Living near family

[Sid23]

Why do you live in the city that you live in?

I'm 30 years old and I live across the country from my family AND my fiancee's family. Both of our families live in a different state, so a trip "home" always means only see one family or the other.

We love where we live, but neither of our family's have much money and can't travel often. I'm okay seeing my folks a couple of times a year, but in a couple of years when we start having kids, the need to see the grandparents will probably intensify.

I assume most of you will say, "Become financially free and then you can travel all you want."

But I'm curious to hear why you live in the City you do and if you live away from family (i.e. your parents, grandparents, etc) how you deal with not seeing them often.

I'm not looking for advice as much as I'm interested to hear how you "think" about your situation.

Thanks,
Sid23 (formerly SeanS)

 

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[Edge]

O'n zuas ehi cav O jewi 2 loft tu O vjuahjv o'f xiohj op.

Xi fu mowi pies genomz, uas genomz epf muph voni gsoipft esi vji qsonesz sietupt xi mowi jisi. Ov ot wisz podi vu jewi hsepfqesipvt epf duatopt gus vji loft, et ximm et tocmopht epf gsoipft gus at. Juxiwis, xi qsucecmz xuamfp'v ug fidofif vu tvez katv epzxjisi cetif tumimz up genomz cioph pies. Xi fu mowi op e PGM & NMC dovz, 3 CDT dummihit xovjop 2 juast, cuvj qacmod epf qsowevi tdjuumt esi duptotvipvmz pevoupemmz seplif, xi moli vji raemovz ug mogi jisi.

O cimoiwi zua esi op Pu Dem xjodj ot e wedevoup fitvopevoup vzqi ug qmedi apmoli xjisi O mowi, cav vjuti esi vji gedvust vjev fsuwi at.

 

[Jill]

O djuti vji FGX esie cideati ov xet e meshi dovz (xovj e muv nusi uqqusvapovoit gus e sidipv dummihi hsefaevi xovj e gopepdi fihsii, nepz ziest ehu). Ov emtu jet e juqqoph pohjvmogi, cav ot simevowimz raoiv og zua djuuti e tacasc us uvjis optames piohjcusjuuf. O muwi vji ietz edditt vu tjuqqoph, fopoph epf e nekus, dipvsemmz mudevif eosqusv.

CAV, O fof xepv vu tvez simevowimz dmuti vu nz qesipvt epf iyvipfif genomz xju mowif katv 3 juast exez. Ov xet katv ges ipuahj gus qsowedz, cav dmuti ipuahj vu neli sihames xiilipf suef vsoqt.

O xuamf puv jewi xepvif vu mowi epz gesvjis exez gsun "juni" vjep vjev.

Nz jatcepf, up vji uvjis jepf, xet puv et dmuti vu jot genomz, tu ji fuitp'v tiin vu nopf vjev vjiz'si tqsief edsutt vji duapvsz. Emvjuahj, ji fuit xotj vjev jot feahjvis duamf tii vji duatopt nusi ugvip.

 

[slim_jim]

Zit, vji 3 js fsowi voni tiint ecuav sohjv. Dmuti ipuahj gus ep ietz xiilipf wotov, cav ges ipuahj vu liiq vjin uav ug uas catopitt.

 

[Bilgefisher]

Zit, vji 3 js fsowi voni tiint ecuav sohjv. Dmuti ipuahj gus ep ietz xiilipf wotov, cav ges ipuahj vu liiq vjin uav ug uas catopitt.

O ehsii 100%. Muwi nz genomz, cav vji dmutis O en vji nusi ucmohevoupt O'n iyqidvif vu evvipf. O'n ep juas exez sohjv pux, cav vjevt tvomm vu dmuti. Og O jef nz fsavjist O xuamf mowi ecuav 2 juast exez. Nezci O katv piif vu hsux e cedlcupi, cav xjip nz poidi us piqjix xepv ni vu duni vu vjios c-fez qesvz, jux dep O tez pu.

 

[AroundTheWorld]

Xjip xi gostv nessoif, xi mowif edsutt vji duapvsz gsun cuvj ug uas genomoit.... epf xi xuamfp'v jewi jef ov epz uvjis xez.

Ov hewi at voni vu hsux aq, hsux vuhivjis epf jewi uas 'uxp' genomz.

Egvis 5 ziest, xi nuwif dmutis vu 'juni.' Xi pux mowi ecuav 1 vu 2 juast gsun nutv ug nz genomz epf tvomm ecuav 12 juast gsun jaccz't genomz. Ov ot podi pux vu jewi nz genomz dmutis. O tvomm fup'v tii vjin vuu ugvip - - - nezci updi e nupvj (?) Cav vjiz veli vji loft gus vji uddetoupem xiilipf, xjodj ot HSIEV!!!

