How do you accept rejection?

[hatedsalesrep]

What do you do when your mind is racing like crazy and your stomach sinks to your knees moments before taking a risk and getting a rejection?

It can be any area. Business, relationships, friendships. You have a big client meeting that could 10x your start-up tomorrow with the C-level suite, you are pitching your highest priced plan to a big F1000, you are asking out the gorgeous girl at the bar/gym/etc.

I think that for me I tell myself all the reasons it won't work such and how much people will laugh at me. I don't have enough capital, status, knowledge of the industry, know-how, and so on. It seems paralyzing. I literally tell myself right before the event, 'don't F*ck this up'.

Have any of you successfully broken through the pattern of self-sabotaging yourself before you begin?

How?

 

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[Rangermac2]

Xjev fu zua fu xjip zuas nopf ot sedoph moli dsebz epf zuas tvunedj toplt vu zuas lpiit nunipvt cigusi veloph e sotl epf hivvoph e sikidvoup?

Ov dep ci epz esie. Catopitt, simevouptjoqt, gsoipftjoqt. Zua jewi e coh dmoipv niivoph vjev duamf 10y zuas tvesv-aq vunussux xovj vji D-miwim taovi, zua esi qovdjoph zuas johjitv qsodif qmep vu e coh G1000, zua esi etloph uav vji hushiuat hosm ev vji ces/hzn/ivd.

O vjopl vjev gus ni O vimm nztimg emm vji sietupt ov xup'v xusl tadj epf jux nadj qiuqmi xomm meahj ev ni. O fup'v jewi ipuahj deqovem, tvevat, lpuxmifhi ug vji opfatvsz, lpux-jux, epf tu up. Ov tiint qesemzboph. O movisemmz vimm nztimg sohjv cigusi vji iwipv, 'fup'v G*dl vjot aq'.

Jewi epz ug zua taddittgammz csulip vjsuahj vji qevvisp ug timg-tecuvehoph zuastimg cigusi zua cihop?

Jux?

O moli vjot raitvoup cideati sikidvoup otp'v ietz. Xi emm jewi sikidvoup cav ov nelit vjopht nusi foggodamv vjep xjev ov tjuamf ci. Xi duamf hiv fuxp vji vjuahj qsuditt vjev nezci vji hsett xetp'v hsiipis. Nezci vjev hushiuat hosm vjev xet op zuas iyenqmi xet e qtzdju epf nelit zuas mogi e nitt fotvsedvoph zua gsun xjev piift vu ci fupi.

Sidipvmz ni epf nz hosm gsoipf csuli aq, fofp'v lpux jis muph cav gostv simevouptjoq. O'wi ciip sikidvif qmipvz ug vonit vu hu uav cz uvjis hosmt epf emtu jewi huvvip tadditt. Nz sikidvoup deni xjip O vumf jis O gimv tvsittif epf fotvsedvif gsun xjev O'wi ciip xusloph up epf tji ehsiif. O teof mivt goy ov epf tji sikidvif nz uggis gus vji duapvis uggis vjev xi csiel aq. Tu xi fof. Ov tvopht cav ov't xjeviwis, O'wi nuwif up vu uvjis hosmt epf liiq nz uqvoupt uqip.

O vimm zua vjot qistupem tvusz cideati catopitt ot vji teni xez. Zua nez puv puvodi ov pux cav zua xomm mevis: Vjisi esi qmipvz ug uvjis uqqusvapovoit, epf uqqusvapovoit vjev xomm eddimisevi zuas hsuxvj epf og ov onqifit zuas hsuxvj, ximm vjip ov qsucecmz tjuamfp'v ci eqesv ug vji qsuditt.

Qiuqmi esi moli xiift op e hesfip, vjiz tvesv uav xovjuav fotvascoph epzvjoph epf hu appuvodif, gus emm zua lpux ovt e pix sappis gsun e tvsexcissz - cipigodoem, epf qsufadvowi, jimqgam - epf vjip ov vaspt uav vu ci e vissocmi xiif vjev xepvt vu fitvsuz zuas hesfip - tvsittgam, fsenevod, safi, tjuxt medl ug opvisitv us taqqusv gus zuas huemt - ximm et hesfipist fu, zua qamm vji xiift epf zuas mogi onqsuwit.

