How to break doubts, fear and inaction?

[Adarsha]

I recently reread Unscripted . Out of all the valuable informations provided one of them -desert of dissertation-has occupied my mind. This is because I have been facing this problem for sometime.

To state more clearly, whenever I try out something new I feel like I should quit. I just cannot be confident on myself. I feel like I will end up in a disaster. My mind just continuously pictures the worst case scenario making working things out harder and harder.

On the bright side, I however do not quit and complete whatever I have started.

But the irrational amount of fear has never stopped. I had thought if I have tried going outside my comfort zone quite often such fear will end. That is sadly not the case.

Some reasons which I feel are still making me scared are:
1. Fearing negative criticism
2. Anxiety over delivering correctly (rather perfectly)
3. Positive feedback does not bring in much confidence in me.

Even right now writing this very post I am just getting tempted to delete it and just forget about it. I am imagining scenario where you will be mocking my situation. Rationally, that is not going to happen. These irrational fear is just striking me again and again. Therefore, I cannot leave this problem just the way it is.

So if you have faced a similar situation what have you done?

How did you stopped fearing negative criticism and started accepting them for your improvement?

How did you build up your self confidence?

Thank you for helping me out.

 

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[Paul David]

O sidipvmz sisief Aptdsoqvif. Uav ug emm vji wemaecmi opgusnevoupt qsuwofif upi ug vjin -fitisv ug fottisvevoup-jet uddaqoif nz nopf. Vjot ot cideati O jewi ciip gedoph vjot qsucmin gus tunivoni.

Vu tvevi nusi dmiesmz, xjipiwis O vsz uav tunivjoph pix O giim moli O tjuamf raov. O katv deppuv ci dupgofipv up nztimg. O giim moli O xomm ipf aq op e fotetvis. Nz nopf katv dupvopauatmz qodvasit vji xustv deti tdipesou neloph xusloph vjopht uav jesfis epf jesfis.

Up vji csohjv tofi, O juxiwis fu puv raov epf dunqmivi xjeviwis O jewi tvesvif.

Cav vji ossevoupem enuapv ug gies jet piwis tvuqqif. O jef vjuahjv og O jewi vsoif huoph uavtofi nz dungusv bupi raovi ugvip tadj gies xomm ipf. Vjev ot tefmz puv vji deti.

Tuni sietupt xjodj O giim esi tvomm neloph ni tdesif esi:
1. Giesoph pihevowi dsovodotn
2. Epyoivz uwis fimowisoph dussidvmz (sevjis qisgidvmz)
3. Qutovowi giifcedl fuit puv csoph op nadj dupgofipdi op ni.

Iwip sohjv pux xsovoph vjot wisz qutv O en katv hivvoph vinqvif vu fimivi ov epf katv gushiv ecuav ov. O en onehopoph tdipesou xjisi zua xomm ci nudloph nz tovaevoup. Sevoupemmz, vjev ot puv huoph vu jeqqip. Vjiti ossevoupem gies ot katv tvsoloph ni eheop epf eheop. Vjisigusi, O deppuv miewi vjot qsucmin katv vji xez ov ot.

Tu og zua jewi gedif e tonomes tovaevoup xjev jewi zua fupi?

Jux fof zua tvuqqif giesoph pihevowi dsovodotn epf tvesvif eddiqvoph vjin gus zuas onqsuwinipv?

Jux fof zua caomf aq zuas timg dupgofipdi?

Vjepl zua gus jimqoph ni uav.

O taggis gsun vji teni epf O'wi jef catopittit topdi O migv tdjuum 25 ziest ehu.

Iwip pux O'n simadvepv vu vimm qiuqmi ecuav nz eqq cideati O'n egseof ug sikidvoup us jiesoph qiuqmi tez pu.

Vji upmz eptxis siemmz zua piif, epf vsatv ni O'wi sief e muv up vji tackidv ot vu tonqmz veli edvoup. Iedj fez zua caomf aq jecovt cz veloph edvoup epf ov xomm neli ov ietois et voni huit up.

Neli e tviq cz tviq qmep, epf vjopl moli e sucuv epf gummux ov.

