Guys I am still having a problem overcoming these mental restrictions that I have somehow managed to create for myself. I don't know if I'm wired like this or what it is, whether it's too late too change this or not but I'm 27, have my whole life in front of me but I've got no direction.
Everything I come across in life I have a very naïve understanding of it which doesn't reflect reality. I have a problem dealing with everyday life and making decisions.
It's all just very hard to live with at the moment.
For example, I read up on personality types recently after coming across someone saying how knowing your type can help you make better decisions and know what you're natural tendency to do something is.
I spent so much time then reading into psychology, how reliable psychology is then realised people have professions out of studying psychology so it must have some value. I read into who first found out about personalities etc etc. I have this crazy thing of going to the core of any subject to learn as much as I can about it so I can know about it. I wasn't able to find my personality type because I got so into the way the personality is structured by Myers Briggs - but then criticised by preceding psychologists who came up with their own versions that I lost the whole plot of it and left it there.
I still don't know what my type is.
For example, I don't know how to lie to get my way around a certain situation, like in interviews, a lot of people going for a new position, that I've come across, will just lie about their experience saying they've worked in the department (for which they are now interviewing for) at their previous place, when they really haven't and not once do they think about whether the potential employer will check for references? They end up getting the job!? Like guys with criminal records get into jobs which would never take you on if they knew about your record but they don't tell them? do they not think about the company doing a check on them?
I get exhausted enough after researching, reading, writing about "it" (being the subject at hand), to not then do anything about the original premise from where I began the mental debacle.
I was researching into how to find business ideas, I have spent like 1.5 years just answering this question because I don't know what to do. I came across a way that settled with me very well which was to look into industries of the world because there's only so many as they're all classified into categories and pick one you're familiar/interested with and look into it.
I settled with that then I started reading into who creates industries, what is an industry, because for some reason I start thinking "what if I come up with a great idea, I could create a new industry!?" That's stupid isn't it? I still have no clue as to what business I'm going to start.
Then someone said oh that's the wrong way to go about it, just find out what sells and sell something. But everything in the world sells! Then again a big cloud of fog is now "my brain" - now I'll have to find out "how do you find out what sells".
I have done this so many times in the past. When looking at mock exams questions Instead of learning how to do that specific question I have ended up reading about the whole topic to get a better understanding of it, which I do but when it come's to the crunch and practical I have nothing and people who have just done what they needed to do without too much thought into it do very well?
I've got a degree in a certain subject, after I got it I said to myself I couldn't get a job in that field because I thought I knew nothing about how the practical side of it works and how I am supposed to provide value doing it as I don't know nothing about it. Anyone can read books and pass exams. Since then I am just working mediocre jobs. I could advertise myself as a professional in that field and get inquiries but then make a fool out of myself not meeting standards as I have no experience in the field or providing that service.
You know this is to do with anything in life, I end up researching the topic so much that I become addicted to completing "this research I'm doing" because "I won't be able to make the right decision then! or do what's required" and will make myself look stupid to myself.
If one of you guys out there has anything that can help me with this. What do you think this is analysis paralysis? I don't know but I have to do something about it. All my time is spent just doing this. I've become the kind of person now who won't go into anything new because I have to research about it first. This is the reason why I have asked so many questions on this forum as I am circle jerking everything.
I want to do very well in life and it's only me who is holding me back. People think I am intelligent and have potential but I don't agree with them, they end up doing much more in life whereas I think "oh just wait until I finish my research about everything in life then I'll see you".
Has anyone ever done this or know anyone like this who is now successful or have I got no hope?
Everything I come across in life I have a very naïve understanding of it which doesn't reflect reality. I have a problem dealing with everyday life and making decisions.
It's all just very hard to live with at the moment.
For example, I read up on personality types recently after coming across someone saying how knowing your type can help you make better decisions and know what you're natural tendency to do something is.
I spent so much time then reading into psychology, how reliable psychology is then realised people have professions out of studying psychology so it must have some value. I read into who first found out about personalities etc etc. I have this crazy thing of going to the core of any subject to learn as much as I can about it so I can know about it. I wasn't able to find my personality type because I got so into the way the personality is structured by Myers Briggs - but then criticised by preceding psychologists who came up with their own versions that I lost the whole plot of it and left it there.
I still don't know what my type is.
For example, I don't know how to lie to get my way around a certain situation, like in interviews, a lot of people going for a new position, that I've come across, will just lie about their experience saying they've worked in the department (for which they are now interviewing for) at their previous place, when they really haven't and not once do they think about whether the potential employer will check for references? They end up getting the job!? Like guys with criminal records get into jobs which would never take you on if they knew about your record but they don't tell them? do they not think about the company doing a check on them?
I get exhausted enough after researching, reading, writing about "it" (being the subject at hand), to not then do anything about the original premise from where I began the mental debacle.
I was researching into how to find business ideas, I have spent like 1.5 years just answering this question because I don't know what to do. I came across a way that settled with me very well which was to look into industries of the world because there's only so many as they're all classified into categories and pick one you're familiar/interested with and look into it.
I settled with that then I started reading into who creates industries, what is an industry, because for some reason I start thinking "what if I come up with a great idea, I could create a new industry!?" That's stupid isn't it? I still have no clue as to what business I'm going to start.
Then someone said oh that's the wrong way to go about it, just find out what sells and sell something. But everything in the world sells! Then again a big cloud of fog is now "my brain" - now I'll have to find out "how do you find out what sells".
I have done this so many times in the past. When looking at mock exams questions Instead of learning how to do that specific question I have ended up reading about the whole topic to get a better understanding of it, which I do but when it come's to the crunch and practical I have nothing and people who have just done what they needed to do without too much thought into it do very well?
I've got a degree in a certain subject, after I got it I said to myself I couldn't get a job in that field because I thought I knew nothing about how the practical side of it works and how I am supposed to provide value doing it as I don't know nothing about it. Anyone can read books and pass exams. Since then I am just working mediocre jobs. I could advertise myself as a professional in that field and get inquiries but then make a fool out of myself not meeting standards as I have no experience in the field or providing that service.
You know this is to do with anything in life, I end up researching the topic so much that I become addicted to completing "this research I'm doing" because "I won't be able to make the right decision then! or do what's required" and will make myself look stupid to myself.
If one of you guys out there has anything that can help me with this. What do you think this is analysis paralysis? I don't know but I have to do something about it. All my time is spent just doing this. I've become the kind of person now who won't go into anything new because I have to research about it first. This is the reason why I have asked so many questions on this forum as I am circle jerking everything.
I want to do very well in life and it's only me who is holding me back. People think I am intelligent and have potential but I don't agree with them, they end up doing much more in life whereas I think "oh just wait until I finish my research about everything in life then I'll see you".
Has anyone ever done this or know anyone like this who is now successful or have I got no hope?
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