I'm going to take slowlane path

[JAJT]

My parents want me to go to college, because that's their belief to sucess, therefore I will have to take this path, am going to take law school. I hope I will become a entrepreneur while it.

Grow up.

Seriously.

"My parents want me to spend 4-5 years of my life and tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on one of the most demanding programs available anywhere, so I guess I will, oh well, maybe I'll be an entrepreneur at the same time!"

I'm sorry but choosing to go to college is fine. Choosing not to go to college is fine.

Choosing to listen to other people dictate your life is not fine. It's cowardly and ignoble.

You will not be an entrepreneur while learning law. I'm sorry but that's like saying you'll be an entrepreneur while studying medicine. It's not going to happen.

You need to choose right now to listen to your parents like a child, or make your own decisions like an adult. Don't for a second think you "have" to do a god damn thing. You are either letting your life be run, or running your life. There is no force being applied here. You are either accepting the will of others, or exercising your own.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

 

[lowtek]

In fairness, the concept of disobedience to ones' parents to exercise their own will is unique to American culture. I don't know anything about brazillian culture, but I would venture to say that obedience to your elders is probably the norm.

The critique that it is his life to live is factual, but doesn't take into account a couple decades of brainwashing and indoctrination into a certain way of life. Consider that someone were to argue the counter point to an American wanting to skip college (i.e. you should go to college so that you don't bring shame / dishonor onto your family) - how well would that go over here? Not very.

Tossing the script into the fireplace, as difficult as it is, is much easier here in the States, because our culture glorifies entrepreneurship and individualism (at least until the Bernie mob takes over).

Nevertheless, the criticisms are valid. You won't find entrepreneurship while doing what everybody else thinks you should do. It simply cannot happen, by definition. You have to have the courage to say no and go your own way. It will alienate your family for a time, but when the cash starts rolling in, they'll come around.

 

[jon.a]

You have to do what you have to do, until you don't.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

I have a serious conversation with my father I talked about entrepreneurship and if he could support me. He didn't say no nor yes, but he said if I build something that make money while college I could drop out. What he means is that, in the moment, I have nothing to execute and make money so why not take a "certain" path ?

And here is your OUT, clear as day, and endorsed by your father who's response was spot on.

If you want to be an entrepreneur bad enough, you'll create something worthy of dropping out, and get your dad's endorsement in the process.

But even if you don't do it in college but retain the vision, there's no rule book you can't do so after college.

Good luck.

 

[Envision]

Are they paying for you to go?

If not why don't you move out and get a job?

When you get your job start saving your money.

When you have enough money you can start your business...

Why is this hard to understand for people?

 

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[G-Man]

but there's no choice.

That's the same thing I tell myself every time I want to take the path of least resistance.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Grow up.

Seriously.

"My parents want me to spend 4-5 years of my life and tens of thousands (if not hundreds of thousands) on one of the most demanding programs available anywhere, so I guess I will, oh well, maybe I'll be an entrepreneur at the same time!"

I'm sorry but choosing to go to college is fine. Choosing not to go to college is fine.

Choosing to listen to other people dictate your life is not fine. It's cowardly and ignoble.

You will not be an entrepreneur while learning law. I'm sorry but that's like saying you'll be an entrepreneur while studying medicine. It's not going to happen.

You need to choose right now to listen to your parents like a child, or make your own decisions like an adult. Don't for a second think you "have" to do a god damn thing. You are either letting your life be run, or running your life. There is no force being applied here. You are either accepting the will of others, or exercising your own.

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[GMSI7D]

Hey there, fastlaners.

I am going to take slowlane path...for a while at least, it is not something I want to do, but there's no choice. My current situation doesn't help, I do not want to go to college but I will have to.
Let me tell you guys about my life: I have read the TMF , understand about it and want to live this way. Although I didn't find any need/desire/problem to solve and cash in, have no job and money. My parents want me to go to college, because that's their belief to sucess, therefore I will have to take this path, am going to take law school. I hope I will become a entrepreneur while it.

the point is not slowlane or fastlane

the point is regret

when you are on your death bed ,what will you say ?

will you say " my parents were right "

or will you say " i wish i had lived my own life "

i don't have the right answer for you and people here neither

only you can know the answer . this is your life

 

[SteveO]

Not everyone is fit to be on the fastlane
What is most important is what you want to learn, do not learn because your parents want you to learn.

This^^^^^^

What if the OP does not have what it takes to run a business? Most people come on to this forum talking about what they are going to do. Most don't succeed at it.

Also, is it slowlane to learn skills? I think not!!!!

 

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[Omerroz]

Not everyone is fit to be on the fastlane
What is most important is what you want to learn, do not learn because your parents want you to learn.

 

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[AndrewNC]

My current situation doesn't help

Ahh...the good ole "my current situation" routine.

I'm fat and overweight and my parents tell me I should eat hamburgers and potato chips for dinner every night.

I'm fat and overweight so that means I can't start eating salads and exercising now.

Nope, definitely not.

Maybe when I start eating more hamburgers and potato chips, I will start eating salad.

