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Hi there,
I would like to share my current relationship situation with you, I am not asking for advice, but I would be grateful for any honest opinion. I will try to be as brief as possible.
Brief Description
My relationship started about three years ago. Right now I live in an apartment with my girlfriend and my best friend. A few months ago, my girlfriend started to complain about the situation - she thinks that I don't give her enough attention and that we don't spend enough time together (alone-without my best friend). I don't agree with her, I spend the time with my friend mainly because he is oriented in the same way I am, he is also pursuing his "entrepreneurial dream" and I think I give her "enough" time and attention. She would like to live with me alone, but I don't feel prepared for this plus I am afraid that my entrepreneurial pursuit would suffer a lot (girlfriend is not oriented that way vs. my best friend definitely is).
I've barely started to work on my entrepreneurial dream and here I am trying to deal with these kinds of problems, I know that my working discipline, etc. suffer. It is kinda obvious, that if the situation would not change, I won't be able to change myself to the extent needed in order to "build great things".
The problem
I've done a lot of thinking and come up with one essential question which is really hard to answer: to which extent it is worth fighting (trying to find compromises, changing myself, etc.) for the relationship and when it is better to devote energy to finding a new partner, perhaps a more "suitable" one?
There are two extreme approaches:
1) I won't change, I will find someone who fits me.
2) It is worth fighting no matter the differences.
I'm not used to giving up things so I try to find a way how to save the relationship, but where is the boundary? You know she is not doing anything wrong (like being unfaithful or so, or at least I don't know about it 😀), so no F*ck this event is in sight but staying in the relationship under these conditions is inadmissible for both of us - no one is happy.
What do you think? I would be happy to discuss it further.
I would like to share my current relationship situation with you, I am not asking for advice, but I would be grateful for any honest opinion. I will try to be as brief as possible.
Brief Description
My relationship started about three years ago. Right now I live in an apartment with my girlfriend and my best friend. A few months ago, my girlfriend started to complain about the situation - she thinks that I don't give her enough attention and that we don't spend enough time together (alone-without my best friend). I don't agree with her, I spend the time with my friend mainly because he is oriented in the same way I am, he is also pursuing his "entrepreneurial dream" and I think I give her "enough" time and attention. She would like to live with me alone, but I don't feel prepared for this plus I am afraid that my entrepreneurial pursuit would suffer a lot (girlfriend is not oriented that way vs. my best friend definitely is).
I've barely started to work on my entrepreneurial dream and here I am trying to deal with these kinds of problems, I know that my working discipline, etc. suffer. It is kinda obvious, that if the situation would not change, I won't be able to change myself to the extent needed in order to "build great things".
The problem
I've done a lot of thinking and come up with one essential question which is really hard to answer: to which extent it is worth fighting (trying to find compromises, changing myself, etc.) for the relationship and when it is better to devote energy to finding a new partner, perhaps a more "suitable" one?
There are two extreme approaches:
1) I won't change, I will find someone who fits me.
2) It is worth fighting no matter the differences.
I'm not used to giving up things so I try to find a way how to save the relationship, but where is the boundary? You know she is not doing anything wrong (like being unfaithful or so, or at least I don't know about it 😀), so no F*ck this event is in sight but staying in the relationship under these conditions is inadmissible for both of us - no one is happy.
What do you think? I would be happy to discuss it further.
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