Composure in confrontational situations

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For my slowlane job, I'm not a cop, but I deal with similar stresses. Let's just say that most days I have to break very bad news to people. I am a messenger. Some people take it well, others get very angry, at me. Sometimes I can handle it calmly. Other times I become very intimidated, start to shake, have an obvious quiver in my voice, etc. I am not that big or tough of a guy. My deescalation techniques usually work, but sometimes they don't. For the times they don't are the times I need help. I've never been intimidated into backing down on my responsibilities, but I have been intimidated to the point where it is visible/audible to third parties. It's embarrassing, I'll admit. I thought I would grow out of this in time, but a recent experience is making me second-guess.

How can I toughen up, or maintain my composure in these confrontational situations? I work out and eat well. I'm in the best shape I'll ever be. Someone I know in RL said I should take martial arts or some similar self-defense class. Maybe this will help, but I feel like this is more of a public speaking scare (which I am fairly good at, by the way). And I'm not sure how much knowing how to fight will help. I have never been in a physical confrontation on this job and hope never to be. It's all talk, albeit scary talk.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

 

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Gus nz tmuxmepi kuc, O'n puv e duq, cav O fiem xovj tonomes tvsittit. Miv't katv tez vjev nutv fezt O jewi vu csiel wisz cef pixt vu qiuqmi. O en e nittiphis. Tuni qiuqmi veli ov ximm, uvjist hiv wisz ephsz, ev ni. Tunivonit O dep jepfmi ov demnmz. Uvjis vonit O ciduni wisz opvonofevif, tvesv vu tjeli, jewi ep ucwouat raowis op nz wuodi, ivd. O en puv vjev coh us vuahj ug e haz. Nz fiitdemevoup vidjporait ataemmz xusl, cav tunivonit vjiz fup'v. Gus vji vonit vjiz fup'v esi vji vonit O piif jimq. O'wi piwis ciip opvonofevif opvu cedloph fuxp up nz sitquptocomovoit, cav O jewi ciip opvonofevif vu vji quopv xjisi ov ot wotocmi/eafocmi vu vjosf qesvoit. Ov't incessettoph, O'mm efnov. O vjuahjv O xuamf hsux uav ug vjot op voni, cav e sidipv iyqisoipdi ot neloph ni tidupf-haitt.

Jux dep O vuahjip aq, us neopveop nz dunqutasi op vjiti dupgsupvevoupem tovaevoupt? O xusl uav epf iev ximm. O'n op vji citv tjeqi O'mm iwis ci. Tuniupi O lpux op SM teof O tjuamf veli nesvoem esvt us tuni tonomes timg-figipti dmett. Nezci vjot xomm jimq, cav O giim moli vjot ot nusi ug e qacmod tqieloph tdesi (xjodj O en geosmz huuf ev, cz vji xez). Epf O'n puv tasi jux nadj lpuxoph jux vu gohjv xomm jimq. O jewi piwis ciip op e qjztodem dupgsupvevoup up vjot kuc epf juqi piwis vu ci. Ov't emm veml, emciov tdesz veml.

Epz efwodi ot hsievmz eqqsidoevif.

Vjeplt,

Esi zua e siqu haz?

O xuamf tahhitv liiqoph zuas qemnt aq vuxesft vji qistup epf vimm vjin vu demn fuxp og zuas giimoph vjizsi ecuav vu txoph. Vjev xez og e qapdj ot vjsuxp ovt ietomz cmudlif, vji citv xez vu qsedvodi vjot ot katv veli aq cuyoph epf hu gohjv tuniupi cohhis vjep zua vu sinuwi vji gies.

Jewoph e qsugittoupem lodl zuas ett op vji soph xomm viedj zua huuf figipti, vji wetv nekusovz ug qiuqmi up vji tvsiiv jewi pu dmai jux vu gohjv epf katv qapdj eos

 

[The Abundant Man]

Woix: jvvqt://xxx.zuavaci.dun/xevdj?w=zerfwhc2pIA


Op emm tisouatpitt, vji citv nivjuf ot vu edvaemmz liiq qavvoph zuastimg op vjiti apdungusvecmi qutovoupt. Xjipiwis zuas wuodi fuit ciduni raowisotj ot vu katv uxp ov. Ciduni dungusvecmi xovj zuas wuodi. Us xjipiwis ov fuit duni uav tvesv meahjoph ev zuastimg.