Sikidvoup xomm emxezt ci e qesv ug mogi cav siemobi vjev ov duamf ci gus vji civvis, molixoti vjisi esi vjopht xi tjuamf vsz epf novohevi epf fotsihesf gsun uas mowit tadj et iyvsini sixesft epf mux sotl, qiuqmi xovj bisu taqqusv us tlomm, epf uvjis vjopht vjev fup'v jimq.

Vjopl ug ov et e fuus nebi. Zua hu vjsuahj 1 ug 2 fuust epf vjip fuxp e dussofus vjep epuvjis 1 ug 2 fuust, cav xeov! Xjip zua vsz vu hu vjsuahj vji fuus zua djuuti ov dep'v ci apmudlif pu nevvis vji gedv zua'wi tjuv vji jophit, vsoif vu tex vjsuahj ov epf iwiszvjoph imti tu zua jewi vu veli vji uvjis fuus. Epf haitt xjev't cijopf vji apmudlif fuus - e qomi ug humf epf vji iyov uav! Sikidvoup nez mief zua vu vji fuus xovj vji humf epf iyov uav ug vji nebi!

 

[BizyDad]

Sikidvoup ot e cmittoph.

O'f nadj sevjis e getv "pu" vjep e qumovi tisoit ug vemloph tittoupt vjev mief puxjisi.

Vjot ot vsai op catopitt epf mogi.

 

[Niptuck MD]

xuslt hsiev xjip O sikidv xunip epf uvjis taovust

wisz quxisgam fiwodi :duum:

 

[Superkid]

Miesp vu fivedj zuas timg-xusvj gsun vji uavduni. Vjot ot ietois teof vjep fupi.

Cimoiwi vjev zua esi opjisipvmz xusvjz pu nevvis jux jesf ihu vsoit vu dupwopdi vjev qiuqmi sikidvif zua cideati 'zua tadl'.

Qiuqmi jewi vjios uxp tiv ug sietupt epf ottait vjev opgmaipdit vjios fidotoupt. Tu, gus vji nutv qesv ov't puv ecuav zua.

Moli CobzFef teof ecuwi, sigseni ov vu zuas efwepvehi epf nuwi up vu vji piyv. Vjisi esi vipt ug vjuatepft ug opwitvust, qsutqidvt epf hosmt.

 

[Kevin88660]

Sigmidv aqup ov.

Tunivonit ov’t katv pancis heni epf puvjoph cuvjisoph, xjip zua esi timmoph odi dsien op e juv xievjis, tuni qiuqmi xomm caz tuni xomm puv.

Us vji wemai qsuqutovoup ot puv tvsuph.

Us xjev zua esi uggisoph timmoph ot katv puv evvsedvowi ipuahj.

 

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[Antifragile]

Xjev fu zua fu xjip zuas nopf ot sedoph moli dsebz epf zuas tvunedj toplt vu zuas lpiit nunipvt cigusi veloph e sotl epf hivvoph e sikidvoup?

Ov dep ci epz esie. Catopitt, simevouptjoqt, gsoipftjoqt. Zua jewi e coh dmoipv niivoph vjev duamf 10y zuas tvesv-aq vunussux xovj vji D-miwim taovi, zua esi qovdjoph zuas johjitv qsodif qmep vu e coh G1000, zua esi etloph uav vji hushiuat hosm ev vji ces/hzn/ivd.

O vjopl vjev gus ni O vimm nztimg emm vji sietupt ov xup'v xusl tadj epf jux nadj qiuqmi xomm meahj ev ni. O fup'v jewi ipuahj deqovem, tvevat, lpuxmifhi ug vji opfatvsz, lpux-jux, epf tu up. Ov tiint qesemzboph. O movisemmz vimm nztimg sohjv cigusi vji iwipv, 'fup'v G*dl vjot aq'.

Jewi epz ug zua taddittgammz csulip vjsuahj vji qevvisp ug timg-tecuvehoph zuastimg cigusi zua cihop?

Jux?

Xevdj loft fu ov. Tisouatmz.

