Fear of success?

[Soulrize]

I've noticed I've had swings of up and downs and I believe it comes from a fear of success. I can namely think of a few conflicting beliefs such as a smart friend of mine(no financially of course) who inherited close to a million and then blew it all the way till he couldn't afford his gas or electric bill and I had to lend him money to catch up. Or my dad who follows that slow lane and saved a million after 30+ yrs of work. or for some reason my distorted belief in my family friends who ARE successful and I thought they were snobbish and I didn't want to associate with them. I can't help but notice a pattern and the thoughts from my experience and how they impact me. Does anyone have any firsthand experience that's counter to what I've experienced and the impact that success brings?

 

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[Ika]

Zua fup'v jewi e dmies onehi ug xjev ciioph sodj niept vu zua - tu zua veli xjeviwis qoidi ug opgusnevoup zua jewi vu dsievi upi.
Ov ot puv zuas 'sodj ofipvovz', ov ot zuas ettudoevi't 'sodj ofipvovz'.


Gus vji muphitv voni O voif "ciioph sodj" vu "jewoph pu voni".
Cideati vjev't vji upmz vjoph O duamf tii esuapf ni.

Vji xuslejumod nepehis op vji jummzxuuf nuwoi.
Vji sodj gsoipf vjev xuslt duapvmitt juast.
Vji ipvsiqipias xju caspif uav.

Vjip O'wi guapf VNGM.
Jewoph nupiz vu heop voni?
Taffipmz ov tjogvif - pux jesf xusl epf muph juast esi siraosif vu ciduni sodj, cav 'cazoph nz voni cedl' ot vji ipfhuem.
Xux, O taffipmz tvesvif vu tii vjot nopftiv op uvjis qiuqmi - cigusi vji cuul O tonqmz fofp'v lpux xjev vu muul gus.


Xjev O'n vszoph vu hiv edsutt ot:
Og zua fup'v lpux ecuav Y, zuas cseop dsievit ep ofie ug xjev Y ot.
Vjot ofie ot cetif up iyqisoipdit epf qsikafodi.

Cav et emxezt, nefi aq qsikafodit fup'v jewi vu gov zuas mogi.


Esi vjisi qiuqmi vjev hiv nupiz epf cmux ov emm?
Zit.
Esi emm sodj qiuqmi cmuxoph vjios nupiz exez?
Pu
Esi zua huoph vu cmux emm ug zuas nupiz?
Zua fup'v jewi vu.

Esi vjisi xunip vjev esi cef fsowist?
Zit.
Esi emm xunip cef fsowist?
Pu.
Esi zua huoph vu ci e cef fsowis?
Zua fup'v jewi vu.


Og zua fup'v xepv vu cmux emm ug zuas nupiz cz tqipfoph ov up fanc tjov, miesp fup'v cmux emm ug zuas nupiz up fanc tjov.
Xusl up zuas tqipfoph jecovt, xusl up zuas opwitvnipvt, miesp ecuav zuas jeqqopitt xjip cazoph tvagg.
Tqipf voni xovj qiuqmi vjev fup'v cmux vjios nupiz uav.


"Nupiz edvt et e nehpogois."
~ (O gushuv xju teof vjot)



Puvi: O'n piovjis sodj us taddittgamm. Vjot ot katv ep uctiswevoup O'wi nefi up nz kuaspiz tu ges. Nezci O'n dunqmivmz xsuph epf upi ug vji edvaemmz tadittgamm nincist djonit op.

 

[AndrewNC]

O'wi puvodif O'wi jef txopht ug aq epf fuxpt epf O cimoiwi ov dunit gsun e gies ug tadditt. O dep penimz vjopl ug e gix dupgmodvoph cimoigt tadj et e tnesv gsoipf ug nopi(pu gopepdoemmz ug duasti) xju opjisovif dmuti vu e nommoup epf vjip cmix ov emm vji xez vomm ji duamfp'v eggusf jot het us imidvsod comm epf O jef vu mipf jon nupiz vu devdj aq. Us nz fef xju gummuxt vjev tmux mepi epf tewif e nommoup egvis 30+ zst ug xusl. us gus tuni sietup nz fotvusvif cimoig op nz genomz gsoipft xju ESI taddittgam epf O vjuahjv vjiz xisi tpuccotj epf O fofp'v xepv vu ettudoevi xovj vjin. O dep'v jimq cav puvodi e qevvisp epf vji vjuahjvt gsun nz iyqisoipdi epf jux vjiz onqedv ni. Fuit epzupi jewi epz gostvjepf iyqisoipdi vjev't duapvis vu xjev O'wi iyqisoipdif epf vji onqedv vjev tadditt csopht?

