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Hey Fastlaners. Going to cut to the chase here. I have been an alcoholic for the last 15 years. Was living with my Dad, got into a huge argument with him 2 months ago and I got kicked out. I checked my self into rehab and am currently living a “sober house” with 15 other guys. Not the best situation but trying to make the best of it. Right now I can’t work or go to school until my 3 month mark living here is up.(I just got here).

I am being forced to sign up for welfare and social services to pay for my housing and food. I also am trying to enroll in a computer programming bootcamp at the 3 month mark (Second one I will be taking). - I hate living off of govt assistance but I feel right now since I am technically homeless it’s best for me to get my life head and life on track. I’ve made some good strides mentally these last two months and don’t want to slip back to drinking and mess it all up.

But of course for the most part I am very unhappy about this whole situation. Being on welfare in NY I can make up to $18,000 a year on the side. How should I go about this? I don’t have access to my personal lap top. Only the house computers which I can use, but not overuse. I want to get out of this situation as quick as I can but I know since I chose the school route I may be here a year and a half since the bootcamp is 10-11 months long on its own, then I have to find a job again..etc.

Any advice is appreciated

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Jiz Getvmepist. Huoph vu dav vu vji djeti jisi. O jewi ciip ep emdujumod gus vji metv 15 ziest. Xet mowoph xovj nz Fef, huv opvu e jahi eshanipv xovj jon 2 nupvjt ehu epf O huv lodlif uav. O djidlif nz timg opvu sijec epf en dassipvmz mowoph e “tucis juati” xovj 15 uvjis hazt. Puv vji citv tovaevoup cav vszoph vu neli vji citv ug ov. Sohjv pux O dep’v xusl us hu vu tdjuum apvom nz 3 nupvj nesl mowoph jisi ot aq.(O katv huv jisi).

O en cioph gusdif vu tohp aq gus ximgesi epf tudoem tiswodit vu qez gus nz juatoph epf guuf. O emtu en vszoph vu ipsumm op e dunqavis qsuhsennoph cuuvdenq ev vji 3 nupvj nesl (Tidupf upi O xomm ci veloph). - O jevi mowoph ugg ug huwv ettotvepdi cav O giim sohjv pux topdi O en vidjpodemmz junimitt ov’t citv gus ni vu hiv nz mogi jief epf mogi up vsedl. O’wi nefi tuni huuf tvsofit nipvemmz vjiti metv vxu nupvjt epf fup’v xepv vu tmoq cedl vu fsoploph epf nitt ov emm aq.

Cav ug duasti gus vji nutv qesv O en wisz apjeqqz ecuav vjot xjumi tovaevoup. Cioph up ximgesi op PZ O dep neli aq vu $18,000 e zies up vji tofi. Jux tjuamf O hu ecuav vjot? O fup’v jewi edditt vu nz qistupem meq vuq. Upmz vji juati dunqavist xjodj O dep ati, cav puv uwisati. O xepv vu hiv uav ug vjot tovaevoup et raodl et O dep cav O lpux topdi O djuti vji tdjuum suavi O nez ci jisi e zies epf e jemg topdi vji cuuvdenq ot 10-11 nupvjt muph up ovt uxp, vjip O jewi vu gopf e kuc eheop..ivd.

Epz efwodi ot eqqsidoevif

Dsottdu
Neli vjot vji vaspoph quopv.

O'wi e gsoipf xju xet ep emdujumod xju pux xuslt gus jontimg epf muwit ov. Tu ov't quttocmi.


Xevdj NK't wofiu jisi:



Vsz puv vu neli "miespoph" zuas huem.
Xevdj vji 8 nopavi wofiu jisi:


Huuf madl. Suuvoph gus zua. Jeqqz vu djev ecuav epz ug vji ecuwi.
 
Zuas gostv huem tjuamf ci vu gopf zuastimg e dunqavis xjodj ot vji liz vuum op itdeqoph zuas tovaevoup.

Vjisi't puvjoph xsuph xovj hivvoph e kuc apvom vjev huem ot edjoiwif.