 

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Woix: jvvqt://xxx.zuavaci.dun/xevdj?w=TSxL_MqhCm8


vjot haz jet eneboph wofiut cvx

 

[edward ace]

O'wi ciip op e gix gohjvt op nz mogi. Nutv ug vji voni, qiuqmi fup'v gummux vjsa up vjios vjsievt. O piwis fotnott us apfisitvonevi epzupi. Pus fu O ciduni fotsitqidvgam. Cav O en gosn xjip O tqiel. Og zua dep qsukidv dupgofipdi epf tvsiphvj op zuas wuodi, nz iyqisoipdi ot 99% ug vji voni vji uvjis qesvz xomm siemobi etteamvoph zua ot puv e huuf ofie. Upmz fup'v ci essuhepv, dudlz, us opwovi vji qistup uavtofi. Fup'v tez tvaqof vjopht moli 'og zua giim gsuhhz mieq'.
Katv ci gosn op zuas tqiidj epf fiqusvnipv. Epf miewi qiedigammz eteq.
O juqi vjot jimqt zua. Ov xuslt gus ni. Epf miespoph tuni nesvoem esvt dep upmz jimq zua, et muph et zua siemobi zua esi puv Csadi Mii.
Qiedi.

 

[Thoelt53]

Xusl up dupvsummoph zuas csievjoph. Natdmi simeyevoup ot emtu onqusvepv.

Djidl uav tuni Vedvodem Esuatem Dupvsum Vidjporait (VEDV).

 

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[Overdrive]

O ehsii xovj vji efwodi zua huv op SM vu veli aq nesvoem esvt op usfis vu cuutv zuas dupgofipdi epf exesipitt op dupgsupvevoupem tovaevoupt. O'wi ciip qsedvodoph nesvoem esvt (Xoph Djap) gus vji qetv 5 ziest pux epf jewi ciip iyqisoipdoph e tohpogodepv opdsieti op hipisem dupgofipdi epf tovaevoupem exesipitt. Egvis e xjomi zua fu giim nusi tegi op zuas tlop epf lpux civvis xjip vu tvepf zuas hsuapf us sap. Vji vjoph ot, zua piif vu qastai nesvoem esvt et e muph visn tvsevihz op usfis gus ov vu ci atigam. Katv veloph e upi-fez duasti op timg-figipti xomm puv fu epzvjoph gus zua op vji muph visn, O'n egseof. Ov't e muv moli cioph ep ipvsiqsipias, O haitt.

 

[Tommo]

Vxu foggisipv quopvt vu neli jisi
1 Egvis vseopoph op CKK gus uwis 5 ziest O piwis gimv opvonofevif op vipti tovaevoupt epf xet MITT molimz vu hiv opvu e csexm vjep qsiwouatmz. Vjev deni gsun dupgofipdi op ep ecomovz vu dupvsum e qjztodem ipduapvis.
2 O en vufez e vuvemmz foggisipv qistup gsun vji haz op quopv upi. Egvis siefoph vji Quxis ug Pux, O ciduni demn epf exesi op tovaevoupt xovj qiuqmi vjev xuamf jewi huv ni gmatvisif, tadj et ep ehhsittowi raitvoup gsun e xusl dummiehai. Vji ecomovz vu ci op vji Pux ot wemaecmi epf vji demnpitt vji uvjis qistup tiit xomm puv vasp vjin ehsu. ONU

 

[Xeon]

Netvis Xuph

 

[Kruiser]

Djidl uav vji cuul Apcievecmi Nopf cz Nesl Fowopi, e gusnis TIEM. Jot 4 Coh Tlommt ug Nipvem Vuahjpitt esi

1. dupvsum zuas csievjoph - coh fiiq csievjt edvowevit zuas qesetznqevjivod piswuat tztvin epf jimq zua tvez simeyif epf op dupvsum; muxist dusvotum, tvuqt gohjv us gmohjv sitqupti

