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Let me say first hand that this isn't business related.
Whenever I have a problem. I never ask myself "Is it possible?" because all things are possible if you put your mind to it. Resources such as public library, amazon books, and the internet make everything possible (aka no excuse not to know something). What I do ask myself when I do have a problem is "Is it worth my time?" To answer this question, I have to ask myself another question, how often will this problem occur? If it constantly effects my life then yes it is worth my time. One time thing? Then I'll just pay someone to do it or ask someone or google.
Example: Shit, I got to make/edit vector and logo files. Is it worth my time to learn inkscape (free adobe illustrator version). I thought this problem is going to happen quite often with the businesses I start and website vector art. So I thought, hell yeah. It is worth my time. Learned it, and benefited ever since. Long term investment teaching myself to learn inkscape (not that hard to be honest). But like I said earlier this post isn't about business...
My real life example I having a huge problem making me feel like my current mindset stated above is wrong. My parents are immigrants and they came here when they were about 20ish. They are now in their 60s. They have broken english. They have trouble with writing, speaking on the phone, getting their points across, tied down to one job, etc. Just problems anything related to english. So, in this case. I ask the question. Is it worth their time to learn english? I say yes. Why? English is and everyday problem they encounter. So they have the choice, easy or hard. Easy way = ask their son (me) to help with pretty much everything (become dependent). Hard way = Learn english, become independent, self-reliant. Been having arguments back and forth. Every person that caters to their easy way and helps them are golden children. "Oh look at so and so, helping me out." Throughout my life I haven't really helped them out and my response to their problems were "You can learn it." because like I said, it is worth their time. They become extremely offended and see it as I am not helping out he family. People in tears, etc. My parents do not have the mindset have lots of limiting factors and it is hard ingrained in their systems that it is not possible to learn english. They had like 40 years to learn english and if they chose the hard choice, they would be so much happier (what I think anyways). Can't get them to see my point because they are so offended. But in the eyes of my family tradition, they think I'm a total jerk for not helping.
So Fastlaners. Am I F*cking jerk for not helping them out and wanting them to be more independent ( benefiting them long term)? Should I just help them out and say screw trying to make them independent? I feel like the guy that links, Let me google that for you. Never realized how many people have self limiting mindsets of incapability...
EDIT: I haven't been helping people much after thinking like this because I'm like its on the internet mang. This mindset is hurting me and helping me at the same time.
Whenever I have a problem. I never ask myself "Is it possible?" because all things are possible if you put your mind to it. Resources such as public library, amazon books, and the internet make everything possible (aka no excuse not to know something). What I do ask myself when I do have a problem is "Is it worth my time?" To answer this question, I have to ask myself another question, how often will this problem occur? If it constantly effects my life then yes it is worth my time. One time thing? Then I'll just pay someone to do it or ask someone or google.
Example: Shit, I got to make/edit vector and logo files. Is it worth my time to learn inkscape (free adobe illustrator version). I thought this problem is going to happen quite often with the businesses I start and website vector art. So I thought, hell yeah. It is worth my time. Learned it, and benefited ever since. Long term investment teaching myself to learn inkscape (not that hard to be honest). But like I said earlier this post isn't about business...
My real life example I having a huge problem making me feel like my current mindset stated above is wrong. My parents are immigrants and they came here when they were about 20ish. They are now in their 60s. They have broken english. They have trouble with writing, speaking on the phone, getting their points across, tied down to one job, etc. Just problems anything related to english. So, in this case. I ask the question. Is it worth their time to learn english? I say yes. Why? English is and everyday problem they encounter. So they have the choice, easy or hard. Easy way = ask their son (me) to help with pretty much everything (become dependent). Hard way = Learn english, become independent, self-reliant. Been having arguments back and forth. Every person that caters to their easy way and helps them are golden children. "Oh look at so and so, helping me out." Throughout my life I haven't really helped them out and my response to their problems were "You can learn it." because like I said, it is worth their time. They become extremely offended and see it as I am not helping out he family. People in tears, etc. My parents do not have the mindset have lots of limiting factors and it is hard ingrained in their systems that it is not possible to learn english. They had like 40 years to learn english and if they chose the hard choice, they would be so much happier (what I think anyways). Can't get them to see my point because they are so offended. But in the eyes of my family tradition, they think I'm a total jerk for not helping.
So Fastlaners. Am I F*cking jerk for not helping them out and wanting them to be more independent ( benefiting them long term)? Should I just help them out and say screw trying to make them independent? I feel like the guy that links, Let me google that for you. Never realized how many people have self limiting mindsets of incapability...
EDIT: I haven't been helping people much after thinking like this because I'm like its on the internet mang. This mindset is hurting me and helping me at the same time.
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