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Been a few weeks since i posted or commented on something. It's not because i was just a drive by poster looking to get rich quickly, didn't find a way on the forum and went to the next whatever blog or maybe a guru. Also it wasn't because my surrounding lured me back to a scripted life.

To be honest it was reading the book Unscripted that woke me up and realized that although, by all means i don't live a scripted life (believe me i never did) i really don't have a meaning or a purpose to become financially independent, i don't have a why or just don't know how much i want it.

Yes i know this sounds incredible to some, but living in a first world country and being assured of a reasonable income, this because i was in the military and am a veteran who lost a leg, does that to you. (hmm, sounds scripted)

So it was Unscripted that opened my eyes and slapped me in the face that i don't really have a reason to become a millionaire (TMF) because i don't have a goal. Of course i want to own a sport car, not a lambo though, i prefer a E-type. Of course i want to live in a 19th century townhouse but somehow there's no motivation.

Strange, maybe i don't want it bad enough? Well, i for one am a person very concerned with the declining of nature, biodiversity and climate change. Since i lived half my life in Brazil, especially the amazon forest and the people who live there and all of the problems they are facing are something i always was involved with.

Maybe another reason to become financially free and instead of buying a Lamborghini i can fund projects.

Don't get me wrong i'm really not a liberal treehugger, not that's anything wrong with that, but i'm simply not and you'll be surprised that although, i can't stand injustice against those who can't not defend them self, and how much i'm a real nature lover, i'm also somehow a redneck and a petrolhead.

But i 'm digressing here.

So i was reading Unscripted and it hit me in the head that i really don't have a meaning or a purpose to even start a endeavor and this while i'm still in the middle of one.

This is of course very harmful for my current business and the people involved. They all expect a lot of me, and not that i want to brag, but they somehow look up to me, always telling me that they like my ideas and how much they enjoy working with me.

Back to commitment and how much do i want it. I work everyday at my business but just don't give the full 100% i ought to give. I know it could be very successful since the CENTS principle does apply (@mjdemarco thanks for teaching that). It's s simply a matter that i don't really get motivated enough for whatever reason that is.

I'm 49 years old and know i have the next ten years to work to become successful. By successful i mean have the money and time to do whatever i want and be assured my son has something to fall back on after ten or more times a failure in whatever he is going to do in his life.

It's a matter of getting organized, to know what's my goal and what is needed to get there. Sounds simple but in my case it's not.

So that's the reason why i didn't post or comment on anything. I really had to do some soul searching at first. It's strange i have a business with enough potential, a lot of good contacts who are happy to work with me. I'm not stupid, i have ideas some suck some are pretty interesting. The only thing i need is what i read in TMF an Unscripted. Motivation!

In a week or two or maybe in just three day's from now i'll have finished Unscripted and will join the insiders forum. By then i want to have a reason, motivation or purpose why i want to succeed in my endeavors. I really want to give a 110%, be totally monogamous about my business, study marketing techniques, try new things and get totally involved by simply being my business.

As i'm writing this i start to get enthusiastic and that's why i like this forum. It's the interaction with like minded people that's so important. It's also the same reason why i didn't post though, since there's no place here for people with lack of motivation who give only 40% at most, you know action faking.

Maybe other forum members have ideas about this somewhat abstract idea of the reason why, motivation, whats driving you and meaning or purpose.

Don't get me wrong i'm not asking other people to give me reasons or meaning. Every person has to find their own reasons why. Just like to know if there are others who did experienced lack of motivation and how they dealt with that.
 

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Comfort is the enemy to progress.

You're comfortable.

And that's normal.
 

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Thank you for sharing this.

I have a hard time with my meaning and purpose sometimes as well.

Luckily, deep down inside I know what this whole thing (living, working, earning money, becoming rich) is all about for me.

It is sharing.
Money, material things, time, value. You name it.

I love being able to tell my parents who live on pension in Korea to come see me in England anytime because 'I will take care of it'.

I love being able to put a smile on my friend who recently lost her twins during pregnancy by taking her out to a nice dinner and listening to her, not just holding her hands and saying 'I'm sorry for your loss'.

I love being able to donate all the stuff I don't use anymore without thinking 'Maybe I can sell these on ebay and make a lot of money'.

I love being able to pack extra food so I can share it with my two Turkish coworkers who work in the kitchen 12 hours a day 6 days a week.

I love being able to tell my husband to quit his cushy military job that pays our housing rent, health insurance, and gave me a free pass (military spouse visa) to England that all my friends are dying to live in. And I pay for dinner just to make him feel better on his 'bad days'.(usually from Monday through Friday. Scripted!)

