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Trying to move out of parent's place, not sure which option makes the most sense

What do you think is the best option when it comes to moving out and staying out?

  • Closer to my job but further from the fun parts of town

    Votes: 5 31.3%

  • Midway between my job and the fun parts of town

    Votes: 1 6.3%

  • Closer to the fun parts of town but further from my job

    Votes: 1 6.3%

  • You can't afford to move out without a roommate, you need to split and reduce rent

    Votes: 3 18.8%

  • You can't afford to move out at all, keep saving money

    Votes: 6 37.5%
  • Total voters
    16

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<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 142181" data-quote="BPH1994" data-source="post: 1149714" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1149714" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1149714">BPH1994 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/39527/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="39527" data-username="@Simon Angel">@Simon Angel</a> real quick, just because I want to make sure I&#039;m not going about this like an idiot.<br /> <br /> I narrowed down my search to the final few. Most half-decent places are around $1,100 - $1,200/mo in rent.<br /> <br /> With my current income and savings, and because I may end up leaving my job when I tell my boss about my move, do you think I can afford this? Or should I adopt the mindset of &quot;I don&#039;t care, I&#039;ll make it work&quot;? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>You started this thread on November 17th. If you still must ask, that lack of action should be your answer. Successful people make decisions quickly and rarely change them. They have a sense of timing and they move when they get that itch. I can&#039;t explain how I know it&#039;s time to leap. I just get a feeling. I joke that I can feel the earth moving under my feet. You don&#039;t sound like you know it&#039;s time.</div>
 
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<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 51608" data-quote="WJK" data-source="post: 1149716" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1149716" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1149716">WJK said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> You don&#039;t sound like you know it&#039;s time. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Of course not, and that&#039;s exactly why I feel the need to do this - because I haven&#039;t known whether it&#039;s time for the last 7 years.<br /> <br /> In the time since I last posted in this thread, I narrowed my search down to 9 options, and I&#039;m trying to narrow it further so I can go out and look at these units. I just don&#039;t want to be stupid about putting myself into too much of a sink-or-swim situation to end up back where I am now.<br /> <br /> I want to ensure this price point isn&#039;t too far out of reach for my current financial situation.</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 142181" data-quote="BPH1994" data-source="post: 1149720" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1149720" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1149720">BPH1994 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Of course not, and that&#039;s exactly why I feel the need to do this - because I haven&#039;t known whether it&#039;s time for the last 7 years.Tha<br /> <br /> In the time since I last posted in this thread, I narrowed my search down to 9 options, and I&#039;m trying to narrow it further so I can go out and look at these units. I just don&#039;t want to be stupid about putting myself into too much of a sink-or-swim situation to end up back where I am now.<br /> <br /> I want to ensure this price point isn&#039;t too far out of reach for my current financial situation. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>That&#039;s the whole point.</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 142181" data-quote="BPH1994" data-source="post: 1149714" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1149714" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1149714">BPH1994 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/39527/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="39527" data-username="@Simon Angel">@Simon Angel</a> real quick, just because I want to make sure I&#039;m not going about this like an idiot.<br /> <br /> I narrowed down my search to the final few. Most half-decent places are around $1,100 - $1,200/mo in rent.<br /> <br /> With my current income and savings, and because I may end up leaving my job when I tell my boss about my move, do you think I can afford this? Or should I adopt the mindset of &quot;I don&#039;t care, I&#039;ll make it work&quot;? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> If you want to play it safe, don&#039;t move and keep your job i.e live with your parents at 30 and eat shit from your boss.<br /> <br /> If you want your life to change, move to the new place. Take the risk, figure it out.<br /> <br /> What would you regret more? Losing all of your money or being in the same situation you are now after another 5 years?<br /> <br /> The decision is yours.<br /> <br /> <blockquote data-attributes="member: 142181" data-quote="BPH1994" data-source="post: 1149720" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1149720" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1149720">BPH1994 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Of course not, and that&#039;s exactly why I feel the need to do this - because I haven&#039;t known whether it&#039;s time for the last 7 years.<br /> <br /> In the time since I last posted in this thread, I narrowed my search down to 9 options, and I&#039;m trying to narrow it further so I can go out and look at these units. I just don&#039;t want to be stupid about putting myself into too much of a sink-or-swim situation to end up back where I am now.<br /> <br /> I want to ensure this price point isn&#039;t too far out of reach for my current financial situation. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> 9 units? When I wanted to move I hired an attractive RE agent to look at places for me. I told her I wanted a more affordable one, but not a dump and I was willing to wait for a few weeks.<br /> <br /> She kept sending me offers almost every day. Eventually, she sent me a good one—the apartment had just been completely renovated—and it fit my budget. We went to check it out, I liked what I saw, and I signed the papers on the same day.</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper"><a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/142181/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="142181" data-username="@BPH1994">@BPH1994</a> What&#039;s up?</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 39527" data-quote="Simon Angel" data-source="post: 1152705" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1152705" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1152705">Simon Angel said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> <a href="https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/members/142181/" class="username" data-xf-init="member-tooltip" data-user-id="142181" data-username="@BPH1994">@BPH1994</a> What&#039;s up? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Nothing great, sorry to say.<br /> <br /> I decided to go the route you went and try a RE agent to help me find a decent place. I&#039;ve got about 1600 friends on Facebook so I posted a status update asking if anybody knew somebody who could help with this. A good friend of mine refers me to the RE agent that helped him and his girlfriend find a place and had nothing but good things to say about him.<br /> <br /> It takes him 2 days to respond to my Facebook message, and I&#039;m telling my friend to give him my info so he can reach out to me. He finally texts me and I learn he&#039;s away in Italy until January 6th, he asks me what I&#039;m looking for, and tells me somebody will reach out to me later that day.<br /> <br /> That was back on the 19th. I still have not heard back from him or anybody with his team. I figure the holidays are hectic, so I try him again on the 27th, still haven&#039;t heard back. And this isn&#039;t some rinky dink mom &amp; pop brokerage, this is Keller Williams.<br /> <br /> Today I got fed up and asked a RE I used to work alongside in a much smaller brokerage whether he knew anybody, and he referred me to a guy I texted today. Same thing, asked what I was looking for, but so far has not responded after I described that to him.<br /> <br /> My friend that referred the first guy told me some horror stories he and his girlfriend had while apartment shopping before they linked up with him, so right now I&#039;m somewhere between &quot;I don&#039;t want to do something stupid and lock myself into a bad deal for a year&quot; and &quot;f*** it this is taking too long, I&#039;ll do it myself.&quot;<br /> <br /> My entrepreneurial efforts have been pretty stagnant during the holidays with the 4 PM sunsets leaving me incredibly tired the rest of the day, but that&#039;s beside the point.<br /> <br /> The only real positive, unfortunately, is that I&#039;ve managed to save another $2,000. So I&#039;m up to $12,000 saved away, following my most recent student loan payment.</div>
 