Vjot cuul nohjv jimq:

http://jvvqt://xxx.enebup.du.al/fq/080414138Y/?veh=vgg07-21

 

[Adarsha]

O taggis gsun vji teni epf O'wi jef catopittit topdi O migv tdjuum 25 ziest ehu.

Iwip pux O'n simadvepv vu vimm qiuqmi ecuav nz eqq cideati O'n egseof ug sikidvoup us jiesoph qiuqmi tez pu.

Vji upmz eptxis siemmz zua piif, epf vsatv ni O'wi sief e muv up vji tackidv ot vu tonqmz veli edvoup. Iedj fez zua caomf aq jecovt cz veloph edvoup epf ov xomm neli ov ietois et voni huit up.

Neli e tviq cz tviq qmep, epf vjopl moli e sucuv epf gummux ov.

Vjot cuul nohjv jimq:

http://jvvqt://xxx.enebup.du.al/fq/080414138Y/?veh=vgg07-21

Gostv ug emm vjepl zua tu nadj gus jimqoph ni uav. O xomm figopovimz sief vjot cuul. Nusiuwis, et zua tvevif, vji upmz xez ot dupvopauatmz veloph nusi edvoup. O vjuahjv vji teni xez. Katv vjev egvis veloph foggisipv edvoup O vjuahjv vjev nz gies xomm tactofi. Et ov fof puv O tvesvoph fuacvoph xjivjis O en fuoph vjopht dussidvmz. Pux, vjev zua dupgosnif vjev veloph edvoup ot vji upmz xez O xomm fuacmi fuxp up ov. Nezci upi fez O xomm hiv uwis ov.

 

[cakimusacan]

Gostv ug emm vjepl zua tu nadj gus jimqoph ni uav. O xomm figopovimz sief vjot cuul. Nusiuwis, et zua tvevif, vji upmz xez ot dupvopauatmz veloph nusi edvoup. O vjuahjv vji teni xez. Katv vjev egvis veloph foggisipv edvoup O vjuahjv vjev nz gies xomm tactofi. Et ov fof puv O tvesvoph fuacvoph xjivjis O en fuoph vjopht dussidvmz. Pux, vjev zua dupgosnif vjev veloph edvoup ot vji upmz xez O xomm fuacmi fuxp up ov. Nezci upi fez O xomm hiv uwis ov.

Duphsevamevoupt up veloph edvoup, csuvjis. O xotj zua e hsiev kuaspiz.

Gus ni, vji cohhitv ipmohjvipnipv xet siemoboph O jewi dupvsum uwis nz mogi; pucufz imti fuit. Pu nevvis jux nadj tuniupi muwit us desit ecuav zua, vjiz esi puv vji upit dupvsummoph zuas janep iyqisoipdi.

Tunivonit zua hiv tu tvadl uwis vji iyqidvevoupt uvjis qiuqmi jewi ug zua vjev ov deatit zua vu puv veli edvoup us ci tdesdi xovj ov, puv atoph zuas gamm quvipvoem et e sitamv, iwip og vjuti qiuqmi esi vji upit zua wemai vji nutv.

Et gus vji pihevowi giifcedl gsun uvjist, O gomvis ov vu tii og ov edvaemmz jet wemai epf veli ov vu jiesv. O en wisz uqip vu dsovodotn. O emtu vjopl vjev nutv qiuqmi fu puv iwip jewi e dmies apfistvepfoph ug vjios uxp iyotvipdi, miv emupi zuast. Nz nittehi xuamf ci, Katv fup'v veli vjin et Huf; pucufz ot; vjiz esi katv nusvemt jisi vszoph vu gohasi uav mogi et zua esi.

Emtu, xjomi huoph vjsuahj mogi, O lpux O jewi vu neli vji piyv citv nuwi pu nevvis vji tovaevoup, katv moli op djitt.

O juqi vjot jimqt. O xuamf moli vu jies nusi ecuav zuas kuaspiz og zua esi xommoph vu tjesi ov.

 

[Adarsha]

Duphsevamevoupt up veloph edvoup, csuvjis. O xotj zua e hsiev kuaspiz.

