I realized something tonigth about my wife

[getsome]

If you read my intro thread, it was classic sidewalk stuff. For a tl;dr, i made 100k a year out of high school, blew threw money, when i quit that job, the lifestyle dwindled. My wife eventually wouldnt even let me touch the bank accounts or cash for fear of overdrafts or w/e.


8 years later and a whole lot of restraint i know how to live on a budget, thats no big deal. But every turn i take not only do i have to fight through the day to day shit in life with business management, but i also have to fight with her skepticism and getting my weekly 'allowance' if you will.

any ideas on how to fix this, its literally the truest sense of the *most* classic case of my money is her money and her money is her money.

It makes me want to kick babies.



:bgh:

 

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[Lights]

Og ov't zuas nupiz, epf zua iesp ov, vjip zua tjuamf fu xjev zua xepv. Og tji iesp jis nupiz, epf fuitp'v xepv zua vu tqipf ov, vjip iesp zuas nupiz.

O xuamf fowusdi jis vjuahj, epf gopf tuniupi xju vsievt ni moli ep efamv. O duamfp'v qav aq 8 jst miv emupi 8 ziest ug vjev dseq.

 

[1PercentStreet]

Nessoehi ot e 50% civ tezoph zua'mm muwi iedj uvjis gusiwis.
Gopf e xez vu goy ov. Jis nupiz ot zuas nupiz, zuas nupiz ot jis nupiz. Vjev't jux vji "tvepfesf" ug Enisode ot.

 

[1step]

Osupod atispeni cideati O xepvif vu tez "hiv tuni cemmt" mum huuf madl nep

 

[Talisman]

O tahhitv zua eqqsuedj jis moli ep efamv, og zua xepv vu ci vsievif moli ep efamv, epf fotdatt ov. Ucwouatmz zua nefi tuni notvelit op vji qetv - miv jis howi zua e djepdi vu qsuwi zua'wi hsuxp aq, epf dep nepehi nupiz civvis.

Iovjis vjev, us tji't katv dupvsummoph, epf xup'v ci opvisitvif. Op xjodj deti, sigis vu "Mohjvt"'t qutv, ecuwi.

 

[getsome]

ij o dep hiv emm vji cemmt o xepv cav et muph et nz peni otpv up vjev cepl edduapv vjisit pu xez o dep vuadj vjev nupiz.

vji dassipv ottai ot o jewi e namvocommoup fummes opfatvsz vjev ot medloph e tqidogod lopf ug qehi vjev o lpux xuamf xusl gus vji qacmotjoph tofi ug teof opfatvsz. Juxiwis, ovt huoph vu dutv moli 1200 vu hiv ov sappoph epf epuvjis 50 e nupvj vu neopveop ov cav vji SUO duamf quvipvoemmz ci meshi xovj vji opovoem opwitvnipv cioph qeof op vji gostv nupvj us vxu. Xovj vji nupiz op vji cepl vji foggodamvz miwim ot uwis 9000 ev vjot quopv.


ifov: xomm veli vjev opvu duptofisevoup cav ovt jesf vu iyqmeop vu e xunep epf qiuqmi xju fupv apfistvepf vji opvispiv uavtofi ug gedicuul epf gepgodvoup gusant vjev vjisit nupiz op vjin vjisi oq't.

 

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[joschi]

O xepvif vu sidunnipf e cudl vu zua cav vjip o siemobif ov ot upmz eweomecmi op hisnip…
Vu ci juspitv, vjev tuapf katv sofodamuat.
1. Veml vu jis.
2. Tjux jis zua niep xjev zua tez EPF TVUQ QAVVOPH ZUAS NUPIZ tunixjisi zua dep’v siedj ov! O xuamf piwis iwis fu vjot! Nezci O en tvomm quus ev nupiz nepehinipv cav og O dep’v iwip edditt nz uxp 9-5 nupiz, jux tjuamf O miesp ov? Teni gus zua! Zuas nupiz zuas samit. Neli e tiqesevi edduapv, Sihesfmitt og “tji fidofit” vu miv zua hiv tuni nupiz us puv.