But nope, not now. Because my current situation means I can't eat salad now...

I'll let you put the pieces together...

 

[Omerroz]

There is always a choice
For example, at first I wanted to study medicine just to make my family happy
But next year I start engineering studies because it interests me and I want it
From the age of 18 you are a master of yourself and if you do not make decisions about your life then others will decide for you
Take a long breath and decide
Because you are only at the beginning of your life

 

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[Rickchise23]

Hey there, fastlaners.

I am going to take slowlane path...for a while at least, it is not something I want to do, but there's no choice. My current situation doesn't help, I do not want to go to college but I will have to.
Let me tell you guys about my life: I have read the TMF , understand about it and want to live this way. Although I didn't find any need/desire/problem to solve and cash in, have no job and money. My parents want me to go to college, because that's their belief to sucess, therefore I will have to take this path, am going to take law school. I hope I will become a entrepreneur while it.

Here is a quick idea. If you parents want you to go to college so bad, sign up at SNHU. Take one class per quarter and if you qualify for financial aid, which hopefully you do, take as much money as they will allow. Invest your excess student loan funds or "living expenses" into your business idea.

This should give you enough runway to keep your parents happy while you create a business. Once you are profitable you can stop going into debt for the sake of your parents each month and run your business which should let you dig out of your debt hole pretty quickly. In the meantime try and find a few courses like accounting, business law or social media marketing that might actually help you with your business.

 

[Pedro Henrique]

Here is a quick idea. If you parents want you to go to college so bad, sign up at SNHU. Take one class per quarter and if you qualify for financial aid, which hopefully you do, take as much money as they will allow. Invest your excess student loan funds or "living expenses" into your business idea.

This should give you enough runway to keep your parents happy while you create a business. Once you are profitable you can stop going into debt for the sake of your parents each month and run your business which should let you dig out of your debt hole pretty quickly. In the meantime try and find a few courses like accounting, business law or social media marketing that might actually help you with your business.

I have a seriuously conversation with my father I talked about entrepreneurship and if he could support me. He didnt say no nor yes, but he said if I build something that make money while college I could drop out. What he means is that, in the moment, I have nothing to execute and make money so why not take a "certain" path ?

 

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[ZeroToOne]

Sorry if the following seems harsh, because it really is meant in a constructive way:

I am going to take slowlane path...

Ok... Great. What are you expecting as a response? If you want to be an entrepreneur, then be one. If not, then don't. But coming here and saying you can't do it doesn't accomplish anything. Why do people come on this site and tell everyone that they've given up? I don't get it.

I have read the TMF , understand about it and want to live this way. Although I didn't find any need/desire/problem to solve and cash in, have no job and money. My parents want me to go to college, because that's their belief to sucess...

They know you better than anyone here. Maybe they want you to go to college specifically because you have no ideas, no job, and no money. What have you done to make them think otherwise? You should be thankful. No parent worth a damn wants to watch their kid pick a path that seems doomed.

I have ono more year because I was disapprove at school last year, but when I turn 18 I can go to college. I was disapprove because I was reading a lot of book about entrepreneurship

This is just my own opinion, but driving in the fastlane doesn't mean pissing away opportunities to learn. Staring out the window or reading a book during class while dreaming of being an entrepreneur doesn't make you an entrepreneur. It makes you a dreamer. Join an MLM if that is your approach to business. They *love* dreamers.

I told them if I find a better way to make money I will follow it.

So find it. But if you're hoping that someone on this forum will tell you what that path is, I think you'll be disappointed. That is yours and yours alone to discover.

When you start a business, you'll need to be able to learn from failures. When you meet people who are wiser than you, you'll need to pay attention to the lessons they've learned and any valuable advice they have. @Rickchise23 had some good advice regarding classes to take. Accounting, law, etc... are really good skills to have. When you are taking classes, try to focus on learning things that will help you as an entrepreneur later in life. Think of questions that you'd want to know the answer to if you did start a business, and then pay attention to the response.

The advice that MJ gave in a previous Gold thread seems relevant. Work hard, there's lots of time in the day, even if you are going to college or working a full time job.

GOLD - Worried Dad - Need "Fastlane" Insight

Great link and great advice to go with it. If you stumble upon a great business idea while in school and can validate it with sales, then you have a compelling case to argue with your parents.

Finally, not everyone has an opportunity to go to college. Not everyone's parents paid for it. In fact, not everyone has parents that give a rat's a$$ about what happens to them. Your life doesn't suck. Turn that fortune into something great.


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[Jonathan C]

The advice that MJ gave in a previous Gold thread seems relevant. Work hard, there's lots of time in the day, even if you are going to college or working a full time job.

GOLD - Worried Dad - Need "Fastlane" Insight

 

[Stu_Hefner]

I grew up with a strict upbringing from foreign parents, who also encouraged (forced) me to go college.

Here's some advice...

YOU need to decide what you want to do. And then do it! It may change on the way but you have to be the one that dictates it.

I spent two years blindly doing an engineering degree because itll make my dad happy that I finish college. It made me miserable.