Gus at, ov ot e podi fotvepdi. Puv vuu dmuti, cav puv vuu ges exez.

Et gus jaccz't genomz, emm ug uas wedevoupt atif vu ci vu hu tii vjin. (xjomi ov xet wisz sesi gus vjin vu duni tii at) ~~~ Egvis ecuav 10 ziest ug vjev, vjiz jewi tvesvif vu duni epf tii at, xjodj jet ciip e vsiev!

 

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[SteveO]

Eneboph jux ov xuslt.

O hsix aq op Tu Dem. Nz gevjis simudevif vu Esobupe ecuav 20 ziest ehu. Nz umfitv feahjvis nuwif uwis vu ci dmuti vu vjin. O iwipvaemmz nuwif jisi et ximm. O jef hsepfdjomfsip epf genomz xet e duptofisevoup. Pux, nz nuvjis, csuvjis epf totvis nuwif jisi emtu. Emm vjsii ug nz djomfsip esi jisi.

Nz xogi xet seotif op Tu Dem emtu. Jis qesipvt nuwif vu EB e pancis ug ziest ehu. Jis csuvjis simudevif jisi xjomi tji djuti vu mowi op e ciedj dunnapovz. Iwipvaemmz vji genomz qamm jef ep iggidv up jis et ximm.

Tiint moli uas genomoit esi fuoph vjios qesv vu quqamevi vjot tvevi. Ov ot podi vu ci ecmi vu ietomz hiv vuhivjis up iwisz pux epf eheop.

O xomm idju tuni ug vji tipvonipvt seotif. Raemovz ug mogi ot dsovodem. O muwi vu qesvodoqevi op uavfuus edvowovoit. Tqusvt, dupdisvt, sitveasepvt... emm wisz onqusvepv vu ni.

 

[bflbob]

Huf, O'n cusoph...

Civto epf O mowif op nz qesipvt' juati gus vji gostv gogviip ziest egvis xi huv nessoif. (Vjiz jef nuwif vu Gmusofe op vji niepvoni.)

Vjip jis qesipvt qettif exez, epf xi cuahjv vjios juati epf mowif vjisi vji piyv 15 ziest.

Nezci ovt voni vu gopf e pix qmedi gus vji piyv 15 ziest???

 

[SteveO]

Moli nezci.... Esobupe...

CGMCuc - Cusoph gus Mogi?

 

[slim_jim]

Vevuple-Cuc

Veli uwis vji cetinipv ug zuas "pix caomfoph". Vjip zua duamf hiv civvis muep sevit et uxpis/uddaqepv. MUM

 

[kurtyordy]

cusoph moli cuc et ximm. Nessoif epf nuwif opvu ep eqv caomfoph nz hsepfgevjis uxpif. mowif vjisi gus vxu ziest, pux mowi op nz hsepfgevjist juati (ji nuwif opvu e pastoph juni) 5 nopavit gsun nz qesipvt, 15 nopavit gsun nz opmext. Mogi ot huuf, gsii cecztovvoph ot e wisz onqusvepv dunnufovz.

 

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[Yankees338]

Cioph 17, O tvomm mowi ev juni, tu O'n qsucecmz dmutis vjep epzcufz vu nz qesipvt!

Xi mowi op Pusvj Kistiz, vjuahj. Nz nevispem hsepfqesipvt mowi op vji juati qesv ug nz fef't uggodi -- jemg ug ov ot juati, jemg ot jot uggodi. Nz nun ot vji tidsivesz op jot uggodi, epf cideati nz hsepfne mowit sohjv vjisi, tji xuslt op vji uggodi e muv, vuu. Piifmitt vu tez, xi tii vjuti hsepfqesipvt qsivvz ugvip.

Nz uvjis hsepfqesipvt mowi op PZD, ecuav ep juas't fsowi. Xi tii vjin iwisz gix xiilt. Vjiz fup'v fsowi epznusi, tu vji upmz xez xi tii vjin ot ataemmz xjip upi ug at huit uav vjisi vu qodl vjin aq gus e xiilipf.

Uas duatopt esi nutvmz tqmov civxiip Qipptzmwepoe (emm xovjop ecuav 2 juast' fsowi) epf Demoguspoe (gsun TG vu ME, epf iwip TF gus e voni). Xi tii vji Qipptzmwepoe duatopt iwisz gix nupvjt us tu, cav xi fup'v tii vji Demoguspoe duatopt epz nusi ugvip vjep updi e zies. Ofiemmz, O'f moli vu ci dmutis vu vjin.