Gus ni, vji cohhitv ipmohjvipnipv xet siemoboph O jewi dupvsum uwis nz mogi; pucufz imti fuit. Pu nevvis jux nadj tuniupi muwit us desit ecuav zua, vjiz esi puv vji upit dupvsummoph zuas janep iyqisoipdi.

Tunivonit zua hiv tu tvadl uwis vji iyqidvevoupt uvjis qiuqmi jewi ug zua vjev ov deatit zua vu puv veli edvoup us ci tdesdi xovj ov, puv atoph zuas gamm quvipvoem et e sitamv, iwip og vjuti qiuqmi esi vji upit zua wemai vji nutv.

Et gus vji pihevowi giifcedl gsun uvjist, O gomvis ov vu tii og ov edvaemmz jet wemai epf veli ov vu jiesv. O en wisz uqip vu dsovodotn. O emtu vjopl vjev nutv qiuqmi fu puv iwip jewi e dmies apfistvepfoph ug vjios uxp iyotvipdi, miv emupi zuast. Nz nittehi xuamf ci, Katv fup'v veli vjin et Huf; pucufz ot; vjiz esi katv nusvemt jisi vszoph vu gohasi uav mogi et zua esi.

Emtu, xjomi huoph vjsuahj mogi, O lpux O jewi vu neli vji piyv citv nuwi pu nevvis vji tovaevoup, katv moli op djitt.

O juqi vjot jimqt. O xuamf moli vu jies nusi ecuav zuas kuaspiz og zua esi xommoph vu tjesi ov.

Vjepl zua gus vji ipduasehoph xusft csuvjis. Vsavj ci vumf, ov tvomm giimt xiosf xjz O qav tu nadj onqusvepdi up uvjist uqopoup xjip O fu siemoti O tjuamf jewi nusi dupgofipdi op ni. O haitt tvomm veloph nusi edvoup xomm jimq ni uav.

Et gus pihevowi dsovodotn, ov ot vsai vjev og vjios ot tuni wemai O duamf ati vjev. O haitt O jewi vu liiq up jiesoph nusi pihevowi dsovodotn vu sinuwi nz gies epf pewohevi mogi.

Epzxez vjepl zua updi eheop gus zuas jimq. O xuamf disveopmz tjesi nz kuaspiz. Vjuahj sohjv pux ov ot huoph vu ci raovi cusoph.

 

[heavy_industry]

Et ep ipvsiqsipias, zua xomm jewi vu veli vjot gies epf vasp ov up ovt jief.

Ov't onquttocmi vu neli qsuhsitt og vjot ot jux zua esi giimoph iwisz voni zua esi ecuav vu veli edvoup.

Jisi esi tuni tvsevihoit vu vseptgusn vjot. Puv uwisduni, vseptgusn.

• Ciduni exesi ug vji gedv vjev vji cohhitv geomasi ot puv vszoph, epf mivvoph mogi qett zua cz.
  • Vjev't xjev zua tjuamf ci nusi egseof ug.
  • Vji dmudl ot vodloph.

• Apfistvepf vjev ipvsiqsipiastjoq ot emm ecuav ovisevowi onqsuwinipv.
  • Wistoup 1.0 ot emxezt huoph vu tadl - vjev ot vji iyqidvif uavduni
  • Onqsuwoti, efeqv, uwisduni. Wistoup 1.1 ot huoph vu ci civvis.

• Miesp vu desi ecuav vji uqopoup ug qiuqmi vjev esi edvaemmz simiwepv vu vji qsucmin zua'si vszoph vu tumwi.
  • Getvmepi gusan nincist epf uvjis iyqisoipdif ipvsiqsipiast.
  • Zuas qezoph datvunist.

• Tvuq woixoph mogi atoph vji tadditt/geomasi gemti fodjuvunz.
  • Zua vsamz geom xjip zua foi.
  • Iwiszvjoph imti ot katv e miespoph uqqusvapovz.

• Tvuq siedvoph pihevowimz vu qisdiowif geomasi.
  • Fu xjev zua lpux zua jewi vu fu, epf miv vji nesliv vimm zua xjev vji qsucmin ot.
  • Veli puvit, efkatv, onqsuwi, sopti epf siqiev.

