You don't necessarily need other people to tell you what you're lacking in. You just have to be brutally honest with yourself. Through a technique of self-reflection:
In a nutshell you take 5 minutes at the end of your day to analyze your day. This can be done either by major events or broken down hourly. While it sounds simple, it's F*cking hard. I think the brain is wired to just move on and protect you from going insane, rather than ruthlessly examine mistakes.
Ex.: You have a business meeting. You F*ck it up. It doesn't yield the result you wanted. Ask yourself:
- What did I do wrong (actions)?
- Why did I do it (which emotions led me astray)?
- Was there anything external that led me to making the mistake (having a bad day, shitty diet etc)?
- How can I avoid making this same mistake?
- What am I going to do different in the same situation in the future?*
*This part is critical. If you keep it honest on why you failed, and actually do something different next time, eventually you simply run out of reasons to fail.
You'll be surprised how many people don't do anything like this and make the same mistakes over and over and over again.
Tl;dr: "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
Albert Einstein
In a nutshell you take 5 minutes at the end of your day to analyze your day. This can be done either by major events or broken down hourly. While it sounds simple, it's F*cking hard. I think the brain is wired to just move on and protect you from going insane, rather than ruthlessly examine mistakes.
Ex.: You have a business meeting. You F*ck it up. It doesn't yield the result you wanted. Ask yourself:
- What did I do wrong (actions)?
- Why did I do it (which emotions led me astray)?
- Was there anything external that led me to making the mistake (having a bad day, shitty diet etc)?
- How can I avoid making this same mistake?
- What am I going to do different in the same situation in the future?*
*This part is critical. If you keep it honest on why you failed, and actually do something different next time, eventually you simply run out of reasons to fail.
You'll be surprised how many people don't do anything like this and make the same mistakes over and over and over again.
Tl;dr: "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
Albert Einstein
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