Why do I keep on failing? I give myself every opportunity to win but nothing ever changes

[Darwin Diaz]

The last two years have been bad. I dropped out of school to play business. Drop shipping, marketing agency, and my latest? Website freelancing. I sacrificed a lot to make sure this last attempt would work -- bought Fox's course, moved states to get a new start, sold my car to pursue this fulltime. I could only manage to get one website out I wasn't even paid for before lack of money and discipline hit me.

At the end of the day I know the problem is me. I fall into my bad habits (phone addiction, junk food, porn) and spend less time on what potentially can change my life forever and more time doing absolutely nothing. I just don't F*cking know what to do anymore. If I can't even manage to successfully freelance what chance do I have of running a business?

I have a proper "whys" so there's no excuse. I'm F*cking lost. I don't know what to do with myself.

Tomorrow I move back in with my parents because I have no more money to support myself. I promised them I'd go back to school.

 

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[fastlane_dad]

The last two years have been bad. I dropped out of school to play business.

Tomorrow I move back in with my parents because I have no more money to support myself. I promised them I'd go back to school.

THIS is the problem right there.

You can't skip steps. You need a solid base or plan prior to embarking on the fastlane journey, as its neither QUICK NOR STRAIGHTFORWARD.

Take a few breaths, take note of your failures (and successes) - and pick back up where you left off.

Here is a good place to start to do this the way that worked for me (and I see as more or less right) ---> Millionaire Mindset

'Playing Business' is not a strategy or a plan. You need to be able to self sustain, and disconnect from your parents, to start getting your head in the game on how to pick up from there.

It took me 10 years before I figured out how to make 6 figures a year working for myself (14-24). It took me another 14 YEARS AFTER that to acquire an 8 figure net worth.

 

[Oso]

I still side with college isn't necessarily/always a waste of time. I don't believe the piece of paper is worth its cost, however I do believe the individual can make the experience potentially worth it. Regardless, you need some type of foundation to stand on. Simply put, bumming it at your parents house until <age> is cool, but you need your independence or entrepreneurship is difficult/almost impossible to maintain.

Focus on being independent via foundational job/"temporary career before/after college", etc., and then focus on turning that life into something fastlane/business-based.

P.S. No worries, mate, I had to learn this the hard way, too.

Cheers.

Edit: That said, it seems you definitely need to continue reminding yourself why you want to do this. You're in the prime position to decide. Some aren't meant for this: the discipline, sacrifice, etc. Perhaps you need to simply channel your energy into learning actual self-discipline (it's one of the greatest skills, after-all). Either way, if you are honest with yourself now, you will save yourself a lot of pain/wasted time later.

 

[wyattnorton]

The last two years have been bad. I dropped out of school to play business. Drop shipping, marketing agency, and my latest? Website freelancing. I sacrificed a lot to make sure this last attempt would work -- bought Fox's course, moved states to get a new start, sold my car to pursue this fulltime. I could only manage to get one website out I wasn't even paid for before lack of money and discipline hit me.

At the end of the day I know the problem is me. I fall into my bad habits (phone addiction, junk food, porn) and spend less time on what potentially can change my life forever and more time doing absolutely nothing. I just don't F*cking know what to do anymore. If I can't even manage to successfully freelance what chance do I have of running a business?

I have a proper "whys" so there's no excuse. I'm F*cking lost. I don't know what to do with myself.

Tomorrow I move back in with my parents because I have no more money to support myself. I promised them I'd go back to school.

Stop being so F*cking hard on yourself like you need to figure it all out in 10 days.

Go to school or get a job. Make some money and see opportunity.

I F*cking hate landscaping. I hate running materials. I hate dealing with clients and employees bullshit. But everything I am doing right NOW has a purpose to learn me the game of life and business.

You have to dive into something and just commit, no matter how much fear you feel.

I feel anxiety all the time, and then I go do the thing and it disappears. Eventually, after plenty of times of doing it I feel little or no anxiety of doing that thing.

