How to break up with someone who loves you?

[Lights]

This is a mild issue, but I have to break up with this guy who is really in love with me. I been with him for exactly a year, out of desperation knowing I was going to dump him before we even kissed, but now I am really settle into his place. I am dumping him because I need to relocate to another city, more money, and to get connections. I can't stay with him longer than next week.

He does a bunch of wonderful tasks... and I can't just dump him easily like that because that's just cruel. I don't want to be that ugly to someone that kind-hearted.

Should I just pick up my things next week after my last day at work, and say, "I am not in love with you anymore, and I am going to go, don't worry about me. Thanks for everything", kiss him, then go? But it just seems cold.

 

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[1PercentStreet]

I was going to dump him before we even kissed

& You're trying to not be cold but wasted 1 year of his life?

 

[Lights]

& You're trying to not be cold but wasted 1 year of his life?

I don't feel emotional attachment to strangers, and he was one when I met him. I thought I would be with him maximum 1-3 months.. at that time I was in a dark place.

I can't predict how I am going to feel about someone in a year's time, maybe if I was completely heartless, I wouldn't care at all now. But I care enough to think how I have to treat this matter

 

[G-man422]

Lights, I mean this with all due respect; you are the craziest person on this forum. I'm not saying that's a bad thing.

In regard to your question, it's best to approach it like pulling off a band-aid. Just do it, and do it fast.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

How to break up with someone who loves you?

It's not working and I think it's time we go our separate ways.

I can't just dump him easily like that because that's just cruel.

Says the woman with the knife in her hand...

Your non-actions (stringing him along and wasting 1 year of his life) is cruel. You haven't broken up with him because you're selfish - it has nothing to do with him. You've been here over a year and frankly, this is your modus operandi.

Who you kidding.

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[Lights]

Lights, I mean this with all due respect; you are the craziest person on this forum. I'm not saying that's a bad thing.

In regard to your question, it's best to approach it like pulling off a band-aid. Just do it, and do it fast.

Thanks

 

[TK1]

 

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[Mike39]

That is unbelievably immature and childish of you to play him for an entire year, I feel bad for the guy your dating who thinks you have a serious relationship. Honestly I have to agree with AwkwardPublic on this one, it's time to use the ignore feature to it's full potential, all your posts are about your personal problems none of which relate to business or entrepreneurship, to be even more brutally honest, I could care less about how to dump your boyfriend in the least b!tchiest way (which their isn't one) or if you are going to starve yourself for 3 days for your "health", it's not interesting, not productive, and it doesn't add any value to the forum.

You are honestly the type of girl who I hope I never get in a relationship with, always contemplating overly deep thoughts, dating someone for a YEAR knowing your just going to leave them on the curb one day, not DOING anything, just talking about your personal life on a business forum

Lastly, make a god damn decision for yourself, you don't need to ask the forums opinion on if you should eat frosted flakes or fruit loops for breakfast and which one will align your mantra in a way for most positive synergy with the universe, it was entertaining to read for a while but now, I've seem the show 1 too many times, it's gettin old Lights

Don't reply, I wont see it because the second I click submit I am also ignoring you
:rant:

 

[LamboMP]

worst.. person.. ever..

 

[1PercentStreet]

When I'm sad, I go to this thread and think, things could be a LOT worse.

Sad there are people like this. I reread your post after I posted and you said this is a mild issue. You should turn asexual and stay far away from any human connections til you get your noggin straight.

 

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[The-J]

When I'm sad, I go to this thread and think, things could be a LOT worse.

Sad there are people like this. I reread your post after I posted and you said this is a mild issue. You should turn asexual and stay far away from any human connections til you get your noggin straight.

According to her last thread, she is asexual. Not like it's something you can just 'turn', anyway...

I still don't think this chick is serious. If she is, she's way wacked out and needs a shrink. The ego has some pretty serious side effects. Three examples: Donald Trump, Charlie Sheen, and Lights.

 

[1PercentStreet]

According to her last thread, she is asexual. Not like it's something you can just 'turn', anyway...

Three examples: Donald Trump, Charlie Sheen, and Lights.

Except 99% of people aren't as successful with these "issues".

I hope we aren't being trolled.

 

[The-J]

Except 99% of people aren't as successful with these "issues".

Well, Lights is born to be successful, or at least she says so...

 

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[Kak]

Lights

Fastlane Driver

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[socaldude]

I been with him for exactly a year, out of desperation knowing I was going to dump him before we even kissed

So you are telling me you "dated" somebody for a WHOLE freaking year without actually dating? That doesn't sound very healthy at all. Relationships(romantic or not) are all about communication, communication and communication. Not living in this strange dichotomy of your little world versus the real world.

From day one you knew you didn't want to be with him yet you dragged it out for a whole freaking year by "dating" him? WOW.

You should go talk to a psychologist, they are way more helpful than a business forum. They help you break things down to form a more coherent perspective of reality. Please don't take it the wrong way. Good luck!