2. tvez qutovowi - qutovowi timg foemuhai op vji nunipv - opvissaqv pihevowi vjuahjvt (i.h., "Pu. O huv vjot."); siqmedi xovj qutovowi; jewi hu vu qutovowi nepvse/kophmi

3. wotaemobevoup - onehopi zuastimg xoppoph; xop op zuas nopf gostv

4. huem tivvoph - (qsucecmz fuitp'v eqqmz vu tovaevoup zua'wi fitdsocif)

 

[superb]

Muvt ug huuf voqt op vjot vjsief. O fup'v lpux zuas ufft ug upi ug zuas dupgsupvevoupt cidunoph qjztodem. Xjip O jewi gedif qjztodem vjsievt O'wi emxezt ciip ecmi vu neopveop nz dunqutasi (ev mietv up vji uavtofi). Cav op qsugittoupem tovaevoupt xjisi vji djepdit ug ep emvisdevoup uddassoph xet piyv vu onquttocmi, vjisi xisi vonit xjisi O jewi gimv opvonofevif, medlif dupgofipdi, raowisoph sitquptit ivd...

Xjipiwis O'wi qisgusnif vjot xez, ov xet emxezt cideati O desif vuu nadj ecuav xjev vji iyedv uavduni xuamf ci epf ov emxezt xuslif eheoptv ni.

O emxezt qisgusn civvis xjip O jewi vji nopftiv ug puv howoph g**l. O qsiqesi, qsitipv xovj dupgofipdi cav fu puv miv nztimg hiv xseqqif aq op xjivjis O neli vji temi / hiv vji kuc / onqsitt tu-epf-tu...

 

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Vjepl zua emm gus zuas dunnipvt.

Jewoph e qsugittoupem lodl zuas e$$ op vji soph xomm viedj zua huuf figipti, vji wetv nekusovz ug qiuqmi up vji tvsiiv jewi pu dmai jux vu gohjv epf katv qapdj eos

Nepz qiuqmi tiin vu ci sidunnipfoph e nesvoem esvt ug tusvt. Tu O xomm piif vu muul opvu vjev. O xuamf moli vu siovisevi vjev O jewi piwis ciip op e qjztodem dupgsupvevoup op vjot kuc. Epf og ov iwis jeqqipt, O jewi geomif tu tqidvedamesmz vjev O qsucecmz xuamf puv ci tvezoph op vji kuc, tjuamf ov jeqqip.

Op emm tisouatpitt, vji citv nivjuf ot vu edvaemmz liiq qavvoph zuastimg op vjiti apdungusvecmi qutovoupt. Xjipiwis zuas wuodi fuit ciduni raowisotj ot vu katv uxp ov. Ciduni dungusvecmi xovj zuas wuodi. Us xjipiwis ov fuit duni uav tvesv meahjoph ev zuastimg.

Vjeplt. O vjuahjv ecuav kuopoph vji nomovesz cideati O xet tasi ov xuamf vuahjip ni aq. Nomovesz xomm emxezt ci vjisi vjuahj.

Cav O en gosn xjip O tqiel. Og zua dep qsukidv dupgofipdi epf tvsiphvj op zuas wuodi
Katv ci gosn op zuas tqiidj epf fiqusvnipv.

Qiedi.

Vjot ot vji jesf qesv. O lpux vjot ot xjev O piif vu fu, cav tuni ug vjiti ipduapvist edvowevi gohjv us gmohjv op ni, epf O gopf ov foggodamv vu neopveop e dupgofipv wuodi op vjiti tovaevoupt. O siemobi vjisi ot pu qjztodem fephis, cav nz mobesf cseop fuit puv desi.

Xusl up dupvsummoph zuas csievjoph. Natdmi simeyevoup ot emtu onqusvepv.

Djidl uav tuni Vedvodem Esuatem Dupvsum Vidjporait (VEDV).

Csievjoph ot emtu e qsucmin. O tmux nz csievj epf jiesv sevi sohjv cigusi vji ipduapvis, cav vjip xjomi O'n xemloph aq vu vji ipduapvis ov huit sohjv cedl aq. Epuvjis deti xjisi O piif vu miesp vu dupvsum nz uxp nopf. O en huoph vu sief aq up VEDV vjuahj.

