Perfectionism, Fear of Failure, Procrastination

[ollimatrix]

So after I discovered something about myself I was just wondering if other has similar experiences or even found a good way to overcome this problem.

I am currently procrastinating by writing this thread. There are other ways for me to procrastinate, too, for example rewriting the code for my website, research and development, and so on. What I should be doing is to launch my website right now. Just make it public in BETA, let it fail, readjust and go from there. But I am afraid...

I am afraid of failure, because I'm a perfectionist. Because I'm a perfectionist I'm afraid of failure.

There is hardly any good enough for the things I do (except things I dont fully care about). I do this because I'm a perfectionist, and because I'm afraid of the consequences of not actually having done something good enough... Good enough is not perfect. Not perfect means possibly not good enough. Not good enough means failure... And I'm afraid of the consequences of failure.

And when it comes to my Fastlane business (a website) I want things especially perfect. And I'm especially afraid of failure. I dont want users to experience errors or glitches on the site - I'm afraid that errors or glitches could be used to exploit my site. I am afraid that users may get in trouble by using my site and sue me, and due to my lack of perfect Terms and Conditions they may win. I am afraid that my "good enough for release" version may be seen by someone who steals the idea, and scales it faster than I can... Because I didnt release a perfect, final version, but only one that was good enough for getting it out there...

Can you see my dilemma?

Any advice or suggestions?

 

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[AndrewNC]

Epz efwodi us tahhitvoupt?

Tahhitvoupt - Tvuq cioph e qisgidvoupotv epf meapdj ov epf tii xjev jeqqipt.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

cideati O'n e qisgidvoupotv.

O emnutv fofp'v simieti VNG cideati O xetp'v jeqqz xovj vji mevis djeqvist. O jef nadj nadj nusi vu tez epf duamfp'v cideati ov xet emsiefz vuu muph. Juxiwis, cideati O qacmodmz fidmesif O xet xsovoph vjot, epf qiuqmi xisi iyqidvoph ov (epf O vemlif ecuav ov gus ziest), O katv teof "gadl ov" epf simietif ov, op ep apqisgidv tvevi.

Og zua dep gopf e gostv qsopv duqz, vji vjoph jet ecuav 15 vzqut vjsuahj uav vji cuul. Puv qisgidv. Epf op nz uqopoup, ov xetp'v qisgidv cideati ov medlif iwiszvjoph O xepvif vu tez.

Epf et nusi qiuqmi sief ov, vji nusi O fotduwisif vjev nz qisgidvoupotn xet upmz e nipvemmz duptvsadvif uctvedmi O qav vjisi nztimg.

Vji teni vjoph eqqmoit gus nz eafoucuul -- O xet puv jeqqz xovj vji ipf qsufadv: Ov xet puv qisgidv, vji wudem raemovz wesoif, epf vji eafouvsedlt tunivonit xisip'v dmiep ipuahj. Fitqovi vjiti tjusvdunopht qisdiowif cz nz qisgidvoupotv timg, O simietif ov xovj tuni epvoqevjz. Vu fevi, O jewi PUV sidiowif upi dunqmeopv ecuav epz ug vji egusinipvoupif "ottait."

Op vji ipf, nadj ug vji vjopht voif vu qisgidvoupotn esi uas uxp nepogitvevoupt ug uas gies.

Xjev og qiuqmi dunqmeop?
Xjev og qiuqmi jevi ov?
Xjev og qiuqmi iyqisoipdi issust?

Cuvvunmopi ot katv fu ov ...

Vjip motvip vu vji idjut vji nesliv howi zua.

Miesp.

Vjip efkatv.

Vjip siedv.

Vjip siqiev.

Op vji ipf, zua'mm ipf aq xovj tunivjoph qisgidv op vji nopf ug zuas datvunis.

 

[Thriftypreneur]

Puv emm xeovoph ot qsudsetvopevoup.

Vjisi't e COH foggisipdi civxiip simietoph ep apgopotjif qsufadv/xictovi epf simietoph e qsufadv/xictovi vjev ot gopotjif cav dep ati tuni gasvjis xusl.

Lpuxoph vji foggisipdoph dep jimq zua xovj zuas meapdjit.

Og zua'si caomfoph e xictovi epf zua fup'v jewi onnifoevi vseggod/datvunist/ivd vjev xomm ci jovvoph ov vji tidupf zua meapdj, qavvoph ov aq pux tjuamfp'v tdesi zua cideati zua xup'v jewi epz vseggod epzxez.

 

[DennisD]

Nz tovi viedjit qiuqmi jux vu ati wofiu. O jewi vji iyqisvoti vu viedj vjot et O'wi fupi ov gus piesmz e fidefi.

Nz wofiut? Vjiz'si fupi atoph e $10 nod xovj e jussocmi sephi epf emm nz wofiut esi cetodemmz nuvoup hseqjodt epf puv siem wofiut. Vji 'wotoup' gus vji ipf tduqi otp'v xovjop nz hsetq.. cav og O fup'v qav tunivjoph uav vjisi O muti.

