What's up FLF
This is a journal of sorts that I'll use as a way to document my efforts over the coming weeks/months/ years on the process of getting my life together and turning my dreams into reality
I've done action faking, I've read books, I've started projects, I've given up, I've failed, I've started again Yada yada yada...most of you know the score.
The reason I want to put this into ether of the forum is because it’s beneficial to seek out wisdom from people who are in a position you'd like to see yourself in and I currently have no other direct access to business owners and successful entrepreneurs. So it only makes sense to come here really.
I’ll give a bit of background:
I’m 27 turning 28 this year.
I work in a bank as an inbound fraud agent.
I have moved back into my old room in my mums flat (I thinks that’s an apartment for you Americans here)
January 2022 I started a pressure washing business/side hustle while I was full time work at the bank and I was also in the midst of buying my first house with my gf of 7 years at the time.
Over the next few months up till when we purchased the house in May 2022 I had won PW work sporadically which helped keep the bank topped up a little
We moved into our new house in June 2022 and it was a struggle as my partner (now ex) wasn’t working due to bad mental health so I offered to support her on a measly single salary of £1600 plus the little extra I’d earn from pressure washing whilst paying all the bills for the house, giving her money for fuel and to live lol
Not only did we have this to contend with but we moved over an hour away from any family into one of the most boring towns counties in the UK - Ipswich.
Money was very very tight, to the point that I’d only have £15 A MONTH left over as “disposable income” haha.
During this time we were also dipping into our savings so we could redecorate the house.
Many a night was spent on a mattress in the living room / or bedroom with a sheet to keep us warm while we worked tirelessly to decorate the property.
On top of this, my bank job was back in my home town so having to travel to and fro daily was taking its toll on me too ( scraping wall paper till 2am and getting up at 6 to drive to work in a different county is not fun )
A few times I’d actually catch myself falling asleep behind the wheel
The pressures of daily life got to me and I went sick at work because life was miserable. My ex and I were further apart that we’d ever been in our relationship, the decorating was taking its toll, the lack of money and so forth.
We initially broke up at this time which was around July 2022 but still during this time I was trying to do everything and still grow the pressure washing business.
I’d recently decided to offer carpet cleaning alongside domestic cleaning services and would get leads on my website and then pass the work on to a subcontractor which I would take 20% of the job price for my fee
Anyway towards end of July we get back together and I managed to get a lot of decorating done which was good and was now working remotely from home after my sick period ended.
So I’m thinking about growing the biz and picturing adding other services like window cleaning ( just really trying to see what services work well and then I could go all in on that )
This period was short lived though.
We ended up breaking up in September 2022 and I go into the most depressive rut I’ve ever experienced in my life.
I was an absolute shadow of a man. I started drinking way more and had to take more time
off work because I went in one day and nearly broke down haha!
I was off for the next 2 months which takes us through October 2022 and November 2022 to December.
During this time I’ve moved back home into my old room in my mums flat, I’ve drunk a lot, I’ve stopped the business altogether, been going out with friends, started taking tablets for depression, spoken to therapists and basically tried to just not end life right there.
I’ve managed to get the basics of my life together and my performance at work has been the best it’s been in 2 years lol but it’s a dead end job for slowlaners
My van has just broken down and luckily I’m using my mums car to get to work (extremely grateful)
I’m still paying half the bills at the house because it’s been on the market since December
It looks like I’m money getting tight because I owe money to a debt agency of £189 lol which I will pay but I’ve now also got to get my van fixed (if possible) and my money is getting LOW
Now boys and girls. I am aware that some of you have dealt with WAY WORSE. This is just the shittest my adult life has been
This is not a cry for help, this is just me stating facts and I also taking note that I HAVE to take responsibility and fix this.
I think first things first. I have to go basic.
I need to decide what I want in the next 10/5/1 years because I realised yesterday, if someone asked me what my plan was, I wouldn’t have one!
After I’ve made my goals I’ll workout what needs to be done to achieve them
I’ll update here as and when this is done but I did find trying to envision my 10 year dream goal was HARD and my brain simply wasn’t conjuring anything.
I’ll continue to envision my dream life and I’d like that by tomorrow night I’ll have something I can write down here.