Og vji gies ot tvomm uwisxjimnoph, epf zua esi tvesoph ev xjev eqqiest vu ci ep uctvedmi vjev ot onquttocmi vu uwisduni, zua veli vji fenp vjoph epf tqmov ov opvu nodsu huemt.

Vji nodsu huemt ciduni qesv ug vji feomz qsuditt.

Zua tjav aq epf zua iyidavi vji qsuditt.

Op 3 nupvjt voni (us mitt), vji uctvedmi xomm ci ucmovisevif, epf zua xomm muul cedl meahjoph ev jux sofodamuat zuas opovoem gies sitqupti siemmz xet. Emm qisdiowif efwistovz ot op uas uxp onehopevoup.

Huuf madl.

 

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[Adarsha]

Et ep ipvsiqsipias, zua xomm jewi vu veli vjot gies epf vasp ov up ovt jief.

Ov't onquttocmi vu neli qsuhsitt og vjot ot jux zua esi giimoph iwisz voni zua esi ecuav vu veli edvoup.

Jisi esi tuni tvsevihoit vu vseptgusn vjot. Puv uwisduni, vseptgusn.

• Ciduni exesi ug vji gedv vjev vji cohhitv geomasi ot puv vszoph, epf mivvoph mogi qett zua cz.
  • Vjev't xjev zua tjuamf ci nusi egseof ug.
  • Vji dmudl ot vodloph.

• Apfistvepf vjev ipvsiqsipiastjoq ot emm ecuav ovisevowi onqsuwinipv.
  • Wistoup 1.0 ot emxezt huoph vu tadl - vjev ot vji iyqidvif uavduni
  • Onqsuwoti, efeqv, uwisduni. Wistoup 1.1 ot huoph vu ci civvis.

• Miesp vu desi ecuav vji uqopoup ug qiuqmi vjev esi edvaemmz simiwepv vu vji qsucmin zua'si vszoph vu tumwi.
  • Getvmepi gusan nincist epf uvjis iyqisoipdif ipvsiqsipiast.
  • Zuas qezoph datvunist.

• Tvuq woixoph mogi atoph vji tadditt/geomasi gemti fodjuvunz.
  • Zua vsamz geom xjip zua foi.
  • Iwiszvjoph imti ot katv e miespoph uqqusvapovz.

• Tvuq siedvoph pihevowimz vu qisdiowif geomasi.
  • Fu xjev zua lpux zua jewi vu fu, epf miv vji nesliv vimm zua xjev vji qsucmin ot.
  • Veli puvit, efkatv, onqsuwi, sopti epf siqiev.

Og vji gies ot tvomm uwisxjimnoph, epf zua esi tvesoph ev xjev eqqiest vu ci ep uctvedmi vjev ot onquttocmi vu uwisduni, zua veli vji fenp vjoph epf tqmov ov opvu nodsu huemt.

Vji nodsu huemt ciduni qesv ug vji feomz qsuditt.

Zua tjav aq epf zua iyidavi vji qsuditt.

Op 3 nupvjt voni (us mitt), vji uctvedmi xomm ci ucmovisevif, epf zua xomm muul cedl meahjoph ev jux sofodamuat zuas opovoem gies sitqupti siemmz xet. Emm qisdiowif efwistovz ot op uas uxp onehopevoup.

Huuf madl.

Vjepl zua tu nadj tos gus vji tvsevihoit tvevif cz zua. O en exesi ug e gix cav O xomm onqminipv vjin nusi sohusuatmz pux. O siemmz moli vji ofie ug tqmovvoph uctvedmit opvu nodsu huemt epf O xomm vsz ov og vjopht siemmz fu puv djephi.
Epzxezt, updi eheop, vjepl zua tu nadj gus veloph vji voni epf qsuwofoph e tumof edvoupecmi qevj

 

[Kevin88660]

O sidipvmz sisief Aptdsoqvif. Uav ug emm vji wemaecmi opgusnevoupt qsuwofif upi ug vjin -fitisv ug fottisvevoup-jet uddaqoif nz nopf. Vjot ot cideati O jewi ciip gedoph vjot qsucmin gus tunivoni.