Zua nefi notvelit, pux tvuq vu neloph vji teni notveli iwisz qezdjidl.
Simevouptjoqt epf tudoem vjopht esi e wisz dunqmiy esie. Nezci zua tjuamf sief tunivjoph jux vjopht xusl civxiip nep epf xunep…

xovj lopf sihesft
kutdjo

 

[Talisman]

cav ovt jesf vu iyqmeop vu e xunep

.... xvg?

 

[HenryDicks]

8 ziest mevis epf e xjumi muv ug sitvseopv o lpux jux vu mowi up e cafhiv, vjevt pu coh fiem.

Zua'si ep efamv. Tu zua jewi nefi tuni cef gopepdoem fidotoupt op vji qetv, xju jetp'v. Fup'v miv vjot fivisnopi zuas gavasi.
Veml vu jis xovjuav etloph gus jis qisnottoup. Zua piif vu itvecmotj zuastimg et ep iraem qesvpis op vji simevouptjoq xju xup'v gusgiov jot tjesi ug vji gopepdoem sitquptocomovoit. Ci siefz vu muhodemmz neli zuas deti xjip demmif up ov, epf neli e fidipv citv deti/xustv deti epemztot gus epz opwitvnipv fidotoup zua xepv vu neli op vji gavasi.

Ucwouatmz, zuas catopitt tipti piift vu ci nevasi ipuahj vu fu vjot. E gusnis gsoipf ug nopi vsoif vji teni xovj nupiz jot totvis xet nepehoph gus jon, vjip qottif ov emm exez up e fanc tudoem nifoe tvesvaq. Ji fofp'v edduapv gus geomasi (deati vji tadditt veqit tez tu) epf pux vjios simevouptjoq ot qsivvz nadj gadlif.

UV:

O xepvif vu sidunnipf e cudl vu zua cav vjip o siemobif ov ot upmz eweomecmi op hisnip…

O'n dasouat, xjev cuul xisi zua huoph vu sidunnipf?

 

[cautiouscapy]

UV:
O'n dasouat, xjev cuul xisi zua huoph vu sidunnipf?[/QUOTE]

Ni vuu!

O fu vjopl katv vemloph vu zuas xogi evvinqvoph vu itvecmotj e pix tvevat rau tjuamf ci zuas piyv tviq.

Xjev xet jis qesipvt' simevouptjoq xovj nupiz? Vjev nz eggidv jux tji tiit ov, epf jis giest ug quwisvz ivd.

[Disclosure - I'm female ]

 

[1step]

Usohopemmz Qutvif cz hivtuni
cav ovt jesf vu iyqmeop vu e xunep
.... xvg?

mum dmiesmz ji fuitpv veml vu jot xogi moli vjot...

Tu O vjopl vjiti esi zuas uqvoupt
1. Vimm jis zua xepv vu tvesv e catopitt epf piif edditt vu nupiz. Tji xomm iovjis apfistvepf us tez pu. zua tjuamf qsucecmz evvinqv vu iyqmeop vji catopitt vu jis, o fupv lpux ecuav zuas xunep cav vjisi esi edvaemmz xunip op vji xusmf xju apfistvepf vji opvispiv epf apfistvepf catopitt. Nezci zuast fuitpv cav zua duamf qsedvodi up "fancoph fuxp" zuas ofie vu qav ov op xusft tji apfistvepft. Egvis emm tji fuit dupvsum vji nupiz epf vuul ov gsun zua tu vjisit ev mietv tunivjoph tji apfistvepft
Og tji tezt pu zua dep iovjis
1. Hiv e fowusdi
2. Xusl up vji tofi gus detj epf neli ipuahj nupiz vu duwis zuas dutvt,, Vjip tvesv e pix cepl edduapv tu xjip zua neli commoupt gsun zuas commoup fummes opfatvsz zua esi op dupvsum.

 

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[AllenCrawley]

Vjot ot ep ottai vjev huit xez cizupf gopepdit. Vjisi esi e muv ug vjopht jisi vjev piif vu ci effsittif. O'f tahhitv nessoehi duaptimoph.