I am assuming you're young. Give yourself 5 years to learn and 5 years to build.

Who knows, you might mess around and find something faster than you expect.

 

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[DuncDad]

The last two years have been bad. I dropped out of school to play business. Drop shipping, marketing agency, and my latest? Website freelancing. I sacrificed a lot to make sure this last attempt would work -- bought Fox's course, moved states to get a new start, sold my car to pursue this fulltime. I could only manage to get one website out I wasn't even paid for before lack of money and discipline hit me.

At the end of the day I know the problem is me. I fall into my bad habits (phone addiction, junk food, porn) and spend less time on what potentially can change my life forever and more time doing absolutely nothing. I just don't F*cking know what to do anymore. If I can't even manage to successfully freelance what chance do I have of running a business?

I have a proper "whys" so there's no excuse. I'm F*cking lost. I don't know what to do with myself.

Tomorrow I move back in with my parents because I have no more money to support myself. I promised them I'd go back to school.

Story of my life. I'm 54 and still trying. Never Ever give up!
Sometimes you need a job to pay the bills, keep a roof over your head, feed your kids and so on.
DM me if you want to an ally in your corner.

 

[Darwin Diaz]

THIS is the problem right there.

You can't skip steps. You need a solid base or plan prior to embarking on the fastlane journey, as its neither QUICK NOR STRAIGHTFORWARD.

Take a few breaths, take note of your failures (and successes) - and pick back up where you left off.

Here is a good place to start to do this the way that worked for me (and I see as more or less right) ---> Millionaire Mindset

'Playing Business' is not a strategy or a plan. You need to be able to self sustain, and disconnect from your parents, to start getting your head in the game on how to pick up from there.

It took me 10 years before I figured out how to make 6 figures a year working for myself (14-24). It took me another 14 YEARS AFTER that to acquire an 8 figure net worth.

Maybe I’ve romanticized entrepreneurship too much in my head. I seriously had the mindset that I’d be able to move out, live in my own for the first time, in a new state with no car, job, or connections AND on top of that start a successful business. besides the huge embarrassment, this was a humbling experience - I’m not special.

At the very least I need a base to start from and that’s what I’m going to focus on for the next year. Building discipline and building a stable life….

Exercise meditation self love… I need to take a few steps back before going forward

@wyattnorton @Oso

 

[MJ DeMarco]

I could only manage to get one website out I wasn't even paid for before lack of money and discipline hit me.

So you succeed at selling a high-value skill, but gave up? Because a client didn't pay?

That's like winning a race and then saying you lost because the host didn't give you the prize money.

You won. Or was this a freebie that the client found zero value in?

IMO, the next step would not have been to quit.

 

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[Johnny boy]

freelancing is for retards, who moves out before getting a single sale? lol

you're always supposed to do some sort of test in order to get some evidence that you'll be able to bring in customers frequently enough. that's always one of the first steps, at least it's always before the "move out" step lol

 

[Darwin Diaz]

So you succeed at selling a high-value skill, but gave up? Because a client didn't pay?

That's like winning a race and then saying you lost because the host didn't give you the prize money.

You won. Or was this a freebie that the client found zero value in?

IMO, the next step would not have been to quit.

Hey MJ. It’s was a freebie that the client found no value in — I offered them a free site to build my portfolio. Got it done but since they had no skin in the game they didn’t care and don’t use the site.

I’m not giving up. I just need to reevaluate my efforts because tbh I know I could’ve done so much more if worrying about where I’d be living each month and being lazy weren’t an issue

 

[Oso]

Hey MJ. It’s was a freebie that the client found no value in — I offered them a free site to build my portfolio. Got it done but since they had no skin in the game they didn’t care and don’t use the site.

I’m not giving up. I just need to reevaluate my efforts because tbh I know I could’ve done so much more if worrying about where I’d be living each month and being lazy weren’t an issue

This is exactly the lesson to be learned (one I said I had to learn the hard way, too).