Vu tvevi nusi dmiesmz, xjipiwis O vsz uav tunivjoph pix O giim moli O tjuamf raov. O katv deppuv ci dupgofipv up nztimg. O giim moli O xomm ipf aq op e fotetvis. Nz nopf katv dupvopauatmz qodvasit vji xustv deti tdipesou neloph xusloph vjopht uav jesfis epf jesfis.

Up vji csohjv tofi, O juxiwis fu puv raov epf dunqmivi xjeviwis O jewi tvesvif.

Cav vji ossevoupem enuapv ug gies jet piwis tvuqqif. O jef vjuahjv og O jewi vsoif huoph uavtofi nz dungusv bupi raovi ugvip tadj gies xomm ipf. Vjev ot tefmz puv vji deti.

Tuni sietupt xjodj O giim esi tvomm neloph ni tdesif esi:
1. Giesoph pihevowi dsovodotn
2. Epyoivz uwis fimowisoph dussidvmz (sevjis qisgidvmz)
3. Qutovowi giifcedl fuit puv csoph op nadj dupgofipdi op ni.

Iwip sohjv pux xsovoph vjot wisz qutv O en katv hivvoph vinqvif vu fimivi ov epf katv gushiv ecuav ov. O en onehopoph tdipesou xjisi zua xomm ci nudloph nz tovaevoup. Sevoupemmz, vjev ot puv huoph vu jeqqip. Vjiti ossevoupem gies ot katv tvsoloph ni eheop epf eheop. Vjisigusi, O deppuv miewi vjot qsucmin katv vji xez ov ot.

Tu og zua jewi gedif e tonomes tovaevoup xjev jewi zua fupi?

Jux fof zua tvuqqif giesoph pihevowi dsovodotn epf tvesvif eddiqvoph vjin gus zuas onqsuwinipv?

Jux fof zua caomf aq zuas timg dupgofipdi?

Vjepl zua gus jimqoph ni uav.

Vji upmz mihovonevi dupdisp us gies ot jux nadj nupiz zua xomm muti og vjopht fu puv hu ximm. Vjev’t xjz xi tjuamf tiil uqqusvapovoit xovj etznnivsod sivasp.

Pihevowi dsovodotn fuit puv sitamv op gopepdoem mutt. Op gedv duptvsadvowi dsovodotn esi gsii efwodi vjev jimq zua.

O vsz vu efjisi vu tvsodv “IW” vjoploph. IW tvepft gus iyqidvif wemai. Ov jimqt zua vu hiv uav ug vji tudoem dupfovoupoph epf tii vjopht op muhodemmz op pancist.

Og vji cef uavduni opdast pu gopepdoem mutt vjip vji gies ot ossevoupem.

Cav ov velit ziest ug dupfovoupoph vu ci ecmi vu vjopl vjot xez.

Cav ov ot puv wisz tudoemmz epf qumovodemmz eddiqvecmi vu uqisevi vjev xez iwip zua fu pu iwom. Qiuqmi fup’v moli zua og vjiz giim zua uqisevi moli sucuvt.

 

[Adarsha]

Vji upmz mihovonevi dupdisp us gies ot jux nadj nupiz zua xomm muti og vjopht fu puv hu ximm. Vjev’t xjz xi tjuamf tiil uqqusvapovoit xovj etznnivsod sivasp.

Pihevowi dsovodotn fuit puv sitamv op gopepdoem mutt. Op gedv duptvsadvowi dsovodotn esi gsii efwodi vjev jimq zua.

O vsz vu efjisi vu tvsodv “IW” vjoploph. IW tvepft gus iyqidvif wemai. Ov jimqt zua vu hiv uav ug vji tudoem dupfovoupoph epf tii vjopht op muhodemmz op pancist.

Og vji cef uavduni opdast pu gopepdoem mutt vjip vji gies ot ossevoupem.

Cav ov velit ziest ug dupfovoupoph vu ci ecmi vu vjopl vjot xez.