When I dropped out at the time I couldn't even tell him. So I continued to act like I was studying whilst getting by with internet marketing and playing poker.

If I can show him that I was successful at this, it'll make it easier, I thought.

It didn't.

It took to the point of being diagnosed with cancer and going through chemotherapy to finally talk to him about it in the way I truly felt.

My scenario is pretty extreme but at some point you will need to take control of your life and live it on your terms or life might make you live on it's terms.

All other advice has been given to you by members in the thread. I wish you the best with your decision.

 

[Pedro Henrique]

Hey there, fastlaners.

I am going to take slowlane path...for a while at least, it is not something I want to do, but there's no choice. My current situation doesn't help, I do not want to go to college but I will have to.
Let me tell you guys about my life: I have read the TMF , understand about it and want to live this way. Although I didn't find any need/desire/problem to solve and cash in, have no job and money. My parents want me to go to college, because that's their belief to sucess, therefore I will have to take this path, am going to take law school. I hope I will become a entrepreneur while it.

 

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[Pedro Henrique]

You have to do what you have to do, until you don't.

My ideia is to change it while the slowlane process. I will change it. Hope is the last to die hahahahhaa

 

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[Pedro Henrique]

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Very very very strong. But I will unscript.

 

[ravenspear]

It's very true that fastlane is not for everyone, however I would caution against law as your choice given your motivations. If you are just going to college to please your parents and it isn't your ultimate goal to be a lawyer then I think you might struggle. Pick something easier if it's just going to be a throwaway degree you aren't going to use. Law is an incredibly challenging field even for those completely passionate and 100% motivated that that is what they ultimately want to do.

 

[loop101]

You will not be an entrepreneur while learning law. I'm sorry but that's like saying you'll be an entrepreneur while studying medicine. It's not going to happen.

Plenty of famous entrepreneurs started their businesses while in college. Gates, Jobs, Dell, Zuckerberg, etc. Many of them dropped out to focus on their business, but that was after the business showed promise. Telling him he you can't start a business in college is like telling him you can't have a girl-friend while going to college.

If you are going to say the "odds are against him", no one on this forum should be worried about what people say their odds of success are. If they did, there wouldn't be anyone on this forum.

 

[Thoelk]

Not everyone is fit to be on the fastlane
What is most important is what you want to learn, do not learn because your parents want you to learn.

A thousand times this. It happened to me. I was kindly 'forced' to go to Law-school. "Because you can do anything with it, you'll get a great career... etc.". After one year I dropped out and changed to Psychology. The choice I had made for myself before enrolling into Law-school. Whereas in Law-school I lacked motivation, during Psych I found to have an endless stream of energy... because it felt like my own choice/path I was going on.

Granted, it was/is still a slowlane example.. But coming to my current point in life, I can honestly say that my Psych-background now helps me WAY more than my Law-background ever could. Soft-skills can't be Googled like rules & laws...

Slowlane or not, this apply to all situations: try (if possible) to follow your own path... And also bear the consequences for when it gets rough, you made that choice. In the end it'll be worth it.

 

[Pedro Henrique]

Not everyone is fit to be on the fastlane
What is most important is what you want to learn, do not learn because your parents want you to learn.

Before I have read the Mj's book, I would do law.

 

[Pedro Henrique]

And here is your OUT, clear as day, and endorsed by your father who's response was spot on.

If you want to be an entrepreneur bad enough, you'll create something worthy of dropping out, and get your dad's endorsement in the process.

But even if you don't do it in college but retain the vision, there's no rule book you can't do so after college.

Good luck.

Got it. Thank you for the post. Don't you would like to be my father ? Hahahahahaha

 

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[Envision]

They are going to pay. My idea is to find a job (which, in the moment, is difficult because my country is in crisis), save and then build something to make money.

I didnt realize you were in Brazil man. I'd honestly get you and your family into North America, either Canada or the US if you can.

Can you start a business in Brazil or does corruption/etc affect it?

 

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[furiousJ]

Your Parents seem intelligent enough to discuss this with maybe they think this is the best first step to your journey. College isn't necessarily slowlane in fact being in Law school can be a very good thing . At best you find a need while your there,you fill the need and leave with an education in entrepreneurship. At worst you are still engaging the world and you can focus on learning business law, you could essentially create your own practice or even a website offering your service to small business. I personally don't see a downside (except cost) as long as your purpose is to learn what you need to know to get to your goals.

 

[ravenspear]

I graduated from college almost 10 years ago and am just getting started in entrepreneurship now. You have plenty of time.

 

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[McFirewavesJr]

Hey there, fastlaners.

I am going to take slowlane path...for a while at least, it is not something I want to do, but there's no choice. My current situation doesn't help, I do not want to go to college but I will have to.
Let me tell you guys about my life: I have read the TMF , understand about it and want to live this way. Although I didn't find any need/desire/problem to solve and cash in, have no job and money. My parents want me to go to college, because that's their belief to sucess, therefore I will have to take this path, am going to take law school. I hope I will become a entrepreneur while it.

I say if your parents have successfully achieved everything you're dreaming of, go ahead and follow their lead without hesitation.