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At first I was hesitant posting here, but I legit can't find anybody irl that I can talk to. I talk to @Digamma and thought I might as well spill it out here, and I hope someone can help.
I don't get to see my aunty or my cousins much anymore. My aunty is like my second mom and i grew up with my cousins during my childhood. I probably saw than maybe once a year for the past 6-7 years. Actually less than that. At first I thought it was cause my uncle didn't like the rest of my family and he was just weird. I come from south asian culture, which is going to explain his damn mentality I guess.
My aunty and cousins live with limited freedom. cousins cant even watch youtube videos and shit. My aunty gets scolded at in front of my cousins by my uncle. she's afraid the kids will grow up blaming her and whatnot. she describes that it feels like the walls are caving in and she is in prison. why does she live like that? cause my uncle threatens that if she tries to take child custody and divorce, he will leave the kids' lives forever. she believes him cause he's a religious nut who forces everyone under that roof to do dumbass shit and brainwashes them. so she's sacrificing her life for my cousins, who are too young to understand what the background story is. all they know is that there is something wrong with the parents.
now, the background story... so my aunty grew up in america and is americanized. you cant even tell she was born somewhere else. but she came from an old school family just like my grandparents were, and there's a lot of village mentality. village mentality is really backward even if sometimes they mean for the best. basically long story short, she was sexually abused by a family member who was an alcoholic. dude took pics of her as well. he later dies or something but my aunty is basically broken. some other indian dude comes and sees there is something wrong with her. they are in their twenties and they start dating, something that was not in the norm for indian americans back then who were not born in the states. they realize that their parents wont approve for marriage, and cut it off. she goes back to the motherland to get arranged married to my uncle. my uncle starts a lot of drama in the relationship and some things happen that gets everyone worried about her health. the dude she used to date texts her one day to check up on her cause her mom died and her dad who was basically paralyzed also dies as well. my uncle finds out and completely flips out and installs all that ISIS rule stuff i mentioned earlier, cause he feels like his life is ruined cause she didnt tell him all that. we all know what wouldve happened if that was the case, he wouldnt have married her, and she would've had trouble getting married. once again please bear with the village mentality of our ancestors.
my cousins arent allowed to hang out with me. i have to sneak around to see them. i dont have any friends in life. no one has said happy birthday to me for a long a$$ time except my aunty who emailed me a few weeks back. she never forgets my birthday.
i met with her on sunday when she told me all this. i didnt know earlier cause i used to go to college a while back. then i move to the city where she is as well but didnt know what was going on, and i was going through some stuff myself.
i asked her if she believes me when i tell her im going to fix everything. she says to worry about my own life and that hers is irrepairable. but i cant work on my life anymore without her best interests. ive eaten twice since i met on sunday. i have a constant headache. i am motivated to get shit done but i cant seem to see a solution to this. all i know is that this is my biggest purpose and driving factor to be an entrepreneur. and i dont even know how tf i cant help her.
best angle we have is wait till my cousin is old enough for college in a couple years and then have me explain it to him. she doesnt want to tell him or my other cousin right now cause she doesnt want them to know what happened to her.
all i know is that im going to be seeing her regularly. when i start making money ill be buying her and my cousins anything they want. i realize why my parents didnt want me to go there much cause they knew if i found out id go and do something reckless like beat the shit out of my uncle, which im actually considering. i want to throw hands with every person that knew she was abused along with my uncle god damn i swear ill fuk them up they all know it. she's suffered a lot. someone please help me.
I don't get to see my aunty or my cousins much anymore. My aunty is like my second mom and i grew up with my cousins during my childhood. I probably saw than maybe once a year for the past 6-7 years. Actually less than that. At first I thought it was cause my uncle didn't like the rest of my family and he was just weird. I come from south asian culture, which is going to explain his damn mentality I guess.
My aunty and cousins live with limited freedom. cousins cant even watch youtube videos and shit. My aunty gets scolded at in front of my cousins by my uncle. she's afraid the kids will grow up blaming her and whatnot. she describes that it feels like the walls are caving in and she is in prison. why does she live like that? cause my uncle threatens that if she tries to take child custody and divorce, he will leave the kids' lives forever. she believes him cause he's a religious nut who forces everyone under that roof to do dumbass shit and brainwashes them. so she's sacrificing her life for my cousins, who are too young to understand what the background story is. all they know is that there is something wrong with the parents.
now, the background story... so my aunty grew up in america and is americanized. you cant even tell she was born somewhere else. but she came from an old school family just like my grandparents were, and there's a lot of village mentality. village mentality is really backward even if sometimes they mean for the best. basically long story short, she was sexually abused by a family member who was an alcoholic. dude took pics of her as well. he later dies or something but my aunty is basically broken. some other indian dude comes and sees there is something wrong with her. they are in their twenties and they start dating, something that was not in the norm for indian americans back then who were not born in the states. they realize that their parents wont approve for marriage, and cut it off. she goes back to the motherland to get arranged married to my uncle. my uncle starts a lot of drama in the relationship and some things happen that gets everyone worried about her health. the dude she used to date texts her one day to check up on her cause her mom died and her dad who was basically paralyzed also dies as well. my uncle finds out and completely flips out and installs all that ISIS rule stuff i mentioned earlier, cause he feels like his life is ruined cause she didnt tell him all that. we all know what wouldve happened if that was the case, he wouldnt have married her, and she would've had trouble getting married. once again please bear with the village mentality of our ancestors.
my cousins arent allowed to hang out with me. i have to sneak around to see them. i dont have any friends in life. no one has said happy birthday to me for a long a$$ time except my aunty who emailed me a few weeks back. she never forgets my birthday.
i met with her on sunday when she told me all this. i didnt know earlier cause i used to go to college a while back. then i move to the city where she is as well but didnt know what was going on, and i was going through some stuff myself.
i asked her if she believes me when i tell her im going to fix everything. she says to worry about my own life and that hers is irrepairable. but i cant work on my life anymore without her best interests. ive eaten twice since i met on sunday. i have a constant headache. i am motivated to get shit done but i cant seem to see a solution to this. all i know is that this is my biggest purpose and driving factor to be an entrepreneur. and i dont even know how tf i cant help her.
best angle we have is wait till my cousin is old enough for college in a couple years and then have me explain it to him. she doesnt want to tell him or my other cousin right now cause she doesnt want them to know what happened to her.
all i know is that im going to be seeing her regularly. when i start making money ill be buying her and my cousins anything they want. i realize why my parents didnt want me to go there much cause they knew if i found out id go and do something reckless like beat the shit out of my uncle, which im actually considering. i want to throw hands with every person that knew she was abused along with my uncle god damn i swear ill fuk them up they all know it. she's suffered a lot. someone please help me.
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