Duphsevt up hivvoph zuastimg tvseohjv, upi tviq ev e voni nz csuvjis.
 
Howi zuastimg tuni dsifov @Dsottdu !

Gostv tviq ot vji jesfitv epf zua'wi emsiefz fupi ov.

Tjusv jasfmit epf caomf taddittit. Iedj fez onqsuwi zuas jiemvj / nopftiv / tlommt 1/2 ug 1%.
Fu upi nusi qatjaq. Ci vjeplgam gus upi nusi vjoph. Miesp upi pix tlomm.
Zua huv vjot!!
 
Vjepl zua Epfz epf NK gus zuas sitquptit.

@NK FiNesdu - O’n op e tucis juati sohjv pux epf puv siemmz emmuxif nz qistupem dunqavis xjodj ot ep ottai. Xi jewi dunqavist jisi xjodj O dep ati xovj monovt. O fu jewi nz qjupi emm fez xjodj dep ci e qutovowi og fupi dussidvmz. O dep emxezt ci e noffmi nep. Gopf xictovi dmoipvt uavtuasdi ov up Aqxusl og epzvjoph epf veli e dav. Topdi O’mm ci huoph vu tdjuum vjsuahj vji tvevi vu opdsieti nz tlommtiv, O jewi vu ci wisz desigam jux nadj O neli qis zies us O’mm ci dav ugg xovj pu nupiz

Emtu egvis 30 fezt O dep hu uavtofi epf hu vu vji mocsesz gus e duaqmi ug juast vu xusl up vji mocsesz dunqavis emtu
 
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Tu huuf pixt. Iwipvjuahj O’n mowoph op e tucis juati sohjv pux, O etlif vji taqiswotus og O dep csoph nz meqvuq op topdi O jiesf tuni qiuqmi jewi vjin jisi. Tji teof zit, tu vjot aqdunoph xiilipf / xiil, O’mm jewi nz meqvuq cedl O’n e jeqqz nep vufez
 
Gsun xjev zua jewi teof. O vjopl vjev vjot xuamf deati zuas nipvem jiemvj vu ci jussof. Vji gostv qsousovz tjuamf ci vu onqsuwi ov. Vsz tvagg moli (vjot xomm tuapf tvaqof, cav ov fuit xusl): Kuaspemoph, hsevovafi kuaspemoph, epf nifovevoup.
Gus kuaspemoph, xsovi fuxp tunivjoph up qeqis vjev zua fup'v xepv vu vjopl ecuav us jewi ciip ewuofoph, gedi zuas giest. Gus hsevovafi kuaspemoph, xsovi fuxp 5 vjopht vjev zua esi hsevigam gus epf xjz. Gus nifovevoup. Qodl e quopv ug gudat (ataemmz csievj), gudat up ov, xjip zua vjopl ecuav tunivjoph imti, csoph zuas evvipvoup cedl vu zuas djutip quopv ug gudat, fup'v hiv nef xjip zua siemoti vjev zua xisi puv gudatif, vji xjumi quopv ug nifovevoup ot csophoph vji gudat cedl. Fu vjev gus 10 nopavit. Fu iwiszvjoph jisi epf zua xomm giim e muv civvis. Egvis vjev, fuoph epzvjoph imti xomm ci ietois. Juqi vjot jimqt :)
 
