Losing it

[eliquid]

Well he thanked me immediately in a private message.

But okay whatever man. Just hit ignore and never read anything I say again. Solves two problems.

And what would you have done if he never did that?

If he offed himself instead?

Or another person months later came by and seen your post and offed themselves?

This isn't a good thing you did man. A lot of people out there would have gone the other way. You shouldn't be encouraging offing one's self, even in a joke.

You got lucky they didn't.

 

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[Johnny boy]

And what would you have done if he never did that?

If he offed himself instead?

Or another person months later came by and seen your post and offed themselves?

This isn't a good thing you did man. A lot of people out there would have gone the other way. You shouldn't be encouraging offing one's self, even in a joke.

Then he would be breaking the rules because it says to go follow those steps before considering.

I am really against anyone offing themselves and not even following the rules I laid out. Definitely not recommended.

 

[rayrayray]

Then he would be breaking the rules because it says to go follow those steps before considering.

I am really against anyone offing themselves and not even following the rules I laid out. Definitely not recommended.

Hi everyone. I'm not so familiar with the UI of the forum yet so I don't know how to unquote the above comment. I just want to remove it and address all that responded to my post. Thank you all for your ideas. Me asking these advice from you is a sign that I'm still hoping for things to get better. And surely, all of your ideas make sense to me. I am grateful for all of your ideas.

It's also good to know that this forum is not just about entrepreneurship but there are actual people that care here. Thank you all.

Thank you also for inspiring, Mr. Demarco. I've read all three of your books. They are all great especially the Great Rat Race Escape . I love the story of the trottmans as well.

Maybe I'm just really at my lowest right now that even though the books spoke of facts and such practical and doable tips, I'm still so feeling so empty. Guess I have to keep on going till I find my defining purpose or at least that will to fight harder for what I have now.

Again, I appreciate all of you here. No matter what your opinions about another's comments, I still thank all of you. As they say, beggars can't be choosers. So, everything you offered me on this post means a great deal to me. And rest assured, whether I sink or swim, it's gonna be my decision and no one else to blame.

Again, thank you.
All the best to all of you.

 

[adnanazmi]

Take an ice-cold shower

I lost a lot of weight just taking ice-cold shower for minimum 30 sec to 90 sec each day right after I wake up. (You need to not over eat as well)

 

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[adnanazmi]

Hi everyone. I'm not so familiar with the UI of the forum yet so I don't know how to unquote the above comment. I just want to remove it and address all that responded to my post. Thank you all for your ideas. Me asking these advice from you is a sign that I'm still hoping for things to get better. And surely, all of your ideas make sense to me. I am grateful for all of your ideas.

It's also good to know that this forum is not just about entrepreneurship but there are actual people that care here. Thank you all.

Thank you also for inspiring, Mr. Demarco. I've read all three of your books. They are all great especially the Great Rat Race Escape . I love the story of the trottmans as well.

Maybe I'm just really at my lowest right now that even though the books spoke of facts and such practical and doable tips, I'm still so feeling so empty. Guess I have to keep on going till I find my defining purpose or at least that will to fight harder for what I have now.

Again, I appreciate all of you here. No matter what your opinions about another's comments, I still thank all of you. As they say, beggars can't be choosers. So, everything you offered me on this post means a great deal to me. And rest assured, whether I sink or swim, it's gonna be my decision and no one else to blame.

Again, thank you.
All the best to all of you.

Push through! TO ALL THOSE THAT DID NOT BELIEVE YOU. Devour their darkness and turn it into light!

 

[adnanazmi]

Don't think giving the advice of Andrew Tate, a sociopath (and whatever else) is going to help, lol.

Strongly suggest therapy, it exists for a reason and there are reasons wealthy people make therapy part of their every day life (not all obviously but I personally know a few people that make it a daily thing for their health)

Definitely don't be taking advice from someone who recommends advice from a sociopath like Andrew Tate, lol.

He is a successful person. And he has been honest in majority of cases. He is not going to say that without meaning. He definitely has said some questionable misogynistic stuff to gain views and I disagree with that. But the advice of getting fit and fixing your body is definitely something works.

