The "Astonishing Secrets" Thread

[rogen]

People and businesses have so many problems, and they're all opportunities, I'm seeing that now. It's a real struggle for me to break out and talk to people more. I've spent a long time avoiding people, even though I care about them deeply.

I see the value in it (both in business and personally) now though, so I'm taking action. I bought dinner for a homeless guy and ate with him last night. Not going to make me rich (cost me $10) but it got me out of my head and into some kind of selfless action. I noticed just that simple action changed my momentum, attitude and direction.

"If you open up to the world, the world will open up to you."

People seemed friendlier, probably because I was friendlier. Talking with someone else later, I hit on some more ideas. He mentioned a podcast which I've found really useful so far so I'll post it: http://www.smartpassiveincome.com/no-ideas-no-expertise-no-money-business/

Basically this man just did a ton of 'market research', emailing businesses and getting them to talk about their problems. In response to this, he's created several successful software apps. Also leveraged a good overseas dev on Elance.

This would be even more effective on the phone! This is something I'm going to take on over the next week, engaging people and businesses in a way so that they open up and talk about their problems.

There is good info on outsourcing in this podcast: you have to find A players - and A players are not looking for a job, so say goodbye to elance and odesk IF you want to create quality software/website

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[IceCreamKid]

Could you walk us through this in a little more detail? I think a lot of people get stuck on this very critical step

I'll make a note to myself to create some content on Microsoft Word to post about pre-selling. I always get money up front before I begin spending any time/money on my stuff.

I understand that it's a critical step but I don't think this is where most get stuck. My guess is 99% get stuck before even giving themselves a chance to get stuck. In other words, they don't even start. They don't even try.

There are more important things than trying, you know? Like going to sleep or catching the latest episode of The Bachelor and what Miley Cyrus is currently doing. I can't miss that bro. My life would fall apart if I don't know what's going on with those celebs yo.

In all seriousness, this issue is the reason why I created the mindset thread...to get people moving.

a real world example is the software that's been discussed on this forum to help non-tech people create standardized wireframes and technical specs for outsourcing on elance etc. 5-10 people, including MJ and Zen if I remember correctly, indicated that there was a huge need for this, and other said they would use such a software. So what do you do with this? Is that enough validation...do you try to call these people and go deeper...do you start making a beta and THEN go trying to call these people...what would your next steps be to confidently move forward?

Hmmm I think this question depends on your personal situation and how confident you feel in your own abilities. Sorry, wish I could give a more concrete answer on this...that's the crazy thing with entrepreneurship...there often isn't one definite way of doing things.

savvy software buyers might balk at buying vaporware (like Zen did on the forum when someone asked if he would buy a pre-built software solution...he said "I don't buy vaporware"

I don't buy vaporware either, but I would totally sell them to people that it would help. Just because Z wouldn't buy vaporware doesn't mean that the rest of the world won't.

Let me put it this way...if your solution solves a strong enough need, you WILL eventually be able to find someone who will pay up front for it.

There is more than one way to dress your mistress.

 

[Carny]

Contact the business owners but don't outright ask, "HEY ARE YOU INTERESTED IN THIS?!". That just wreaks of greed. Ew. Chat it up with them a bit, be casual, fun, and honest. After you build up rapport, THEN you ask them what they think of your idea. Dude...you might even find new ideas and needs while you're chatting it up with them. It's REALLY fun when you get good at this stuff bro. The ideas flow like F*ckin waterfalls and you'll go nuts picking up all the ice cream falling from the sky and into your hands.

If they really like the idea, I'll try to get some pre-sale money because this truly validates that you are solving a real need. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, MAKE A RELENTLESS ATTEMPT TO GET THE ICE CREAM BEFORE YOU SPEND A DIME ON BUILDING THE PRODUCT/SERVICE/SOFTWARE. Too many people will bullshit you and say "oh yeah I'd buy that" but when it's time to finally bust out the credit card they give some excuse for why they don't wanna pay. People will lie to you because they don't want to hurt your feelings.

I didn't like the idea of asking if they were interested right off the bat, but didn't know what else to say. I get tons of calls everyday (A.D.D. side note: I think I'll play along with a few and really pay attention to their technique. Right now I purposely throw them off to get off the phone) and hate them as much as everyone else. If someone called me up and just started chit chatting I would be confused and maybe irritated depending on what I was doing. I would be wondering what they were getting at and why they called me.

Do you just tell them your name and then start talking about whatever? The first thing I would think is that it is all fake to sell me something, how do you avoid that?

