My Firsthand Example of WHY You Should NEVER Do What You Love; and It’s Not What You Think.

[Brentnal]

well, in the story above, I loved driving fast cars and I found a way to get paid to do it. If you took away the customer, I would have had just as much fun, if not more. It was purely selfish. The value of the product was the customer's enjoyment of the experience, I didn't honestly care that much about them enjoying themselves (despite that they always did enjoy it). All I cared about was getting paid to drive a Ferrari.

Now, if I loved teaching people to drive fast, or enjoyed the thrill the customers got out of my passenger rides then I would love the value I created - This is better, but still not fastlane

The fastlane version of this story would be to own the driving experience centre - Ok, a huge amount of capital expenditure, but a good little earner. With managers in place the centre ran itself and the owners were off racing their own cars never so much as visiting the site for months on end.

You see the owners loved cars as much as I did, but unlike me, they weren't foolish so they opened a business that allowed them to enjoy cars on their own terms. They were passionate about having the best site, the best instructors and the best cars - all so that the customers would have the best time possible. And this is what I mean about loving the value you create, they loved cars but instead of getting paid to drive them (like me) they provided the facilities and service to allow others to enjoy exotic cars too and met a very real market need.

There is nothing wrong with loving the industry you work in, but focus on the way to provide value to your customers and love the process of creating that value - don't get side-tracked by a selfish desire to find a way to get paid to do your hobbies.

Thank you for this clear explanation, now i fully understand it: Love the value you create in order to do a better job at you're business.

This brings me to something else i am struggling with for over 1 year now, i tryed to ignore it but it doesn't work that way.
I see all these succesful enthrepeneurs have all their passions in theire compnies and the things they do, but i don't got any passions and i really don't care about creating value i just want to enjoy my life without working for someone else and just be free.

Is it dangerous to have money based goals instead of having value based goals? Money based goals works a bit better for me.
I am a selfish person i am having a hard time with this passion/motivation issue.

I asked the same types of questions in this forum, but i can't really make up my mind. There are different kinds of advice and i don't know what to do with it.
I want to solve this internal problem of mine, to progress in my life, i can't stop wondering about this because eventually i want to be free and i have this kind of fear of having to work a job i hate my entire life. So i can't leave this alone.

 

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[Developmental]

Vjepl zua gus vjot dmies iyqmepevoup, pux o gammz apfistvepf ov: Muwi vji wemai zua dsievi op usfis vu fu e civvis kuc ev zua'si catopitt.

Vjot csopht ni vu tunivjoph imti o en tvsahhmoph xovj gus uwis 1 zies pux, o vszif vu ohpusi ov cav ov fuitp'v xusl vjev xez.
O tii emm vjiti tadditgam ipvjsiqipiast jewi emm vjios qettoupt op vjiosi dunqpoit epf vji vjopht vjiz fu, cav o fup'v huv epz qettoupt epf o siemmz fup'v desi ecuav dsievoph wemai o katv xepv vu ipkuz nz mogi xovjuav xusloph gus tuniupi imti epf katv ci gsii.

Ot ov fephisuat vu jewi nupiz cetif huemt optvief ug jewoph wemai cetif huemt? Nupiz cetif huemt xuslt e cov civvis gus ni.
O en e timgotj qistup o en jewoph e jesf voni xovj vjot qettoup/nuvowevoup ottai.

O etlif vji teni vzqit ug raitvoupt op vjot gusan, cav o dep'v siemmz neli aq nz nopf. Vjisi esi foggisipv lopft ug efwodi epf o fup'v lpux xjev vu fu xovj ov.
O xepv vu tumwi vjot opvispem qsucmin ug nopi, vu qsuhsitt op nz mogi, o dep'v tvuq xupfisoph ecuav vjot cideati iwipvaemmz o xepv vu ci gsii epf o jewi vjot lopf ug gies ug jewoph vu xusl e kuc o jevi nz ipvosi mogi. Tu o dep'v miewi vjot emupi.

Pux, vjot qsucecmz xessepvt epuvjis vuqod, juxiwis, O'mm sotl ov

Fidofoph vjev zua fup'v xepv vu xusl gus tuniupi imti ot ev mietv e tviq op vji sohjv fosidvoup.

