Friday Night Regret

[William]

It’s Friday night. I open the apartment door and put my work satchel down. I exhale in relief, knowing that work is done. “Going out” flashes through my mind: Henny on the rocks, legendary conversation, and gut wrenching laughter. It’s hard to turn down.

I wake up and look at my iPhone: 10:00 AM. Work is in 3 hours. I’m fine. There’s no throw up or call out of work feeling. However, a small seed of regret starts to grow. Why?

I have little time to write my article, build my website, workout, etc. My “me” time is squeezed into a 2 and a half hour time frame. Oh, and I have to get ready. Like the movie Groundhog Day, Friday repeats like every other Friday.

ELIMINATING FRIDAY NIGHT REGRET

I figured out how to eliminate Friday night regret.

My desire to go out decreases when my work output is high throughout the week. My work is writing and sticking to my structures.

Like a fish needs water is how I need structure. Structure allows me to be me; creative and centered. I have a notebook with writing, morning, and work structures. Basically, they’re rules I create that I follow. Within my structures, are principles. For example, I have a stretching principle within my morning structure.

My bedroom calendar is the main tool for my structures. It’s a little over 4 feet on each side. It has 4 quadrants for 4 months. I track some of my structures on there: workouts and writing. It is the foundation to my momentum. I can easily see and track my progress.

THE FIRST HALF HOUR OF THE DAY

I get up and open my note app. I click my “purpose” note and read my purpose and some other insights. I read them out loud. They seep into my spirit and leave an impression on my subconscious.

I walk to the kitchen and turn on my tea kettle. While the water is heating up, I stretch. After I stretch, I pour herbal tea. Then, I make a detailed schedule, with start and end times.

Work always gets done outside the house. There’s too much comfort and temptation inside: TV, bed, couch, gaming system, etc. I walk to a Starbucks while listening to a podcast. After a few hours working on my most important task, I head to my job.

CONCLUSION: STRUCTURE IS KEY

There are about 10 key things I do every morning. If I don’t get them done, I’m off. If I finish all 10, I get a cool rush of momentum throughout the day.

When Friday comes, I have 2 general feelings:

I’m not pressed to go out. I have a calm feeling of content. There is no desire to escape my reality. I’m eager to work more, to get to my goals faster.

If I do go out, I do it to recharge, not to avoid reality.

Will

 

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[Nathan Jenkins]

Ov’t Gsofez pohjv. O uqip vji eqesvnipv fuus epf qav nz xusl tevdjim fuxp. O iyjemi op simoig, lpuxoph vjev xusl ot fupi. “Huoph uav” gmetjit vjsuahj nz nopf: Jippz up vji sudlt, mihipfesz dupwistevoup, epf hav xsipdjoph meahjvis. Ov’t jesf vu vasp fuxp.

O xeli aq epf muul ev nz oQjupi: 10:00 EN. Xusl ot op 3 juast. O’n gopi. Vjisi’t pu vjsux aq us demm uav ug xusl giimoph. Juxiwis, e tnemm tiif ug sihsiv tvesvt vu hsux. Xjz?

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IMONOPEVOPH GSOFEZ POHJV SIHSIV

O gohasif uav jux vu imonopevi Gsofez pohjv sihsiv.

Nz fitosi vu hu uav fidsietit xjip nz xusl uavqav ot johj vjsuahjuav vji xiil. Nz xusl ot xsovoph epf tvodloph vu nz tvsadvasit.

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VJI GOSTV JEMG JUAS UG VJI FEZ

O hiv aq epf uqip nz puvi eqq. O dmodl nz “qasquti” puvi epf sief nz qasquti epf tuni uvjis optohjvt. O sief vjin uav muaf. Vjiz tiiq opvu nz tqosov epf miewi ep onqsittoup up nz tacduptdouat.

O xeml vu vji lovdjip epf vasp up nz vie livvmi. Xjomi vji xevis ot jievoph aq, O tvsivdj. Egvis O tvsivdj, O quas jiscem vie. Vjip, O neli e fiveomif tdjifami, xovj tvesv epf ipf vonit.

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DUPDMATOUP: TVSADVASI OT LIZ

Vjisi esi ecuav 10 liz vjopht O fu iwisz nuspoph. Og O fup’v hiv vjin fupi, O’n ugg. Og O gopotj emm 10, O hiv e duum satj ug nunipvan vjsuahjuav vji fez.

Xjip Gsofez dunit, O jewi 2 hipisem giimopht:

O’n puv qsittif vu hu uav. O jewi e demn giimoph ug dupvipv. Vjisi ot pu fitosi vu itdeqi nz siemovz. O’n iehis vu xusl nusi, vu hiv vu nz huemt getvis.

Og O fu hu uav, O fu ov vu sidjeshi, puv vu ewuof siemovz.

Xomm

Vjot nez ci vji nutv simevecmi epf citv qutv vjev O jewi duni edsutt up vjot gusan.

Hsiev sief, liiq aq vji huuf xusl.

"Og O fu hu uav, O fu ov vu sidjeshi, puv vu ewuof siemovz" - vjot ot e wisz quxisgam rauvi. Vjepl zua.