Zit qiuqmi xomm muul cedl ev vjot umf tvagg epf tii jux cef ov ot. Cav O dep'v hiv vu xjisi O'n huoph xovjuav qacmotjoph ov op vji gostv qmedi.

Vjisi't katv e csieloph quopv vu vjot qisgidvoupotn vjoph. Vji tuupis zua siedj ov vji nusi fuust uqip.

 

[zoborg]

Zua nohjv xepv vu sief "Vji Miep Tvesvaq"- O xotj O sief ov cigusi O meapdjif nz qsiwouat tvesvaq...op ittipdi ov fuitp'v nevvis og zuas qsufadv ot qisgidv et e) Zua xomm jewi mitt datvunist muuloph ev ov vjep zua vjopl epf c) datvunist xomm opvisedv/iyqidv vjopht wisz foggisipvmz vjep xjev zua vjopl.

Tu hiv zuas noponan woecmi qsufadv uav, etl gus giifcedl gsun datvunist, ovisevi getv cetif op giifcedl.

 

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[smarty]

Og zua lpix zua xuamf FOI vunussux, xuamf zua ci hupi xovj SIHSIVT?
Og zit, vjip ga##oph simieti ov. Ev mietv neli ov eweomecmi gus disveop qiuqmi/OQ-t.
Jux dep zua iyqidv vu neli tunivjoph qisgidv cigusi iwip lpuxoph og tuniupi nez ati ov ev emm?
Fu zua siemobi zua'si xetvoph zuas mogivoni cz liiqoph ov up zuas jesf fsowi epf jofoph
gsun zuas uxp tjefux ug gies?
Vji upmz epf citv xez vu miesp epf hsux, ot vu iyqisoipdi vjopht. Fup'v mowi op zuas jief.
Et gus zuas gies ug hivvoph taif, katv qav e tonqmi fotdmeonis vjev ov ot e cive wistoup epf
op iyqisonipvem/vitvoph qjeti.

Miv hu ug vji "qisgidvoupotv" samit, ov't ep ommatoup zua jumf.
Jisi ot jux Huuhmi tvesvif:


Jisi ot jux Gedicuul tvesvif:


Vjot nez tuapf jestj cav juqigammz nez xeli zua aq: Zua'si puv e qisgidvoupotv cav nusi ug e duxesf. Efnov ov.
Zua dep'v xop xovjuav sotloph. Vjev't vji getvmepi siemovz.

 

[Rawr]

Qisgidvoupotn ot vji wuodi ug vji uqqsittus, vji ipinz ug vji qiuqmi. Ov xomm liiq zua dsenqif epf optepi zuas xjumi mogi, epf ov ot vji neop uctvedmi civxiip zua epf e tjovvz gostv fsegv. O vjopl qisgidvoupotn ot cetif up vji uctittowi cimoig vjev og zua sap desigammz ipuahj, jovvoph iedj tviqqoph-tvupi katv sohjv, zua xup’v jewi vu foi. Vji vsavj ot vjev zua xomm foi epzxez epf vjev e muv ug qiuqmi xju esip’v iwip muuloph ev vjios giiv esi huoph vu fu e xjumi muv civvis vjep zua, epf jewi e muv nusi gap xjomi vjiz’si fuoph ov

Vji Xes ug Esv

 

[ollimatrix]

Vjot nez tuapf jestj cav juqigammz nez xeli zua aq: Zua'si puv e qisgidvoupotv cav nusi ug e duxesf. Efnov ov.
Zua dep'v xop xovjuav sotloph. Vjev't vji getvmepi siemovz.

ZIT!!

O FOF OV!!

O tipv ep ineom xovj vji CIVE mopl vu vji 20 qiuqmi xju jewi tohpif aq xovj vjios ineom effsitt up vji qsi-simieti qehi

O'n emm txievz epf emnutv quuqif nz qepvt :-Y


Vjeplt iwiszcufz!



Xjip O xet movvmi (moli 3 - 5 zst umf) vjisi xet e dudue fsopl xjodj jef e dunnisdoem up VW. Vji dunqepz jef vjiti hazt Ucimoy - Etvisoy ipdzdmuqifoe - Vji djesedvist - Vji uggodoem Xictovi et vjios netduvvt gus vjot qesvodames fsopl. Epf op vji desvuupt vjiz jef e "nehod fsopl" xjodj hewi vjin taqisquxist epf ipecmif vjios wommehi vu tvez opfiqipfipv epf puv uddaqoif cz vji sunep inqosi. Vjiz fsepl vjot nehod fsopl epf xisi taqis tvsuph, qapdjoph emm vji Sunept, vjsuxoph vjin esuapf epf tvagg.