I'd definitely be interested in any preselling advice you have!

Also, I need to thank you again! My project has two sides: an informational product and a web service. The web service is the thing I was most excited about because it will really help people AND generate recurring automatic income. I also saw it as my biggest hurdle because it will be a big upfront cost. I was thinking of all sorts of ways to generate the cash to get the website up and running. I was so focused on the website that I missed a SUPER OBVIOUS SOLUTION! I can start selling just the info product and use that money to start the website! I'll have to make some changes to my plan, but that is another thread.

If I hadn't seen this thread I would still be focused on the wrong thing. If I had actually raised all the money I would have been taking a much larger risk. I would have delayed the project significantly. I SHOULD HAVE FOCUSED ON WHAT I CAN DO NOW!

THANK YOU!

 

[Carny]

I just got off the phone with IceCreamKid and even though I thought I had a good plan he made it better. I don't think my idea had him super stoked, but it doesn't matter because it's not about the idea, it's the process. If you've been to this forum for five minutes you've read that. He told me right off the bat it's about the process. Then we talked for a while and he asked some questions. I answered and he said "so now you see it's about the process, right", and I did. Even though I've read that and was actually starting to believe it he let me SEE it. Once I've had more time to digest everything I'll post some more. It's almost 3 a.m. and real life starts back up in a few hours.

Thanks again ICK! It's an awesome feeling to know that someone actually cares enough to give back and help others out. I am truly grateful and if you ever need anything I can help with please let me know!

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Bigguns50]

Just a thought for those not so confident or experienced making ...ugh...I hate this word..."sales" calls. Actually, can I change that ? Can we call them...I don't know.... "opportunity call", "helping call", "courtesy call", "friendly call",.... a n y w a y...I could go on and on.

Point is..Tony has a list of 700 businesses to call. Let's say it takes him 100 calls of practice to get good at helping those businesses. He still has 600 calls to make ! That one call you have to make...? Chances are, it's not going to make or break you. It's just one call.

Pick up the phone...stumble, stutter, say your 'uhs' and 'ums'...then make another call. I know Tony F'd up some calls...I know he did ! But it doesn't matter. You hang up...and you go like.... "Ok, don't say that again..or ok, you forgot to say...."...and call the next number. You just get better and better.

 

[JEdwards]

Point is..Tony has a list of 700 businesses to call. Let's say it takes him 100 calls of practice to get good at helping those businesses. He still has 600 calls to make ! That one call you have to make...? Chances are, it's not going to make or break you. It's just one call.

.

Dont forget also that people forget. You can bomb all 700 calls, wait a few weeks and call again they will not remember you or hate you.

I once was trying out a new script with one of my callers, I got hung up on straight up. She said hand me the phone called the same lady back who hung up on me and had a 20 minute conversation.

 

[Enki]

I once was trying out a new script with one of my callers, I got hung up on straight up. She said hand me the phone called the same lady back who hung up on me and had a 20 minute conversation.

I worked as a telemarketer for a while in my late teens. I would get hung up on and a close friend of mine would call back and mimic their accent to a T. The person would open up like you wouldn't believe. I was amazed by it. This dude had a knack for subtle accent and dialect variations.

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[JEdwards]

I worked as a telemarketer for a while in my late teens. I would get hung up on and a close friend of mine would call back and mimic their accent to a T. The person would open up like you wouldn't believe. I was amazed by it. This dude had a knack for subtle accent and dialect variations.

Its called Mirroring. It works. For some people. Match the person who answers pace, accent etc. That works also.

 

[jpa0827]

Just a thought for those not so confident or experienced making ...ugh...I hate this word..."sales" calls. Actually, can I change that ? Can we call them...I don't know.... "opportunity call", "helping call", "courtesy call", "friendly call",.... a n y w a y...I could go on and on.

Point is..Tony has a list of 700 businesses to call. Let's say it takes him 100 calls of practice to get good at helping those businesses. He still has 600 calls to make ! That one call you have to make...? Chances are, it's not going to make or break you. It's just one call.

Pick up the phone...stumble, stutter, say your 'uhs' and 'ums'...then make another call. I know Tony F'd up some calls...I know he did ! But it doesn't matter. You hang up...and you go like.... "Ok, don't say that again..or ok, you forgot to say...."...and call the next number. You just get better and better.