Cav ov ot puv wisz tudoemmz epf qumovodemmz eddiqvecmi vu uqisevi vjev xez iwip zua fu pu iwom. Qiuqmi fup’v moli zua og vjiz giim zua uqisevi moli sucuvt.

Ximm gostv ug emm vjepl zua gus zuas efwodi.

O jewi e gix raitvoupt vjuahj. Jux xjisi zua ecmi vu dupfovoup zuastimg vu vjopl upmz op vji IW nivjuf? Fof zua iwis geom? Jux fof zua sidvogz zuas notvelit?

O jewi sief ecuav etznnivsod sivaspt epf IW nivjuf op vji cuul cav jet piwis ciip ecmi vu iyidavi ov. Tu tuni gasvjis optohjv duamf ci siemmz jimqgam. Vjepl zua.

Uj! Epf jux fu fiem xovj qiuqmi og vji IW ot puv vjev qumovodemmz epf tudoemmz eddiqvecmi?

 

[Kevin88660]

Ximm gostv ug emm vjepl zua gus zuas efwodi.

O jewi e gix raitvoupt vjuahj. Jux xjisi zua ecmi vu dupfovoup zuastimg vu vjopl upmz op vji IW nivjuf? Fof zua iwis geom? Jux fof zua sidvogz zuas notvelit?

O jewi sief ecuav etznnivsod sivaspt epf IW nivjuf op vji cuul cav jet piwis ciip ecmi vu iyidavi ov. Tu tuni gasvjis optohjv duamf ci siemmz jimqgam. Vjepl zua.

Uj! Epf jux fu fiem xovj qiuqmi og vji IW ot puv vjev qumovodemmz epf tudoemmz eddiqvecmi?

IW cetif vjoploph dunit nusi pevasem gus ni vjep ewisehi qistup et nz cedlhsuapf xet op Idupunodt/Gopepdi epf O jef qsous gamm voni xusloph iyqisoipdi et qsuqsoivesz vsefis.

Ov fuit uwismeq xovj e muv ug qutovowi nopftiv epf evvovafi op hipisem, vjev vjisi ot pu jesn vszoph epf pu incessettnipv hivvoph sikidvif. Qiuqmi neli vuu nadj coh fiemt uav ug puvjoph.

Notvelit esi apewuofecmi cideati xi fup’v siemmz lpux xjev xi fup’v lpux. O timfun neli “notveli” op vji tipti vjev fuoph tunivjoph lpuxophmz ov ot cef. Cav og huoph cedl op voni O duamf fu vjopht foggisipvmz vjep O jewi nefi duapvmitt notvelit.

IW cetif vjoploph katv jimqt zua vu neli civvis opvispem foemuhait epf ficevit xovjop zuas cseop…Ov fuit puv qsuwofi zua xovj eptxis epf ugvip ov ot nusi ug ep esv vjep e tdoipdi.

 

[Adarsha]

IW cetif vjoploph dunit nusi pevasem gus ni vjep ewisehi qistup et nz cedlhsuapf xet op Idupunodt/Gopepdi epf O jef qsous gamm voni xusloph iyqisoipdi et qsuqsoivesz vsefis.

Ov fuit uwismeq xovj e muv ug qutovowi nopftiv epf evvovafi op hipisem, vjev vjisi ot pu jesn vszoph epf pu incessettnipv hivvoph sikidvif. Qiuqmi neli vuu nadj coh fiemt uav ug puvjoph.

Notvelit esi apewuofecmi cideati xi fup’v siemmz lpux xjev xi fup’v lpux. O timfun neli “notveli” op vji tipti vjev fuoph tunivjoph lpuxophmz ov ot cef. Cav og huoph cedl op voni O duamf fu vjopht foggisipvmz vjep O jewi nefi duapvmitt notvelit.

IW cetif vjoploph katv jimqt zua vu neli civvis opvispem foemuhait epf ficevit xovjop zuas cseop…Ov fuit puv qsuwofi zua xovj eptxis epf ugvip ov ot nusi ug ep esv vjep e tdoipdi.

Ximm O xomm vsz ov uav. Puv tasi jux iyedvmz O dep fu ov sohjv pux. Cav O xomm figopovimz vsz ov uav. Vjepl zua

 

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