It's almost impossible to focus on providing value if you're having to focus on worrying about how you're going to pay <insert bill here>. The time you put into things in this life will compound, so pick a skill you deem interesting, and then hyper-focus on it. For instance, you created your first website and that's excellent progress, however you must learn to press beyond that to figure out how you provide value (your niche: be it skillset, career, side hustle, etc.).

The goal is to continually evolve and grow both your personal being and skillset.

It's a marathon, not a race: enjoy every step.

 

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[SEBASTlAN]

Welcome to entrepreneurship

 

[CL100]

Maybe I’ve romanticized entrepreneurship too much in my head. I seriously had the mindset that I’d be able to move out, live in my own for the first time, in a new state with no car, job, or connections AND on top of that start a successful business. besides the huge embarrassment, this was a humbling experience - I’m not special.

At the very least I need a base to start from and that’s what I’m going to focus on for the next year. Building discipline and building a stable life….

Exercise meditation self love… I need to take a few steps back before going forward

@wyattnorton @Oso

Good morning,

I don't know if you've read the TMF . But did you go through CENTS?

I think I understand the flaw in your psychology. You essentially put your self in a position of desperation to force yourself to make it as it were. However the flaw is you focused on YOUR motives, the market doesn't care how badly you want to it make but actually what you can produce and value you can bring to it. Get back to the CENTS drawing board.

I'm a wannapreneur myself btw. I've jumped into a thing before and lost £1000 as I didn't know about or follow the CENTS framework.

Regards,

Cee.

 

[JustMorpheus]

The last two years have been bad. I dropped out of school to play business. Drop shipping, marketing agency, and my latest? Website freelancing. I sacrificed a lot to make sure this last attempt would work -- bought Fox's course, moved states to get a new start, sold my car to pursue this fulltime. I could only manage to get one website out I wasn't even paid for before lack of money and discipline hit me.

At the end of the day I know the problem is me. I fall into my bad habits (phone addiction, junk food, porn) and spend less time on what potentially can change my life forever and more time doing absolutely nothing. I just don't F*cking know what to do anymore. If I can't even manage to successfully freelance what chance do I have of running a business?

I have a proper "whys" so there's no excuse. I'm F*cking lost. I don't know what to do with myself.

Tomorrow I move back in with my parents because I have no more money to support myself. I promised them I'd go back to school.

It sounds like you’re going through a tough time and that things don’t seem to be going according to your plan.

-Challenge
-Shame
-Confusion
-Doubt
-Insecurity
-Fear
-Grief

You’re stepping outside of you comfort zone. Those are all apart of that process. You feel lost and doubtful because you’re going in the RIGHT direction. You’re trying to do is something challenging. So there’s no need to feel ashamed.

You mentioned that you struggle with discipline and bad habits. How do you plan to overcome those??

 

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[DavidePaco00]

The last two years have been bad. I dropped out of school to play business. Drop shipping, marketing agency, and my latest? Website freelancing. I sacrificed a lot to make sure this last attempt would work -- bought Fox's course, moved states to get a new start, sold my car to pursue this fulltime. I could only manage to get one website out I wasn't even paid for before lack of money and discipline hit me.

At the end of the day I know the problem is me. I fall into my bad habits (phone addiction, junk food, porn) and spend less time on what potentially can change my life forever and more time doing absolutely nothing. I just don't F*cking know what to do anymore. If I can't even manage to successfully freelance what chance do I have of running a business?

I have a proper "whys" so there's no excuse. I'm F*cking lost. I don't know what to do with myself.

Tomorrow I move back in with my parents because I have no more money to support myself. I promised them I'd go back to school.

You're acting like a victim, my friend. Saying that You fall into your bad habits discharges You of any responsability. You got to work out that discipline muscle hard, my friend.

Start meditating and write a to do list for today, this week , and this month. Set realistic goals and just work, HARD.

There is no shortcut to discipline my friend, It's created by being in the trences. Fortunately tho, discipline and concentration follow the compound effect principle, meaning that the more time You invest in them, regardless how You feel, the more effortless it gets.

Cheers

Davide