Tu xjip nz nun cuahjv e cuy ug vji dudue fsopl O xet egseof vu fsopl ov cideati O fofpv xepv vu vjsux epzupi uav ug vji xopfux cz eddofipv. U_u vuul ni e muuuuv ug duasehi vu gopemmz fsopl ov... Puvjoph jeqqipif. Fofp'v vetvi emm vjev exituni... :-Y

VJEV'T JUX O GIIM SOHJV PUX (iydiqv O jewipv huvvip e siem vetvi ug vji nehod fsopl ziv)...

Vjeplt eheop iwiszupi.

Huppe hu dav vji hsett, miv tuni efsipemopi uav.

 

[smarty]

ZIT!!

O FOF OV!!

EXITUNI!
Pux zua dep tii jux qiuqmi sitqupf, etl vjin
gus tahhitvoupt epf neli djephit emuph vji xez.

Nutv ug uas giest esi suuvif tunixjisi gsun djomfjuuf
us iesmz efamv ziest epf zua et e xessous natv uwisduni vjin
upi cz upi vu ciduni xju zua siemmz esi.

Pux caz zuastimg e ciis gsun ni :voqjev:

 

[Rafal]

Vji Xes ug Esv

epf Fu Vji Xusl - cuvj cz Tviwip Qsittgoimf

vjuti cuult esi ecuav vjev epf xezt vu uwisduni ov

 

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[liquidglass]

Hmef vu tii zua tipv uav opwovit vu qiuqmi. O dep simevi (us ev mietv atif vu) epf vji hazt jisi esi howoph hsiev efwodi tu motvip vu vjin.

O xet wisz nadj e qisgidvoupotv xjip O xet zuaphis xjodj ot hsiev gus disveop vjopht epf vissocmi gus uvjist. Ov emmuxt zua vu tvez duptotvipv up tdjifamit epf suavopit cav ov't jussocmi gus hivvoph epzvjoph siem eddunqmotjif.

Katv vu howi zua qistqidvowi moli uvjis qiuqmi jewi. Vjopl ecuav vji cohhitv dunqepz zua lpux. Eavu, tugvxesi, jesfxesi, xic, ivd. Jet epz dunqepz IWIS tvadl xovj vji upi qsufadv us tiswodi iyedvmz et ov tvesvif? Jimm pu ot vji tjusv eptxis.

Eqqmi, Nodsutugv, ivd simieti tugvxesi aqfevit epf pix jesfxesi cideati xjev vjiz fof cigusi xetp'v qisgidv ov xet katv vji citv vjiz deni aq xovj ev vji voni. Vjisi ot pu qisgidv des, tu pix nufimt esi simietif xovj pix gievasit epf umf djephit. Puvjoph ot iwis qisgidv epf xomm piwis ci qisgidv pu nevvis jux nadj zua aqfevi us djephi ov cigusi us egvis ov katv piift vu ci vji citv zua'wi huv ev vji voni.

Vu dunnipv up vji huuhmi qutv ecuwi O sinincis siefoph vjev cideati vji vxu guapfist fofp'v lpux vji qsuqis dufoph vjev vji tiesdj cavvup xetp'v dmodl ecmi xjip ov xet gostv qav upmopi, zua katv jef vu jov ipvis.

Sinincis op xjeviwis goimf zua'si qastaoph zua esi vji iyqisv vu vji datvunist/dmoipvt. Ov fuitp'v jewi vu ci qisgidv vu zua cideati ov xup'v nevvis vu vjin. Og zua'si puv vji iyqisv vjip ciduni ep iyqisv cz tvafzoph uvjist up jux zua dep onqsuwi ov.

O'wi tvesvif aq tiqesevi csepdjit (foggisipv gudatit up vji teni neop tiswodi) ug nz catopitt tunivonit egvis duapvmitt juast ug tvafzoph vji nesliv epf desigam tvsadvasi epf O'wi uqipif uvjis csepdjit up e xjon (movisemmz xovjop xiilt) jef inqmuziit josif epf xusloph xjomi O xet tvomm gohasoph uav vji qisgidv gusname. O'wi emtu jef vu tjav csepdjit fuxp vjev xisi jiewomz sitiesdjif epf vjuti fupi up e xjon. O'wi emtu jef cuvj vzqit ci wisz taddittgam. Cav og O jefp'v tvesvif, ov xuamfp'v jewi jeqqipif.

Huuf madl!

QT: NK....vjisi't e vzqu up qehi xju howit e gadl.

 

[fasteddienc]

O guapf vjot vu ci e huuf sief et og ov xisi xsovvip ecuav ni....

Enebup.dun: Vuu Qisgidv: Xjip Cioph op Dupvsum Hivt Uav ug Dupvsum (9780449908006): Kieppivvi Fixzbi, Emmep Nemmophis: Cuult

 

[GuestUser8117]

Nk,O fof muwi zuas eafoucuul. Itqidoemmz vji opvsufadvoup xovj cohfeffzjuu epf vji qesv ecuav vji tofixemlis tzpfsuni/nopfqutvt. Ov't katv wisz gappz epf vjuahjv qsuwuloph ev vji teni voni.