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Just closed two six-figure deals in the past three weeks.

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Hey, everyone. Before I start, I want to thank the people who sent me private messages (you know who you are) to encourage me during my darkest hours. You probably have no idea how much your words of encouragement help. I have lived an immensely lonely life. That's how it goes, I suppose, when you're home schooled for six years, and then start college at 13. I mean, look. No bullshit - I don't have many friends. In fact, the only person who has stayed close to me for the past three years has been my girlfriend, and it looks like I don't even have her anymore.

If you've ever watched Al Pacino's classic Any Given Sunday speech, you know he starts off by saying that he's wasted all of his money, and that he chased away anyone who has ever loved him. I can relate.

Just understand: I've been dealing with shit. Shit that I tried to chase away with muscle relaxers, sleeping pills, Xanax, alchohol, and weed. On the worst nights, it was all of the above. On the worst nights, I would cry myself to sleep. Yup. And you know what? At this point, I don't care if I sound like a bitch to you, or anyone else. I'm not writing this for you. Lol. I'm just playin'. I am writing this for, especially if you're depressed; especially you're lonely, and you think no one gets it; especially if you're so angry at everything in your life that's so effed up that sometimes you feel like you can't even think straight anymore; especially if you know what it's like to risk it all - lose it all - and fall all the way back to the bottom again; especially if it feels like you just don't have anything left; especially if you feel like quitting and giving up.

Because, I'm telling you, it comes back around. No matter what you're going through, you can come back from that sh*t. I don't care if your parents are against you, if your boyfriend or girlfriend are against you, if all of your friends are against you. I don't care if you don't have any friends at all. You can come back. You can rise. You can win. Even when it feels like this world has taken all of your self-esteem, self-respect, and self-confidence - everything except the hyphens - you can come back.

I think that's what inspires me most about MJ. To be honest, I haven't even read all of your book, bro. Not yet. I don't have to. I read your story, dude. And that sh*t has stuck with me for years. I mean, the fact that we're both from Illinois and whatnot is cool, but the fact that you dealt with emotional pain, bounced to the West Coast, and hustled until you finally blew your business out of the water... I read that over and over and over again, man. I read it to my cousin. I read it to my friends. I read it at night, before I went to bed. I read it when I had no more gas in the tank. I read it when I was on empty.

I'll be honest. I've got tears streaming down my face right now. I'm pouring my heart out. I don't know why. There are nothing but strangers on this site, but you know what? Life is short. And somehow, pouring my heart out feels good. Sh*t. Talking to therapists doesn't seem to help, and they cost thousands of dollars per week. This is free, and who knows... maybe someone reading this right now needs to read what I'm typing as much as I need to type what I'm typing.

I've been grindin' my a$$ off, man. Every day. Every night. Cross country trips. Chicago to Ohio. Ohio to Kentucky. Kentucky to New Jersey. New Jersey to Ohio. Ohio to Chicago. Sometimes, all of the above, in a matter of days. Six hour drives. Nine hour drives. Twelve hour drives. Meeting strategic partners. Negotiating higher percentages for the deals I close, because I'm closer. At the end of the day, that's what I do. I research. I research my a$$ off. I plot. I strategize. Then I research more and more. Then I strategize until it all makes sense.

And then I strike.

I can taste the freshness of the markets I'm in, and I can literally smell the money. I just closed two six-figure deals, and I know I can close more. Much more. Last time, I was there with some of the early adopters. Now, I'm way ahead of the curve. In some cases, it may take a year or two for the competition to catch up. By then, it'll be too late.

So here's where I am Fastlane. I think I have it. I think I finally have that fastball coming right down the middle... and it's time to swing with everything I have. It's time to put all of the blood, sweat and tears that I've shed to get myself to this position - where the bases are loaded, in the bottom of the 9th inning, three men on base...

And I know I can crack this one. I know I have what it takes. I know it. I know it. I know it. I know I can fulfill my promise to buy a Bugatti and post the pics. I just need to keep my head straight. I just need to keep focused.

I know this might sound stupid. Or even lame, but I need you to cheer for me. I need to you to motivate me like Rawr has. Like MJ has. I need you to want me to win. I need you to know that I'm no different than you. I'm just a guy, who found this site years ago, after dropping out of college, and found just enough inspiration to get keep going. I need that sh*t more than ever now, because sometime sit feels like every nanosecond of my life hurts. I just need to keep these tears out of my eyes, and focus on the pitch. Focus on the swing - and swing away.

[video=youtube;1c2jp8WyXms]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1c2jp8WyXms[/video]
 
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I have to say, I am a bit lost. What did you close? i get two six figure deals but this doesn't mean anything, what does that mean for you? What deal? It reads like two posts, one is an intro/thanks to MJ, and the other im not even sure. Congrats on the grind though, don't think I am discounting it, its just your writing is ultra all over the place.


maybe it's just me?
 

