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For my slowlane job, I'm not a cop, but I deal with similar stresses. Let's just say that most days I have to break very bad news to people. I am a messenger. Some people take it well, others get very angry, at me. Sometimes I can handle it calmly. Other times I become very intimidated, start to shake, have an obvious quiver in my voice, etc. I am not that big or tough of a guy. My deescalation techniques usually work, but sometimes they don't. For the times they don't are the times I need help. I've never been intimidated into backing down on my responsibilities, but I have been intimidated to the point where it is visible/audible to third parties. It's embarrassing, I'll admit. I thought I would grow out of this in time, but a recent experience is making me second-guess.
How can I toughen up, or maintain my composure in these confrontational situations? I work out and eat well. I'm in the best shape I'll ever be. Someone I know in RL said I should take martial arts or some similar self-defense class. Maybe this will help, but I feel like this is more of a public speaking scare (which I am fairly good at, by the way). And I'm not sure how much knowing how to fight will help. I have never been in a physical confrontation on this job and hope never to be. It's all talk, albeit scary talk.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
How can I toughen up, or maintain my composure in these confrontational situations? I work out and eat well. I'm in the best shape I'll ever be. Someone I know in RL said I should take martial arts or some similar self-defense class. Maybe this will help, but I feel like this is more of a public speaking scare (which I am fairly good at, by the way). And I'm not sure how much knowing how to fight will help. I have never been in a physical confrontation on this job and hope never to be. It's all talk, albeit scary talk.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
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