Do I Have To Sacrifice My Close Family Relationships?

[GabrielDC]

That was my thinking too. For me family isn’t toxic, just a bit dysfunctional. Nothing some work can’t mend.

Do you see any future relationship between you and family?

No, but my situation is, well, complicated.

When you are too different from your family, there is no reason to pretend that you like them, or their thinking, just because they are your family.
There is no logical reason for an human being to stay close to somebody they don't like.
Maybe only for survival, but that was not my case.

 

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[PersianCub]

No, but my situation is, well, complicated.

When you are too different from your family, there is no reason to pretend that you like them, or their thinking, just because they are your family.
There is no logical reason for an human being to stay close to somebody they don't like.
Maybe only for survival, but that was not my case.

Yep, I understand.

 

[srodrigo]

My mindset was if I can cut out most "luxuries", then I can focus on the most important. I know I am one to go extreme with things, and I obviously lost my sense when I began to contemplate "family" in that mix.

I think I overindulged in the videos/books of startup founders, where they talk about how much they had to sacrifice to build their start up and how they just lived/breathed their businesses for years.

I guess I'm trying to implement this idea of "sacrifice for the short term, so you can enjoy in the long term"

but yea everyone on here is spot on, I shouldn't even be considering this as an option.

I wonder what's the point in removing one of the pillars of happiness, which is family, to get another one, which is financial wealth. Building a business is hard work, not going into self-imposed misery.

 

[COSenior]

I'd just like to point out that there is a difference between 'social life' and family relationships. No one who is your friend or a decent mentor would ask you to give up the latter, and I'm none too sure that giving up the former for 2-3 years is particularly healthy, either.

You have 168 hours every week. Using 56 of them for sleep, 40 of them for a day job, 2-4 per day for everything else (eating, hygiene, commute, your family, etc.), still leaves you more than 40 - another full-time job's worth - to create entrepreneurial success. Use them correctly and you can have it all.

Extremes are the luxury of youth. Take it from someone old enough to be your grandma, there is indeed such a thing as work/life balance, even for millionaires. Being retired isn't all it's cracked up to be, by the way. Playing all the time would be pretty boring.

 

[PersianCub]

The Fastlane isn't just about money, it's about getting to your ideal lifestyle as fast as possible.

If you're content with living on the beach in Costa Rica making only $30K a year then go for it.

If you want two lambos, a golf course, and a vacation home in Paris then effin go for it!

The Fastlane (and living Unscripted ) is about building the life YOU want on YOUR terms regardless of what other people think or say.

If you are giving up having a relationship with your family (which you want) for a business, then no amount of money is going to heal that wound.

BEING CLOSE TO YOUR FAMILY IS PART OF YOUR FASTLANE DESTINATION!!!

so true so true. I'm gonna re read the book and get my perspective back in check thank you.

 

[PersianCub]

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLtRVENHxb0

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQuc7wfO16Q

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zp1TbLFPp8

F*ck yeah. Thank you love these videos

 

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[PersianCub]

We cant make decisions for you, but being all-in on something you dont even know what to do is a bad decision (speaking from experience).
Your family relationships are important.

Want to be all-in on the fastlane? Meet up with 10 customers validate your idea of a need through cold calling or other means. I dare you. If you cant do this you have no business being all-in, you're dreaming.

Also when it fails in 3 years what will you do? You will be left with dust. No money, no family, no relationship.

Hedge accordingly.

Truth, thank you. I’ll do that and message you the results.

 

[TonyStark]

You’re making more excuses. You haven’t even started your so called “startup” and you’re already making excuses.

Most people are able to do both things.

 

[PersianCub]

You’re making more excuses. You haven’t even started your so called “startup” and you’re already making excuses.

Most people are able to do both things.

Excuses? What are you talking about?

 

[PersianCub]

You don’t even have a startup and you’re already putting up barriers that don’t exist.

Start getting some sales and make money, then you can complain.

Start working 40-60 hour weeks, then you can complain.

People everywhere make time for both things, so the fact that you’re focused on losing relationships means your mind isn’t in the right place.

Just get to it.

Fair enough. On it

 

[PersianCub]

Didn't mean to come off as harsh, I've just been there before.

But to me it was just analysis paralysis, as I look back at it now.

Watch this video, this should help you out, lol:

View: https://youtu.be/0yw7HSPsXWE

Nah, always appreciate the honesty. Yes hahaha I have seen this, hilarious story and spot on..

 

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[PersianCub]

I'd just like to point out that there is a difference between 'social life' and family relationships. No one who is your friend or a decent mentor would ask you to give up the latter, and I'm none too sure that giving up the former for 2-3 years is particularly healthy, either.

You have 168 hours every week. Using 56 of them for sleep, 40 of them for a day job, 2-4 per day for everything else (eating, hygiene, commute, your family, etc.), still leaves you more than 40 - another full-time job's worth - to create entrepreneurial success. Use them correctly and you can have it all.

Extremes are the luxury of youth. Take it from someone old enough to be your grandma, there is indeed such a thing as work/life balance, even for millionaires. Being retired isn't all it's cracked up to be, by the way. Playing all the time would be pretty boring.

Appreciate the words... agreed.