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Hi everybody! Great post @Johnny boy
I've widely investigated self-esteem in the past year, since I realized it had been (and to some extent sitll is) my weakness, and I'd like to contribute my 2 cents.
I suspect what was mainly discussed in the initial post is not strictly related to self-esteem, but rather to a general mindset that I have begun calling generically "mindset of the 90%". There's always been some sort of separation in the population in all ages. Just think about Plato, who talked about the Allegory of the cave 2,500 years ago. It was reiterated afterwards in many different variations, but guess what? People are still distributed in some sort of 90% zombie - 10% non-zombie proportion.
Now, the percentages are disputable and one person may fall in one category or the other according to the area of life discuss, the age, many conditions. Also, I don't presume I'm in the 10%, but I realize there is a 10% and I question myself all the time to understand if I am going towards that part of the distribution. I haven't accomplished much, but at least I am trying to orient myself in this great mistery called Life, and of that directed effort I am satisfied.
Given this, the specific self-esteem matter is of paramount importance. It was for me and I strongly believe it is the missing cornerstone for many people. I am recovering from low (pretty much absent) self-esteem and I've written a post in the INSIDERS' section about my journey (don't know why there and not in the public section...).
Briefly, it all started for me when I focused my attention on a quote from Ayn Rand: "What is greatness? I will answer: it is the capacity to live by the three fundamental values of John Galt: reason, purpose, self-esteem". I don't want to discuss here Rand, Galt or her most famous book Atlas Shrugged and I believe not all that glitters (there) is gold, but I've read it and I believe it portrays an extreme and unrealistic, yet super useful representation of the concept of Great Men and Women, people to look up to as models. Beside that, the quote draw my attention, because I had never focused too much on self-esteem. I simply accepted the fact that mine was low (external locus of control). After using it as desktop wallpaper as any wannabe (LOL), I started asking myself about self-esteem. Long story short, I discovered one book that can change lives, in my opinion.
"The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden can be super useful to anyone that has issues with self-esteem. It is of paramount importance to address self-esteem issues for everybody, as I now strongly believe (as Branden says) that no aspects of life or achievements can be thoroughly satisfying without a sound self-esteem.
And the six pillars are:
Self-esteem really is one of the cornerstone of a functional and satisfying life.
@Antifragile was really on point!
On top of self-esteem, I have been deploying a system to avoid "zombification":
I hope this adds something useful to the discussion.
All the best!
I've widely investigated self-esteem in the past year, since I realized it had been (and to some extent sitll is) my weakness, and I'd like to contribute my 2 cents.
I suspect what was mainly discussed in the initial post is not strictly related to self-esteem, but rather to a general mindset that I have begun calling generically "mindset of the 90%". There's always been some sort of separation in the population in all ages. Just think about Plato, who talked about the Allegory of the cave 2,500 years ago. It was reiterated afterwards in many different variations, but guess what? People are still distributed in some sort of 90% zombie - 10% non-zombie proportion.
Now, the percentages are disputable and one person may fall in one category or the other according to the area of life discuss, the age, many conditions. Also, I don't presume I'm in the 10%, but I realize there is a 10% and I question myself all the time to understand if I am going towards that part of the distribution. I haven't accomplished much, but at least I am trying to orient myself in this great mistery called Life, and of that directed effort I am satisfied.
Given this, the specific self-esteem matter is of paramount importance. It was for me and I strongly believe it is the missing cornerstone for many people. I am recovering from low (pretty much absent) self-esteem and I've written a post in the INSIDERS' section about my journey (don't know why there and not in the public section...).
Briefly, it all started for me when I focused my attention on a quote from Ayn Rand: "What is greatness? I will answer: it is the capacity to live by the three fundamental values of John Galt: reason, purpose, self-esteem". I don't want to discuss here Rand, Galt or her most famous book Atlas Shrugged and I believe not all that glitters (there) is gold, but I've read it and I believe it portrays an extreme and unrealistic, yet super useful representation of the concept of Great Men and Women, people to look up to as models. Beside that, the quote draw my attention, because I had never focused too much on self-esteem. I simply accepted the fact that mine was low (external locus of control). After using it as desktop wallpaper as any wannabe (LOL), I started asking myself about self-esteem. Long story short, I discovered one book that can change lives, in my opinion.
"The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden can be super useful to anyone that has issues with self-esteem. It is of paramount importance to address self-esteem issues for everybody, as I now strongly believe (as Branden says) that no aspects of life or achievements can be thoroughly satisfying without a sound self-esteem.
And the six pillars are:
- Living Consciously
- Self Acceptance
- Self Responsibility
- Self Assertiveness
- Living Purposefully
- Personal Integrity
Self-esteem really is one of the cornerstone of a functional and satisfying life.
@Antifragile was really on point!
On top of self-esteem, I have been deploying a system to avoid "zombification":
- good sleep + good diet + exercise -> fix most of the people's brain "hardware"; set up a high-performance machine
- meditation + gratitude + intentionality -> in-between “hardware” and “software”; it’s kind of like maintenance, to remain in the metaphor
- good mental models -> fix and overwrite previous "software"; they seem to work best on a high-performance machine
I hope this adds something useful to the discussion.
All the best!
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