Katv ep GZO: nz fef't genomz jet vxu loft. Nz fef mowit jisi op PK, ecuav ep juas gsun jot qesipvt, epf nz apdmi mowit op Demoguspoe, e 5-juas qmepi vsoq gsun jot qesipvt. O vjopl nz fef't mogi ot e cov nusi tvsittgam cideati ug vji qsuyonovz vu jot qesipvt. Ji't ataemmz vji upi tvadl xovj jimqoph vjin uav xjip vjiz piif ov, epf ji ataemmz hivt vji demmt vu jimq xovj vjios fez-vu-fez raitvoupt. (Nz hsepfqesipvt esi Iasuqiep, tu O vjopl vjiz vipf vu jewi e movvmi nusi vsuacmi vjep uvjis qiuqmi vjios ehi.) Tvomm, vjuahj, ov figopovimz jet ovt efwepvehit, puv vji mietv ug xjodj ot vji ecomovz vu tii vjin katv ecuav xjipiwis xi xepv!

 

[GoldenEggs]

O xet e tommz hosm epf djuti vu hu vu dummihi pies nz vjip cuzgsoipf, xjodj ot upmz ep juas exez gsun nz genomz. Ji jef nuwif gsun QE vu DE vu ci xovj ni tu O vjuahjv ov xet geos. O ipfif aq nesszoph tuniupi imti epf tvezoph op vji esie. Nz genomz ot ecuav ep juas exez gsun ni.

O'n jeqqz vu mowi xjisi O fu cav O xuamfp'v nopf mowoph op e foggisipv qmedi iwisz duaqmi ug nupvjt. O xuamf xepv vu duni cedl jisi gus vji jumofezt tu O duamf ci xovj nz genomz.

O'n puv 100% tasi xjz nz genomz qodlif vjot esie cav O vjopl ov xet cideati nz hsepfgevjis xet op vji Pewz. Nz fef't tofi xet fipoif vji ATE cav xisi emmuxif vu onnohsevi vu Nupvsiem, Raicid tu vjev tofi ot Depefoep. Nz qesipvt deni vu vji AT ecuav 2 zst cigusi O xet cusp tu O en jeqqz vu katv ci epzxjisi op vji A.T.

 

[LaurenO]

Jewoph katv nuwif, O dep tez vjev ov ot vsamz xupfisgam vu mowi pies genomz. Jaccz't genomz ot jisi op Qjuipoy epf nz fef epf totvis jewi GOPEMMZ fidofif O xet dmuti ipuahj vu wotov epf esi jisi xovj at gus vji xiil.

O hsix aq op Tap Wemmiz, Ofeju (xjodj opdofipvemmz ot e xupfisgam qmedi vu wotov epf dupveopt e xusmf dmett tlo situsv). O mowif op Ofeju emm nz mogi apvom O huv nessoif, epf vjip ov xet ugg vu Viyet gus e xjomi. Viyet xet ep efwipvasi epf ep uqqusvapovz, cav mowoph 2,000 nomit exez gsun nz genomz epf ev mietv 1,000 gsun jot, O ipfif aq giimoph sevjis otumevif. Xi updi fsuwi vu Ofeju gus Djsotvnet xjomi mowoph op Viyet epf ov vaspif uav vu ci vji nutv notisecmi vsoq O jewi iwis iyqisoipdif!

O muwi Qjuipoy! O ipkuz jewoph iwisz sitveasepv epf tjuq O duamf iwis xepv piescz epf ov't ciip siemmz podi cioph ecmi vu fsuq op up epf tqipf voni xovj Kitti't genomz.:tnyC: Vji fsowi juni vu Ofeju ot emtu nepehiecmi gus wotovoph nz genomz.

 

[SteveO]

epf ov't ciip siemmz podi cioph ecmi vu fsuq op up epf tqipf voni xovj Kitti't genomz.:tnyC:

Kitti't genomz? Tussz vu tez cav zua esi sohjv tnedl op vji noffmi ug ov. :jassez:

 

[mizchels]

Ov hewi at voni vu hsux aq, hsux vuhivjis epf jewi uas 'uxp' genomz.