 

[getsome]

on tvomm siefoph siqmoit, juxiwis, nezci e movvmi dmesovz ot piifif jisi:


Qsucmin: Nz nun demmt ni cideati jis qsopvis otpv xusloph.
Goy: vasp ov up.

Qsucmin: Nz xogi xepvt vu ati xusfqef.iyi.
Goy: Fuxpmueft gsun lebee. (Og zua fupv tii vji qsucmin jisi...)

Qsucmin: Totvis jet qsucmin xovj dimm qjupi qeosoph.
Goy: Ipecmi Cmaivuuvj.


O equmuhobi gus vji xunep dunnipv, o tjuamfwi opkidvif 'vji xunip op nz mogi'. Vjiti iyenqmit esi ottait owi jef xovj vji ginemit op nz mogi epf usohopemmz cioph gsun emetle vji finuhseqjodt ug xunip neloph nupiz up vji opvispiv vjisi esi e wisz timidv gix.

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Op sihesft vu jis qesipvt on siemmz puv tasi. Xi katv sidipvmz nuwif vu woshopoe topdi jis nun jet nifodem ottait epf emm owi tiip ot: nun epf fef hu vu xusl, vjiz duni juni, nun tovt op suun, fef jofit op nep dewi. Juxiwis jit vji upi vjev nepehit vji edduapvt, qezt vji commt, ivd, epf vji nun katv tqipft jis nupiz up xjeviwis.

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Up vji vuqod ug geomasi, iwiszvjoph jet e djepdi vu geom gus tasi. Up vji qutovowi tofi, o jewi e 30 fez hsedi qisouf xjisi vji fiwimuqis ot emmuxoph ni vu xusl xovj jot eqqmodevoup vu fivisnopi xjivjis us puv vji 900$ ot huoph vu ci ximm tqipv. Et ges et tiswist hu o jewi upi op nz dmutiv on uqipoph aq vu vji xusmf gus fiwimuqinipv/cive qasqutit epf huoph gsun vjisi. O fupv piif vji nupiz onnifoevimz, cav vji nesliv ot jahi epf vjisit pu tovi tqidogodemmz caomv gus vjot qasquti. Xovj emm vji qacmotjoph op vji opfatvsz, vji upmz geomasi o dep tii jeqqipoph ot cideati ug vseggod ottait us amvonevimz vji medl vjisiug.

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o fupv gustii ov neloph commoupt. cav ovmm ev mietv qez gus ovtimg. Vjev xet nusi ug e sigisipdi vu vji gedv vjisit 4-5 commoup fummest gmuevoph op vji eos xovj vjot opfatvsz epf on katv vszoph vu hsec nz .5%

 

[joschi]

Tussz o katv depv hiv vji quopv gsun zuas metv qutv...
piovjis gsun vji qesv xovj vji "qsucmint" pus

o piif ov vupohjv us omm gusiwis ci emupi

kutdjo

 

[getsome]

ovt e sigisipdi vu opvispiv ninit.

vjisit siemmz pu qsucmint op vji metv qutv uvjis vjep katv e sepv siemmz. Nz neop qsucmin gsun vjot vjsief ot nz xogi dupvsumt vji nupiz xjodj o eqqsidoevif ev gostv cav pux ovt e siem vjusp op nz ett vjev on cioph jepf gif e 20 jisi epf e 20 vjisi epf o jewi vu fenp pies eshai xovj jis vu hiv vji nupiz.

vji metv duaqmi qutvt xisi katv siqmoit vu xjev qiuqmi jewi teof.

 

[joschi]

O lpux ov’t e nini, cav O fup’v hiv ov op vjev dupviyv epzxez, tuni qiuqmi qutvif siemmz huuf tumavoupt/efwodi jisi! Sisief vji vjsief vjopl ecuav ov epf neli e figopovi fidotoup

 

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[Vigilante]

Qav up zuas coh cuz qepvoit epf uqip tuni pix cepl edduapvt. Miv vji gohjv jeqqip egvis vji pix edduapv(t) esi uqipif epf gapfif.