This is 100% true. Sales Calls are a cheaper and faster way of optimizing your offer. Just like guys like zen******* and others talk about testing various ads or landing pages to sell a product. Picking up the phone will help you optimizing and adjusting your sales pitch/script/offer. You are able to hear rejections and learn how to get past them. You will find there are only x amount of rejections people will have, then they all will sound the same; therefore, you learn how to overcome them and turn them into your sale strengths. Track your numbers and adjustments and you will soon see a pattern/formula that works for you.

And as Jack said, people get a ton of phone calls everyday. They won't remember you after a period of time. Even if they do, who cares....you should have an even better more optimized offer/pitch the next time you talk to them.

OK Time for me to go do some calling today myself

 

[Bigguns50]

@jpa0827 " You are able to hear rejections and learn how to get past them."

I'll take this one step further. I'm working on a project and decided to go out and talk to part of my market one on one. As I explained my business....a glaze went over their eyes accompanied by a blank stare. In my head I'm like "Oh shit ! They don't get it ! They have no idea what I'm talking about."

My friends get it....my business aquaintences get it.... why doesn't my market get it ?

After some reflection..... they didn't get it because it's never been done this way. Its been done one way..... Forever.

These in-person talks were critical. I reworked and reworded all my marketing materials.......still working it.

I know this off topic from the thread but there is a great flow here from everyone.

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Cult45]

Incredible info on here. Thanks for posting !!!!

 

[HarryR]

Have you read JackEdwards story? The one about how he saved his mom and made millions in his 20's? Dude, the guy overcame some crazy odds and came out on top. Amazing. He has lots of ice cream now. And Cigars.

anyone remember the thread name for this and when it was posted? It sounds like something Id like to read.

 

[Windsurfer]

This is a great thread and i just read all the way through it. Really catching the vibe here. One of the things I wanted to share and it has to do less with business and more with life in general. My wife went sort of through a depressed state over the last few years. Our marriage suffered and we became distant. I always felt she was really pushing out negativity into the universe. She was always angry about something or talked down about others and it made me mad. I wanted her to see how mad I was for her negativity. But it only brought more of it. It was unbearable enough I seriously thought about leaving her. I kept telling myself she was bringing me down. Most people told me that you cannot surround yourself with that sort of negativity, it will only prevent you from becoming happy and successful in life. So I contemplated leaving even more.

Then one day it just clicked. It all fit together like a puzzle and I solved it. And my life right now is amazing. Her negativity was so contagious that it caught on like wildfire to anyone who was around, and especially me since i lived with her. And I tried to change her so desperately because I hated to see her this way. But the answer just stood there in front of me this one moment. I knew right then I could reverse it, because of the laws of nature. I was looking in the wrong place. I wasn't going to change her by yelling at her or telling her to stop being so negative. What I did was became so overly positive and happy and cheerful and made a change inside of me that it began to slowly catch on to her, and eventually the way I became and interacted with her and with others became so contagious she began to adopt my attitudes and behaviors. It was through my positive attitude and the changes I made within myself, that spread like wildfire to my wife.

So the BEST ADVICE I could ever give someone if they grow apart from their wife is not to try and save her or make her do anything. You change yourself and be the person you need to be and even be the person you want them to be, and do it with so much ambition and heart that it becomes so contagious. Once you learn you can do this, you can really see how you can influence others through your own behavior. It's amazing to see how much influence you truly do have by exuding positive energy.

Rem - That was a stupendous post! I transferred some of my Rep Bank money to you I loved it so much. I am struggling with my wife and going through many of the same issues. For instance, we are going down to Phoenix on vacation in a couple of weeks. She wants us to move down there from Minnesota (temperature reasons), so I am trying to figure out how to sell my real estate in MN and buy down there instead (or some model like that). So I told her I would drive to Albuquerque one-1.5 days while we are down there and discuss it with the mighty "Z".

Her answer was "you are not spoiling our vacation to go see some internet scam artist that you have some weird man crush on."

But I think a lot of the issues are me. I get mad or sad or depressed when she doesn't see my point of view. It's time to take our relationship by the cajones and exude that positive energy. Nobody likes to be around people who just mope around when they don't get their way.

I guess my big question in all this is how people manage to balance their family life and their fastlane endeavors? That seems to be My wife and I's biggest problem - especially since the bulk of my time is at my full-time corporate job? I have a bunch of real estate properties but not enough to quit my regular job. But I can't ramp up the real estate (or copywriting or whatever fastlane thing) much without keeping commitments to the family. I want to give my family ice cream, but they don't want me to take the time away from them making it. My wife is not into the entrepreneurial thing AT ALL.