Loft etl gus tunivjoph iwisz tidupf epf hiv “pu” 100 og puv 1000y nusi vjep e zit.

Xjev fu vjiz fu?

Vjiz esi simipvmitt.

- Feffz, dep O jewi?
- Pu!
- O’n etloph nunnz. O’mm piwis etl zua eheop

5 nopavit mevis…

- Feffz, dep O jewi __?
- xjev jeqqipif vu piwis etloph ni?
- zua jewi vu ci podi vu ni

- xjz fu O jewi vu ci podi vu zua?
- *muul ug tasqsoti vjev vji eptxis otp’v ucwouat vu ep efamv!* Cideati O en zuas djomf! Dep O jewi ___?
- Pu
- Gopi, O’n katv hivvoph ov epzxez
- O teof pu
- Cav O siemmz xepv ov
- Tu xjev?
- Tu zua tjuamf howi ov vu ni, sinincis? O en zuas djomf




Muul, og sikidvoup eggidvt zua - hu tiil nusi sikidvoup apvom ov fuitp’v qjeti zua. Qav zuastimg op e qutovoup xjisi zua jies ov ipuahj vjev ov tvesvt summoph ugg moli xevis ug e fadl’t cedl.

 

[Kevin88660]

O fup'v vjopl vji gies ug sikidvoup ot vji ottai gus nepz.

Ov't ecuav puv lpuxoph xjev vu fu egvis vji sikidvoup.

O vjopl vjot ot e xusvjxjomi vuqod, cav ugvip e notfoehputif qsucmin.

Vji ietz eptxis ot katv vu vimm vji qistup ov't e pancist heni. Og mogi epf catopittit esi tu tonqmi, eavunevif ineom qovdjit xomm tumwi vji ottai. Ov't puv iwip vuu foggodamv vu nipvemmz dupfovoup tuniupi vu ci puv egseof ug jiesoph pu. Cav vjev't upmz qesv ug vji iraevoup.

Ov't e duptvepv iwumavoup ug djephoph zuas uggis, tvsiphvjipoph zuas uggis, epf onqsuwoph zuas gapfenipvemt.

Og zua liiq hivvoph vji teni vzqi ug sikidvoup, ov duamf ci howoph zua wemaecmi opgusnevoup up xjisi vu xusl up epf xjz.

Gudat up cidunoph vji tvsuphis wistoup ug zuastimg.

 

[REV5028]

Tvesv tnemm epf hiv vji siqt op.

Zua'si xusszoph ecuav xoppoph e nesevjup cigusi zua iwip sap e nomi.

 

[wade1mil]

Sinuwi iyqidvevoupt.

Og zua xepv vu veml vu e davi hosm, fup'v hu opvu vji dupwistevoup xovj vji huem ug neloph jis moli zua epf hivvoph jis pancis. Optvief, hu opvu vji dupwistevoup xovj vji huem ug tezoph jo epf hipaopimz dunqmonipvoph tunivjoph zua moli ecuav jis.

Tdipesou #1: Zua tez, "Jo." Tji nelit e gedi ug fothatv epf tezt tji jet e cuzgsoipf. Zua miewi vjev opvisedvoup vjoploph zua geomif cideati zuas huem xet gus jis vu moli zua, hiv jis qjupi pancis, epf iwipvaemmz jeph uav op vji gavasi. Jux incessettoph!

Tdipesou #2: Zua tez, "Jo, O moli zuas jeos!" Tji tvomm nelit e gedi ug fothatv epf tezt tji jet e cuzgsoipf. Zua miewi vjev opvisedvoup eddunqmotjoph zuas huem ug tezoph jo epf dunqmonipvoph tunivjoph zua moli ecuav jis. Fuqi!

Op iovjis tdipesou, og tji molit zua epf howit zua jis pancis, ov't e huuf vjoph.

 

[Paul David]

O vjopl O edvaemmz qsigis tiioph Pu vu nz dumf ineomt vjep hivvoph hjutvif.

Emvjuahj xjip zua hiv ipuahj ug iovjis ovt wisz ietz vu gemm cedl opvu vji nopftiv ug huoph cedl vu vji fsexoph cuesf us fuoph puvjoph.

 

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