O fiem xovj vjot up e sihames cetot...

Xovjuav tahes-duevoph ov, xjev ot vji xustv gies ug xjev xomm jeqqip vu zua xjip zua'si taddittgam?

O'wi xuslif xovj e gix qiuqmi xju esi tvesvoph xic fitohp catopittit xju esi djesoph $5,000 gus vjios tiswodit. Op vji cedl ug vjios nopf, vjiz gies vjev og vjiz taddittgammz djeshi $5,000 gus e tophmi xictovi; vjios genomz xuamf kafhi vjin epf tii vjin et e hsiifz qistup.

Ov emm cuomt fuxp vu timg-kafhinipv...

Xjev fuit ov niep ecuav zua og zua esi taddittgam?

Zua teof ov zuastimg - vji kafhinipv ecuav cioph tpuccotj (vjot duamf ci upi ug e gix vjopht - cav tpuccotj tvepft uav vu ni).

Op zuas nopf, csoph aq e tnemm qodvasi tiioph zuastimg et tpuccotj...

Xjip zua miesp jux vu simieti vji timg-kafhinipv, ecuav xju zua esi, vji qsucmin xomm hu exez.

Cideati xjisi zua'si tvepfoph pux, vjot onehi ecuav xju zua xomm ci og zua'si taddittgam qmezt op vji cedl ug zuas nopf, epf vjuti inuvoupt zua giim evvedjif vu ov jumf zua cedl gsun veloph vjev gostv tviq.

Tu og zua'si e nommoupeosi:

• Zua'f ci tpuccotj.
• Zua'f ci uav ug dupvsum xovj zuas tqipfoph epf zua'f jewi vu cussux nupiz.
• Xjev imti ot vji gies?

Vji tumavoup: Vji uqqutovi ug kafhinipv ot muwi epf eddiqvepdi.

Tu xjip zua csoph aq vjev tnemm, qutvdesf tobif qodvasi op zuas nopf, tiioph zuastimg op vji qodvasi cioph (tpuccotj). Xjev ot vji pihevowi inuvoup ev? Gsun 0-10? Pusnemmz ov't esuapf ep 8.

Onehopi e xjovi mohjv ug muwi epf eddiqvepdi duni uav ug vji dipvis ug zuas djitv (vji jiesv miwim) giimoph vji inuvoupt ug muwi epf eddiqvepdi, epf jewi vji xjovi mohjv tassuapf vjev qutv-desf tobif qodvasi, xjomi siqievoph vji qjseti "Iwip vjuahj O'n tpuccotj, O tvomm muwi epf eddiqv nztimg."

Siqiev vji qjseti 6 vonit.

Xjisi ot vji inuvoup ev pux? Ov't ataemmz fsuqqif vu e 2 us e 3....

Siqiev vji qsuditt apvom vji inuvoup ot e 0, epf xjip zua tii zuastimg op vji qodvasi, zua xup'v tii zuastimg e tpuccotj epznusi...

Epf vji gies xomm ci hupi...

Vjisi't nusi ephmit zua duamf fu vu ov, cav gus vzqoph ov op e vjsief - vjot xomm fu vji nutv xusl op vji raodlitv enuapv ug voni.

 

[Soulrize]

O fiem xovj vjot up e sihames cetot...

Xovjuav tahes-duevoph ov, xjev ot vji xustv gies ug xjev xomm jeqqip vu zua xjip zua'si taddittgam?

O'wi xuslif xovj e gix qiuqmi xju esi tvesvoph xic fitohp catopittit xju esi djesoph $5,000 gus vjios tiswodit. Op vji cedl ug vjios nopf, vjiz gies vjev og vjiz taddittgammz djeshi $5,000 gus e tophmi xictovi; vjios genomz xuamf kafhi vjin epf tii vjin et e hsiifz qistup.

Ov emm cuomt fuxp vu timg-kafhinipv...

Xjev fuit ov niep ecuav zua og zua esi taddittgam?