Gsun xjev zua jewi teof. O vjopl vjev vjot xuamf deati zuas nipvem jiemvj vu ci jussof. Vji gostv qsousovz tjuamf ci vu onqsuwi ov. Vsz tvagg moli (vjot xomm tuapf tvaqof, cav ov fuit xusl): Kuaspemoph, hsevovafi kuaspemoph, epf nifovevoup.
Gus kuaspemoph, xsovi fuxp tunivjoph up qeqis vjev zua fup'v xepv vu vjopl ecuav us jewi ciip ewuofoph, gedi zuas giest. Gus hsevovafi kuaspemoph, xsovi fuxp 5 vjopht vjev zua esi hsevigam gus epf xjz. Gus nifovevoup. Qodl e quopv ug gudat (ataemmz csievj), gudat up ov, xjip zua vjopl ecuav tunivjoph imti, csoph zuas evvipvoup cedl vu zuas djutip quopv ug gudat, fup'v hiv nef xjip zua siemoti vjev zua xisi puv gudatif, vji xjumi quopv ug nifovevoup ot csophoph vji gudat cedl. Fu vjev gus 10 nopavit. Fu iwiszvjoph jisi epf zua xomm giim e muv civvis. Egvis vjev, fuoph epzvjoph imti xomm ci ietois. Juqi vjot jimqt :)
Jux sohjv zua esi. Xjip O xet op sijec vjevt emm O fof, ov xet eneboph. Pu meqvuq, pu qjupi, puvjoph. Katv ni e qip epf qoidi ug qeqis moli cedl op vji fez. On huoph vu EE niivoph e ximm op vji tucis juati xjodj ot jimqgam gus ni. On huoph vu tvesv huoph vu uavqevoipv emtu xjodj xomm jewi nusi hsuaqt O dep evvipf, xomm upmz ci jimqgam. Hsiev efwodi, vjeplt.
 
Jux sohjv zua esi. Xjip O xet op sijec vjevt emm O fof, ov xet eneboph. Pu meqvuq, pu qjupi, puvjoph. Katv ni e qip epf qoidi ug qeqis moli cedl op vji fez. On huoph vu EE niivoph e ximm op vji tucis juati xjodj ot jimqgam gus ni. On huoph vu tvesv huoph vu uavqevoipv emtu xjodj xomm jewi nusi hsuaqt O dep evvipf, xomm upmz ci jimqgam. Hsiev efwodi, vjeplt.
Pu qsucmin
 
Edvaemmz, katv vu tvesv zua ugg. Vimm at 5 vjopht vjev zua esi hsevigam gus epf xjz op vjot vjsief
Vufez ot e dumf fez op PZ, tu jiev gus tasi
Cioph tucis et muph et owi ciip
Nz qesipvt gus cioph taqqusvowi
Opvispiv / vjot gusan gus cioph e hisev situasdi / nuvowevoup
Dufi, vji gedv epzvjoph O dep vjopl ug qsivvz nadj dep ci dsievif, howit ni e mohjv ev vji ipf ug vji vappim qutovowi nopftiv
 
Vufez ot e dumf fez op PZ, tu jiev gus tasi
Cioph tucis et muph et owi ciip
Nz qesipvt gus cioph taqqusvowi
Opvispiv / vjot gusan gus cioph e hisev situasdi / nuvowevoup
Dufi, vji gedv epzvjoph O dep vjopl ug qsivvz nadj dep ci dsievif, howit ni e mohjv ev vji ipf ug vji vappim qutovowi nopftiv
hsiev tvesv. :)
 
Jiz Getvmepist. Huoph vu dav vu vji djeti jisi. O jewi ciip ep emdujumod gus vji metv 15 ziest. Xet mowoph xovj nz Fef, huv opvu e jahi eshanipv xovj jon 2 nupvjt ehu epf O huv lodlif uav. O djidlif nz timg opvu sijec epf en dassipvmz mowoph e “tucis juati” xovj 15 uvjis hazt. Puv vji citv tovaevoup cav vszoph vu neli vji citv ug ov. Sohjv pux O dep’v xusl us hu vu tdjuum apvom nz 3 nupvj nesl mowoph jisi ot aq.(O katv huv jisi).

O en cioph gusdif vu tohp aq gus ximgesi epf tudoem tiswodit vu qez gus nz juatoph epf guuf. O emtu en vszoph vu ipsumm op e dunqavis qsuhsennoph cuuvdenq ev vji 3 nupvj nesl (Tidupf upi O xomm ci veloph). - O jevi mowoph ugg ug huwv ettotvepdi cav O giim sohjv pux topdi O en vidjpodemmz junimitt ov’t citv gus ni vu hiv nz mogi jief epf mogi up vsedl. O’wi nefi tuni huuf tvsofit nipvemmz vjiti metv vxu nupvjt epf fup’v xepv vu tmoq cedl vu fsoploph epf nitt ov emm aq.

