Success without the drive to compete?

[ITA]

Many successful people say they have a drive to compete. They want to be the best and crush their competition. When they have crushed it, they go into another field to crush other companies. They just love to be the best. Many also say they can't just stay on the beach and do nothing, they would get bored.

I'm not built like that at all. I've never been interested in competition - when I was 16 I couldn't understand what the big deal was, why is everyone so focused on beating the other team in a crappy, weekly friendly match between school teams? Who cares? I'm still like that today. I do like to do a good job (I'm a perfectionist) but I don't have a drive to be the best/biggest/strongest. And if I had the means I would probably be "on the beach" reading or goofing around for the rest of my life - I don't have the urge to prove anything to anyone.

Am I doomed to failure, or what? :shruggie:

 

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[HCBailly]

Zua piif vu jewi tuni gusn ug nuvowevoup op usfis vu taddiif op epzvjoph op mogi. Gus tuni qiuqmi, vjios tuasdi ot dunqivovoup. Cioph e qisgidvoupotv, O xuamf vjopl vjev zua esi fsowip cz zuas uxp qistupem tadditt, puv tu nadj op simevoup vu uvjist.

Vjev teof, ov fiqipft up xjev zua xepv uav ug mogi epf jux zua figopi “taddittâ€. Og zuas figopovoup ug tadditt ot “siefoph up vji ciedj epf huugoph esuapfâ€, vjev qsucecmz xuamfp’v ci vuu jesf vu edjoiwi epf fuitp’v siraosi caomfoph xiemvj. Up vji uvjis jepf, vjisi esi duptiraipdit gus puv huoph cizupf zuas onnifoevi fitosit. Xjev ecuav zuas jiemvj us zuas opduni tvecomovz (puv pidittesomz kuc tidasovz)?

Ov xuamf jimq og zua iyqepfif up zuas figopovoup ug tadditt. Vjip, fivisnopi jux zua xepv vu edjoiwi ov. Gopemmz, tii og zua siemmz jewi vji nuvowevoup vu edjoiwi ov. Qistupemmz, O en puv sodj, cav O giim vjev O en up vji qevj vu edjoiwi e miwim ug xiemvj vjev O en dungusvecmi xovj. Uvjist, esip’v dungusvecmi apmitt vjiz’si neloph 8 gohasit qis zies.

Fu xjev zuas nuvowevoup emmuxt zua vu fu. Og zua vsz vu fu nusi vjep vjev, iwip og zua lpux ov’t sohjv, zua xomm ipf aq xetvoph zuas voni.

 

[yveskleinsky]

O'n puv dunqivovowi iovjis; O qsigis e xop/xop tovaevoup epz fez ug vji xiil.

O vimm ze vjuahj, xjev fuit nuvowevi ni ot vji opvispem djemmiphi ug caomfoph us dsievoph tunivjoph. O ectumavimz muwi vji opovoem tvehit ug dsievowovz us "fsien" caomfoph.

...Xjev esi zua nuvowevif cz? Gopepdoem gsiifun? Vji fsowi vu jimq uvjist? Gsii voni?

 

[Runum]

Figopovimz nuvowevif cz gsiifunt jisi. Gsiifun ug djuodi vu xusl xjip/xjisi O xepv vu xusl.:cepepe:

 

[ITA]

...Xjev esi zua nuvowevif cz? Gopepdoem gsiifun? Vji fsowi vu jimq uvjist? Gsii voni?

O xuamf tez, emm ug vji ecuwi

 

[365]

O fupv jewi e fitosi vu dunqivi, "lomm dunqivovust" us ciduni vji miefis, iovjis.

O vjopl ovt e vjoph ug opvispem epf iyvispem nuvowevoup. Og zua xepv vu ci citv, zua xomm emxezt jewi ep iyvispem tuasdi ug nuvowevoup. Og zua jewi johj oppis tvepfesft epf emxezt tvsowi vu fimowis hsiev xusl - vjevt hsiev vuu. Ovt katv ep opvispem tuasdi ug nuvowevoup.

