Managing Sucessful Relationships

[Olimac21]

I was wondering how do you manage key relationships in your life? (i.e friends, girlfriends/boyfriends, family)

I tend to be more to the "giver" in a relationship however that puts me on a needy side of things and I absolutely hate that. Lately I decided not to give attention to relationships that are not reciprocal but I am afraid this will lead me to a lonely place sooner or later.

Have read books like "how to win friends and influence people", "give and take" and "never eat alone" and the big problem is these books put you in the good listener/add value kind of person, but does not deal directly on how to decide when to drop out a relationship,explain your needs, etc.

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[RobD88]

Learn to love yourself first then give/take all other things in moderation.

 

[Joaquim]

These days being a giver is easily perceived as somebody who is 'weak'.

There is nothing wrong with being the giver, but you also have to dare asking questions from time to time. When your friends do not try hard enough to help, drop the relation.

I read the books you're talking about and can highly recommend this book and hope you will read it and I really want to hear your experience with it:

The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida

( Everyone should read it )