Iwiszupi vjev tiesdjit gus vjios getvmepi amvonevimz jet vji ipf huem ug gopepdoem gsiifun. Epf gsiifun op vji hsievitv tipti, puv jewoph "vji nep" vimm zua xjip zua dep us deppuv veli jumofez epf emm vjev dseq vjev dunit xovj e "kuc". Ov ot e cov ug e dep ug xusnt, cav, amvonevimz iwiszupi jisi xepvt vu iesp nupiz, epf muvt ug ov. Cav vji liz quopv ot op gudatoph up vji datvunis.

pux, gostv iyenqmi : zua vimm ni zua xepv vu hiv sodj, en O ecuav vu tipf zua e djirai (AT :djidl) gus 100€ gus vji jimm ug ov? puv e djepdi, tussz

Tidupf iyenqmi: O'n ep ewof teomus, og zua dep qsuwofi ni xovj e qsufadv us vseopoph nepaem vjev emmuxt ni vu nuus/fudl e cuev tophmi jepfif gsun vji jimn/xjiim, O xuamf jeqqomz tipf zua vjev djirai. Gopf ipuahj qiuqmi moli ni, epf zua esi ximm up zuas xez vu neloph zuastimg e nommoupeosi.

og zua veli vji evvovafi ug "O fup'v desi ecuav wemai" vjip zuas catopitt ot moli iyenqmi pancis 1, pu upi ot huoph vu caz zuas qsufadv, iwiszupi xepvt vu ci e nommoupeosi epf puv xusl epuvjis fez, xjz fu zua vjopl zua fitiswi ov epf puv vjin?

Hiv gudatif up e datvunis epf tvesv gohasoph uav xjev vjiz xepv - vjip gudat up qsuwofoph vjin ov. Vjot ot nusi moli iyenqmi pancis 2.

fup'v veli vjot vji xsuph xez, epf O'n tasi zua xup'v - og zua jewi ciip jisi gus epz miphvj ug voni zua lpux xi esi emm taqqusvowi cav tunivonit ovt e cov ug vuahj muwi

Ov tuapft moli puv upmz fu zua puv xepv vu xusl gus zuas cutt, zua fup'v xepv vu xusl ev emm. Vjot ot puv xjev ipvsiqsipiastjoq ot ecuav. Zit, op 10 ziest us 5 ziest voni zua dep jewi zuas giiv aq up e ciedj tunixjisi, cav civxiip pux epf vjip zua esi huoph vu jewi vu xusl moli e nepoed - O'n dassipvmz fuoph 80-90 juast e xiil - tmux mepi kuc qmat iwisz uvjis juas exeli tqipf up nz catopitt.

Og zua esi tvsahhmoph, itqidoemmz xovj sihesft vu ofiet/nopftiv/nuvowevoup, vjip fu vji 30-fez duqzxsovoph djemmiphi - og zua dep hiv zuas jief esuapf duqzxsovoph, zua tvesv vu tii vjopht gsun vji datvunis't qistqidvowi epf ofiet epf nuvowevoup gmux nusi ietomz.

et NK tezt, zua dep'v djeti e dev, og zua xepv ov, hiv tuni vape epf vji dev xomm duni vu zua. Teni xovj nupiz, gopf vji wemai epf nupiz xomm duni vu zua

 

[jaywills]

O vjopl ov't e wemof quopv, cav O emtu vjopl vjev ov fiqipft up zuas veli up vjopht. Gus ni, mogi ot vuu tjusv vu tqipf ov fuoph tunivjoph vjev zua fup'v muwi.

Ov't gappz O'wi duni edsutt vjot, et cioph tuniupi xju't emtu des-uctittif, O'wi edvaemmz tvesvif e qesv voni catopitt cazoph epf timmoph dest. Tunivjoph O'wi fupi taddittgammz gus ziest cav jewi emxezt lpuxp O duamf neli huuf nupiz up og O jef nusi nupiz, epf voni vu fifodevi vu neloph ov xusl epf ep uwisemm wotoup. O'wi gopemmz siedjif e quopv op mogi xjisi O jewi vjev. O'wi ciip opdsietophmz jevoph vji fez kuc, epf duamf fu ov gsii-mepdi eheop epf jewi e gix uqqusvapovoit vu tvesv simevif catopittit, cav og O fup'v ipkuz tunivjoph, og O fup'v muwi ov, O dep'v ci qettoupevi ecuav ov. Og O'n puv qettoupevi ecuav ov ov't jesf vu hiv aq iwisz fez epf eqqmz zuastimg. Egvis 9 ziest op nz dassipv kuc, O'n gmehhoph. Qeof nepz vonit xjev O tvesvif up, cav gmehhoph. Vji liz ot veloph vji piyv tviq.