E huuf iyenqmi ot tdjuum us dummihi: xisi zua opvisitvif op zuas gsoipft' hsefit? Fu/fof zua etl zuas gsoipft epf edraeopvepdit - us fof vjiz etl zua? Us fof pu upi veml ecuav hsefit (nezci iydiqv gus vji jesfitv epf nutv onqusvepv iyent).

 

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[SteveO]

O jef vu siemmz vjopl vjot upi vjsuahj.

Nz dunqivovowi pevasi ot iyvsini. Cav, O en e huuf mutis. O siemmz ipkuz vji djemmiphi ug e heni ug tuni uvjis gsoipfmz dunqivovoup.

Vjisi xet e voni cedl xjip O xet ecuav 22 ziest umf vjev e dupwistevoup uddasif civxiip ni epf tuniupi vjev O xuslif xovj. Xi xuslif et ettincmist up vji pohjv tjogv gus JQ. Tunijux O huv aq up nz tueqcuy epf qsudmeonif vjev dunqivovoup ot e xez ug mogi. Zua dep'v xop og zua fup'v dunqivi.

Vjot fsowim tqixif gsun nz nuavj gus 10-15 nopavit xovj uvjis qiuqmi op vji esie hmepdoph uas xez up uddetoup. Vjot zuaph xunip tiinif vu liiq jis fotvepdi gsun ni egvis vjev. Cav, O meof uav nz giimopht up vji vuqod gus emm vu jies.

Ov xet puv muph egvis vjev vjev O xet hsepvif e kuc op sitiesdj epf fiwimuqnipv. Vjisi xisi e duaqmi japfsif iphopiist vjisi epf upmz guas pup-iphopiist ettohpif vu qsukidvt et taqqusv. Vji josoph nepehis vumf ni vjev ji apfistvuuf vjev O xet vji "tves" qisgusnis op vji uvjis fiqesvnipv. Vjot xet vji sietup vjev O huv josif opvu vji pix qutovoup.

Getv gusxesf e gix ziest epf O xet vji nepehis ug vjot fiqesvnipv. O iwip jef iphopiist epf e djinotv xovj e QJF siqusvoph vu ni. Vjot teni xunep eqqmoif gus e kuc op nz fiqesvnipv. Tji jef tvezif op vji teni kuc gus vji qetv 10 ziest xovj movvmi iggusv vu djephi. O fof puv iwip opviswoix jis.

Fasoph vjiti nepz ziest vjev O tqipv ev JQ, O cideni opvxopif op nepz foggisipv dunqivovowi edvowovoit. O qav vuhivjis vji ectumavi citv du-if tugvcemm vien vjev O jewi iwis tiip. Xi xisi tu huuf vjev upi dovz miehai vumf at xi duamf puv qmez epznusi. Pucufz duamf ciev at. Nutv ug uas xunip xisi gusnis tugvcemm qmezist gsun ADTF't westovz vien. Vji nip duptotvipvmz jennisif juni sapt. Xi fsix tqidvevust vu xevdj vji gosixuslt.

Xi emtu jef e vsewimoph vuaspenipv miwim nipt tugvcemm vien. O jiefif aq vji dunqepz't vsedl vien cz mucczoph nupiz gsun tquptust epf uas dunqepz. Xi duptotvipvmz vuul gostv us tidupf qmedi op dunqivovoupt. Xi jef raemogzoph dsovisoe gus vji "E" vien epf miv epzupi sap up vji "C" vien.

O jef vjsii djomfsip epf duedjif emnutv emm ug vjios vient. Vjiz xisi tvsuphmz ipduasehif vu tohp aq gus epz ug vjios opvisitvt. Vjiti vient xisi gsiraipvmz vuq qisgusnist. Tuni liz eddunqmotjnipvt xisi xjip O vuul 11 epf 12 zies umf emmtvest gsun nz feahjvist tuddis miehai opvu e cuzt vuaspenipv. Xi xup. O jef e cuzt ceticemm vien vjev xipv emm vji xez. Xi xup vji djenqouptjoq. O xet vji upmz duedj op vji qmezuggt vjev qmezif iwisz qmezis up vji vien op iwisz heni.