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Go get 'em ya little bitch ! LOL. Just playin'. I liked the way you wrote that 'bitch' part in.

If you can share...what do you do ?

Push on !
 
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I have to say, I am a bit lost. What did you close? i get two six figure deals but this doesn't mean anything, what does that mean for you? What deal? It reads like two posts, one is an intro/thanks to MJ, and the other im not even sure. Congrats on the grind though, don't think I am discounting it, its just your writing is ultra all over the place.


maybe it's just me?

Hey, sorry about that. I'm usually a lot more organized with my thoughts. Let me be a little more precise. I just closed to very large enegy deals, total amount of revenue to the company will be a little over $1M. My take is 25%.

I don't know if you've read my posts in the past, but, in essence, I'm a very emotional guy, and I take things very personally. My work. Relationships. Girls. Everything. I'm not saying that I'm oversensitive (although I could be), but the past three years have been tough. I went from having no money to a lot of mone (at least for me, at the age I got it), and I didn't handle it in the best way (nearly overdosed several times... emergency room visits to get my stomach pumped... almost went into a coma on one occassion, etc).

Hope that helps.
 

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Hey, sorry about that. I'm usually a lot more organized with my thoughts. Let me be a little more precise. I just closed to very large enegy deals, total amount of revenue to the company will be a little over $1M. My take is 25%.

I don't know if you've read my posts in the past, but, in essence, I'm a very emotional guy, and I take things very personally. My work. Relationships. Girls. Everything. I'm not saying that I'm oversensitive (although I could be), but the past three years have been tough. I went from having no money to a lot of mone (at least for me, at the age I got it), and I didn't handle it in the best way (nearly overdosed several times... emergency room visits to get my stomach pumped... almost went into a coma on one occassion, etc).

Hope that helps.

All makes total sense now, congrats! Without that info it seemed like a wall of texts, lol.
 

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I know I'm new and don't know you, but YOU CAN DO IT!
 
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Damn...

You inspired me brother.

I don't know the details of your story but it sounds like you've been through some really shitty times.

I'm glad you had escape velocity and are on track for more success. I've been reading a lot of posts and liking some of them over the past few days haha. The forum does help a lot man, it feels like everyone understands the challenges aspiring or current fastlaners face. Reading little digital text like this really does help hahaha, seriously though it does. I am really curious about psychology now that I've been getting into marketing. Like you said, all us here (humans) are not very different. We all are hardwired for needing/wanting certain things.

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That's Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. IMO it's pretty accurate. It sounds like you need some love/belonging (which the forum can provide, even if it is just digital text, audio or video. For example, porn gives millions of males their sexual satisfaction and it's just digital video/audio haha).

With out my family and my dog I'd be lacking on love/belonging. The forum and a few other online outlets help with it too.

Keep us updated and stay strong!

Khan Academy, Google For Entrepreneurs and a lot of other similar things are having Google Hangouts now. The forum should host some.
I saw that there was a get together in Atlanta I believe, but not everyone can go. Google Hangouts would be great. I think the INSIDERS's section of the forum does that though right?

Anyways, how are you feeling now?

I know some cool techniques/exercises that can give you peace of mind. I'll try to post them after I eat and finish the other stuff I need to do for today. If not today, soon, maybe in a new thread.

Great job on those deals though, I bet it's just a drop in the bucket compared to what the future holds :thumbsup:
 

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Bustin' out the ol' Mastlows Hierarchy I see... Let me provide a little rant of my own, see if I can offer some hope for you.

Well Uber.... Sounds like you have been dealing with some shit. It sucks and I think a vast majority of entrepreneurs have been there along the journey. You best tread lightly on the substance abuse, particularly the xanax, alcohol and sleeping pills. These things all effect the GABA receptors in our brain. The additional reduction in anxiety can be HELL to pay in rebound anxiety if one takes these types of things regularly. In fact, most people don't know that withdrawals from Heroin will not regularly kill users. However, withdrawal from either alcohol, barbiturates and benzodiazepines can and WILL kill people with the decent habit.

These substances simply flood the the brains GABA receptors and make everything feel temporarily okay or even good. The reduction in anxiety can be a godsend for those in need but benzo's and sleeping pills were intended to function as a TEMPORARY solution. Long term benzo/heavy alcohol/sleeping pill use is asking for a hell of a monkey on ones back. If you are regularly dealing with depression and anxiety please don't rule out seeing a doctor or psychiatrist for an SSRI like lexapro, celexa etc. to help get you back on your feet. These things can provide the daily relief so a sufferer isn't self medicating. I'm no health professional, just a guy with some degrees in chemical dependency and psychology that chose to pursue business psychology instead of clinical for grad school.