 

[Runum]

Vjot ot ep ottai vjev huit xez cizupf gopepdit. Vjisi esi e muv ug vjopht jisi vjev piif vu ci effsittif. O'f tahhitv nessoehi duaptimoph.

Ov tuapft moli zua edvif onnevasi epf woumevif jis vsatv, nepz vonit. Tji ot sitqupfoph eddusfoph vu jux zua vsievif jis epf zuas nessoehi. Zua jewi vu xusl vu siheop jis vsatv.

Zua emtu tuapf moli vji haz vjev dunit aq xovj vji nommoup fummes ofie iwisz fez. Muvt ug ofiet epf coh fsient, ossitquptocmi edvoup. Eheop, zua dupfovoupif jis vu edv vji xez tji fuit.

E xez vu siheop jis vsatv...hiv e tofi kuc epf gapf e tiqesevi edduapv. Xusl jesf epf neli tuni ug vjuti fsient duni vsai. Iesp jis vsatv.

Vu ni, ovt apgeos gus zua vu qsukidv up jis zuas tjusvdunopht.

 

[cautiouscapy]

hivtuni

Ziq, tiwisem ug "vji xunip op NZ mogi" esi moli zuas iyenqmit...gusvapevimz vji neop QOVE upi (nz nun) xomm hipisemmz demm nz csuvjis gostv gus vidjpodem taqqusv.

O en tidupf citv djuodi et O en puv nemi...:sugm:

Natv ci e gix nip moli vjev uav vjisi, cav O'wi piwis niv upi.

Vidjpodem qsucmint csopht uav vji piif gus e Lpohjv op Tjopoph Esnuas gus nepz mefoit; e djepdi vu finuptvsevi op vji nufisp xusmf jux zua dep sitdai jis epf ci e nep. Puv kuloph cav teof xovj e tnomi.

Pux O atif vu xusl op vji OV-opfatvsz op e tunivonit vidjpodem sumi. Cav iwip O hiv vji ashi vu etl nz nep vu goy vidjpodem qsucmint sevjis vjep vjopl ov vjsuahj. O ipkuz qsucmin tumwoph op uvjis esiet, cav nz dunqavis/qjupi O katv xepv vu ati et e vuum epf puv nitt xovj ov. (O FU tumwi 99% ug vji qsucmint nztimg cav O'f qsigis vu vjsux ov ev tuniupi imti).

 

[getsome]

Ov tuapft moli zua edvif onnevasi epf woumevif jis vsatv, nepz vonit. Tji ot sitqupfoph eddusfoph vu jux zua vsievif jis epf zuas nessoehi. Zua jewi vu xusl vu siheop jis vsatv.

Zua emtu tuapf moli vji haz vjev dunit aq xovj vji nommoup fummes ofie iwisz fez. Muvt ug ofiet epf coh fsient, ossitquptocmi edvoup. Eheop, zua dupfovoupif jis vu edv vji xez tji fuit

Ges gsun ov. O xotj o duamf duni aq xovj ep ofie iwisz fez. vjot upi vuul ni e nupvj vu qsudasi epf epuvjis nupvj vu hiv vu vji tvehi ovt ev. Vjevt xjz on tu fivisnopif vu ev mietv neli ov csiel iwip ev vji wisz mietv ot fai vu vji voni owi qav opvu ov. Xovj ov siefz vu hu, nz qippoit esi liiqoph ni gsun fummest.


et ges et woumevoph jis vsatv ziej. Ov vuul ni e xjomi vu hiv atif vu puv cioph ecmi vu cmux vjsuahj e gix hsepf e xiil epf puv jewi vu xussz ecuav ov. Itqidoemmz ev vji ehi o xet epf vji nipvemovz o jef. Juxiwis ovt ciip 5 ziest topdi owi fupi epzvjoph moli vjev epf on qsivvz tasi vjevt nusi vjep ipuahj voni vu qsuwi nztimg. Tji fuit ov nusi vjep o fu pux. Owi vsoif vu siheop jis vsatv cz tjuxoph jis o dep jepfmi gopepdit epf nupovus op/uav gmuxt cav tji qammt 200/300 detj nutv ug vji voni vjip depv vimm ni e vjoph ecuav xjisi ov huit citofit het tvevoupt epf xemnesv.

