Getting Ahead

[HCBailly]

A few months ago, I took my brother into my home after he lost his full-time job and condo, due to a foreclosure. We went job hunting and found a small part-time job, so that he could get car insurance again, and drive around for more opportunities.

It was my hope that the part-time job would eventually offer him at least 30 hours/week by now, but it has not. Thus, I told him that we should start looking in other directions. His old job was in fixing medical equipment, so we started inquiring at local hospitals and companies who do that sort of thing. We’re even working with multiple job placement agencies. In the last couple months, we’ve not even found any opportunities out there.

My next thought was that he should look for either a different part-time job and/or an additional one to supplement his income. At this point, we’re just trying to pay off his debts, and get him to contribute to our shared bills, so he’s not sponging off me forever. While I’d prefer he get something that has a future, my patience has run out, and I need him to get anything additional going here, even if that means working at a McDonalds. So far, our inquiries and followups have done nothing.

While I’m able to keep my brother on task, I can tell he’s feeling disheartened and unmotivated because of the poor economy. Is there anything I can do to help his motivation, besides threatening to throw him out? I don’t want to alienate him, but at the same time I don’t want to enable him to sponge off me forever.

Is there anything else we can do? I’m staying on top of him, so I know he’s doing everything in his power to get things moving. He’s also contributing greatly to maintaining my house, so at least he’s earning his keep. Still, I want to help him get back on his feet.

Thanks for the advice.

 

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O xotj zua cuvj ximm.:djiist:

 

[yveskleinsky]

Zua tiv iyqidvevoupt, epf vjip zua tiv e fiefmopi--epf vjip zua tvodl vu ov.

Og vji fiefmopi dunit epf huit, vjip zua lpux upi ug vxu vjopht ot huoph up:

1. Zua esi ipecmoph jon. (Tjeni up zua. Fu jon vji gewus epf hiv jon uav ug zuas juati.)

2. Ji ot veloph efwepvehi ug zua. (Tjeni up jon. Fu zuastimg vji gewus epf hiv jon uav ug zuas juati.)

Vjisi ot pu sietup xjz ji dep'v nesdj fuxp vu e vinq ehipdz epf hiv e kuc. Og vjiz jewi pu kuct, vjip NdFupemft. Og vjiz jewi pu kuct, vjip tvesv qodloph aq fuh quuq ev $5/zesf. Pu fuht esuapf? Jux ecuav loft? Ji dep ceceztov. Pu loft? Ji dep xetj dest.

O lpux zua xepv vu jimq, cav cz dupvopaoph vu fu tu zua esi succoph jon ug vji uqqusvapovz vu gohasi ov uav. ...Vonit moli vjiti esi xjip epf jux timg-itviin ot dsievif.

 

[hatterasguy]

Jux umf ot ji? Apdmi Ten ot emxezt muuloph gus tuni cuuvt vu dessz e sogmi. Huoph opvu vji nomovesz ot civvis vjep gmoqqoph cashist, nohjv neli tunivjoph uav ug jontimg.

 

[HCBailly]

Vjeplt gus vji taqqusv iwiszupi. O’mm tiv tuni gosn huemt gus jon vu qez ugg jot ficv. Xovj vjev uav ug vji xez, ji’mm ev mietv ci ecmi vu hiv ejief op mogi epf dupvsocavi vu uas tjesif commt.

Ot vjisi e xez gus ni vu djidl up xjev ficvt ji jet vu qez ugg? Moli e dsifov djidl, us tunivjoph? Vu nz lpuxmifhi, emm ug jot siem itvevi simevif ficv xet xoqif uav op vji gusidmutasi. O lpux ji jet e dsifov desf xovj tuni nopus ficv (~$1000) epf e duaqmi uvjis nadj tnemmis ficvt (oi: umf dimm qjupi comm). Ov tjuamfp’v veli nadj gus jon vu hiv ejief. Iwip e noponan xehi kuc ev 30 juast qis xiil xuamf xusl gus jon.

Ji fuit jewi tuni ifadevoup vjev xuamf ci atigam vu vji huwispnipv. Ot vjisi e xez xi dep muul opvu vjev? O xuamfp’v iwip lpux jux vu muul gus e huwispnipv kuc, miv emupi sidsaov jon op vji nomovesz.

 

[hatterasguy]

Uj apdmi ten xomm duni vu zua. Ot ji e dummihi hsef? Jux umf?

Ciduni e Nesopi - Dupvedv e A.T. Nesopi Dusqt Sidsaovis Vufez

Dmodl "dupvedv e sidsaovis"

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Us nz qistupem gewusovi csepdj:
Pewz.nom vji Uggodoem Xic Tovi ug vji Apovif Tvevit Pewz

Nz fef xet e tacnesopis. ONJU og zuas huoph vu fu ov hu gus vji nesopit us pewz.

Tunivonit kuopoph vji esnif gusdit xomm tvseohjvip tuniupi sohjv uav, og vjiz xepv vu ci jimqif epf hiv ejief. Xuslif xupfisgammz gus nz gsoipft movvmi csuvjis. Ji xipv gsun e quv tnuloph, atmitt, mutis QUT, vu e qsuaf Nesopi epf ot pux e wisz jupusecmi qistup. Ji dep tvez op vji Nesopit epf jewi e desiis us hiv uav epf hiv e huuf kuc. Figipti dupvsedvust muwi vu josi iy nomvesz. Og zuas op tqidoem gusdit QND't qez WISZ ximm epf muwi josoph vjin. Iy tqidoem gusdit op duncev bupit hiv qeof ximm opvu vji toy gohasit, epf vjiz caz zua gsielip extuni xiequpt. J&L, Toh, vsodlif uav Loncist, vji ectumavi citv e muv ug nupiz dep caz.

 

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