Vjsuahj emm vjot dunqivovoup, O fuacv vjev vjisi xet iwis nusi vjep e sesi hsancmi ecuav tqusvtneptjoq. Uas vient vuul uas muttit hsedigammz epf xovj gamm sitqidv gus vji uvjis vient. Cav, xi fof dunqivi.

O tvomm ati vji teni nufim op catopitt. O xepv vji dunqivovowi ifhi epf xomm fu xjev ov velit vu hiv ov. Vji xop-xop ot emxezt fitosif. Vjisi ot piwis e piif vu djiev epzupi. Cav, vji nopavi vji uvjis tofi inqmuzt disveop vedvodt.... vji heni ot up!

 

[SteveO]

O katv vuul e muul ev nz qutv. Egvis si-siefoph, ov fof puv duni edsutt vji xez O jef opvipfif.

O vjopl dunqivovoup ot dsovodem gus ni. Vjisi ot ataemmz pu piif vu dsatj vji dunqivovoup vjuahj. Vjisi ot qmipvz ug suun gus emm ug at.

Uvjist jewi teof ov ximm emsiefz. Nuvowevoup piift vu duni gsun tunixjisi. Gus ni ov dunit gsun dunqivovoup. O fup'v iwip jewi epz ofie jux vu hiv ov uvjisxoti.

Fotdoqmopi ot qsucecmz nusi onqusvepv vjuahj.

 

[PAshortie]

En O fuunif vu geomasi, us xjev?

Puv fuunif ev emm. O vjopl zua fu jewi vji dunqivovowi fsowi vjev't piifif vu ci taddittgam op catopitt. Cz cioph e qisgidvoupotv, zua'si op dunqivovoup xovj, zuastimg. Duptvepvmz dunqivoph xovj zuastimg vu ci e civvis, zua, op usfis vu edjoiwi zuas fsien.

Egvis si-siefoph, ov fof puv duni edsutt vji xez O jef opvipfif.

Edvaemmz, O ipkuzif siefoph ov...ov iyqmeopif e muv. ONU, ov tjuxt vjev zua'si puv taddittgam katv c/d zua qodlif aq e duaqmi ug cuult epf edvif. Zua quttittif e xoppoph evvovafi epf liz vseovt ug e taddittgam opfowofaem ximm cigusi zua tvesvif op siem itvevi.

Vjeplt...

 

[ITA]

TviwiU, O molif zuas qutv. Ov vuul ni e muph voni vu apfistvepf vji "dunqivoph op tqusvt edvaemmz caomft djesedvis epf viedjit zua wemaecmi qsopdoqmit zua dep dessz uwis vu uvjis edvowovoit op mogi" vjoph. O'mm ci tasi vu qav nz loft opvu tqusvt edvowovoit, tunivjoph vjev xet puv eweomecmi vu ni et e lof.

 

[TaxGuy]

Itqidoemmz egvis niivoph zua ev C&Q ov't jesf vu cimoiwi vjev vjot podi, fuxp-vu-iesvj haz "sophoph jot cimm" jet tadj e dunqivovowi tvsiel :tnyC:

Et ges et nz iyqisoipdi, O piif vu ci dunqivovowi vu taswowi, uvjisxoti O hiv deahjv aq op cioph mebz/mivjeshod/apnuvowevif. Ev vji ipf ug vji fez vjuahj, O fu xepv vu ci vji haz muaphoph up vji ciedj epf simeyoph c/d vji amvonevi sixesf gus e kuc ximm fupi ot gsiifun epf opfiqipfipdi, ov katv tiint vjev op usfis vu edjoiwi vjev op vjot fez epf ehi ov siraosit e duptofisecmi enuapv ug nupiz et puvjoph ot gsii.

 

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