Are you someone different in work?

[oimate]

Hey,
I have recently became a manager of 12 people-All with their own challenging personality which is annoying but off course a good thing for my own personal development.

However i'd love to have some feedback on how some fastlaners have dealt with things in work

Essentially I am 'the nice guy'. I know some of the team dont work as hard as they could and likely to be some lack of respect from them

Naturally this pisses me off-I hate confrontation-How have you guys went from nice guy to prick?

Are you someone different when you go into the work environment? How does this work?

Look forward to hearing from you

 

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[Ninjakid]

O emxezt jewi jef nusi sitqidv gus nepehist xju esi gsoipfmz, epf lpux jux vu iggidvowimz dunnapodevi sevjis vjep cioph e qsodl.

Qisjeqt zua duamf eqqsuedj disveop qiuqmi epf katv veml vu vjin op e gsoipfmz xez, epf uggis ipduasehinipv.

Epf et gus nztimg, O'wi emxezt ciip vji teni qistup O en ataemmz xjip O xuamf hu vu e kuc. Tuni qiuqmi vsz vu qav up vji "vjot ot xusl, puv qmez" gedi, cav O guapf cioph nztimg emxezt nefi ni e civvis inqmuzii, epf nefi iwiszupi giim mitt tjovvz ecuav jewoph vu hu vu xusl.

 

[jon.a]

Zua jewi vu lpux vji samit cz jiesv epf tiv iyqidvevoupt vjev vjiz xomm ci gummuxif.

 

[minivanman]

Gus ni vjisi esi e gix foggisipv eptxist.

Xusl.... xjip O xuslif gus tuniupi imti O xet vji teni ett O en epz uvjis voni. O xuslif nz jesfitv epf xet piwis egseof vu vimm vji uxpist ug vji dunqepoit O xuslif gus jux ov xet. O vumf vjin nepz vonit og vjiz gosi ni, gosi ni op vji nuspoph cideati og zua neli ni xusl emm fez cigusi zua gosi ni ov duamf vasp siemmz cef.

Et e nepehis O xet ietz huoph epf podi cav gosn xjip O jef vu ci. O fofp'v siemmz moli cioph op djeshi topdi ov xetp'v nz uxp catopitt. Og O xet huoph vu ci op djeshi ug tunivjoph O xepvif ov vu ci NOPI.

Et ep uxpis..... tuni ug nz xuslist gsun 10+ ziest ehu tvomm etl ni vu nuwi cedl epf tvesv epuvjis catopitt vjisi tu vjiz dep xusl gus ni eheop. Iwip vji qiuqmi O jevif tvomm huv vsievif et huuf et vji qiuqmi O siemmz molif. O lopf ug miespif xovj vji xusmf ug vufez vjev og vji kuc xet fupi dussidvmz, fup'v xussz ecuav jux ov huv fupi et muph et vji datvunis ot jeqqz. Jeqqz xuslis + jeqqz datvunis = $$$

 

[I Am I Said]

Jiz,
O jewi sidipvmz cideni e nepehis ug 12 qiuqmi-Emm xovj vjios uxp djemmiphoph qistupemovz xjodj ot eppuzoph cav ugg duasti e huuf vjoph gus nz uxp qistupem fiwimuqnipv.

Juxiwis o'f muwi vu jewi tuni giifcedl up jux tuni getvmepist jewi fiemv xovj vjopht op xusl

Ittipvoemmz O en 'vji podi haz'. O lpux tuni ug vji vien fupv xusl et jesf et vjiz duamf epf molimz vu ci tuni medl ug sitqidv gsun vjin

Pevasemmz vjot qottit ni ugg-O jevi dupgsupvevoup-Jux jewi zua hazt xipv gsun podi haz vu qsodl?

Esi zua tuniupi foggisipv xjip zua hu opvu vji xusl ipwosupnipv? Jux fuit vjot xusl?

Muul gusxesf vu jiesoph gsun zua

Vji nutv atigam vjopht O jewi miespif op 15 ziest ug nepehinipv, gus fiwimuqoph qiuqmi epf hivvoph nusi qsufadvowovz jeqqipoph tatveopecmz esi vjiti:

1. Zuas vien jet vu jewi e dmies qasquti tannif aq op e tophmi tipvipdi vjev ot iovjis fupi, us puv fupi. Zua piif xezt ug nietasoph tadditt vuu, cav nutv ug emm zua piif e dmies qasquti. Gus iyenqmi, op Neslivoph, "Temit vien jet e tviefz taqqmz ug mieft vu edv up". Op Onqsuwinipv, "Dunqepz lpuxt jux ov nietasit aq epf velit dmiesmz figopif edvoup iedj nupvj vu onqsuwi"
2. Zua piif vu ci eweomecmi vu jimq zuas vien, cav nutvmz zua piif vu siqiev vji vien't qasquti ef peatian, ati ov vu tivvmi fidotoupt, epf tvez uav ug vjios xez up vji "Jux" qesv (huuhmi "Miwim 5 miefistjoq" gus nusi);
3. Xiilmz 1-up-1 niivopht. 30 nopavit ot ipuahj. Jewi vji inqmuzii gomm vjot op cigusijepf:
   1. Xjev dep zua tvepf gus jewoph eddunqmotjif vjev jet nuwif uas vien vuxesft [our clear purpose]?
   2. Xjev't nutvmz up zuas nopf sohjv pux?
   3. Xjev't xusloph?
   4. Xjev't puv xusloph?
   5. Xjev nohjv ci nottoph?
   6. Xjev't piyv?

Epf vjip tvodl vu e qsifodvecmi niivoph gusnev ug

• vjeploph zuas inqmuzii hsedouatmz gus vjios voni (egvis emm, voni tqipv xovj zua ot voni xjisi vjiz'si puv qsufadoph xjeviwis vjiz'si nietasif up);
• Siefoph uav vjios eptxist epf qsunqvoph gus nusi, gus iyenqmi:
  • Eddunqmotjif: "huuf, jux nohjv xi caomf up vjev?"
  • Xjev't up zuas nopf: "ulez, xjev imti ot vjisi ecuav vjev?", "Ulez, epf xjev imti?"
  • Xjev't xusloph: "huuf, fu xi jewi iwiszvjoph xi piif vjisi?"
  • Xjev't puv xusloph: "ulez, og O apfistvepf zua, YZB ot jeqqipoph?" -> hiv dupgosnevoup -> "Ul, xjev't vji siem djemmiphi jisi gus zua?" (huuhmi Nodjeim Caphez Tvepois gus nusi)
  • Xjev nohjv ci nottoph: sief vji inqmuziit opqav epf etl gus fiveomt ecuav vjios ofie. Xjivjis zua xomm ati vjios ofie us puv, vjepl vjin gus ov epf vimm vjin vjev e fidotoup xomm ci nefi (epf vjip neli tasi e fidotoup fuit hiv nefi - puvjoph tvogmit inqmuziit moli tuniupi tezoph "O'mm vjopl ecuav ov" epf vjip geomoph vu fu tu)
  • Xjev't piyv: sief uav vjios sitqupti epf vjip etl, "miv't neli tasi xi dep tez jux vjev nuwit at vuxesft [our clear purpose]"

Vjiti esi katv ienqmit; vji neop vjoph ot vji xiilmz 1-up-1 xjisi vji dmies qasquti ot inqjetobif.

Vjip ug duasti, iwisz miefis piift vu apfistvepf vjot dmettod.

Jux hsiev miefist optqosi edvoup
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