 

[1PercentStreet]

My bigger issues

You have bigger issues!!!!????

be someone someone can look up too

Yes, teach all people to live to your standards.
When the majority doesn't agree with your viewpoints, who cares, but when the MOTHERF--KING minority(as far as successful/like-minded individuals) tells you, you've got problems, you should probably listen.

Last year, I was homeless and not planning to live on the streets lol, so I had to make this guy my boyfriend (he's also 52, first boyfriend loll)...

F--king nuts. You should be on the streets, you've not earned anything from what I've read about you. Only thing you've done is leech off another and "try" to build your dream.
Go be happy on your own accord, not someone's personal life you're ruining(1year!!!)

 

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[AllenCrawley]

Seriously, is there a way to ignore this whole thread? I'm getting tired of it showing up under new posts.

Sent from my PC36100 using Tapatalk 2

 

[TheTruth]

Welp, here goes the ignore function for the first time. I second that you are the craziest person here. Really bizarre actually. Time to put you on the ol' ignore list. LIGHTS OUT

LOL! I was waiting for this day, because I Remember in the last thread that you posted in that lights made you were soooo mad ahahahah


Anyway, Lightz, in all honesty if you have serious issues I am open to a nice chat if you are willing to do that (unless you are just trolling this whole forum from day 1)

 

[Lights]

LOL! I was waiting for this day, because I Remember in the last thread that you posted in that lights made you were soooo mad ahahahah


Anyway, Lightz, in all honesty if you have serious issues I am open to a nice chat if you are willing to do that (unless you are just trolling this whole forum from day 1)

Yeah I have issues...
posting retarded threads on this/any forum... acting like a whiny beach-ball.

I shouldn't have to care what others think about my doings, and just don't give a door about it. I am what I am.

I am going to keep my business/fastlane ideas and my personal life separated from now on.

my bad

 

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[Rawr]

Nice to see MJ follow the rabbit...




"""He does a bunch of wonderful tasks... and I can't just dump him easily like that because that's just cruel. I don't want to be that ugly to someone that kind-hearted. But I will do it this week.""""


I don't need to continue... everyone knows where this is going... worst of all, you know where this is going. You know why you wrote this.

Shame is the desired effect.

Shame allows you to displace rage and loathing onto others, not yourself.

Shame allows you to feel bad, and then "cut it off" and go on with your "good" self.

Worst of all, it robs you of guilt.

Which is a necessity for being a decent person.

 

[theag]

LIGHTS OUT

Nicely put. Bye lights

 

[cants]

I'm so fcked.

 

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[JEdwards]

I think this is what your bf is going to be thinking after your gone...

Sam Kinison - Love song - YouTube

 

[leono]

Two books I hope you read:

7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey
The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin

Both books contain information about how to become a better person, but not by just setting goals (short-term), but instead by building one's character (long-term) such that your goals (whatever they may be) become a natural side efffect of your new character.

Hope this helps you, Lights or someone out there...

 

[Flaag]

She's a woman, if you think she's the only one that go in relationships with the intention of only 3 months. Than you need some life education!!
A relationship is different from a woman's point of view. Look it from her side, but you guys only put her on the ignore list while you tell it. That's something my nephew of five would do. If you want to ignore her, just ignore her. You don't need to tell her that, she has no message to it. She asked for advice and the only thing you can do is saying:"I will put you on the ignore list, neh neh neh!" That's pretty common, in the kindergarten.

For a woman there's a lot of social pressure to have a boyfriend and her boyfriend is probably such a wussy that kissed her a$$ for weeks. Off course, it's still something that you don't do, but it's understandable.

She has the responsibility, but her boyfriend too! For what's worth, I speak out of experience, I was once that wussy.
I don't know the reputation of Lights, so probably she deserved the intense reactions. She doesn't deny that she has emotional baggage, we all do. But if she asks for advice, you ignore her or you answer her question.

It amazes me that girls think there's an easy way to break up. There isn't!!

 

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[angelique]

Hi, Lights.

No matter which way you put it, it's probably going to hurt if he's really in love with you. I say just be honest and tactful. There's no need to tell him the whole story about knowing that you would break up with him from the get-go. Then, let him have his reaction/response and move on.

Good luck.

 

[458]

So she can pimp the game... Not the first time this has happened.

 

[Guest3722A]

Hey lights, I'll do it for you. PM me his phone number or email address.

 

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[User]

I made an account just to say this:

You seriously reminded me of my ex so much, I thought you were her until you mentioned you were moving, and some other stuff...

Scared the crap outta me, because she WOULD post on a message board like this too!

*Phew* LOL

 

[Lights]

I made an account just to say this:

You seriously reminded me of my ex so much, I thought you were her until you mentioned you were moving, and some other stuff...

Scared the crap outta me, because she WOULD post on a message board like this too!

*Phew* LOL

Hmm...

I try to believe I am not like most women.