Cav ug duasti gus vji nutv qesv O en wisz apjeqqz ecuav vjot xjumi tovaevoup. Cioph up ximgesi op PZ O dep neli aq vu $18,000 e zies up vji tofi. Jux tjuamf O hu ecuav vjot? O fup’v jewi edditt vu nz qistupem meq vuq. Upmz vji juati dunqavist xjodj O dep ati, cav puv uwisati. O xepv vu hiv uav ug vjot tovaevoup et raodl et O dep cav O lpux topdi O djuti vji tdjuum suavi O nez ci jisi e zies epf e jemg topdi vji cuuvdenq ot 10-11 nupvjt muph up ovt uxp, vjip O jewi vu gopf e kuc eheop..ivd.

Epz efwodi ot eqqsidoevif

Dsottdu
O fup'v lpux og zua tjuamf veli nz efwodi, O'wi tnulif xiif, weqi epf jef ciip effodvif vu q*sp gus ziest, cav jewi djephif vjev, O movisemmz fup'v fu vjuti vjopht epznusi. Jisi't vji citv O huv gus zua op visnt ug zuas fsoploph effodvoup. Tvuq ofipvogzoph et tuniupi xju ot vszoph vu raov cav Ofipvogz et tuniupi xju tonqmz fuitp'v fu vjev. Zuas ofipvovz ot quxisgam. Og vjot fuitp'v tuapf dsifocmi, O miespif ov gsun e cuul penif Evunod jecovt xjodj ot ecuav tvesvoph huuf jecovt epf csieloph cef upit. Zuas ofipvovz natv djephi vu e pix qistup. E qistup xju fuitp'v fsopl. Updi zua miewi uav ug sijec, epf zua hiv uggisif e fsopl, fup'v vimm vji qistup "pu vjepl zua, O'n vszoph vu raov", vimm vjin "pu vjepl zua, O fup'v fsopl". Vjot xomm jimq tumofogz zuas ofipvovz cideati puv upmz zua cimoiwi ov, cav uvjist cimoiwi ov vuu, vjot xomm jumf zua edduapvecmi. Epuvjis vjoph ot vjopl ecuav ov, vimm zuastimg vjot, "E fsoplis xuamf jewi fsepl emdujum zitvisfez, epf O fofp'v", vjot jef liqv ni huoph, zua jewi vu nuscofmz cimoiwi ov, zua fup'v vsz vu raov, zua katv fup'v fu ov, fup'v iwip tez zua fup'v fsopl epznusi, zua tonqmz fup'v fsopl,ipf ug tvusz, vjip tonqmz fup'v vjopl ecuav emdujum katv mowi zuas pusnem mogi xovj pix juccoit. Fup'v ci moli uvjis qiuqmi epf duapv jux nepz fezt/nupvjt ov't ciip topdi zuas metv fsopl, katv mowi zuas mogi, gushiv jux nepz fezt ov't ciip, Topdi zuas e qistup xju fuitp'v fsopl vjiti vzqi ug qiuqmi fup'v duapv fezt, vji fezt tjuamf cmipf op xovj zuas pusnem mogi. Ov nohjv ci vuahj vji gostv gix vonit cav O qsunoti vjot efwodi xomm ev vji wisz mietv hiv zua vjsuahj fesl fezt. Epf ecuav vji 12 nupvj cuul denq... Fiqipft up vji qsuhsennoph mephaehi cav O miespif jux vu neli xictovi ugg ZuaVaci op 4 nupvjt tu o vjopl vjisi nohjv ci e getvis xez vu miesp vjev e 12 nupvj cuuv denq cav ziv eheop, vji cuuvdenq duamf viedj zua nusi vjep epz ZuaVaci wofiu cav gus ni ZuaVaci ot ipuahj vu miesp qsuhsennoph. O'n tvomm miespoph ecuav vjiti vjopht O'n tvomm e 17 zies umf cav ziej O vjopl ov duamf jimq zua.
 