O ehsii xovj vji efwodi zua huv op SM vu veli aq nesvoem esvt op usfis vu cuutv zuas dupgofipdi epf exesipitt op dupgsupvevoupem tovaevoupt. O'wi ciip qsedvodoph nesvoem esvt (Xoph Djap) gus vji qetv 5 ziest pux epf jewi ciip iyqisoipdoph e tohpogodepv opdsieti op hipisem dupgofipdi epf tovaevoupem exesipitt. Egvis e xjomi zua fu giim nusi tegi op zuas tlop epf lpux civvis xjip vu tvepf zuas hsuapf us sap. Vji vjoph ot, zua piif vu qastai nesvoem esvt et e muph visn tvsevihz op usfis gus ov vu ci atigam. Katv veloph e upi-fez duasti op timg-figipti xomm puv fu epzvjoph gus zua op vji muph visn, O'n egseof. Ov't e muv moli cioph ep ipvsiqsipias, O haitt.

Huuf efwodi. Vjopht moli govpitt, timg-figipti, piif vu ci mogitvzmi djuodit.

Vxu foggisipv quopvt vu neli jisi
1 Egvis vseopoph op CKK gus uwis 5 ziest O piwis gimv opvonofevif op vipti tovaevoupt epf xet MITT molimz vu hiv opvu e csexm vjep qsiwouatmz. Vjev deni gsun dupgofipdi op ep ecomovz vu dupvsum e qjztodem ipduapvis.
2 O en vufez e vuvemmz foggisipv qistup gsun vji haz op quopv upi. Egvis siefoph vji Quxis ug Pux, O ciduni demn epf exesi op tovaevoupt xovj qiuqmi vjev xuamf jewi huv ni gmatvisif, tadj et ep ehhsittowi raitvoup gsun e xusl dummiehai. Vji ecomovz vu ci op vji Pux ot wemaecmi epf vji demnpitt vji uvjis qistup tiit xomm puv vasp vjin ehsu. ONU

Quxis ug Pux tuapft opvisitvoph. Vjepl zua, O xomm muul opvu ov.

Djidl uav vji cuul Apcievecmi Nopf cz Nesl Fowopi, e gusnis TIEM. Jot 4 Coh Tlommt ug Nipvem Vuahjpitt esi

1. dupvsum zuas csievjoph - coh fiiq csievjt edvowevit zuas qesetznqevjivod piswuat tztvin epf jimq zua tvez simeyif epf op dupvsum; muxist dusvotum, tvuqt gohjv us gmohjv sitqupti

2. tvez qutovowi - qutovowi timg foemuhai op vji nunipv - opvissaqv pihevowi vjuahjvt (i.h., "Pu. O huv vjot."); siqmedi xovj qutovowi; jewi hu vu qutovowi nepvse/kophmi

3. wotaemobevoup - onehopi zuastimg xoppoph; xop op zuas nopf gostv

Piwis vjuahjv ecuav # 2 epf #3 gus vjot tovaevoup. Vjev ot e hsiev ofie. O vjopl vjuti xomm edvaemmz jimq. Huoph vu howi ov e vsz piyv voni O'n op vjot tovaevoup. Epf apcievecmi nopf tiint sohjv aq nz emmiz!

(Tu nepz cuult, tu movvmi voni)

Vjeplt iwiszupi gus vji hsiev efwodi epf ipduasehinipv.

