How do you accept rejection?

[hatedsalesrep]

What do you do when your mind is racing like crazy and your stomach sinks to your knees moments before taking a risk and getting a rejection?

It can be any area. Business, relationships, friendships. You have a big client meeting that could 10x your start-up tomorrow with the C-level suite, you are pitching your highest priced plan to a big F1000, you are asking out the gorgeous girl at the bar/gym/etc.

I think that for me I tell myself all the reasons it won't work such and how much people will laugh at me. I don't have enough capital, status, knowledge of the industry, know-how, and so on. It seems paralyzing. I literally tell myself right before the event, 'don't F*ck this up'.

Have any of you successfully broken through the pattern of self-sabotaging yourself before you begin?

How?

 

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[Rangermac2]

What do you do when your mind is racing like crazy and your stomach sinks to your knees moments before taking a risk and getting a rejection?

It can be any area. Business, relationships, friendships. You have a big client meeting that could 10x your start-up tomorrow with the C-level suite, you are pitching your highest priced plan to a big F1000, you are asking out the gorgeous girl at the bar/gym/etc.

I think that for me I tell myself all the reasons it won't work such and how much people will laugh at me. I don't have enough capital, status, knowledge of the industry, know-how, and so on. It seems paralyzing. I literally tell myself right before the event, 'don't F*ck this up'.

Have any of you successfully broken through the pattern of self-sabotaging yourself before you begin?

How?

I like this question because rejection isn't easy. We all have rejection but it makes things more difficult than what it should be. We could get down the though process that maybe the grass wasn't greener. Maybe that gorgeous girl that was in your example was a psycho and makes your life a mess distracting you from what needs to be done.

Recently me and my girl friend broke up, didn't know her long but first relationship. I've been rejected plenty of times to go out by other girls and also have gotten success. My rejection came when I told her I felt stressed and distracted from what I've been working on and she agreed. I said lets fix it and she rejected my offer for the counter offer that we break up. So we did. It stings but it's whatever, I've moved on to other girls and keep my options open.

I tell you this personal story because business is the same way. You may not notice it now but you will later: There are plenty of other opportunities, and opportunities that will accelerate your growth and if it impedes your growth, well then it probably shouldn't be apart of the process.

People are like weeds in a garden, they start out without disturbing anything and go unnoticed, for all you know its a new runner from a strawberry - beneficial, and productive, helpful - and then it turns out to be a terrible weed that wants to destroy your garden - stressful, dramatic, rude, shows lack of interest or support for your goals - well as gardeners do, you pull the weeds and your life improves.

Rejection will always be a part of life but realize that it could be for the better, likewise there are things we should try and mitigate and disregard from our lives such as extreme rewards and low risk, people with zero support or skill, and other things that don't help.

Think of it as a door maze. You go through 1 of 2 doors and then down a corridor than another 1 of 2 doors, but wait! When you try to go through the door you choose it can't be unlocked no matter the fact you've shot the hinges, tried to saw through it and everything else so you have to take the other door. And guess what's behind the unlocked door - a pile of gold and the exit out! Rejection may lead you to the door with the gold and exit out of the maze!

 

[BizyDad]

Rejection is a blessing.

I'd much rather a fast "no" than a polite series of talking sessions that lead nowhere.

This is true in business and life.

 

[Niptuck MD]

works great when I reject women and other suitors

very powerful device

 

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[Black_Dragon43]

What do you do when your mind is racing like crazy and your stomach sinks to your knees moments before taking a risk and getting a rejection?

It can be any area. Business, relationships, friendships. You have a big client meeting that could 10x your start-up tomorrow with the C-level suite, you are pitching your highest priced plan to a big F1000, you are asking out the gorgeous girl at the bar/gym/etc.

I think that for me I tell myself all the reasons it won't work such and how much people will laugh at me. I don't have enough capital, status, knowledge of the industry, know-how, and so on. It seems paralyzing. I literally tell myself right before the event, 'don't F*ck this up'.

Have any of you successfully broken through the pattern of self-sabotaging yourself before you begin?

How?

If you get rejected often enough, then you get used to it, and it stops being fear or excitement inducing. Fear and excitement are similar emotions. They are a response to something you consider out of the ordinary. If you’ve never asked a girl out, then that’s new and out of the ordinary for you. You will feel some excitement or fear, guaranteed. But ask 1,000 girls out, and by that time you’ll be bored out of your mind of it.

Fritz Perls used to say that fear is excitement without the breath. When you’re afraid you’re usually not exhaling fully. So you can turn fear into excitement by breathing deeply and exhaling fully.

But if you ask me, both fear and excitement are uncomfortable emotions. Much better to just get both of them over with by getting used to the situations that give rise to them.

 

[SDE]

Learn to detach your self-worth from the outcome. This is easier said than done.

Believe that you are inherently worthy no matter how hard ego tries to convince that people rejected you because 'you suck'.

People have their own set of reasons and issues that influences their decisions. So, for the most part it's not about you.

Like BizyDad said above, reframe it to your advantage and move on to the next. There are tens of thousands of investors, prospects and girls.