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I moved back home with my parents in Dallas, TX almost two weeks ago (I've lived here all my life, I'm 26) with the idea that I was going to save some money and move out to San Francisco. My goals in life don't really align with anybody in my social group and I feel out of place. I have always wanted to live in California, and San Francisco seemed like the place to go for the work I'm into (tech). I also have a family friend out there for support and a point of contact. I've lived by myself for ~4 years, and I've been completely financially independent from my parents for 1.5 years.
I didn't realize how much I've changed and grown as a person until I moved back home. I feel like living at home has turned into a headwind in a matter of a few short days. My parents and I, especially my father, do not see eye to eye when it comes to finances. I have a "good" job as a software engineer, it's incredibly flexible (I can take 2 hour lunches to meet clients), and I can usually get away with only being in the office for 6-7 hours a day since I perform very well when I am here, giving me time to focus on my fastlane business. I realized in the past few days that the real reason I wanted to move back in with my folks is so that I could take more risk financially. I can now more easily afford to hire freelancers to build out the parts of my products that I'm not strong in. I recognize there's still a bit of hesitation in me to pull the trigger (I'm still doing all the work myself), but I'm fighting it.
The San Francisco move is looking scarier to me for a few of reasons. The first, I think part of me really wanted to just run after a really crappy relationship ended about six weeks ago (I had made the definitive plans to move back home and then California during this relationship). Second, with rent prices in the city of San Francisco, I feel like I would HAVE to get a job to support myself, and I suspect due to the start-up culture there it would be much more demanding, leaving me with less energy to focus on myself. I would rather work for myself anyway. Third, I have a good gig going here in Dallas that provides me with enough free time (and money!) to continue to grow my business. I do recognize I will have to walk away from it eventually to go all-in, though.
I haven't found anybody to really relate to what I'm saying, so I'm turning to the Fastlane Forum. I'm stressed out at my parents house, I wake up in the middle of the night often just feeling very uncomfortable being there (in my sister's pink old bedroom, yay!) If I walk out of my room I feel like I can't truly express myself to my parents, and I'm an incredibly extroverted person and almost always speak my mind and heart. However, when I share the true motives behind my choices, it always ends up in my father telling me to save money and find a job in San Francisco, if that's where I want to go. Or advice about saving paychecks. When I talk to my other friends or family members, they just scoff, laugh or look at me with confusion or like I'm an idiot when I tell them I plan on funding ANY location move in my life with work that I can do 95% remotely, and not move cities just to go battle another hour commute to a job I don't like. I can do that perfectly fine here. I feel alone.
I should add that I'm very thankful for everything that I do have. I do feel like I have incredible opportunities, and ridding myself of a toxic relationship has done wonders for my self-image and health. I just feel like almost all other relationships in my life right now are kind of a drag. It hurts a bit to type that. I love my family dearly. I love my friends as well. I just feel alone.
Has anybody else had similar experiences? Does anybody here see anything obvious between the lines that I'm missing? I can answer any questions you have for me. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
I didn't realize how much I've changed and grown as a person until I moved back home. I feel like living at home has turned into a headwind in a matter of a few short days. My parents and I, especially my father, do not see eye to eye when it comes to finances. I have a "good" job as a software engineer, it's incredibly flexible (I can take 2 hour lunches to meet clients), and I can usually get away with only being in the office for 6-7 hours a day since I perform very well when I am here, giving me time to focus on my fastlane business. I realized in the past few days that the real reason I wanted to move back in with my folks is so that I could take more risk financially. I can now more easily afford to hire freelancers to build out the parts of my products that I'm not strong in. I recognize there's still a bit of hesitation in me to pull the trigger (I'm still doing all the work myself), but I'm fighting it.
The San Francisco move is looking scarier to me for a few of reasons. The first, I think part of me really wanted to just run after a really crappy relationship ended about six weeks ago (I had made the definitive plans to move back home and then California during this relationship). Second, with rent prices in the city of San Francisco, I feel like I would HAVE to get a job to support myself, and I suspect due to the start-up culture there it would be much more demanding, leaving me with less energy to focus on myself. I would rather work for myself anyway. Third, I have a good gig going here in Dallas that provides me with enough free time (and money!) to continue to grow my business. I do recognize I will have to walk away from it eventually to go all-in, though.
I haven't found anybody to really relate to what I'm saying, so I'm turning to the Fastlane Forum. I'm stressed out at my parents house, I wake up in the middle of the night often just feeling very uncomfortable being there (in my sister's pink old bedroom, yay!) If I walk out of my room I feel like I can't truly express myself to my parents, and I'm an incredibly extroverted person and almost always speak my mind and heart. However, when I share the true motives behind my choices, it always ends up in my father telling me to save money and find a job in San Francisco, if that's where I want to go. Or advice about saving paychecks. When I talk to my other friends or family members, they just scoff, laugh or look at me with confusion or like I'm an idiot when I tell them I plan on funding ANY location move in my life with work that I can do 95% remotely, and not move cities just to go battle another hour commute to a job I don't like. I can do that perfectly fine here. I feel alone.
I should add that I'm very thankful for everything that I do have. I do feel like I have incredible opportunities, and ridding myself of a toxic relationship has done wonders for my self-image and health. I just feel like almost all other relationships in my life right now are kind of a drag. It hurts a bit to type that. I love my family dearly. I love my friends as well. I just feel alone.
Has anybody else had similar experiences? Does anybody here see anything obvious between the lines that I'm missing? I can answer any questions you have for me. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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