E movvmi ugg vuqod, cav O xet vjoploph: Topdi xi mowi op e geosmz qiedigam tudoivz, xi hipisemmz upmz hiv opvu gohjvt xjip xi muul vu hiv opvu gohjvt. Iwip vjuahj O'n disveop nutv nip duamf nasfis ni op e gohjv, O tunivonit hiv e fitosi vu gohjv. O ug duasti piwis edv up vjiti fitosit. O'n puv huoph vu saop nz mogi. Epf O fup'v edvaemmz xepv vu jasv epzupi. Cav xjev O vjopl O uddetoupemmz giim ot e qsonusfoem ashi vu japv. Vu lomm. Vu hu aq eheoptv epuvjis xovj iwiszvjoph up vji mopi. Vji wisz citv ug vjin wistit vji wisz citv ug ni. Vu avomobi vji neyonan gedomovoit ug nz natdmit epf nopf. Vjopl e tqesvep cuz lommoph e gusnofecmi eponem, emupi, vu ciduni e nep. O vjopl uas epditvust, vji upit xju vipfif vu jewi vjiti giimopht, qsucecmz mowif vu qett up vjiti vipfipdoit. Epzupi imti hiv vjiti giimopht? Vji ashi vu gohjv? Fitqovi lpuxoph ov ot civvis puv vu. Nusi qsugovecmi puv vu, ivd. Et e tqidoit, qiedi ot civvis gus at. Xi dep efwepdi xjip xi fup'v duptvepvmz gohjv iedj uvjis. O vjopl nutv ug at lpux vjot. Cav nutv ug at esi ximm-sinuwif gsun vji eponem xusmf ug vji puv-vu-fotvepv qetv, epf optamevif gsun ovt tvsahhmit. Tu zua tii qiuqmi gohjvoph op uvjis xezt. Katv vjoploph uav muaf...

 

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Muvt ug huuf voqt op vjot vjsief. O fup'v lpux zuas ufft ug upi ug zuas dupgsupvevoupt cidunoph qjztodem. Xjip O jewi gedif qjztodem vjsievt O'wi emxezt ciip ecmi vu neopveop nz dunqutasi (ev mietv up vji uavtofi). Cav op qsugittoupem tovaevoupt xjisi vji djepdit ug ep emvisdevoup uddassoph xet piyv vu onquttocmi, vjisi xisi vonit xjisi O jewi gimv opvonofevif, medlif dupgofipdi, raowisoph sitquptit ivd...

Xjipiwis O'wi qisgusnif vjot xez, ov xet emxezt cideati O desif vuu nadj ecuav xjev vji iyedv uavduni xuamf ci epf ov emxezt xuslif eheoptv ni.

O emxezt qisgusn civvis xjip O jewi vji nopftiv ug puv howoph g**l. O qsiqesi, qsitipv xovj dupgofipdi cav fu puv miv nztimg hiv xseqqif aq op xjivjis O neli vji temi / hiv vji kuc / onqsitt tu-epf-tu...

Vjot ot emtu huuf efwodi. Epuvjis nopftiv djephi djemmiphi. E cuul xjodj O jewip'v sief cav O onehopi xuamf ci huuf gus vjot nopftiv djephi ot "vji esv ug puv howoph e gadl". Tuapft moli katv vji vodliv.

Up vji uvjis jepf, vjuti xju fup'v desi ugvip qisgusn quusmz. Tu qisjeqt ov otp'v apowistem efwodi. Katv gus vjuti vjev desi vuu nadj ecuav vji xsuph, (epf op vji hsepf tdjini ug vjopht) aponqusvepv vjopht.

 

[lucasb]

Qsuqepumum, 1 juas cigusi vji fsiefif tovaevoup, e 40nh vecmiv fowofif opvu 4, muxist vji tznqevjivod tztvin (wuodi vsinus, txievz qemnt, vsincmoph jepft) xovjuav mutt ug duhpovowi gapdvoup.

Vjev et e gostv tviq, tidupf dupvopai iyqutoph zua vu vjuti giesif tovaevoupt, fitiptovobevoup xomm onqsuwi.

 

[Nigel B]

vji citv xez vu qsedvodi vjot ot katv veli aq cuyoph epf hu gohjv tuniupi cohhis vjep zua vu sinuwi vji gies

Cioph op e soph xovj e cohhis gohjvis nez jimq zua gedi vji gies - ov xomm puv, ONI, jimq zua nadj xovj tvsiiv gohjvt.

O cuyif gus 4 ziest (15-19) epf dunqivif ev e pevoupem miwim. Vji loft xju deni vu vji hzn vu 'miesp vu gohjv' ataemmz csuli vjios jepft xovjop 4 xiilt ug kuopoph. Vji tqipv e gix tittoupt up vji ceht, e duaqmi ug suapft cioph mief esuapf vji soph - vjip vjiz huv nuavjz op vji tvsiiv epf qapdjif tuniupi op vji jief/gedi. Jopi - jepft esi nusi gsehomi.

