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I've copied your post into my journal notes. You asked very interesting questions. So, I will try to answer one at a time, if that's OK with you.<br />
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Laser focus has to do with making a decision and being 100% into that decision. For me, it starts with 2 components -- defined determination and very strict moral standards.<br />
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Defined determination requires you to be very sure about your direction and your decision. It assumes that you have carefully vetted and thought through that path. You must be totally sure of your direction. And that decision becomes the basis for your determination to make that decision work.<br />
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Great truths are elegantly simple. So are good decisions. It's the execution that can be become murky IF you feel internally conflicted. Laser focus requires you to resolve those conflicts before you commit. It's not solving all the problems upfront. That's not possible. But, the internal conversation must be about solving those problems rather than questions about the decision itself. You must commit to exploring every possible solution to the problems you will encounter.<br />
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Here's a story for you... I saw an interview many years ago with 3 men that were in a climbing team getting ready to scale a major mountain. The first two men were asked IF they were going to make it. One said he would try. The other said he was going to do his best, but it was going to be a tough climb. When asked, the third man said, "Yes, I am going to stand on the summit." The third man was the only man who finished the climb. It gets<br />
back to the old truisms -- triers are liars. You either do or you don't. The second man stated his built-in excuse -- it's a tough climb. The third man was focused on and determined to succeed. That's a totally different mindset.<br />
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Why strict moral standards? I can always make more money. I cannot make more time. By having high personal standards, I can maximize my time. What do they have to do with one another? I totally believe in karma. In the Christian faith -- it's reaping what you sow. I try to make sure that I intentionally NEVER hurt another person. That doesn't mean that I can't protect myself. I do not enable others in their bad behaviors. But, I believe that the Universe has rules and I live within them.<br />
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Here's another story for you. I think of my life like planting corn. You take one kernel and put it in the ground to plant a corn stock. With tending, that corn stock grows. What do you get back? From one small kernel, you get a huge stock of corn with hopefully several ears of corn. That's at least hundreds, and sometimes thousands, of kernels back from planting one little kernel.<br />
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Life is like that. Whatever you do -- even the smallest act -- can have far-reaching effects. Small acts of kindness can positively change another life. Even a small unkindness can take years to overcome.<br />
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Think of it like this. If you do something right, the person will tell a couple of other people. If you do something wrong, they will tell 8 or 10 other people all about it. What kind of damage control program can you afford to do to counter one small slip? How much time and effort must you give to overcome one lapse? How can you focus on your goals if you are doing big-time damage control? So why go there in the first place? You can't control other people, but you can control yourself. So, set your personal standards and totally live them. It cuts out a lot of the chaos in your life. It allows you to focus on those elegantly simple decisions.
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Quick response (written after writing the rest of the post that I may protect your investment of time and energy and attention. Which I acknowledge are truly valuable forms of currency)<br />
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So your laser focus comes from knowing definitely what you want, this, as a result, allows you to Put all you have into your work and shifts your mind to a position where it may problem solve.<br />
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The man who makes it to the summit is he who decided he WILL. rather than he will try.<br />
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Moral standards prevent most of our problems and infact elicit many of our blessings. By doing right we eliminate chaos and bs!<br />
This allowing greater success to be had!<br />
Our deeds are as seeds planted yeilding , from one seed, a harvest many times the size of that. Good or bad.<br />
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Thanks for your time - moses<br />
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Now I quick precursor, a great contributor within this thread told me to use fewer words when I write.... It is not intentional that my response is long winded ... So I thank you a ahead of time for the investment of time and energy you make in your reading and response.<br />
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As this is public posting I like to say I hope these posts help other beings , as well, acting as a benefit to the community and not just my own being.<br />
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Let us move forward.<br />
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In an effort of reciprocation, just as you answered one at a time, so I shall respond one at a time.<br />
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So with this laser focus you have something very specific, and definite in mind, correct? This means your mind is not going in many different directions, rather it is totally focused, and all of your resources to one direction. Right? I can see how this immediately offers stability in decision making. As you do not er from left to right. Being swayed by the wind or the trend. Being pulled this way or that by life's circumstance. That is powerful right there.<br />
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What is the vetting process like as you think through your path? What do you take into consideration? You mentioned in another post you have over 46 years of experience, this allows you foresight and wisdom and perhaps even additional vision when seeing your path and potential difficulties.<br />
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I have a definite goal. I have taken time to define it. And why I want it. How do I put it through the vetting process. What questions have you asked yourself? How have you insured this is the path for you without a second doubt in your mind? I can immediately see the benefits of being so as you say laser focused, I might call it single minded.<br />
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I believe I get what you are saying about the inner conflicts. Once you have decided what you want, those questions and potential problems come up. This part is... Natural, or unavoidable, correct? But the distinct difference, as I gathered, is that the questions and problems are no longer toward your decision (i.e. is this the right move? Is this really what I want? Is it even worth the effort?) But the questions and problems that arise are now perhaps obstacles and challenges that you have already firmly decided you shall over come for you know what you want without a second doubt. The question is no longer what do I want or where am I going. But now the resolve is to solve the problems regardless of what may come up for your destination is more compelling than the problems you shall face. Is this What you are saying or have I missed something crucial, you mentioned great truths are elegantly simple.. could you simplify it for us?<br />
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Now this mountain story was the part that made me say "wow"<br />
My mother raised me with this qoute "as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he" I am a firm believer that the Way you talk and think shape your reality and your success.<br />
Indeed the mindset is totally different isn't it. I never had it put into perspective like this<br />
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Now, this moral standards stands out to me above all else.<br />
When you do right, good things happen to you. And we must develop an unwillingness to compromise what is right for temporary or material gain. All that is on the earth shall perish one day. But our souls and our deeds extend past many generations. Oh man this really struck a core value within me!<br />
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It is so true. Our actions have this... Compounding effect. One action leads to the other and that one to many others.<br />
And that good. Multiplies. As does the bad.<br />
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To add to your point, often times we face a circumstance and it feels like it is only happening right now and it came up all of a sudden. But many times it is the result of a seed planted many moons prior and that fruit had come to fruition.<br />
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Small acts of kindness do wonderous things for the Human being. And right living, at the end of the day, shall trump material gain or the pursuit of pleasure.<br />
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It is so true even a small unkindness can stick with a person. Something small, over time, snowballs then avalanches! We see the big snowfall, but we often forget about the initial snowball.<br />
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I see what you mean, so having these personal standards, something like a moral code, prevents these negative seeds these hurtful snowballs from developing at all.<br />
It is impossible to make progress if all you are doing is constantly cleaning up the mess we have made through negligence of personal standard. I will chew on this idea a bit more. This is wisdom that I can walk with for a long time as well as see the effects.<br />
That damage control can be prevented entirely from this personal standard. Boy! That is profound. You know how many fires I have to put out because I neglected to do the right thing on a small scale?<br />
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I saw something people often will forget your name. And what you said. But they will never forget how you made them feel.<br />
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To the point of personal standards. How do you set such a standard for yourself? Do you have these ideals written somewhere you can see it? Is it engrained in your heart from years of life? Is this something you have specially chosen for yourself, or was this a passive development over time?<br />
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wjk after going through your response It felt like you were speaking to me , truly, it is a pleasure to make your acquaintance, if only through the context of this here forum post.<br />
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Thank you for your time!<br />
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I get to the end of this post.<br />
And realize I have written... Much more than I anticipated.<br />
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So I shall summarize a more quick response. And place it at the top, in this way you may not need to invest much time and energy into communicating back and forth.<br />
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