Any thoughts on that anyone?

Bueller?

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Dan Willis]

Regardless of the community the concept at dedication to a single skilled trade for a short period is gold. I hear this time and again where people sacrifice a year of their life to achieving a new skill set and then end up cashing in for life on the dedication.

 

[Dan Willis]

Rem - That was a stupendous post! I transferred some of my Rep Bank money to you I loved it so much. I am struggling with my wife and going through many of the same issues. For instance, we are going down to Phoenix on vacation in a couple of weeks. She wants us to move down there from Minnesota (temperature reasons), so I am trying to figure out how to sell my real estate in MN and buy down there instead (or some model like that). So I told her I would drive to Albuquerque one-1.5 days while we are down there and discuss it with the mighty "Z".

Her answer was "you are not spoiling our vacation to go see some internet scam artist that you have some weird man crush on."

But I think a lot of the issues are me. I get mad or sad or depressed when she doesn't see my point of view. It's time to take our relationship by the cajones and exude that positive energy. Nobody likes to be around people who just mope around when they don't get their way.

I guess my big question in all this is how people manage to balance their family life and their fastlane endeavors? That seems to be My wife and I's biggest problem - especially since the bulk of my time is at my full-time corporate job? I have a bunch of real estate properties but not enough to quit my regular job. But I can't ramp up the real estate (or copywriting or whatever fastlane thing) much without keeping commitments to the family. I want to give my family ice cream, but they don't want me to take the time away from them making it. My wife is not into the entrepreneurial thing AT ALL.

Any thoughts on that anyone?

Bueller?

Hey man,

For many years my wife struggled with the same thing especially as the kiddos started coming. What she realized was that when she stopped fighting the innovation and nurtured it I was less stressed and the ideas started to work. Which in turn made it easier. I would seriously just have a heart to heart with your wife. Don't sales pitch her, but show her you are driven and passionate about shifting into the fast lane and you could use someone sitting next to on the drive!

 

[jpa0827]

anyone remember the thread name for this and when it was posted? It sounds like something Id like to read.

If you really want to know, I am sure you can find it under his posts or threads. Don't be lazy

Hint: It has a pretty significant title if I remember correctly

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[IceCreamKid]

Her answer was "you are not spoiling our vacation to go see some internet scam artist that you have some weird man crush on."
But I think a lot of the issues are me. I get mad or sad or depressed when she doesn't see my point of view. It's time to take our relationship by the cajones and exude that positive energy. Nobody likes to be around people who just mope around when they don't get their way.

I'll divorce my wife if I feel strongly enough about my dream and she refuses to support it.

There's this quote..."don't try to teach a pig to sing because you'll only frustrate yourself and annoy the pig".

It's a lot easier to find a ladybird who embraces the fastlane ideology than it is to convince a slowlaner that the fastlane is the better way.

 

[Dan Willis]

Again a conversation of passion with your wife, who I assume you love and loves you in return may save you divorcing for the sake of wealth. There is plenty of room in the fast lane.

 

[benh]

It's a lot easier to find a ladybird who embraces the fastlane ideology than it is to convince a slowlaner that the fastlane is the better way.

I'm very glad that my wife is into the fastlane thing and want's to see me succeed. More than just finding a partner who is into you being entrepreneurial you should find someone who will love and support you even if they don't quite understand what you are doing. My wife is very supportive and when I get frustrated with something I am programming she says "did you expect it to be easy?" She's a pretty smart lady

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Bigguns50]

@Windsurfer ... I feel ya bro. It took MONTHS , not weeks, days, or hours for my Wife to come around...and she's pretty sharp. Her Dad worked at Ford forever and retired. He played the market exceptionally well and hasn't had a financial worry for decades. THIS was what I was up against.

We had many conversations. We talked about our financial future. Best case scenario .... it wasn't going to end well. (and we'd both be working our asses off for decades....IF the companies we worked for didn't can us) I didn't push it. I just told her stories about guys here, in the news, people I know...and what they did to have freedom. I started taking action....and educating her. S l o w l e y she came around. She's all in and let me tell you....financially, right now...I'm struggling. But she knows it won't last because I choose to take action.

I don't know what angle you need to take with your Wife....just figure it out and do it.

Let us know how it's going. Good Luck.

 

[Windsurfer]

You guys are definitely better than any marriage counselor I could ever hire (maybe there's a business idea for someone)! Thanks so much for all the advice!