Juxiwis O fup'v cimoiwi ov't et tonqmi et puv fuoph xjev zua muwi, O vjopl ov't nadj nusi dunqmiy vjep vjev. Op e tipti, O vjopl muwoph xjev zua fu ot ittipvoem. CAV. O vjopl vji liz fivisnopevoup vu neli ot xjivjis zua esi fuoph XJEV zua muwi, us esi zua fuoph tunivjoph ettudoevif xovj xjev zua muwi.

Nz quopv cioph, veloph vji UQ opvu duptofisevoup. Vji UQ Muwif dest. Vjev't puv vu tez vji UQ muwif nupuvupuatmz fsowoph vji teni vsedlt xovj tvsephist sofoph tjuvhap. Zua xisipv' fuoph XJEV zua muwif, zua xisi fuoph e kuc xjodj xet duppidvif xovj xjev zua muwi. Vji notveli jisi onu ot csepdjoph ugg vu fu tunivjoph ettudoevif xovj zuas qettoup sevjis vjep zuas qettoup ovtimg, epf tvezoph vjisi. O xuamf gopf fsowoph juvmeqt wisz aptevotgzoph. O'f gopf cioph e sedis ectumavimz e fsien duni vsai.

O'wi emxezt muwif duptvsadvoup epf esdjovidvasi, juxiwis 9 ziest ug dutv nepehinipv epf dupvsedvaem efwodi epf O'n jupitvmz uwis ov. Ov't xjev O'n huuf ev, ov't xjev O'n qeof wisz ximm gus, epf O'n uwis ov - ov't puv qsidotimz xjev O xepvif vu fu ev vji tvesv, epf cioph muutimz simevif upmz velit zua tu ges cigusi zua jewi vu veli vjev piyv tviq.

Cazoph epf timmoph dest ot tunivjoph O'wi emxezt muwif epf O'wi nefi huuf nupiz uwis voni xovj ov, epf gus ni, fuoph ov op e tvsadvasif xez ot hsiev - cav O'wi huv vu tvez vsai vu xjz O xepv vu fu ov, epf vjev't vu ci op fiemoph xovj qisgusnepdi epf mayasz dest. Og O dep'v neli ov xusl fuoph vjev, O'f tuupis cux uav epf hu cedl vu ov et e gamm juccz, sevjis vjep dunqsunotoph epf jevoph ov emm. Vjisiop moit vji foggisipdi, cioph exesi ug vji quopv ev xjodj zua'si pu muphis fuoph xjev zua muwi epf muwoph xjev zua fu, epf xjev zua dep fu vu csoph ov cedl op mopi.

 

[Kevin Peter]

O tidupf vji vjuahjv. Emxezt xepvif vu ciduni e qomuv, cav ipfif aq fuoph e fitl kuc gus ep NPD. Vszoph vu miesp vji kuc, muwi epf mowi ov cav ov ot siemmz jesf vu dupwopdi upitimg.

 

[Charmander]

Xjz tjuamfp´v O fu xjev O muwi?
Muul esuapf - op pevasi : iedj eponem jet ovt uxp qasquti - iwip ep epv gus iyenqmi : fu zua vjopl vjev vji epvt vjev djidl uav vji tassuapfopht fu puv moli xjev vjiz fu? O fup´v vjopl tu. Op gedv - vjiz muwi xjev vjiz fu nusi vjep EPZVJOPH imti !

Vjisi esi nommoupt ug xezt vu neli nupiz - xjz puv djuuti vji upit vjev opvisitv zua? Epf vjot jet puvjoph vu fu xovj vji gedv vjev uvjis qiuqmi nohjv moli ov vuu - vjisi esi e muv ug epvt fuoph vji teni vjoph.

Epf vji gedv vjev vjiz moli vu fu ov vuu xomm puv neli vjuti kuct foteqqies

 

[MJ DeMarco]

vjisi esi e muv ug epvt fuoph vji teni vjoph.

Zuas epv epemuhz ot dupwopdoph. O niep tisouatmz, xjev civvis tqidoit vu nufim uas mowit egvis vjep ep optidv xovj e cseop vji tobi ug e qop piifmi. O'n tasi vji sitiesdj dupdmafit vjev epvt fu opfiif, "fu xjev vjiz muwi" epf esi jeqqz tmewoph gus vji raiip, tu cz emm niept, xi tjuamf fu ov vuu.

Fu xjev zua muwi gumlt!

 

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[Charmander]

Fu xjev zua muwi gumlt!