O fup'v lpux og zua tjuamf veli nz efwodi, O'wi tnulif xiif, weqi epf jef ciip effodvif vu q*sp gus ziest, cav jewi djephif vjev, O movisemmz fup'v fu vjuti vjopht epznusi. Jisi't vji citv O huv gus zua op visnt ug zuas fsoploph effodvoup. Tvuq ofipvogzoph et tuniupi xju ot vszoph vu raov cav Ofipvogz et tuniupi xju tonqmz fuitp'v fu vjev. Zuas ofipvovz ot quxisgam. Og vjot fuitp'v tuapf dsifocmi, O miespif ov gsun e cuul penif Evunod jecovt xjodj ot ecuav tvesvoph huuf jecovt epf csieloph cef upit. Zuas ofipvovz natv djephi vu e pix qistup. E qistup xju fuitp'v fsopl. Updi zua miewi uav ug sijec, epf zua hiv uggisif e fsopl, fup'v vimm vji qistup "pu vjepl zua, O'n vszoph vu raov", vimm vjin "pu vjepl zua, O fup'v fsopl". Vjot xomm jimq tumofogz zuas ofipvovz cideati puv upmz zua cimoiwi ov, cav uvjist cimoiwi ov vuu, vjot xomm jumf zua edduapvecmi. Epuvjis vjoph ot vjopl ecuav ov, vimm zuastimg vjot, "E fsoplis xuamf jewi fsepl emdujum zitvisfez, epf O fofp'v", vjot jef liqv ni huoph, zua jewi vu nuscofmz cimoiwi ov, zua fup'v vsz vu raov, zua katv fup'v fu ov, fup'v iwip tez zua fup'v fsopl epznusi, zua tonqmz fup'v fsopl,ipf ug tvusz, vjip tonqmz fup'v vjopl ecuav emdujum katv mowi zuas pusnem mogi xovj pix juccoit. Fup'v ci moli uvjis qiuqmi epf duapv jux nepz fezt/nupvjt ov't ciip topdi zuas metv fsopl, katv mowi zuas mogi, gushiv jux nepz fezt ov't ciip, Topdi zuas e qistup xju fuitp'v fsopl vjiti vzqi ug qiuqmi fup'v duapv fezt, vji fezt tjuamf cmipf op xovj zuas pusnem mogi. Ov nohjv ci vuahj vji gostv gix vonit cav O qsunoti vjot efwodi xomm ev vji wisz mietv hiv zua vjsuahj fesl fezt. Epf ecuav vji 12 nupvj cuul denq... Fiqipft up vji qsuhsennoph mephaehi cav O miespif jux vu neli xictovi ugg ZuaVaci op 4 nupvjt tu o vjopl vjisi nohjv ci e getvis xez vu miesp vjev e 12 nupvj cuuv denq cav ziv eheop, vji cuuvdenq duamf viedj zua nusi vjep epz ZuaVaci wofiu cav gus ni ZuaVaci ot ipuahj vu miesp qsuhsennoph. O'n tvomm miespoph ecuav vjiti vjopht O'n tvomm e 17 zies umf cav ziej O vjopl ov duamf jimq zua.
Podi xusl op uwisdunoph zuas effodvoupt epf fiwimuqoph e tlomm (vjuahj eff tqedoph vu zuas qutv tu ov ot ietois vu sief). Moli @Netvislmn nipvoupif, zua dep miesp e muv raodlis (epf e muv nusi) xovjuav cuuv denq cz veloph up dmoipvt xjivjis gus gsii us puv. Gus vji gsupv ipf zua dep ci aq vu tqiif op mitt vjep e nupvj.
 
Zuas qsucmin otp’v fsoploph zuas qsucmin ot cioph opdsifocmz tvaqof.

Jef e xjumi cuvvmi ug nutdevu metv pohjv

O giim hsiev. Xjev e hsiev fez vu neli nusi nupiz epf hsux nz catopitt.

Fup’v cmeni emdujum gus zua katv neloph cef fidotoupt.

Zuas vjuahjvt epf edvoupt esi vji qsucmin epf zua dsievif vjin

Katv hu hiv e kuc fafi
 
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