The *best* weapons against anxiety/depression are healthy relationships, regular exercise and healthy eating habits along with meditation. Please don't neglect your personal health in favor of business as you will suffer in the long run. Us entrepreneurs are pretty much all guilty of this at one time or another, sometimes it is a price that must be paid. Try to incorporate some more down time with friends/family and get your heart rate up regularly. Eat clean and begin to meditate. Soon you will find your hunger for drugs to ease your anxious mind will fade into the background and your life will begin to change for the better.

Below is my personal tale of hardship. I'm know soon I will have a solid tale of success.


Pursuing grad school full time I also worked full time at my first real job and it was stressful. I had a distance relationship that was failing and had severe health issues as I was recently diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis which is similar to Crohns disease. I didn't know what was wrong with me for the longest time and had a mystery illness that wreaked havoc for my first job and school. It was the worst time of my life in pain all the time, fatigued and anemic from shitting so much blood. I became a ghost and there were days, weeks, months where my whole day would be lying in bed or going to the bathroom ~20 times a day in severe pain. We all thought I would have to have my large intestine removed in a colectomy.

I prayed, I meditated, I began to change my diet and utilize medical cannabis. My failing distance relationship ended, it hurt but suddenly I didn't feel so alone... My disease and situation seemed hopeless and I cried, I thought death would be easier to go through than what I was facing. I never gave up and kept going to jiu jitsu when I was feeling okay - people knew I was very sick and would comment. I kept going with the support of my loved ones and started following a modified paleo diet. I read, I learned, I started my own water pipe business in the midst of all this chaos. I suffered, I cried, I learned, I grew resilient. Suddenly I wasn't so alone, I finished grad school with a 3.7 GPA and had more time for friends, family and relaxing. Got a new girlfriend that was supportive when I was sick. Made a little momentum in my business efforts but had ups and downs. I was hospitalized with a severe C-diff infection for a week. If I didn't go to the hospital I would have died, they gave me the right antibiotics to kill the C-diff. Somewhere from deep within I had faith that I could heal, that maybe this C-diff had been hurting me for months prior... Pretty soon I began to heal physically and mentally. Lately my health has been solid and I regained a lot of the weight I lost when I lost ~25 pounds from C-diff infection. I am happier, healthier and making more money than I ever have been in the past.

The lesson here is do not give up. Life will get better as their is always regression to mean. I am now stronger than I have ever been, smarter than I have ever been and more resilient than ever. Life throws us curveballs and walls, knock em out the park and smash through the walls. You can do it... I did. Do not be afraid to seek help when you need it, good luck. I sent you a PM as well if you ever want to talk.
 
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Get yourself together..

If you are getting emotional over a few 100k, how are you going to stay solid when you play with the big boys
 

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Get yourself together..

If you are getting emotional over a few 100k, how are you going to stay solid when you play with the big boys

Oh please, gtfo with that. At his level who wouldn't get emotional over a few hundred k. That's a majority of his net. How much have you made and lost to even say some silly shit like that?
 

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Get yourself together..

If you are getting emotional over a few 100k, how are you going to stay solid when you play with the big boys

Awww c'mon man, please have some sympathy. Dude has clearly dealt with some psychological and substance abuse issues but is man enough to acknowledge that and try to move forward. This type of thing is a journey and ain't going to happen just overnight. Perhaps he had a genetic predisposition, perhaps it was environmental, maybe it was other factors. Who cares, he is working hard at changing stuff.

Wealth, like health is relative. If you got money 100k ain't shit. Like in MJ's book he spoke about when he was first out on his own in AZ and took some real action in his life. He was empowered despite just getting by hustling websites... You know how good that must have felt for MJ? He was surrounded by 330 days of sunlight, he was making several racks by himself with no job, no alarm clock etc. His first taste of freedom must have been amazing, do you remember yours Worldisyours?
 
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Get yourself together..

If you are getting emotional over a few 100k, how are you going to stay solid when you play with the big boys

I think it was John Reese (internet marketer/entrepreneur) that said that his first commission or his first decent commission he made online was his most important.

I know others who said the same thing, not sure if it was him though.

You can get yourself to believe or at least sort of believe it is possible, but once you get some money, even if it is small (that's subjective though) you now know it is possible...and you're able to then believe in bigger things from there on. It changes your mindset regardless if it was made via an internet business, real estate, etc.

PS: A few $100k would really help me....you know....

Just messing with you, lol. You made it sound like giving a few $100k away wouldn't be a problem for you.

If you do decide you want to give me an early Christmas present (financial present, not creepy..."stay solid when you play with the big boys" lmfao I'll stop) though, PM me. :tiphat:
 

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@Steele Concept Damn that was inspiring too.

Our health is vital. If our bodies, even minds fail...then we're screwed. We have to take care of ourselves.