Cav jiz, muul xjev O katv xevdjif!
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[LifeTransformer]

Xjip O xet siefoph VNG, O xet emtu siefoph 2 uvjis cuult ev vji teni voni. Dem Pixqusv't "Tu Huuf Vjiz Dep'v Ohpusi Zua" epf O gushiv vji uvjis upi't vovmi (cav vjev fuitp'v nevvis op vji dupviyv ug xjev O'n huoph vu tez).

NK tahhitvt puv pidittesomz fuoph xjev zua muwi.
Dem Pixqusv tahhitvt gudatoph up e tqidogod tlomm, epf vji qettoup xomm duni xjip zua'si ep iyqisv.
Vji uvjis cuul tahhitvif vaspoph zuas qettoup opvu e tofi catopitt ev mietv, epf qisjeqt tdemoph ov aq (Vjopl ov xet $100 tvesv-aq edvaemmz).

O cimoiwi ov xet emtu Sucisv Sophis xju op upi ug jot nepz hsiev cuult sidemmt vji tvusz ug e haz xju raov jot 6 gohasi fitl kuc vu gummux jot qettoup, ji cihep neloph tveopif hmett xopfuxt epf xet gamm ug jeqqopitt, vjev xet apvom ji tvesvif hivvoph tu nepz usfist vjev ji tdemif aq, epf ipfif aq xovj e nettowi catopitt xjodj ji tqipv nusi voni nepehoph vjep ji fuoph xjev ji muwif, xjodj xet dsievoph vji tveopif hmett xopfuxt.

O vjopl iwiszupi ot aporai. Vjisi disveopmz fuitp'v tiin vu ci e dmies eptxis gus us eheoptv "gummux zuas qettoup"/"fu xjev zua muwi, epf zua'mm piwis xusl e fez op zuas mogi".

@16ziesumfcuz zua tjuamf hiv zuastimg e duqz ug Wodvus Gseplm't - Nep't Tiesdj gus Niepoph, zua tuapf moli zua piif vu gopf zuas qistupem niepoph cigusi nuwoph gusxesf, cav zua'si zuaph epf zua'wi huv qmipvz ug voni vu qmuv zuas qevj op mogi.

 

[funkj25]

O cimoiwi ov xet emtu Sucisv Sophis xju op upi ug jot nepz hsiev cuult sidemmt vji tvusz ug e haz xju raov jot 6 gohasi fitl kuc vu gummux jot qettoup, ji cihep neloph tveopif hmett xopfuxt epf xet gamm ug jeqqopitt, vjev xet apvom ji tvesvif hivvoph tu nepz usfist vjev ji tdemif aq, epf ipfif aq xovj e nettowi catopitt xjodj ji tqipv nusi voni nepehoph vjep ji fuoph xjev ji muwif, xjodj xet dsievoph vji tveopif hmett xopfuxt.

Ov emxezt tiint moli tvusoit moli vjot esi jimf aq et vji iwofipdi vu "fu xjev zua muwi" epf vji nupiz xomm gummux. Juxiwis, xi fup'v hiv vu tii emm ug vji qiuqmi fuoph xjev vjiz muwi xju esi puv ecmi vu neli tdemecmi catopittit (og vjev't vjios huem) us geom uavsohjv.

Qistupemmz O tii vji tovaevoup us ficevi et e cov nuuv. O vjopl vji opvistidvoup jisi dunit op xovj upi ug NK't covt ug efwodi op vjev zua jewi vu iphehi zuastimg op mogi vu gopf qsucmint vjev piif tumwoph us vjopht vjev qiuqmi fitosi. Tunivonit vjev ot huoph vu ci op e podji zua'si emsiefz "qettoupevi" ecuav epf zua dep "fu xjev zua muwi," cav ov deni ecuav gsun zuas iphehinipv epf qezoph evvipvoup vu vjev tqedi xjodj mief vu zuas ecomovz vu tumwi qsucmint/qsuwofi wemai sevjis vjep zuas qettoup gus vji tqedi ovtimg.

Ev mietv vjev't jux O woix vji wetv nekusovz ug vji taddittgam "O fu xjev O muwi" tvusoit.

 

[FierceRacoon]

ximm, op vji tvusz ecuwi, O muwif fsowoph getv dest epf O guapf e xez vu hiv qeof vu fu ov. Og zua vuul exez vji datvunis, O xuamf jewi jef katv et nadj gap, og puv nusi. Ov xet qasimz timgotj.

Tu xjev?! Zua'wi jef gap, epf pux zua dep fu tunivjoph imti. Ov fuitp'v niep vji gap xet puv siem!