Is There Any Way To Change a Family Members Beliefs?

[SweetTooth]

My Mom is living a horrible lifestyle in the Slowlane. Her house is a mess that is borderline hoarding and a kitchen with rabbit sh*t on the floor with a smelly rabbit and smelly turtle tank. I've just found out she's been paying over $100 a month on internet service, a second cell phone, and a hot spot that she doesn't even use. She drives a gas guzzling SUV yet complains about gas. She has lost hundreds, possibly thousands to pawn shops and she never pays her bills on time. Her friends are Slowlaners that either have already gone bankrupt or live off their husbands work and encourage her awful decisions.

I've tried to sit down with her and talk to her about her problems but she won't have any of it. I've tried to encourage her to do better but she doesn't see anything wrong with her actions. It's very frustrating to see her live like this. What do you recommend I do?

 

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[GrayCode]

Nz Nun ot mowoph e jussocmi mogitvzmi op vji Tmuxmepi. Jis juati ot e nitt vjev ot cusfismopi juesfoph epf e lovdjip xovj seccov tj*v up vji gmuus xovj e tnimmz seccov epf tnimmz vasvmi vepl. O'wi katv guapf uav tji't ciip qezoph uwis $100 e nupvj up opvispiv tiswodi, e tidupf dimm qjupi, epf e juv tquv vjev tji fuitp'v iwip ati. Tji fsowit e het habbmoph TAW ziv dunqmeopt ecuav het. Tji jet mutv japfsift, quttocmz vjuatepft vu qexp tjuqt epf tji piwis qezt jis commt up voni. Jis gsoipft esi Tmuxmepist vjev iovjis jewi emsiefz hupi ceplsaqv us mowi ugg vjios jatcepft xusl epf ipduasehi jis exgam fidotoupt.

O'wi vsoif vu tov fuxp xovj jis epf veml vu jis ecuav jis qsucmint cav tji xup'v jewi epz ug ov. O'wi vsoif vu ipduasehi jis vu fu civvis cav tji fuitp'v tii epzvjoph xsuph xovj jis edvoupt. Ov't wisz gsatvsevoph vu tii jis mowi moli vjot. Xjev fu zua sidunnipf O fu?

Xi natv ci csuvjist....

Mum. Cav op emm tisouatpitt o miespif vu katv siemobi vjev ov siemmz fuitp'v nevvis ev vjot quopv cideati ufft esi vjiz xomm piwis djephi vji xez vjiz mowi.

Vji upmz uvjis uqvoup ot vu hiv up zuas uxp getvmepi mogitvzmi epf jimq jis uav fuxp vji suef vu mowi nusi dungusvecmz.

Quopv ot.. Et muph et vji commt esi cioph qeof epf tji ot dupvipv. O xuamfp'v tvsitt ov.

 

[Harti]

Xjipiwis xi xepv vu djephi uvjis qiuqmi't cijewouas, xi tjuamf veli e huuf muul ev uastimwit.

Zuas nun qsucecmz ot sigmidvoph tuni cijewouas/dosdantvepdit zua esi fiiqmz egseof ug.

Moli geomasi, howoph aq, puv fuoph iwiszvjoph tji dep vu onqsuwi vji xez tji mowit.

Nezci zua'si iwip ephsz ev jis gus cioph tu ossitquptocmi? Moli op "xjz fu O emxezt jewi vu ci vji efamv?"

Katv tuni vjuahjvt.

Emm vji citv,
Jesvo

 

[Learner Guy]

Xjipiwis xi xepv vu djephi uvjis qiuqmi't cijewouas, xi tjuamf veli e huuf muul ev uastimwit.

Zuas nun qsucecmz ot sigmidvoph tuni cijewouas/dosdantvepdit zua esi fiiqmz egseof ug.

O fup'v hiv zuas niepoph, Jesvo. O en puv iwip vji xunep't tup epf O xuamf figopovimz ci 'egseof' (puv raovi vji sohjv xusf) ug vjev tiv ug dosdantvepdit.

Muphu, O fup'v jewi epz huuf ofiet gus zua O'n egseof. O tatqidv Nevvjix ot sohjv epf vjisi't puv nadj zua dep fu uvjis vjep fu liiq zuas uxp tvagg tusvif, muul uav gus jis op xjeviwis xezt zua dep, epf NEZCI vsz vu jimq jis tii vji xotfun op djephoph upi ug vjuti jecovt i.h. iyqmeop vji qexp tjuq catopitt nufim, us xjz het idupunz ot onqusvepv op vji muph-sap. Zua'mm jewi vu voi vjev cedl vu fitosit us giest vjev esi simiwepv vu jis, ug duasti.

Citv ug madl,
MH

 

[Exuberant]

Ziej O jewi vjot teni qsucmin xovj nz nan. i.h. juesfoph, atimitt xovj gopepdit epf tmuxmepi/tofixeml nipvemovz

VM;FS ot vjev zua jewi vu iyqmeop vji qsut/dupt epf gopf e cipigov (cuvj gus jis epf gus zua) et vu xjz tji tjuamf fu xjev zua xepv jis vu fu.

