The vast majority of people will do more for others than they will for themselves.
What we could do is incredible... what most people will do is usually disappointing.
I'm willing to bet in your personal book of rules "how life should be" -- there's a rule that says something along the lines of "it's important to help other people" and also "other people's needs are more important than my own" and also "I can feel good by helping other people".
None of these rules are inherently wrong -- it's the rules you've created throughout the experiences of your life to feel good (AKA meet your needs).
The difference between helping others versus taking time for yourself is you feel like one is a 'must' and the other is a 'should'.
"I should take more time for myself, I should workout more, I should make more calls, I should advertise, I should..." -- most people spend their entire lives shoulding all over themselves.
The reason you help others first is clearly because it's a must for you. "I must help out, I must help them move, I must drive them to the airport, I must take care of other people."
There's many reasons why you could believe it's a must instead of a should... but if you wanted an answer here it is: because it's a must instead of a should
What we could do is incredible... what most people will do is usually disappointing.
I'm willing to bet in your personal book of rules "how life should be" -- there's a rule that says something along the lines of "it's important to help other people" and also "other people's needs are more important than my own" and also "I can feel good by helping other people".
None of these rules are inherently wrong -- it's the rules you've created throughout the experiences of your life to feel good (AKA meet your needs).
The difference between helping others versus taking time for yourself is you feel like one is a 'must' and the other is a 'should'.
"I should take more time for myself, I should workout more, I should make more calls, I should advertise, I should..." -- most people spend their entire lives shoulding all over themselves.
The reason you help others first is clearly because it's a must for you. "I must help out, I must help them move, I must drive them to the airport, I must take care of other people."
There's many reasons why you could believe it's a must instead of a should... but if you wanted an answer here it is: because it's a must instead of a should