"The Science of Getting Rich" talked about taking care of the body, mind and spirit...all of them, not just one or two. Robert Kiyosaki mentioned it too. Felix Dennis I believe also. To top it off I read a YouTube comment once for a video clip from "Wall Street : Money Never Sleeps" where the person who commented said that his girlfriend of boyfriend had a billionaire as a father and he said that money really doesn't mean shit in the long run, it's our time. I believe the person also mentioned our health.

We can't screw ourselves up. If we die, we die...no more fastlane or anything. Health is one of my top priorities and has always been. When I was in college I took a "Health" and a Nutrition class. All of them mentioned "health" but too many people only associate that word with physical health, so we used "overall wellness"...that's what we all need.

I've been loading up on comedy lately and I noticed it's given me much more energy, a much more positive mentality, and I'm friendlier to people. Spending some time watching comedic YouTube videos is not wasting time, it's investing in your health! Hahaha :D

Seriously though @Ubermensch maybe you should try more comedy and definitely take Steele's advice too.

I'm still glad you had some good business deals but personal health is #1 IMO.
 

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To everyone who thought my post was negative and harsh on the guy. I would like to clarify.

It may be harsh, I agree, but its reality. Its great to be happy when you make cash. But its seems like his composure is too shaken due to his gain. And when thats out the window, that when you blow it all. He needs to get himself together and plan on using that money to reinvest in himself. Thats just the vibe I got from the post, i could be wrong.

I blew my first 200k, but I learned why after that.
 
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To everyone who thought my post was negative and harsh on the guy. I would like to clarify.

It may be harsh, I agree, but its reality. Its great to be happy when you make cash. But its seems like his composure is too shaken due to his gain. And when thats out the window, that when you blow it all. He needs to get himself together and plan on using that money to reinvest in himself. Thats just the vibe I got from the post, i could be wrong.

I blew my first 200k, but I learned why after that.

The post was harsh, and I liked it (literally, I clicked "like this post). I would have repped it, but I already repped another one of your posts.

Some of you may remember the thread I started awhile back, which contained a link to Robert Greene discussing his concept of Intense Realism, which is the title of Chapter 1 in the 50th Law (see below). In the audio version of the book, 50 Cent reads the introduction, and the first sentence is: Reality can be rather harsh. It's true, and I have all the respect in the world for people who tell it like it is.

However, I feel I should provide some extra context here. I have made a few hundred thousand dollars in a pretty short amount of time before. The second time around, the sheer amount is not as exciting. However, what IS exciting is the scalability of my efforts. Last time I made a few hundred thousand, it took me a few months to do it. This time, it was a matter of weeks, and I am extremely confident that I can repeat and multiply my success (perhaps exponentially). Stay tuned.

[video=youtube;JKaElUALzPQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKaElUALzPQ[/video]
 

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The post was harsh, and I liked it (literally, I clicked "like this post). I would have repped it, but I already repped another one of your posts.

Some of you may remember the thread I started awhile back, which contained a link to Robert Greene discussing his concept of Intense Realism, which is the title of Chapter 1 in the 50th Law (see below). In the audio version of the book, 50 Cent reads the introduction, and the first sentence is: Reality can be rather harsh. It's true, and I have all the respect in the world for people who tell it like it is.

However, I feel I should provide some extra context here. I have made a few hundred thousand dollars in a pretty short amount of time before. The second time around, the sheer amount is not as exciting. However, what IS exciting is the scalability of my efforts. Last time I made a few hundred thousand, it took me a few months to do it. This time, it was a matter of weeks, and I am extremely confident that I can repeat and multiply my success (perhaps exponentially). Stay tuned.

[video=youtube;JKaElUALzPQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKaElUALzPQ[/video]


Very Nice Uber,

I am happy you didn't take my realism the wrong way. You are a smart lad. I am just pretty confident that you are capable of this continuously so thatsits routine, and instead of being in disbelief or over joyed, it just becomes the norm , you can just look at it as another day in the office. Routine works, like going to the gym. Instead your routine is making a few 100 every few weeks. You seem to be getting together an efficient system and are on the way to mastering it. Its always exciting. Just remember to keep control of yourself to always maintain your system, with some rewards here and there.

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Solid advice Worldisyours. I saw you are a new poster so I clicked on other things or threads you have posted. It seems like you are an individual who has some wisdom and has made it. Sometimes on the internet or email people interpret certain text with a 'tone' and there is a lot of miscommunication or misunderstanding... One of the reasons I always prefer to talk with clients on the phone or meet in person probably like you and Uber do :)

Your advice speaks volumes to me Worldisyours, like accept the fact that you made more money than most people do in a year... Then do it again, make it a routine just how one does his daily exercise and/or meditation. Over and over, do it, master it, live it. Great to have you aboard the forums and I look forward to gleaning some more wisdom from your posts.
 
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