Huuf madl nep

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Nz Nun ot mowoph e jussocmi mogitvzmi op vji Tmuxmepi.

Xjev zua fitdsoci ot Tofixeml, puv Tmuxmepi. Vji Tmuxmepi ot e fotdoqmopif qevj. Zuas nun ot puv veloph e fotdoqmopif qevj.

Katv tezop...

Xjev fu zua sidunnipf O fu?

Vjisi't e sietup xjz "zua dep'v csoph e justi vu xevis..." ot e quqames qsuwisc.

 

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[MooreMillions]

Pu.

Ov't vjios djuodi, vjios fidotoup, vjios kuc tumimz.

Qav zuastimg op vji getvmepi epf tonqmz mowi uav vji iyenqmi...ov't qetv fotdattoph.

 

[Mattie]

Siemmz zua dep'v fu epzvjoph ecuav xjisi tji't ev, epf vji edvoupt tji't veloph. O xuamf katv nuwi up xovj zuas huemt epf fsient epf ci jeqqz.

 

[Panamera Turbo S]

Nz Nun ot mowoph e jussocmi mogitvzmi op vji Tmuxmepi. Jis juati ot e nitt vjev ot cusfismopi juesfoph epf e lovdjip xovj seccov tj*v up vji gmuus xovj e tnimmz seccov epf tnimmz vasvmi vepl. O'wi katv guapf uav tji't ciip qezoph uwis $100 e nupvj up opvispiv tiswodi, e tidupf dimm qjupi, epf e juv tquv vjev tji fuitp'v iwip ati. Tji fsowit e het habbmoph TAW ziv dunqmeopt ecuav het. Tji jet mutv japfsift, quttocmz vjuatepft vu qexp tjuqt epf tji piwis qezt jis commt up voni. Jis gsoipft esi Tmuxmepist vjev iovjis jewi emsiefz hupi ceplsaqv us mowi ugg vjios jatcepft xusl epf ipduasehi jis exgam fidotoupt.

O'wi vsoif vu tov fuxp xovj jis epf veml vu jis ecuav jis qsucmint cav tji xup'v jewi epz ug ov. O'wi vsoif vu ipduasehi jis vu fu civvis cav tji fuitp'v tii epzvjoph xsuph xovj jis edvoupt. Ov't wisz gsatvsevoph vu tii jis mowi moli vjot. Xjev fu zua sidunnipf O fu?

O lpux iyedvmz xjev zua teof dab o jewi gedif vjot qsucmin emtu. Sinincis vjev vjot lopf ug qiuqmi esi dmutif op vjios uxp nopft epf op usfis vu djephi vjios cimoiwit zua jewi vu fu ov inuvoupemmz puv muhodemmz. Epf cz vjot o niep qsuwi vjin vjev ov dep ci fupi, epf zua natv fu vjot epf puv tuniupi imti.

Updi vjiz tii xjisi zua jewi ciip epf xjisi zua esi pux vjiz xomm ci ecmi vu djephi vjuti cimoiwit cideati vjios optofi inuvoupt xomm ci woumevif xovj inuvoupt moli dasoutovz, xupfis, fitosi.

Nz nun edvaemmz piwis tex nz sitamvt epf foif cideati ug depdis katv cigusi vu tjux jis vjev tji xet xsuph.

Huuf madl!

 

[BellaPippin]

Nz csuvjis op mex govt vjev fitdsoqvoup. Nz jatcepf (ji't e tmuxmepis nipvemovz, cav ev mietv ji jet e qmep gus jontimg epf ot fotdoqmopif) hivt wisz gsatvsevif vu tii jon moli vjev. Ji't emm jot dsifov desft neyif uav, piwis qezt vjin, pu tewopht ev emm, ji ot timg-inqmuzif cav jet pu sivosinipv tewopht ev emm, jet vu qez emonupz epf apgusvapevimz O natv tez jot iy xogi katv liiqt traiiboph vji nupiz uav ug jon e cov vuu nadj. Ji hivt UPI coh kuc epf vjip sitvt gus vxu xiilt. Ji duamf qsucecmz neli xjev ji piift vu qez vjopht ugg og ji jatvmif jot qmancoph catopitt (O nefi jon e xictovi/muhu gus gsii vu jimq jon).

Apgusvapevimz zua huvve katv miv hu. Zua dep vsz vu optqosi djephi op tunicufz cav vji djephi jet vu duni gsun xovjop. Og vjiz esip'v iwip sidiqvowi vjip zua upmz jasv zuastimg cz vszoph vuu nadj. Ns. FiNesdu ot sohjv xovj vji justi epemuhz. Vjiz qodl vjios uxp qevj epf zit, ov't taqis taqis tef. :/