Hello, I am completely new here but I have just finished reading the unscripted book. Now, what I will be talking and asking an advice for in this thread has nothing to do with business or making money, but it is the thing that hurts me the most and is holding me back from a lot of things.
So I will introduce myself quickly and then go to my problem so its easier to understand. I am a 27 years old male, and I live in Slovenia. A very small country with pretty low standards, average pay is about $1000. I have a day job where I make like $800 and then few side businesses I am working on that will give extra income, and I got some investments and such going for me, so I am doing pretty good here. Majority of people here have a job and thats it, spending most of the days in the cafe and horsing around, so I am not doing that bad in general, and have a really good plan and high hopes for the future. This is not what worries me the most.
What worries me the most and puts me in a negative, depressive state all the time is the woman problem. I am very sad all the time because I am not the most attractive guy that can easily get girls to have fun and what not, from a scale of 1 to 10, I would say I look something like 4? I mean, to myself I would rate myself like 7 to 8, but since girls are not really interested very much in me and I have some physical problems like big eyes and thin hair I think 4 is fair. I do have a girlfriend but that is the only woman I pretty much have contact with through the whole day. I dont have any female friends or whatever and I am very shy on top of all that, mostly because of my insecurities. And before you judge me or whatever, please understand that Im not trying to be some cool dude or whatever having a girlfriend and still looking for other girls, it is something that is IN me. I do not think like wow I need to be cool and have 3 or 4 side girls, I am just very very sad and depressive when I dont have any, and its probably because I want to prove to myself that Im worth something in this scenario and that I also can have some girls. And this problem is actually very bad because there is no known way to fix this. I look the way I do, I cant do anything to change that (or can I?), and all the surgeries are out of the question as that would just put me deeper in my negative thoughts because then I would be like thats not even me.
And so I spend a lot of my days negative thinking of how I cant really do much about it and time is just flying by. I cant focus clearly on my businesses or anything that Im doing. When Im observing my friends, they are so confident and all cool and I pretty much cant see any imperfections in them. They have cool hairstyles, regular face and everything, they can easily get any girl out they want. And then when Im outside with my friends, Im just thinking about this all the time and I am in a bad mood again. So I spend most of my days thinking about my insecurities and even when we are out, I just keep thinking ohh this girl must be laughing at my big eyes or ohh this girl is looking at my thin hair or whatever. That is all I am thinking about
That would be it in short, I hope I didnt bore you too much with crying about my problems, but this is a thing that is holding me back and destroying my days.
Thanks.
So I will introduce myself quickly and then go to my problem so its easier to understand. I am a 27 years old male, and I live in Slovenia. A very small country with pretty low standards, average pay is about $1000. I have a day job where I make like $800 and then few side businesses I am working on that will give extra income, and I got some investments and such going for me, so I am doing pretty good here. Majority of people here have a job and thats it, spending most of the days in the cafe and horsing around, so I am not doing that bad in general, and have a really good plan and high hopes for the future. This is not what worries me the most.
What worries me the most and puts me in a negative, depressive state all the time is the woman problem. I am very sad all the time because I am not the most attractive guy that can easily get girls to have fun and what not, from a scale of 1 to 10, I would say I look something like 4? I mean, to myself I would rate myself like 7 to 8, but since girls are not really interested very much in me and I have some physical problems like big eyes and thin hair I think 4 is fair. I do have a girlfriend but that is the only woman I pretty much have contact with through the whole day. I dont have any female friends or whatever and I am very shy on top of all that, mostly because of my insecurities. And before you judge me or whatever, please understand that Im not trying to be some cool dude or whatever having a girlfriend and still looking for other girls, it is something that is IN me. I do not think like wow I need to be cool and have 3 or 4 side girls, I am just very very sad and depressive when I dont have any, and its probably because I want to prove to myself that Im worth something in this scenario and that I also can have some girls. And this problem is actually very bad because there is no known way to fix this. I look the way I do, I cant do anything to change that (or can I?), and all the surgeries are out of the question as that would just put me deeper in my negative thoughts because then I would be like thats not even me.
And so I spend a lot of my days negative thinking of how I cant really do much about it and time is just flying by. I cant focus clearly on my businesses or anything that Im doing. When Im observing my friends, they are so confident and all cool and I pretty much cant see any imperfections in them. They have cool hairstyles, regular face and everything, they can easily get any girl out they want. And then when Im outside with my friends, Im just thinking about this all the time and I am in a bad mood again. So I spend most of my days thinking about my insecurities and even when we are out, I just keep thinking ohh this girl must be laughing at my big eyes or ohh this girl is looking at my thin hair or whatever. That is all I am thinking about
That would be it in short, I hope I didnt bore you too much with crying about my problems, but this is a thing that is holding me back and destroying my days.
Thanks.
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