Is there an antidote to a bad company?

[MRiabov]

Sup,

It's one of those problems I really do not wish anyone ever had, but it just happens and I must solve it somehow.

I am in the dormitory, and... My roommate. F*cking hell dude.

So, I live in a shared room, and my roommate keeps talking trash about me.
I always try to concentrate on my invention, bringing my product to Kickstarter, etc, and I sometimes forget about small things - like shutting the balcony door, or turning off the light in the bathroom... And then the storm starts.

"dude how the F*ck do you forget about these things. Have your family not taught you about turning your light off?"
"I'm not supposed to walk around you and tell you what to do".

And you know, fair enough, I don't do these things sometimes. So I can't even say "piss off" because you know, he is right..

But the problem is not this.
It is when I sit down to work.

I sit down to work either in libraries or dormitory halls when the libraries are closed. And then it's like all the crap he tells me starts to bubble up. He is a lazy, overweight person, and it's like starts to transfer onto me. I spend 40% of my workday not actually working, but deflecting his biases and weak opinions from me.

I hope I will just earn enough money and get out of here, but does anybody know a way to mentally block this crap out? I use logic and socratic reasoning, but it just takes time.

 

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[Trismigistus]

Sup,

It's one of those problems I really do not wish anyone ever had, but it just happens and I must solve it somehow.

I am in the dormitory, and... My roommate. F*cking hell dude.

So, I live in a shared room, and my roommate keeps talking trash about me.
I always try to concentrate on my invention, bringing my product to Kickstarter, etc, and I sometimes forget about small things - like shutting the balcony door, or turning off the light in the bathroom... And then the storm starts.

"dude how the F*ck do you forget about these things. Have your family not taught you about turning your light off?"
"I'm not supposed to walk around you and tell you what to do".

And you know, fair enough, I don't do these things sometimes. So I can't even say "piss off" because you know, he is right..

But the problem is not this.
It is when I sit down to work.

I sit down to work either in libraries or dormitory halls when the libraries are closed. And then it's like all the crap he tells me starts to bubble up. He is a lazy, overweight person, and it's like starts to transfer onto me. I spend 40% of my workday not actually working, but deflecting his biases and weak opinions from me.

I hope I will just earn enough money and get out of here, but does anybody know a way to mentally block this crap out? I use logic and socratic reasoning, but it just takes time.

Get a different room, or just interact with him as least as possible. When I got out of boot camp and got into A school, I had 2 other dudes in this small a$$ room with one bathroom. Just keep the room nice and respectable for other occupants and and if you don't like him, dont speak to him, go your own way. As far as youre concerned he is just a ship passing in the night. I had another roomate in another situation, we barely talked to eachother at all. Just be respectful and do your thing. Put headphones on in your room if you cant get a different one. Dont worry about what other people are doing if they are overweight or whatever, its not your concern. Worry about yourself and stop interacting with him outside of the forced interactions of living together. Dont give him a reason to speak to you, keep your shit clean and tidy. Good luck man.