I'll divorce my wife if I feel strongly enough about my dream and she refuses to support it.

There's this quote..."don't try to teach a pig to sing because you'll only frustrate yourself and annoy the pig".

It's a lot easier to find a ladybird who embraces the fastlane ideology than it is to convince a slowlaner that the fastlane is the better way.

Hey Ice Cream Kid I understand where you are coming from, but I don't think I'm at that stage. We've been married 21 years and I am still crazy about her. I think I have to give it a real shot. I'm going to take all the advice from Rem, Dan Willis, benh, and Bigguns50 and give it my best. It sounds like they were able to do it - so it is possible. If it doesn't work out, then I will have to do something more drastic. Bottom line is the slowlane is just killing me and I have to get out of it soon. It is really hard to concentrate at work when I am thinking about how to improve my fastlane real estate stuff all the time.

Wish me luck - I'll keep you guys updated.

 

[davedev]

Tell her.

"I just need you to trust me"

IMHO.

What she realized was that when she stopped fighting the innovation and nurtured it I was less stressed and the ideas started to work. Which in turn made it easier. I would seriously just have a heart to heart with your wife.

Yup. Gotta turn the skepticism into nurturing. Get that and your golden. I think one of the keys of that is her trust.

Nobody, man or woman wants to be refused trust by someone they love.

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[Bigguns50]

@Windsurfer .... you got this !

the slowlane is just killing me and I have to get out of it soon

Sounds like a 'selling point'.

It is really hard to concentrate at work

Speaking of work...and maybe we want to take this up in a different thread....do you have time to work on a fastlane biz?

Better yet...start a thread, or find an appropriate thread and let's get you rockin' man !

 

[Windsurfer]

Tell her.
"I just need you to trust me"
IMHO.
Yup. Gotta turn the skepticism into nurturing. Get that and your golden. I think one of the keys of that is her trust.
Nobody, man or woman wants to be refused trust by someone they love.

Amen to that brother! I will give it a shot.

@Windsurfer .... you got this !

As I used to say back in my flying days "Roger, I have the aircraft"

Sounds like a 'selling point'.

I figure if I can sell to my wife I can sell to anyone - I look at it as great practice!

Speaking of work...and maybe we want to take this up in a different thread....do you have time to work on a fastlane biz?

Better yet...start a thread, or find an appropriate thread and let's get you rockin' man !

https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...tate-progress-thread.50119/page-2#post-331120

 

[rogen]

anyone remember the thread name for this and when it was posted? It sounds like something Id like to read.

JackEdwards is a friggin Entrepreneurial Marine SPECIAL OPERATIONS guy, he just went into unknown and emerged with victory in his hands

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[HarryR]

Thank you @IceCreamKid and everyone else who contributed to this thread. It was exactly what I needed to read today.

This is the first thread on the forum I read all of the way through. I think its exactly what I needed to get me past some of my current sticking points. I havent picked up the phone to sell anything in 4 years, and I have been a bit stuck.

I had a flash of an idea for what to pursue next. I'm thinking of just calling businesses and trying to get their pain points. I have almost no experience cold calling, and I dont really have a fixed product to sell or anything. I'm a freelance web coder with a small circle of client ive had for years, and what I've picked up from this thread is that the best way to move forward is to just get out and talk to people.

 

[PeeVee]

Nahhh I wasn't specifically referring to you, my brother! I see the mindset everywhere. There was one just yesterday where a guy was talking about jumping into the marijuana industry because it's about to grow 20% this year. It's also in the threads titled "I will make $1M in the next 12 months, just watch me".

We don't hate in the ice cream shop. It's all about sharing the love around here cuz there's enough to go around!



Dude, YES. There is something huge hidden deeper than just what you see on the surface. Listen, I used to pay huge money just to see great entrepreneurs give speeches in person. Why did I do that? Their energy. The movers and shakers have a certain energy about how they do things that I cannot explain in words. They're switched on, they're alive, they have an unmistakable fire in their eyes and pep in their step. After a while, you absorb that similar energy and it becomes part of your subconscious. This is the Zen side to the stuff. I struggle to put it into words, but I try.

You will get the ice cream soon, my friend. And we will proceed to get drunk, sing, dance, and break things.

I F*ckin luv this guy! Ice cream, singing, dancing and breaking things. Soaking up your posts @IceCreamKid. Your message is clear and adds major value to this forum.

 

[PeeVee]

Revolutionary Lessons From This Thread That Can Make You Rich In 30 Days…GUARANTEED!

