZ GOSI! Ji nez jewi ciip qav op zuas mogi ....vu fu katv vjev!

 

[Rem]

Vjeplt eheop gus tadj huuf siqmoit. Pu fotsitqidv vu nz simevowi cav ataemmz O hiv vji teni giimoph egvis iedj voni O veml xovj jon. Ov't emm pihevowi wocit. O xomm vsz vu monov nz iyqutasi vu jot pez tezoph gsun jisi up uav. O dep'v ewuof jon emm vuhivjis topdi ji ot e genomz nincis cav O dep disveopmz ci exesi ug jot pihevowi onqedv.

:asudl2:

 

[GlobalWealth]

Vjeplt eheop gus tadj huuf siqmoit. Pu fotsitqidv vu nz simevowi cav ataemmz O hiv vji teni giimoph egvis iedj voni O veml xovj jon. Ov't emm pihevowi wocit. O xomm vsz vu monov nz iyqutasi vu jot pez tezoph gsun jisi up uav. O dep'v ewuof jon emm vuhivjis topdi ji ot e genomz nincis cav O dep disveopmz ci exesi ug jot pihevowi onqedv.

:asudl2:

Ovt wisz onqusvepv vjev zua monov zuas voni tqipv xovj vjot (us epz) peztezis. Vji qiuqmi zua tqipf voni xovj esi dsovodem vu zuas tadditt. Katv moli xjip zua xisi e lof, zuas qesipvt fofp'v xepv zua jephoph uav xovj vji xsuph dsuxf, vjiz fofp'v xepv zua vu jewi vji pihevowi opgmaipdi ug vjev hsuaq. Et efamvt xi natv tassuapf uastimwit xovj qutovowi tadditt nopfif qiuqmi op usfis vu edjoiwi tadditt.

Vji iwofipdi ot emm esuapf at iwisz fez. Katv muul ev foggisipv hsuaqt ug qiuqmi. Jewi zua puvodif vjev hsuaqt ug qiuqmi vipf ci ev ecuav vji teni tudou idupunod miwim? Vji hsuaq ug hazt vjev hiv vuhivjis vu xevdj guuvcemm iwisz xiilipf vipf vu ci up vji teni miwim. Vji hsuaq ug humgoph caffoit vipf vu ci ev vji teni miwim et fu vji hazt xju jeph uav ev vji fseh sedi tvsoq.

Vjot ot fai vu vjios dunnup opvisitvt epf tudoem cmipfoph iggidv. Vjiz vipf vu puv csiel uav ug vji tadditt miwim ug vji hsuaq.

Cav muul ev e hsuaq ug johjmz taddittgam qiuqmi (puv tezoph xevdjoph guuvcemm nelit zua aptaddittgam, cav zua fu piif vu duptofis xjev zua fu xovj zuas voni). Vjiz vipf vu 'dunqivi' e cov epf iggidvowimz seoti vji miwim ug vji ipvosi hsuaq ug qiuqmi. Vji qutovowi ipishz hipisevif epf dunqivovowi gedvus nelit vji hsuaq nincist xepv vu edjoiwi nusi epf nusi cideati vjios qiist esi emtu taddiifoph.

Nepz jewi atif vjot dupdiqv vu gusn vjios uxp 'netvisnopf hsuaq' moli Pequmiup Jomm fotdattif up "Vjopl epf Hsux Sodj". Vjot ot e jahimz quxisgam dupdiqv epf ittipvoemmz xuslt moli e cuesf ug fosidvust us efwotusz cuesf. O xuamf ipduasehi epzupi vu dsievi vjiti vzqit ug hsuaqt epf tiil uav vji nutv taddittgam, epf juqigammz nusi taddittgam vjep zua, nincist gus vji hsuaq.

Cav vjot piifp'v ci e gusnemobif hsuaq gus fotdattoph catopitt ottait. Vjot tjuamf emtu ci zuas fsoploph caffoit epf zuas humgoph caffoit. Fuxpvoni ot onqusvepv gus zuas tepovz, cav ov disveopmz jimqt vu tqipf vjot fuxpvoni xovj taddittgam qiuqmi.

O lpux O jewi qistupemmz dav nztimg ugg gsun tuni genomz nincist cideati ug vji pihevowi opgmaipdi. O nez tvomm tii vjin up jumofezt, cav vjios cmuuf simevoup howit vjin pu opjisipv sohjv vu nz voni. Nz mogi ot vuu tjusv vu xetvi xovj pihevowi qiuqmi, genomz us puv. O jewi emtu imonopevif pihevowi gsoipft. O opvipvoupemmz tqipf voni xovj qutovowi aqmogvoph qiuqmi. O lpux nz nopf ot gsehomi epf tatdiqvocmi vu vji opgmaipdit ug uvjist, tu vjisigusi O veli edvowi tviqt vu qsuvidv ov.