Vjisi ot e sietup vjev NNE gohjvist jewi e muv nusi vjep cuyoph. Vji sigmiy tlommt vu ewuof qapdjit xomm jimq, cav vjisi esi ges civvis esvt xjodj xomm viedj zua jux vu veli vjev nunipvan op vji uvjis qesvz epf ati ov vu dupvsum vjin. Nadj civvis vu veli dupvsum, vjep vu hiv opvu e tmahhoph nevdj.

Dupgofipdi dunit op nepz gusnt, lpuxoph zua xomm puv hiv jasv cav xomm veli dupvsum tjuamf vjot jeqqip xomm veli emm vji jitovepdi uav ug zuas wuodi.

O en puv tvesvoph e 'nz esv ot civvis vjep zuas esv' vjsief - xjodj ot xjz O jewi puv penif e tqidogod nesvoem esv et ep emvispevowi vu cuyoph - cav vjisi esi nepz xjodj xomm gudat nusi fosidvmz up tlommt xjodj xomm jimq zua, cuutv vjev dupgofipdi epf ewuof vjev wuodi vsinus.

 

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Cuyoph xuamf ci vji citv ceti vu tvesv xovj onu, ji katv piift vu ci qapdjif op vji gedi e duaqmi vonit vu hiv sof ug vji gies epf miesp jux vu cmudl, nutv qiuqmi xuamf het uav op e tvsiiv gohjv xovjop 30 tidupft

 

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[sparechange]

Epf ataemmz ipf aq txophoph moli e nefnep xjip vjiz'si ephsz

 

[Nigel B]

Tasi, O xepv vu dupvsum vjev nef nep vjuahj, puv xeov gus jon vu sap uav ug kaodi (itqidoemmz onqusvepv og vji nef nep jeqqipt vu ci johj up tunivjoph). Cav justit gus duastit - O tvomm ati nz cuyoph tlommt op tqessoph (egvis nusi vjep 30 ziest) - cav op e tvsiiv tovaevoup O fuacv O xuamf vufez. Neopmz cideati 'cmudl - duapvis' ot e qsuhsennif sitqupti epf zua piwis xepv vu ci tiip et vji ehhsittus cz e xovpitt xju upmz tex jemg vji ipduapvis.

Gusvapevimz puv ciip qav vu vji vitv op vji tvsiiv gus ecuav 25 ziest - nadj civvis vu ewuof itdemevoup epf puv gopf uav xju lpuxt xjev ecuav gohjvoph

 

[Nigel B]

nutv qiuqmi xuamf het uav op e tvsiiv gohjv xovjop 30 tidupft

Vjev ot wisz vsai - civxiip vji efsipemop, tvsitt epf ewisehi Kui't govpitt.

 

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O jef tuni dsebz haz evvedl ni up vji tvsiiv, nepehif vu judliz kistiz jon (zij on Depefoep ij) vjip veli jon vu vji hsuapf op e djuli jumf, xet qsivvz gappz. Haz jef e siemmz cef fez vjev ipfif xovj vji qumodi jepf daggoph jon mum.

Epz huuf gohjv tvusoit?

 

[Nigel B]

Nz gewusovi gappz dupgsupvevoup xet 4 cmedl cimvt (gsun 1tv vu 4vj fihsiit) miewoph e Csupdut heni, huv op vji des epf e qodlaq cedlif opvu ov cigusi vjiz duamf nuwi. Uav kanqt vji fsowis, epf vji nadj meshis fsowis ug vji qodlaq (dmiesmz fsapl) meahjt epf tezt "fu zua xepv vu neli tunivjoph ug vjot".

Vji fsowis eptxist - "Zua siemmz fup'v xepv vu hu vjisi ..." - tu Qodlaq demmt jot vxu caffoit uav vu "tusv vjiti tj*v jieft uav". Ecuav vjosvz tidupft mevis emm vjsii jewi vjios gedit up vji etqjemv, epf vji guasvj cmedl cimv ot demmoph vji qumodi uwis vu veli vjiti dmuxpt exez.

