I was reading a chapter from "The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success" by Deepak Chopra.
One chapter brought up the law of detachment. I resonated with that law very much, because it is a sane idea to be detached from many things. Not for the sake of avoiding stuff, but for the sake of dealing with stuff.
Look at people in war zones. The only way for them to survive and have the stamina to live on despite seeing people with their heads blown of or other parts of the bodies badly damaged or entirely eliminated most have to do with their ability to detach themselfs from the whole mess.
I have a way of detaching myself in many cases related to body pain. If I am running and I injure my foot, then I have the ability to detach myself from the feeling of the pain or seriously reduce my feeling of pain in the foot.
I would be happy to detach myself from my attachment to what other people think of me, because that is still very hard for me to detach from. But I will get there. But it will take some time and very good effort. My whole life I have been drilled to be somewhat of a little loyal soldier. Smiling on demand, doing things on demand. That is something that you don't remove in a couple of weeks. Especially since I was drilled from the age of 3 to be like this. What ever parents out there do (all of you reading in particular): Don't drill your kids to be too kind, it won't serve them at all. It is a nice thought, but a non-working method in adulthood.
You can be respectable of other people in a healthy way, but if you are too respectful and too kind then you set yourself up to be taken advantage of. I know, because I have been that "taken advantage of" guy my whole childhood. It is only now at the age of 23 that I have started to question my whole life and my viewpoints of life. And many new insights have shocked me. I am almost 180% degrees from what I was at the age of 16.
My goals on the detachment part (to be developed during 2009 and onward through life):
- Detach myself from what other people believe I should be.
- Detach myself from what I think other people think I should do and deliver on.
Detach myself from being so damn political correct just for the sake of not rubbing people off. This is grounded in the idea that you can't get somewhere if you are not prepared of getting a little dirty. You can't please everyone and who cares anyhow what the pessimistic idiots think? What a lovely thought, don't you agree?
- Detach myself from all people who have no real benefit to me and my goals. That means detaching myself from seeing them or replying to them. They are just cut of, bye bye (something I have been pretty good at already. If a relationship is too hard these days, then I just throw a die on the subject. An odd number means removing them from all aspects of my life. Wiped out).
-Detach myself from looking at life seriously. Everything worth doing is worth doing for play. No matter what we are talking about. Everything goes (see, already politicly incorrect and I love it enormously
). Sex, business, friendships etc. Who cares anyhow? When I am dead I sure as hell won't ponder on why I said what I said or why I acted as I acted. Seriously: Why are we investing so much time, energy and money on being so damn correct all the time? What a waste. Still after having invested all of that time, energy and money you will still lose because of some damned accidential happening and you are back to square 1 (no matter how carefull or smart you are). Happens me all the time it seems, so why bother being serious in the first place? Sometimes throwing a die has actually made me more money, resulting in me finding myself better friends than the friends I had before and also made me feel happier than ever before.
So, your thoughts on detachment and it's benefit or liabilities to everyday living? Your goalsetting on the detachment subject for year 2009 and onward?
One chapter brought up the law of detachment. I resonated with that law very much, because it is a sane idea to be detached from many things. Not for the sake of avoiding stuff, but for the sake of dealing with stuff.
Look at people in war zones. The only way for them to survive and have the stamina to live on despite seeing people with their heads blown of or other parts of the bodies badly damaged or entirely eliminated most have to do with their ability to detach themselfs from the whole mess.
I have a way of detaching myself in many cases related to body pain. If I am running and I injure my foot, then I have the ability to detach myself from the feeling of the pain or seriously reduce my feeling of pain in the foot.
I would be happy to detach myself from my attachment to what other people think of me, because that is still very hard for me to detach from. But I will get there. But it will take some time and very good effort. My whole life I have been drilled to be somewhat of a little loyal soldier. Smiling on demand, doing things on demand. That is something that you don't remove in a couple of weeks. Especially since I was drilled from the age of 3 to be like this. What ever parents out there do (all of you reading in particular): Don't drill your kids to be too kind, it won't serve them at all. It is a nice thought, but a non-working method in adulthood.
You can be respectable of other people in a healthy way, but if you are too respectful and too kind then you set yourself up to be taken advantage of. I know, because I have been that "taken advantage of" guy my whole childhood. It is only now at the age of 23 that I have started to question my whole life and my viewpoints of life. And many new insights have shocked me. I am almost 180% degrees from what I was at the age of 16.
My goals on the detachment part (to be developed during 2009 and onward through life):
- Detach myself from what other people believe I should be.
- Detach myself from what I think other people think I should do and deliver on.
Detach myself from being so damn political correct just for the sake of not rubbing people off. This is grounded in the idea that you can't get somewhere if you are not prepared of getting a little dirty. You can't please everyone and who cares anyhow what the pessimistic idiots think? What a lovely thought, don't you agree?
- Detach myself from all people who have no real benefit to me and my goals. That means detaching myself from seeing them or replying to them. They are just cut of, bye bye (something I have been pretty good at already. If a relationship is too hard these days, then I just throw a die on the subject. An odd number means removing them from all aspects of my life. Wiped out).
-Detach myself from looking at life seriously. Everything worth doing is worth doing for play. No matter what we are talking about. Everything goes (see, already politicly incorrect and I love it enormously
). Sex, business, friendships etc. Who cares anyhow? When I am dead I sure as hell won't ponder on why I said what I said or why I acted as I acted. Seriously: Why are we investing so much time, energy and money on being so damn correct all the time? What a waste. Still after having invested all of that time, energy and money you will still lose because of some damned accidential happening and you are back to square 1 (no matter how carefull or smart you are). Happens me all the time it seems, so why bother being serious in the first place? Sometimes throwing a die has actually made me more money, resulting in me finding myself better friends than the friends I had before and also made me feel happier than ever before.So, your thoughts on detachment and it's benefit or liabilities to everyday living? Your goalsetting on the detachment subject for year 2009 and onward?
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