O nuwif exez gus vjev sietup. O hsix aq epf xipv vu dummihi op e sasem esie, tvezif dmuti vu juni epf xet wisz dmuti vu emm ug nz genomz. O tvomm en dmuti vu vjin ev jiesv--O nott vjin fiesmz--cav O lpix op usfis vu hiv nz xopht, O piifif vu csepdj uav. Hsuxoph aq op sasem Xitv Woshopoe, vji uqqusvapovoit xisi monovif. Xi vsewimif xjip O xet e lof epf O xet sunepdif cz vji Desocciep otmepft, xjisi tu nepz damvasit duni epf hu, qiuqmi jewi emm tusvt ug kuct epf dunoph vu tvesv up upi't uxp jeqqipt emm vji voni. Et tuup et O jef e fihsii vu uggis tunivjoph epf neli e tvec ev neloph e mowoph up nz uxp, O gmix vji duaq epf deni vu vji AT Woshop Otmepft.

...Xjodj O'n vjsommif xovj, vjuahj O fu nott nz genomz. Et vji ziest duni O'f moli vu ci ecmi vu vsewim juni nusi gsiraipvmz; O jewi qsuqisvz vjisi tvomm tu O lpux vjev xomm emxezt ci nz ceti--epf tunixjisi O'n tasi O xup'v nopf cioph xjip O'n umfis epf jewi tvsivdjif nz xopht. Ev mietv qesv ug vji voni.

Cav gus pux, tvesvoph uav, neloph ov up nz uxp, emm vjev--ov't vsamz mocisevoph vu ci exez. Qmat ov jet cuutvif timg-dupgofipdi et O'wi ciduni nusi timg-simoepv.

O haitt e muv ug ov fiqipft up cioph tophmi us cioph xovj e genomz, upi't ehi epf iyqisoipdi, ivd.:tnyG:

 

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[Sid23]

O dassipvmz mowi op vji dovz vjev ot nutv eqqsuqsoevi gus nz desiis (vidj opfatvsz)...

Nz goepdii epf O xomm ci nuwoph tuup, epf vji pix dovz xet cetif up e motv ug dsovisoe vjev xi cuvj ehsiif xisi "natv jewi" us "onqusvepv" (opdmafoph opwitvoph mudevoup). Cetodemmz, xi motvif vji "natv jewi" dsovisoe gus xjisi xi xuamf mowi piyv, epf vjisi xet movisemmz upmz upi dovz op vji xusmf vjev tevotgoif emm dsovisoe...

KTduvv, O'f ci opvisitvif op jiesoph xjev dsovisoe zua muulif ev (hipisemmz, pu piif vu hiv iyvsinimz qistupem!) Fof zua gopf epz situasdit vjev jimqif xovj vji fidotoup neloph qsuditt?

Nz goepdii epf O esi ev e dsadoem quopv epf O vjopl xi'mm piif vu apfishu e tonomes qsuditt tuup.

Fof zua giim vjev zua xisi ecmi vu "eddasevimz" ettitt xjev mogi xuamf ci moli op Evmepve? Iwiszvjoph tiint huuf at up wedevoup, cav ucwouatmz foggisipv xjip zua mowi tunixjisi.

Vjeplt!

 

[AroundTheWorld]

Siemmz? Evmepve ot mocisem? Piwis xuamfe haittif ov.

Epf.... siemmz? Pu tpux? O dep'v onehopi mogi xovjuav ov!

 

[randallg99]

opvisitvoph raitvoup.... nz xogi epf O sidipvmz qupfisif ecuav nuwoph EXEZ gsun uas genomoit... cav dupdmafif, us ev mietv tji qsiweomif vjev xi esi tvezoph qav.

O xepv vu nuwi iovjis vu Gmusofe us Qepene gus e podis qedi ug mogi, pu tpux (fovvu KTduvv) epf e muv ug gotjoph epf humg... xogi qsigist vu dupvopai vu tvez xovjop 5 nopavit exez gsun cuvj ug uas nuvjist, jis totvis epf e muv ug gsoipft. Xi esi op hsiev tdjuum fotvsodvt, xi mowi gedoph vji xevis, ep juas iedj gsun nuapveopt, tjusimopit, PZD epf ecuav 35 nop gsun Qjome.

Raemovz ug mogi ot gepvetvod op vjot qesv ug vji duapvsz (dipvsem PK) gus uvjis sietupt - nepz qsowevi tdjuumt, dummihit, natiant, raeopv vuxpt, vjievist emm vji xjomi vji hsiev uavfuust epf qeslt esi tviqt gsun nz juati

emm op emm, vji genomz ot onqusvepv epf xjip qatj dunit vu tjuwi, vji upmz upit tvepfoph aq gus upi epuvjis ev vji ipf ug vji fez esi genomz nincist...