After that the execution begins
Also I’ll update lessons learned over the last year because we’ll there defintley been a few
Here’s to starting over again
This is a journal of sorts that I'll use as a way to document my efforts over the coming weeks/months/ years on the process of getting my life together and turning my dreams into reality
I've done action faking, I've read books, I've started projects, I've given up, I've failed, I've started again Yada yada yada...most of you know the score.
The reason I want to put this into ether of the forum is because it’s beneficial to seek out wisdom from people who are in a position you'd like to see yourself in and I currently have no other direct access to business owners and successful entrepreneurs. So it only makes sense to come here really.
I’ll give a bit of background:
I’m 27 turning 28 this year.
I work in a bank as an inbound fraud agent.
I have moved back into my old room in my mums flat (I thinks that’s an apartment for you Americans here)
January 2022 I started a pressure washing business/side hustle while I was full time work at the bank and I was also in the midst of buying my first house with my gf of 7 years at the time.
Over the next few months up till when we purchased the house in May 2022 I had won PW work sporadically which helped keep the bank topped up a little
We moved into our new house in June 2022 and it was a struggle as my partner (now ex) wasn’t working due to bad mental health so I offered to support her on a measly single salary of £1600 plus the little extra I’d earn from pressure washing whilst paying all the bills for the house, giving her money for fuel and to live lol
Not only did we have this to contend with but we moved over an hour away from any family into one of the most boring towns counties in the UK - Ipswich.
Money was very very tight, to the point that I’d only have £15 A MONTH left over as “disposable income” haha.
During this time we were also dipping into our savings so we could redecorate the house.
Many a night was spent on a mattress in the living room / or bedroom with a sheet to keep us warm while we worked tirelessly to decorate the property.
On top of this, my bank job was back in my home town so having to travel to and fro daily was taking its toll on me too ( scraping wall paper till 2am and getting up at 6 to drive to work in a different county is not fun )
A few times I’d actually catch myself falling asleep behind the wheel
The pressures of daily life got to me and I went sick at work because life was miserable. My ex and I were further apart that we’d ever been in our relationship, the decorating was taking its toll, the lack of money and so forth.
We initially broke up at this time which was around July 2022 but still during this time I was trying to do everything and still grow the pressure washing business.
I’d recently decided to offer carpet cleaning alongside domestic cleaning services and would get leads on my website and then pass the work on to a subcontractor which I would take 20% of the job price for my fee
Anyway towards end of July we get back together and I managed to get a lot of decorating done which was good and was now working remotely from home after my sick period ended.
So I’m thinking about growing the biz and picturing adding other services like window cleaning ( just really trying to see what services work well and then I could go all in on that )
This period was short lived though.
We ended up breaking up in September 2022 and I go into the most depressive rut I’ve ever experienced in my life.
I was an absolute shadow of a man. I started drinking way more and had to take more time
off work because I went in one day and nearly broke down haha!
I was off for the next 2 months which takes us through October 2022 and November 2022 to December.
During this time I’ve moved back home into my old room in my mums flat, I’ve drunk a lot, I’ve stopped the business altogether, been going out with friends, started taking tablets for depression, spoken to therapists and basically tried to just not end life right there.
I’ve managed to get the basics of my life together and my performance at work has been the best it’s been in 2 years lol but it’s a dead end job for slowlaners
My van has just broken down and luckily I’m using my mums car to get to work (extremely grateful)
I’m still paying half the bills at the house because it’s been on the market since December
It looks like I’m money getting tight because I owe money to a debt agency of £189 lol which I will pay but I’ve now also got to get my van fixed (if possible) and my money is getting LOW
Now boys and girls. I am aware that some of you have dealt with WAY WORSE. This is just the shittest my adult life has been
This is not a cry for help, this is just me stating facts and I also taking note that I HAVE to take responsibility and fix this.
I think first things first. I have to go basic.
I need to decide what I want in the next 10/5/1 years because I realised yesterday, if someone asked me what my plan was, I wouldn’t have one!
After I’ve made my goals I’ll workout what needs to be done to achieve them
I’ll update here as and when this is done but I did find trying to envision my 10 year dream goal was HARD and my brain simply wasn’t conjuring anything.
I’ll continue to envision my dream life and I’d like that by tomorrow night I’ll have something I can write down here.
After that the execution begins
Also I’ll update lessons learned over the last year because we’ll there defintley been a few
Here’s to starting over again
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