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<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 142181" data-quote="BPH1994" data-source="post: 1152792" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1152792" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1152792">BPH1994 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Nothing great, sorry to say.<br /> <br /> I decided to go the route you went and try a RE agent to help me find a decent place. I&#039;ve got about 1600 friends on Facebook so I posted a status update asking if anybody knew somebody who could help with this. A good friend of mine refers me to the RE agent that helped him and his girlfriend find a place and had nothing but good things to say about him.<br /> <br /> It takes him 2 days to respond to my Facebook message, and I&#039;m telling my friend to give him my info so he can reach out to me. He finally texts me and I learn he&#039;s away in Italy until January 6th, he asks me what I&#039;m looking for, and tells me somebody will reach out to me later that day.<br /> <br /> That was back on the 19th. I still have not heard back from him or anybody with his team. I figure the holidays are hectic, so I try him again on the 27th, still haven&#039;t heard back. And this isn&#039;t some rinky dink mom &amp; pop brokerage, this is Keller Williams.<br /> <br /> Today I got fed up and asked a RE I used to work alongside in a much smaller brokerage whether he knew anybody, and he referred me to a guy I texted today. Same thing, asked what I was looking for, but so far has not responded after I described that to him.<br /> <br /> My friend that referred the first guy told me some horror stories he and his girlfriend had while apartment shopping before they linked up with him, so right now I&#039;m somewhere between &quot;I don&#039;t want to do something stupid and lock myself into a bad deal for a year&quot; and &quot;f*** it this is taking too long, I&#039;ll do it myself.&quot;<br /> <br /> My entrepreneurial efforts have been pretty stagnant during the holidays with the 4 PM sunsets leaving me incredibly tired the rest of the day, but that&#039;s beside the point.<br /> <br /> The only real positive, unfortunately, is that I&#039;ve managed to save another $2,000. So I&#039;m up to $12,000 saved away, following my most recent student loan payment. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>Do you have a property listing website where you shop directly?</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 64612" data-quote="Kevin88660" data-source="post: 1152793" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1152793" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1152793">Kevin88660 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> Do you have a property listing website where you shop directly? </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> I&#039;d been looking on Apartments.com, Zillow, and AirBNB. The latter 2 had pretty terrible listings, and fewer listings, so Apartments.com has been where I&#039;ve spent most of my time looking and favoriting potential spots.<br /> <br /> RE agents will have access to the database, I believe it&#039;s RRR, but can&#039;t remember what it stands for. That would be the advantage of going with them.<br /> <br /> If there are any other listing sites worth looking at, I&#039;m not aware of them.</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 142181" data-quote="BPH1994" data-source="post: 1152794" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1152794" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1152794">BPH1994 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I&#039;d been looking on Apartments.com, Zillow, and AirBNB. The latter 2 had pretty terrible listings, and fewer listings, so Apartments.com has been where I&#039;ve spent most of my time looking and favoriting potential spots.<br /> <br /> RE agents will have access to the database, I believe it&#039;s RRR, but can&#039;t remember what it stands for. That would be the advantage of going with them.<br /> <br /> If there are any other listing sites worth looking at, I&#039;m not aware of them. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote>I understand you are looking for a place to rent.<br /> <br /> If you go through the listings and contact the seller’s agent directly. You can even save the agent fee.<br /> <br /> Unless you are in a hurry, the tenant can always go agent less and research and shop around, without an agent. <br /> <br /> It’s the landlord who will always engage an agent who pays for the advertising and brings in prospective tenant for flat view.</div>
 