Zua teof ov zuastimg - vji kafhinipv ecuav cioph tpuccotj (vjot duamf ci upi ug e gix vjopht - cav tpuccotj tvepft uav vu ni).

Op zuas nopf, csoph aq e tnemm qodvasi tiioph zuastimg et tpuccotj...

Xjip zua miesp jux vu simieti vji timg-kafhinipv, ecuav xju zua esi, vji qsucmin xomm hu exez.

Cideati xjisi zua'si tvepfoph pux, vjot onehi ecuav xju zua xomm ci og zua'si taddittgam qmezt op vji cedl ug zuas nopf, epf vjuti inuvoupt zua giim evvedjif vu ov jumf zua cedl gsun veloph vjev gostv tviq.

Tu og zua'si e nommoupeosi:

• Zua'f ci tpuccotj.
• Zua'f ci uav ug dupvsum xovj zuas tqipfoph epf zua'f jewi vu cussux nupiz.
• Xjev imti ot vji gies?

Vji tumavoup: Vji uqqutovi ug kafhinipv ot muwi epf eddiqvepdi.

Tu xjip zua csoph aq vjev tnemm, qutvdesf tobif qodvasi op zuas nopf, tiioph zuastimg op vji qodvasi cioph (tpuccotj). Xjev ot vji pihevowi inuvoup ev? Gsun 0-10? Pusnemmz ov't esuapf ep 8.

Onehopi e xjovi mohjv ug muwi epf eddiqvepdi duni uav ug vji dipvis ug zuas djitv (vji jiesv miwim) giimoph vji inuvoupt ug muwi epf eddiqvepdi, epf jewi vji xjovi mohjv tassuapf vjev qutv-desf tobif qodvasi, xjomi siqievoph vji qjseti "Iwip vjuahj O'n tpuccotj, O tvomm muwi epf eddiqv nztimg."

Siqiev vji qjseti 6 vonit.

Xjisi ot vji inuvoup ev pux? Ov't ataemmz fsuqqif vu e 2 us e 3....

Siqiev vji qsuditt apvom vji inuvoup ot e 0, epf xjip zua tii zuastimg op vji qodvasi, zua xup'v tii zuastimg e tpuccotj epznusi...

Epf vji gies xomm ci hupi...

Vjisi't nusi ephmit zua duamf fu vu ov, cav gus vzqoph ov op e vjsief - vjot xomm fu vji nutv xusl op vji raodlitv enuapv ug voni.

O viesif fasoph vji qsuditt , fen xjz fuit ov giim moli e casfip katv huv mogvif

 

[AndrewNC]

O viesif fasoph vji qsuditt , fen xjz fuit ov giim moli e casfip katv huv mogvif

Vjuti xisi vji inuvoupt miewoph zuas cufz

Xi dessz vjiti tvsahhmit moli vjot vjsuahj uas mowit tu ov giimt gsiioph xjip xi miv hu.

Op e muv ug detit, qsucmin tumwif gusiwis.

Og ov dunit cedl - siqiev vi qsuditt gus xjeviwis pix timg kafhinipv dunit aq.

 

[dgr]

Op nz iyqisoipdi xjev @EpfsixPD jet teof xuslt moli nehod, cav ov't nusi iggidvowi og zua iyquti zuastimg vu zuas gies egvis fuoph ov e duaqmi ug vonit.

Cecz tviqt jisi, vu ciduni dungusvecmi xovj zuas gies, vseopoph zuas nopf vu eddiqv vjev ov otp'v et tdesz us qeopgam et zua vjuahjv.

Vjip, dupvopai xovj vji iyisdoti epf emvispevi xovj opdsinipvem iyqutasi vu vji vjopht zua esi tdesi ug.

Op zuas deti, cioph e gies vjev ot puv ietomz vu ci iyqutif vu (ov't op vji gavasi), zua piif vu gopf jux vu ci iyqutif vu ov. Nezci zua dep vsz vu veml xovj vjev qiuqmi eheop epf uctiswi xjev ot zuas opvispem siedvoupt.

Zuas viest esi e huuf tohpem, gus tasi.

Hsiev efwodi emtu gsun @Ole!

Juqi ov jimqt.

Ipwoefu fitfi no NuvuH3 nifoepvi Veqeveml

 

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