@Count Fluffernut I gave my own practical advice. I tried it. I can't be more genuine than that. Advice of going to therapy is main stream. And there are always hidden agendas for most politically pushed advice. Big Pharma profits billions off depression, diabetes, cancer, etc

 

[ZF Lee]

I have never put anyone on the ignore list here at FLF, and I never thought I would.

But you, and everyone that "liked" your posts above, are def. candidates now.

I've also seen a theme myself with you. In prior threads about mental health, you pop in with some BS brosef advice, almost like you have to prove a point.

Maybe you are trying to overcompensate for something in your mental health?

Mods - I can't understand why we have a post here on the FLF about "what if Elon stopped by today" about how we should all act, in how we post, but we let this BS bro medical advice slide. This forum has def. been going down a bit with stuff like this.

We should be grading posts like his, by that Elon thread back in 2016 -
If a rockstar entrepreneur visited our forum, either male or female, and they read this particular thread, would they be inclined to stay at the forum? Contribute their good sense? Or would they say "WTF?" and leave?

Basically telling another member to off themselves, even in a joking manner is a WTF moment for sure.

We need more empathy.

We need love in our hearts, to understand how much the other person might be going through.

And here on the Forum, I think we should consider as many options as we can, especially when we have always valued making good life choices.

If we have enough strength to do lifestyle changes, go for it.
If we need more help...then we can try therapy.

It is better than just wallowing in the darkness, like so many other SCRIPTED folks.

And therapy doesn't always have to pop in pills into you. The therapist CAN suggest some lifestyle changes too, to fit your own unique case. No different than going for paid coaching, IMO.

And what would you have done if he never did that?

If he offed himself instead?

Or another person months later came by and seen your post and offed themselves?

This isn't a good thing you did man. A lot of people out there would have gone the other way. You shouldn't be encouraging offing one's self, even in a joke.

You got lucky they didn't.

It takes A LOT to end up taking your own life.

This is because of our own self-defense mechanisms.

So for OP to post this thread asking for help, I feel he still has inner strength deep inside.
And that itself is admirable. This is what I hope to see in Fastlaners...pulling yourselves out and working with what you can find on your hands to improve your lives. Even if its just as simple as asking for help on a Forum.

Go outdoors for more sunshine...maybe clean up the place (yes, a cramped, messy room CAN worsen moods)...and go visit a therapist for more help.

There are many other nuggets of advice you can try out here that aren't condescending.

You can choose to be better. Feel better. Live better.

Fastlane business can wait. Even better, once you have mastery over your body (i.e. you can keep healthy enough), you will be in great shape to think and spot opportunities.

 

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[Fox]

I vote that future threads like this should be just locked immediately and directed towards some permanent mental health style post. The reason - the forum is NOT the place to help with this type of situation.

The isn't a tough love type moment - it is a get yourself some professional help immediately moment.

If someone gets to a place where they are really thinking of ending their own life then they can't even trust their own thoughts. Nor can they properly process and understand new information. What could be written in a thread like this is neither here nor there. Real help with a proper professional is needed.

And quick fix solutions aren't going to work either. There is no magic post that is going to turn this situation around. Just like how recovering after a serious injury or surgery can take months, improving from such a low mental point is going to take time, real work, and proper supervision or guidance. To trust that one post or thread will do the job is careless on both sides.

A close family friend recently killed himself just a few weeks ago. He jumped in a river drowned, and this was after a group of people tied to help him and get him to step down from a bridge. On that day there was no reasoning that was going to turn him around - he had already dipped below a certain point mentally and he would not turn back.

I think a good course of action is that someone with a background in mental health write one solid thread on this topic and recommend a course of action that people should take. Then any future threads on this topic are linked to that and then closed for new comments.

If someone came on here with severe drug or gambling addiction would be say some posts and assume they are now fine? Suicide is no different.

I will lock this thread for now and @MJ DeMarco can call it when he is online next.

OP - the forum isn't the place to help with this. Everyone means well and a lot of this advice is solid, but right now you need in person help and the support of professionals trained in this area. Google a place near you today, and go.

There will probably be a lot of personal resistance to do this - but you do need to do it. You need real help, and this forum cannot provide it to you at this level. When things improve, come back and we can help you progress from there.