There are always people who are having a bad day, who would appreciate your old stuff, who want some good food but are tight on budget.

Trust me, I've saved 0.1 million so far by being in a slowlane for almost 2 decades.
And I did not pack my lunch every day and take a Korean hell train to commute for years just to spend my money on other people for their happiness.

One thing for sure, there is something so liberating and rewarding at the same time when I share my money and value with others.
 
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Comfort is the enemy to progress.

You're comfortable.

And that's normal.
Yeah, you're right.

Somewhere on this forum i read something about fear.
When i picture myself ten years from now and i didn't do anything at all. We are or been in probably in another economic crisis. So financially i would probably be worse off then now still depending on my veteran salary.
Still live in this same house with the same neighbors. Good people but not people i want to surround myself with the rest of my life.
Or even older in a nursery home again surrounded with people who lived their whole life scripted and have to listen to their story's. I don't look down on them, but again not my kind of people.

Probably i would get very depressed, even really sad that i didn't do everything i could do all though i came across TMF and Unscripted together with the people on this forum. Just because i was to comfortable.

Pretty scary to be honest...

This helped a lot. Writing it down and confessing it publicly on the forum helped me with clearing my head and putting things in perspective. 49 years is still way to young to get comfortable especially when you're involved in something with good opportunity's, have the skills and contacts.

It's time to quit sitting around and wining about not knowing what i want when i damn good know what i want.

I want to be free and to be free i need be independent from government salary's, bonuses, paid for healthcare, rent and... you know what? Be free from this scripted life!

Almost finished Unscripted and will start this instance giving the full 100% that i need to give to achieve my goals.

It's really all about being free, the E-type and the townhouse are just side effects of a unscripted life.

Thanks.

B.t.w. will set some goals and post them on this forum after done with Unscripted.
 

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Been a few weeks since i posted or commented on something. It's not because i was just a drive by poster looking to get rich quickly, didn't find a way on the forum and went to the next whatever blog or maybe a guru. Also it wasn't because my surrounding lured me back to a scripted life.

To be honest it was reading the book Unscripted that woke me up and realized that although, by all means i don't live a scripted life (believe me i never did) i really don't have a meaning or a purpose to become financially independent, i don't have a why or just don't know how much i want it.

Yes i know this sounds incredible to some, but living in a first world country and being assured of a reasonable income, this because i was in the military and am a veteran who lost a leg, does that to you. (hmm, sounds scripted)

So it was Unscripted that opened my eyes and slapped me in the face that i don't really have a reason to become a millionaire (TMF) because i don't have a goal. Of course i want to own a sport car, not a lambo though, i prefer a E-type. Of course i want to live in a 19th century townhouse but somehow there's no motivation.

Strange, maybe i don't want it bad enough? Well, i for one am a person very concerned with the declining of nature, biodiversity and climate change. Since i lived half my life in Brazil, especially the amazon forest and the people who live there and all of the problems they are facing are something i always was involved with.

Maybe another reason to become financially free and instead of buying a Lamborghini i can fund projects.

Don't get me wrong i'm really not a liberal treehugger, not that's anything wrong with that, but i'm simply not and you'll be surprised that although, i can't stand injustice against those who can't not defend them self, and how much i'm a real nature lover, i'm also somehow a redneck and a petrolhead.

But i 'm digressing here.

So i was reading Unscripted and it hit me in the head that i really don't have a meaning or a purpose to even start a endeavor and this while i'm still in the middle of one.

This is of course very harmful for my current business and the people involved. They all expect a lot of me, and not that i want to brag, but they somehow look up to me, always telling me that they like my ideas and how much they enjoy working with me.

Back to commitment and how much do i want it. I work everyday at my business but just don't give the full 100% i ought to give. I know it could be very successful since the CENTS principle does apply (@mjdemarco thanks for teaching that). It's s simply a matter that i don't really get motivated enough for whatever reason that is.

I'm 49 years old and know i have the next ten years to work to become successful. By successful i mean have the money and time to do whatever i want and be assured my son has something to fall back on after ten or more times a failure in whatever he is going to do in his life.

It's a matter of getting organized, to know what's my goal and what is needed to get there. Sounds simple but in my case it's not.

So that's the reason why i didn't post or comment on anything. I really had to do some soul searching at first. It's strange i have a business with enough potential, a lot of good contacts who are happy to work with me. I'm not stupid, i have ideas some suck some are pretty interesting. The only thing i need is what i read in TMF an Unscripted. Motivation!