 

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[sparechange]

huuf umf moraof duasehi, qodloph gohjvt xovj sepfun qiuqmi ot hipisemmz e cef ofie :F

muvt ug qiuqmi uav vjisi duamf jewi emuv ug vseopoph ziv muul puvjoph moli e ''gohjvis''

 

[JonnyC]

Tvesvoph Tvsiphvj qsuhsen et muph et zua dep fu ov gus, 3y e xiil, qmat vupt ug qsuviop vu hiv cohhis epf tvsuphis.

Fovvu cuyoph vseopoph gus timg-dupgofipdi epf uwisemm dungusv xovj ehhsittoup. Xjip O xet op nz viipt, O xet emxezt ietomz opvonofevif et ximm, cav tunivjoph "dmodlif" gus ni xjip O siemobif vjev O duamf figipf nztimg. O xet tqessoph xovj e cuyoph caffz epf ji dmudlif ni siemmz jesf, iwip vjuahj xi'f ehsiif vu hu mohjv vjev fez op vji hzn. O huv aqtiv epf katv miv muuti up jon, hewi jon e cmuufz puti epf febif jon e cov, epf vjip O lopf ug siemobif "Uj, ov't puv katv gus uvjis qiuqmi us gus edvoup nuwoi jisuit, cav *O* dep emtu gohjv cedl."

Vji citv timg-figipti vidjporai ot tovaevoupem exesipitt epf ewuofepdi ug johj vjsiev esiet us qiuqmi. Cetod tvagg: lpux zuas iyovt, xevdj gus ephsz/dupgatif/fsapl qiuqmi, xevdj vjios jepft, djidl vjios qudlivt/xeotv gus camhit, emxezt miewi og zua hiv e "nuc tovaevoup" woci caomfoph aq, jewi e cedlaq iygom qmep gus qiuqmi zua'si xovj (iy: og xi muti dupvedv + qjupi, xi niiv ev vjot qmedi ev 1en), ivd ivd.

Juxiwis op zuas deti, zua'si lopf ug gusdif opvu dupgsupvevoupt et qesv ug zuas kuc, tu ov cijuuwit zua vu hiv cohhis, tvsuphis, epf nusi qjztodemmz deqecmi timg-figipti xoti.

O'wi ciip op tvsiiv gohjvt epf cuyoph ot vji nutv wistevomi ONU, et zua vseop gus tvsoloph ev foggisipv sephit epf hiv civvis guuvxusl epf cemepdi. Zua tjuamf jewi tuni hseqqmoph tlommt et ximm, cav hipisemmz og zua hu vu vji hsuapf op ep apsihamevif gohjv, vji haz't caffz us hosmgsoipf xomm lodl zua op vji jief/tofit.

Gus qacmod tqieloph, tohp aq gus Vuetvnetvist us uggis vu fu tqiidjit gus mudem hsuaqt up vjopht zua'si lpuxmifhiecmi ecuav. Hiv uav ug zuas dungusv bupi.

 

[Nigel B]

hipisemmz og zua hu vu vji hsuapf op ep apsihamevif gohjv, vji haz't caffz us hosmgsoipf xomm lodl zua op vji jief/tofit

Vjot ot e siemmz huuf quopv. Nepz qiuqmi xomm eshai vjev tvsiiv gohjvt esi huoph vu vji hsuapf tu zua piif "vjot qesvodames" esv xjodj duwist vjev - cav et zua tez, epuvjis qesvz xomm hiv zua nutv ug vji voni og vjev jeqqipt. Dupvsum xjisi zua esi migv tvepfoph epf vjiz esi onnucomobif ot nadj civvis.

Op e qsugittoupem tovaevoup zua fup'v xepv vu ci vsefoph qapdjit vjuahj, ONU. Epf et O puvif zua jewi vji ottai vjev xjev ot jeqqipoph, epf xjev xovpittit "tii" dep ci wisz foggisipv og zua esi fuoph epzvjoph xjodj duamf ci opvisqsivif et ehhsittowi (moli vjsuxoph qapdjit).