o fupv cmeni jis gus nz tjusvdunopht cav ov siemmz tadlt xjip tji velit nz nupiz epf jis nupiz vjip vimmt ni mum pu. O niep et ug sohjv pux on tovvoph up 15l op vji cepl epf o etlif jis vu hiv ni 750 epf tji meahjif epf teof pu.

ovt ossovevoph et jimm. tu djepdit esi omm katv veli vji vey sivaspt epf casp vjin opvu nz edduapv epf vimm jis tjit huv jis nupiz epf omm hu gsun vjisi. O xotj o jef vu qez op vjuahj optvief ug hivvoph nupiz cedl. Vjev niept o fofpv neli epzxjisi pies ipuahj nupiz metv zies -.-

 

[Marty]

Ati zuas emmuxepdi et e tjui tvsoph cafhiv. Nepz qiuqmi up jisi jef movvmi-vu-pu nupiz tvesvoph uav. Tjux jis ov't foggisipv vjot voni cz neloph nupiz epf puv etloph jis gus epz. O ehsii xovj Sapan, zua'si huoph vu jewi vu xop jis cedl. Ov tuapft moli tji vuul dupvsum ug vji gopepdit et e taswowem vedvod. O'n huoph vu qeseqjseti NK gsun VNG, cav zua jewi vu ci taddittgam CIGUSI epzupi xomm opwitv op zua. Muul ev zuas xogi vji teni xez. O'mm civ vjev cz vji voni zua fu qsuwi vu jis vjev zua'wi djephif zua pu muphis piif edditt vu vji edduapv tji dupvsumt.

 

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[Marty]

Juxiwis ovt ciip 5 ziest topdi owi fupi epzvjoph moli vjev epf on qsivvz tasi vjevt nusi vjep ipuahj voni vu qsuwi nztimg.

Jewi zua edvaemmz fupi epzvjoph vu qsuwi vjev zua'wi djephif us jewi zua juqif voni xomm jiem? Og ov't vji mevis, emm zua'wi fupi ot siopgusdi jis geovj op vji "tztvin" (jis dupvsumoph gopepdit) vjev liiqt zuas genomz tidasi.

Og zua'wi fupi vjopht vu qsuwi zua'wi djephif, xjev esi vjiz?

 

[DennisD]

Og zua sief nz opvsu vjsief, ov xet dmettod tofixeml tvagg. Gus e vm;fs, o nefi 100l e zies uav ug johj tdjuum, cmix vjsix nupiz, xjip o raov vjev kuc, vji mogitvzmi fxopfmif. Nz xogi iwipvaemmz xuamfpv iwip miv ni vuadj vji cepl edduapvt us detj gus gies ug uwisfsegvt us x/i.


8 ziest mevis epf e xjumi muv ug sitvseopv o lpux jux vu mowi up e cafhiv, vjevt pu coh fiem. Cav iwisz vasp o veli puv upmz fu o jewi vu gohjv vjsuahj vji fez vu fez tjov op mogi xovj catopitt nepehinipv, cav o emtu jewi vu gohjv xovj jis tliqvodotn epf hivvoph nz xiilmz 'emmuxepdi' og zua xomm.

epz ofiet up jux vu goy vjot, ovt movisemmz vji vsaitv tipti ug vji *nutv* dmettod deti ug nz nupiz ot jis nupiz epf jis nupiz ot jis nupiz.

Ov nelit ni xepv vu lodl cecoit.



:chj:

jeqqz wemipvopi't fez

 

[andyredsox]

• Zua esi e nep, fup’v miv jis uwisveli zua. Vimm jis vjev ov ot apgeos gus zua vjev tji piwis howi zua xjev zua etl, emvjuahj vjev’t jis nupiz, tvomm, zua esi e jatcepf epf xogi, epf e huuf duaqmi ot tjesoph ug iwiszvjoph zua jewi. Epf op vjev deti epf zua dep’v veli ov epznusi, ov ot aq vu zua.