Hello
I've come here in desperate need of sound advice. I'm 42, about to be 43 in December. Sadly, I currently live with my mother and drive for Uber. I'm very, very depressed as you can shockingly imagine.
I've pretty much given up on life because of what I've become. Because of my embarrassing job choice I have no dating life, whatsoever, because I'm either sick of lying to women what I do for a living and/or I'm too embarrassed to reveal to them my job choice. So basically, I don't bother dating anymore.
I'm perfectly aware women look for successful men because it's what attracts them. I'm not one of them so it shatters my heart to pieces knowing I can't have the opportunity to love someone with all my heart because of my financial/career choice. I've tried the honest route and as you can imagine it rarely ends well, unless I seriously downgrade my expectations., which I seriously don't want to do. And to be perfectly honest, I don't blame them for not being happy with me. If I was a woman I too would not dare date a guy who friggin' Ubers. Eeecck! And the one woman I loved dearly who accepted me eventually left. Surprise, surprise.
I obviously have made terrible decisions up to this point and in doing so it has cost me so much as an individual. Not to shift blame but I grew up with a father whose instilled a lot of fear and self-doubt in me. I grew up incredibly insecure and scared. I didn't realize all my decision making as a young adult was being based on the fact that I felt deep down inside neither capable, deserving or worthy to achieve good things in life.
I'm incredibly frightened now because for one thing I'm not a spring chicken anymore, I don't have a good job history/resume, I've become complacent/lazy, lack of drive/ambition, lonely, depressed and, well, simply don't know what else to do.
Hence why I'm here.
I mean I want change so bad, so bad but every time I think of myself in this situation I think "There is no hope. I'm too far deep in this hole. There is no getting out" You have no idea how much it pisses me off and saddens me at the same time when I think these thoughts. So much so that it overwhelms my senses and I shove it to the back of my head and go back to Ubering, all the while miserable.
I can't begin to tell you how disappointed I am in myself. I catch myself all the time just not believing how it has all come to this. I keep thinking thoughts of regret and "I should've done this, done that. Not done this, not done that." And yes, I know looking in the past and judging yourself based on it isn't fair because what's done is done but man, when you're in a rut like mine you just can't help it. It overwhelms your survival senses.
So, without wasting too much of your time here are my weaknesses and strengths. This, I hope, will help you to perhaps offer me some positive direction.
Weaknesses
1. Poor job history. (I mean this is really bad. I've worked numerous dead-end jobs.)
2. I hate anything to do with filling long forms or reading excel type sheets.
3. Lack of self-esteem/confidence due to my insecurities as a professional.
4. I don't own anything significant (house, car, stocks, bonds, mutual funds, savings, health benefits.)
5. I lack business knowledge.
6. Discipline.
7. Learning something new.
8. I've failed at almost everything I've done.
9. Lack ambition, mainly due to being stuck for so long.
10. Poor vision and forced to wear uncomfortable lenses( I have Keratoconus.)
Strengths
1. I'm an extrovert when I want to be.
2. I'm artistically creative.
3. I can type over 75 wpm.
4. Computers.
5. I'm a great teacher.
6. I'm funny.
7. I have excellent credit.
8. I'm physically capable of doing things like lifting heavy things.
9. I'm healthy.
10. I'm decent looking.
11. I believe that I'm a terrific songwriter because I always make music in my head that believe would be hits (even though I don't sing, play instruments and have never written an actual song.)
12. Sound effects.
13. Give great advice.
14. Write.
Please, any bit of real, sound advice from someone successful will do me a lot of help.
Thank you.
I've come here in desperate need of sound advice. I'm 42, about to be 43 in December. Sadly, I currently live with my mother and drive for Uber. I'm very, very depressed as you can shockingly imagine.
I've pretty much given up on life because of what I've become. Because of my embarrassing job choice I have no dating life, whatsoever, because I'm either sick of lying to women what I do for a living and/or I'm too embarrassed to reveal to them my job choice. So basically, I don't bother dating anymore.
I'm perfectly aware women look for successful men because it's what attracts them. I'm not one of them so it shatters my heart to pieces knowing I can't have the opportunity to love someone with all my heart because of my financial/career choice. I've tried the honest route and as you can imagine it rarely ends well, unless I seriously downgrade my expectations., which I seriously don't want to do. And to be perfectly honest, I don't blame them for not being happy with me. If I was a woman I too would not dare date a guy who friggin' Ubers. Eeecck! And the one woman I loved dearly who accepted me eventually left. Surprise, surprise.
I obviously have made terrible decisions up to this point and in doing so it has cost me so much as an individual. Not to shift blame but I grew up with a father whose instilled a lot of fear and self-doubt in me. I grew up incredibly insecure and scared. I didn't realize all my decision making as a young adult was being based on the fact that I felt deep down inside neither capable, deserving or worthy to achieve good things in life.
I'm incredibly frightened now because for one thing I'm not a spring chicken anymore, I don't have a good job history/resume, I've become complacent/lazy, lack of drive/ambition, lonely, depressed and, well, simply don't know what else to do.
Hence why I'm here.
I mean I want change so bad, so bad but every time I think of myself in this situation I think "There is no hope. I'm too far deep in this hole. There is no getting out" You have no idea how much it pisses me off and saddens me at the same time when I think these thoughts. So much so that it overwhelms my senses and I shove it to the back of my head and go back to Ubering, all the while miserable.
I can't begin to tell you how disappointed I am in myself. I catch myself all the time just not believing how it has all come to this. I keep thinking thoughts of regret and "I should've done this, done that. Not done this, not done that." And yes, I know looking in the past and judging yourself based on it isn't fair because what's done is done but man, when you're in a rut like mine you just can't help it. It overwhelms your survival senses.
So, without wasting too much of your time here are my weaknesses and strengths. This, I hope, will help you to perhaps offer me some positive direction.
Weaknesses
1. Poor job history. (I mean this is really bad. I've worked numerous dead-end jobs.)
2. I hate anything to do with filling long forms or reading excel type sheets.
3. Lack of self-esteem/confidence due to my insecurities as a professional.
4. I don't own anything significant (house, car, stocks, bonds, mutual funds, savings, health benefits.)
5. I lack business knowledge.
6. Discipline.
7. Learning something new.
8. I've failed at almost everything I've done.
9. Lack ambition, mainly due to being stuck for so long.
10. Poor vision and forced to wear uncomfortable lenses( I have Keratoconus.)
Strengths
1. I'm an extrovert when I want to be.
2. I'm artistically creative.
3. I can type over 75 wpm.
4. Computers.
5. I'm a great teacher.
6. I'm funny.
7. I have excellent credit.
8. I'm physically capable of doing things like lifting heavy things.
9. I'm healthy.
10. I'm decent looking.
11. I believe that I'm a terrific songwriter because I always make music in my head that believe would be hits (even though I don't sing, play instruments and have never written an actual song.)
12. Sound effects.
13. Give great advice.
14. Write.
Please, any bit of real, sound advice from someone successful will do me a lot of help.
Thank you.
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