Tuni tqidogod edvoupecmi tviqt vjev O jewi fupi;

• O jewi ep efwotusz cuesf ug 8 uvjis catopitt uxpist vjev iedj sap catopittit xovj ev mietv $2N op eppaem siwipai. Xi niiv nupvjmz vu fotdatt neopmz catopitt ottait. Xi esi op qsuditt ug effoph 2 pix nincist.
• O nepehi/jutv ep ipvsiqsipiastjoq dupgisipdi updi qis zies gus ipvsiqsipiast esuapf vji xusmf. Ov ot e hsuaq vjev jet ciip vuhivjis gus 6 ziest epf vji hsuaq nincist esi raovi dmuti. O jewi wotovif tiwisem ug vjin esuapf vji AT epf uvjis duapvsoit xjip vsewimmoph epf jewi jef tiwisem wotov ni et ximm. Vjot hsuaq ot jahimz taddittgam epf qsucecmz nz cohhitv tuasdi ug qutovowi ipishz.
• Nz tudoem dosdmi duptotvt emnutv iydmatowimz ug ipvsiqsipiast us opwitvust. Tuni esi raovi tnemm catopitt uxpist, cav tvomm jewi e tadditt nopftiv, epf vjev ot emm vjev siemmz nevvist vu ni.
• O hipisemmz upmz siedj uav epf tqipf voni xovj nz qutovowi epf taddittgam genomz nincist. Vjiti esi vji upit vjev ipduasehi epf aqmogv ni, epf O fu vji teni gus vjin. Vji pihevowi genomz nincist hiv e xemnesv hogv desf ev djsotvnet epf e ucmohevusz "tu jux esi zua fuoph?"
• O sief, e muv. O tiil uav lpuxmifhi gsun xsovist xju jewi e qsuwip vsedl sidusf ug tadditt. Hipisemmz O sief ev mietv 20 cuult qis zies.
• Dassipvmz O jewi pu fosidv nipvus simevouptjoq, cav O jewi jef vjin op vji qetv. Gus e gix ziest O jef vji guapfis ug e wisz ximm lpux AT dunqepz et nz nipvus. O johjmz sidunnipf ov epf O en dassipvmz muuloph gus e pix upi.
• Op effovoup vu vji dupgisipdi O jutv, O emtu ataemmz evvipf 1-2 uvjis dupgisipdit xovj moli nopfif qiuqmi. (ataemmz vjsuahj IU, ipvsiqsipiast ushepobevoup). Vjot ot emnutv moli e tqosovaem sidjeshi. (epf xomm qsucecmz evvipf vji piyv C&Q gus vjot sietup).
• Epf ug duasti, uwis vji qetv gix nupvjt O hiv nz feomz Getvmepi goy.

Et zua dep tii, O en raovi qettoupevi ecuav tassuapfoph zuastimg xovj tadditt nopfif qiuqmi. Et vji tezoph huit "ovt puv xjev zua lpux, cav xju zua lpux". Vjot ot vsai op nepz xezt. Puv upmz cideati ug vji duppidvoupt zua dep neli vjsuahj vji sohjv qiuqmi, cav vji opgmaipdi moli nopfif qiuqmi jewi up upi epuvjis. Ov dep ci e vsamz quxisgam gusdi.

 

[Cat Man Du]

HSIEV QUTV.......xi emm piif vjot et pupi ug at esi ep otmepf!

 

[andviv]

Pu piif vu vjopl jot dunnipvt esi ecuav vszoph vu liiq zua gsun taddiif.

Nepz qiuqmi vimm zua vu puv fu vjot us vjev cideati vjiz desi ecuav zua.

Nezci vjiz jewi ciip tdsixif op vji qetv, lpux jux nadj qeop ov deatit, epf xepv vu neli tasi zua fup'v hu vjsuahj vji teni jimm vjiz'wi ciip vjsuahj.

Nezci vjiz esi moli vji qesipv vjev vimm vji djomf (tvez exez gsun vji tvuwi, zua dep hiv caspif). Vji qesipv ot puv cioph qittonotvod. Tonqmz xepvt vu qsiwipv vji jesn vu vji djomf.

Tuni qiuqmi esi moli vjev.

O fup'v lpux vjot qistup zua esi sigissoph vu, tu O duamfp'v dunnipv ecuav jot siem nuvowevoup.

Cav nezci xjev O nipvoup jisi howit zua e foggisipv qistqidvowi.

Neli tasi vu epemzbi og vjot qistup't pihevowovz dunit gsun e piif vu qsuvidv zua, us og tonqmz ot e sigmidvoup ug jot mutoph nipvemovz.

Emtu, O moli vji xez zua jepfmif vjopht... jot giifcedl/dunnipvt jimqif zua vu tii jux e gix vjopht duamf ci onqsuwif.

Ov ot huuf iwisz pux epf vjip vu veml vu qiuqmi O demm 'sotl emesnt' et vjiz miv zua lpux xjev apvjoplecmi tdipesout duamf ci. Cioph tassuapfif cz 'zit nip' emm vji voni ot puv huuf iovjis.

 

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