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<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 64612" data-quote="Kevin88660" data-source="post: 1152795" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1152795" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1152795">Kevin88660 said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I understand you are looking for a place to rent.<br /> <br /> If you go through the listings and contact the seller’s agent directly. You can even save the agent fee. </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> Typically, the agent would be paid a commission based on a percentage of the annual rent of the apartment they helped me find, paid by the landlord.<br /> <br /> So I wouldn&#039;t be liable for a fee either way.</div>
 
<div class="bbWrapper">I&#039;m willing to bet it&#039;s the verbiage you use when talking to an RE, that they then place you on the bottom of the pile.. <br /> When my wife and I were house hunting, I said &quot;We&#039;re serious, we need a house asap, paying cash&quot; (Took a loan from my parents, then got a mortgage after closing).. Anyways we had 3 realtors jumping at the chance, and went and visited a few houses literally within the hour.<br /> You have to speak their language!</div>
 
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<div class="bbWrapper"><blockquote data-attributes="member: 27703" data-quote="EngineerThis" data-source="post: 1152806" class="bbCodeBlock bbCodeBlock--expandable bbCodeBlock--quote js-expandWatch"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-title"> <a href="/community/goto/post?id=1152806" class="bbCodeBlock-sourceJump" rel="nofollow" data-xf-click="attribution" data-content-selector="#post-1152806">EngineerThis said:</a> </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-content"> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandContent js-expandContent "> I&#039;m willing to bet it&#039;s the verbiage you use when talking to an RE, that they then place you on the bottom of the pile..<br /> When my wife and I were house hunting, I said &quot;We&#039;re serious, we need a house asap, paying cash&quot; (Took a loan from my parents, then got a mortgage after closing).. Anyways we had 3 realtors jumping at the chance, and went and visited a few houses literally within the hour.<br /> You have to speak their language! </div> <div class="bbCodeBlock-expandLink js-expandLink"><a role="button" tabindex="0">Click to expand...</a></div> </div> </blockquote><br /> It probably is...and to an extent I get it.<br /> <br /> Somebody looking to rent a $1,200 or less apartment in Philadelphia doesn&#039;t exactly scream &quot;payday&quot;.<br /> <br /> On the bright side, I did finally get a response from the Keller Williams guy. He asked if I had any pets and then told me he would email me some units that fit my criteria so we could set up tours.</div>
 
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