By golly, I love writing these friggin headlines…copywriting is fun.

Listen up guys the tribe in Candy Land is growing both online in this forum and offline in the real world. I have quite a few members PM’ing me now and I’m helping them remove the mental issues that are sabotaging them. I can't believe I'm doing all of this for free haha. It feels almost like a creepy little movement. If you are having mental blocks that prevent you from taking action and wish to stay private, please PM me with what issues you think you have. I promise I am not trying to sell you anything. We here at the ice cream shop are only here to help others without any attachment to our personal gain. That always has been, and always will be, my commitment to you here.

Believe me, this growth of the tribe was not created by accident and was purely scientific. Would you like to know how to utilize these similar tactics to grow a business? Of course you do.

Put down the vodka and ice cream cone for a minute and let’s get moving so I can learn you some lessons about the hidden psychology behind why the tribe in Candy Land is growing.

1. Focus on your drunk fans who love ice cream. When you focus on the biggest, most passionate fans of your product they will go the extra mile to sing praises about your business. They will post about it on FB, IG. Give them what they want!

2. Lead with unconventional values. The ice cream thread preaches a set of values that are very different from most other threads. We are the drunken maniacs who run business from an angle of loving acceptance for others. We promote happiness and empowerment within others. This thread connects with a deeper part of your heart, which is why some of the members here have become loyal fans and have even PM’d me to discuss mental issues that are holding them back from success.

3. Build community. The ice cream thread is a community within a larger community. You can perhaps build a brand off of this movement of entrepreneurship from an angle of love and acceptance. We’re all about giving the people what they want, therefore they are loyal to us because we are loyal to them!

4. Give fans a name. All of you are a wonderful part of the ice cream shop and I like being able to call you guys my drunken ice cream addicted following. Customers like to have a strong sense of belonging. It creates loyalty to the brand.

5. Give them something to talk about. I purposely gave this thread a crazy theme so that people enjoy it, have fun with it, and learn from it at the same time. It’s much easier to build a business with a following when there’s a sense of fun, excitement, and craziness beneath everything. PEOPLE LIKE CRAZY. EVERYONE IS WEIRD ON SOME LEVEL. Believe it.

Back to work. Above all else, take action guys. Whatever it takes. Do it.

DO NOT BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH. IF YOU ARE NOT MAKING MISTAKES THEN YOU ARE NOT MOVING FAST ENOUGH.

Is failure really failure? or is it simply a way of re-directing us onto the right path? I don't subscribe to the term failure. Ice cream shops don't experience failure, they experience change and either you adapt or you don't. If you don't then you just stopped taking action.

 

Dislike ads? Remove them and support the forum: Subscribe to Fastlane Insiders.

[PeeVee]

That does sound weird - but awesome, too. All right, I'll be creating a list of things to repeat and record, then play it back over and over.

My last question to you, and thank you for answering, is what I know my true problem is. It's deciding and getting started. Even my girlfriend said last night "You constantly flit" (meaning jump from one thing to another). Like, one week I'll have the idea to write books for kindle, then the next open some websites, then import products, and so on, except I can never decide or make an action plan with the first step written down, and so I actually end up doing nothing at all.

Is this decision making and having the confidence to start something, see it through to the end, and complete it? This would be my fear. In some self-reflection I realized that except for my awfully paid freelance work, I hadn't completed something since about the age of 11.

Thank you again - every post I read here is like a step towards enlightenment, and I feel that this is my one true stumbling block - the inability to decide on one thing, focus, and see it through to the end. This is a recurring pattern - I don't finish books, and even if I do it's a rarity - I'm lacking the persistence.

Perhaps an audio - "I take action, make confident decisions, and see things through to the end, always." Sounds corny, but just writing this is making me realize it really could work.

You may not need to record. I have been using this while driving and it has changed my life in just a week. Very powerful!

 

[DeletedUser2]

@Windsurfer
you chose your wife for a reason. Trust her. HOWEVER.
there is a point when you need to be the man, and say, THIS is who I am, and THIS Is what I do, and I need your support and love. even if you dont understand it.

My wife, has not always understood what I do, or how. but she knows why. she knows that What I have done, or do, is for US, as a family and our shared vision. just because she cant see the shore, doesnt mean land is not there. I tell her, unfurl the sails, and let me drive. she gets to enjoy the ride.

She is a smart woman, and, supports me in what I want to do. as a result, I have given her an uncommon life.
Z