In a week or two or maybe in just three day's from now i'll have finished Unscripted and will join the insiders forum. By then i want to have a reason, motivation or purpose why i want to succeed in my endeavors. I really want to give a 110%, be totally monogamous about my business, study marketing techniques, try new things and get totally involved by simply being my business.

As i'm writing this i start to get enthusiastic and that's why i like this forum. It's the interaction with like minded people that's so important. It's also the same reason why i didn't post though, since there's no place here for people with lack of motivation who give only 40% at most, you know action faking.

Maybe other forum members have ideas about this somewhat abstract idea of the reason why, motivation, whats driving you and meaning or purpose.

Don't get me wrong i'm not asking other people to give me reasons or meaning. Every person has to find their own reasons why. Just like to know if there are others who did experienced lack of motivation and how they dealt with that.
I've been struggling with this recently(and still am to an extent).

Tap into emotional reasons you want to do it, the deeper you dig the more drive you'll have.

You can either have one very powerful reason that taps into your identity at its core(which is rare) or you can have 10-20 different reasons that by themselves don't move you much but together become powerful enough to create the same effect.

Take every reason and run them through your entire life up to this point, make it a part of you, it'll have more strength behind it that way

I hope it helps.
 
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You can either have one very powerful reason that taps into your identity at its core(which is rare) or you can have 10-20 different reasons that by themselves don't move you much but together become powerful enough to create the same effect.
Like i read in unscripted about someone who wanted to save it's mother from poverty.
That's a very powerful reason. I don't have a reason like that and MJ DeMarco was right I'm to comfortable.


Take every reason and run them through your entire life up to this point, make it a part of you, it'll have more strength behind it that way
I hope it helps.
Finding or having a drive is very powerful and is needed to achieve a goal.
 

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If you don’t find meaning and purpose in ‘what you can get’ being an entrepreneur, maybe you can find meaningful reasons in ‘what you are getting away from’.

Just have a clear look around you, and look at the majority’s people life, scripted life. People are stuck with a job they don’t like, people are working for someone else dream, people have no control about their time (boss decision, not their own), people are limited financially which limit theirs actions into nowadays society, people life’s energy are slowly and constantly getting sucked in a 40+ years process of month-to-month paycheck and
monthly saving for confortable retirement in exchange of the best years of their life.

Being able to success in the entreprenarial journey will allow you to get away from this. Being in control of your life, enjoying freedom where others are stuck in modern slavery.
 

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I'll offer you the best advice I have.

find the things that have the ability to make you cry (either from joy or sadness), and use them. the power of emotion is one of the most inspiring things.

comfort is great for most - no risk, little reward = no pain, but no profound joy.

the joy I feel when I accomplish, no... even when I set out to do things that none of my peers has been able to even attempt, I feel awesome, I feel unstoppable. the key is keeping the passion alive.
 
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Well, I get it now! Chapter 30 of Unscripted. Thank you @mjdemarco, thank you, thank you and thank you.

I can recommend chapter 30 of Unscripted to anyone who is struggling with the meaning and purpose, the why of it all.

Autonomy!
 

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And what if we're comfortable? Should we experience an uncomfortable situation?
Not really.

If you've never experienced a dire situation, it might be a bit more difficult, but you can use an NLP/Visualisation technique to 'create an uncomfortable situation'.

For me, it was losing a job because I wanted to setup the business for the future, and my then manager wanted to keep things the same and live in the past. For context, I work in the EduTech space.

And for the visualisation/NLP/future pacing technique - I actually did this before I knew anything about NLP or visualisation, and it was only after reading Tim Ferris' book 'Tools of Titans' that I knew that this was formally a technique to help with personal change.

It is called the Dickens process.

I used a similar process in 2007 to become a non-smoker. I visualised the possible results of that habit (I knew enough of the bad effects due to education and the fact that I have relatives who smoked and had seen the bad effects on their lives firsthand), and created a deep emotional pain attached to that result, and then attached that back to my current action.

I had failed multiple times to change my identity before that, but that day, I had my last one, and threw the remaining in the pack away. It's been 12 years, and I haven't missed it, in fact I detest it. I did something similar, but less elaborate to reduce the amount of sugar I had. The result is, I don't drink sugary drinks 99% of the time, and have gone from having coffee with 3 tsb sugar to having black coffees with no sugar.

MJ has mentioned in UnScripted about creating true purpose and changing identity, so hope this helps you create the discomfort you need to move forward if that is your 'real desire' (if you want to know why I put real desire in quotes, read the book 'How I found Freedom in an Unfree World' by Harry Browne.)

All the best.
 

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