The recent events have given me some extra time to think. We’re all so busy and caught up with other things, It’s easy to get so caught up that you never look within and ask what you really want. And that’s where I found my self
It can be a painful place to go, that’s why people avoid it.
If you asked me what I wanted at age 20, I probably would have said I want to be a billionaire when I’m 30. As cringey as that is to admit, I seriously wanted my goal in life to become “be a billionaire”
I wanted to dream ridiculously big and 10x my goals, just like Uncle G said.
Now, 4 years later I’ve seen the error of my younger thinking. I was dreaming so freaking big that I was never going to get where I wanted to be, because I wanted ridiculous shit.
Now, is the goal of billionaire too farfetched? Not necessarily, But the problem is, I don’t know what I would do with a billion dollars. It’s extremely excessive, as far as lifestyle goes.
I used to think that I NEEDED to have the billionaire lifestyle to be happy, and like a lot of people think at one point, I thought money was meaning and would fulfill you.
That goal is simply too big to have when you’re starting from essentially zero. I should have focused on making $1, Then 10, 100, 1000, 10,000, 50,000, 100,000
And instead of my goals motivating me, they brought me down because my goals were way too far fetched for where I am currently. Making a billion dollars is a stupid goal for a 20 something just getting started in life.
Now, I’ve been reevaluating what I want.
I want a business that fulfills me and doesn’t chase money. I want a simple home with a little land. I want a car that I know will start when I turn the key. I want a good circle of friends. I want to be well known in the community for my contributions. Anything after that is bonus points
Right now, I just want to make $5,000 a month profit from my business, enough to have an inexpensive life and save/invest the rest in my business.
I don’t care about the flashy cars, Bottle service at the club, expensive nights out, jewelry. I want the freedom.
I like nice things as much as anyone else, cars, houses, luxury. But I like fulfillment and helping people more. And if I was to only make $50k a year the rest of my life, but help people and be fulfilled, I would be fine with that.
I know I will be a millionaire, a young one, not an 80 year old one. With what I know, and through the support of a wonderful community like this, I know for a fact that I will be a millionaire.
I’ll have some nice cars, A nice home, an honest business that I can be proud of. But the “stuff” isn’t the center of my motivation anymore. Fulfillment is.
I know this is a bit “me me me” but I figured I’d share my thoughts, maybe someone who is in that position I was in can read this and get some value and a new perspective.
As far as what I'm doing right now:
I work a job full time and I do instacart on weekends and my spare time. I'm able to make an extra $2-300 (Some weeks more) a week from instacart with just a few hours of work. I use that money to fund my business.
I'm creating a digital product, and I'm currently running Facebook ads leading to an optin for a free download, which is a bunch of free value related to the niche I'm selling in.
I'm using this to build a positive relationship and send value to my community, while of course pitching my products every so often.
So far I have about 22 email subs and have spent around $50 on ads, And i started this around 4 days ago with an ad and landing page I made with a morning's work. Around $2.5 per lead isn't too bad, as long as they're interested in what I have to offer (which they obviously do if they are willing to give me their email in exchange for a piece of information only relevant to a fairly small niche). I may try and get this number down, but it's important to not get too caught up in CPL, because i'd rather have a quality lead than a cheap lead.
As I'm collecting emails and getting people to my landing pages, I'm collecting data on my FB pixel to use for retargeting and custom & lookalike audience creation.
I realize this isn't exactly the free route. I could try and start a youtube channel and compete in the ever crowded space, or join a forum or group for my niche and slowly get people on that way. But I have the extra money to spend on advertising, and $200 a week in adspend is 80 more people on my list at $2.5 an email. I'd rather speed the process up a bit with money if I have the means.
My main focus isn't to squeeze my list dry, I'm not even super concerned with making money right now. I've got the ad costs covered with my side hustle "bonus" money, and I'm using MailCheat(Chimp)'s free plan currently. I want to cultivate the best relationship with my people as possible and help them with their issues, and offer them my products to solve their issues.
What I'm doing differently this time:
I've talked a few times on this forum about how I got my start in dropshipping and had some decent success. I'm very familiar with both Facebook advertising and direct response marketing because of this. I've failed more times than I can even keep track of though, and all my failures have one thing in common; a lack of a long term vision.
I have always had shiny object syndrome. If something didn't work within a week, I would move on to something else. I always blamed the business model, when in reality I can make any business model work if I dedicate my self to it.
I still feel that pull. Even after a few weeks of this, I'm feeling the pull of shiny object syndrome. But I'm consciously ignoring it, because i know i need to be persistent.
It can be a painful place to go, that’s why people avoid it.
If you asked me what I wanted at age 20, I probably would have said I want to be a billionaire when I’m 30. As cringey as that is to admit, I seriously wanted my goal in life to become “be a billionaire”
I wanted to dream ridiculously big and 10x my goals, just like Uncle G said.
Now, 4 years later I’ve seen the error of my younger thinking. I was dreaming so freaking big that I was never going to get where I wanted to be, because I wanted ridiculous shit.
Now, is the goal of billionaire too farfetched? Not necessarily, But the problem is, I don’t know what I would do with a billion dollars. It’s extremely excessive, as far as lifestyle goes.
I used to think that I NEEDED to have the billionaire lifestyle to be happy, and like a lot of people think at one point, I thought money was meaning and would fulfill you.
That goal is simply too big to have when you’re starting from essentially zero. I should have focused on making $1, Then 10, 100, 1000, 10,000, 50,000, 100,000
And instead of my goals motivating me, they brought me down because my goals were way too far fetched for where I am currently. Making a billion dollars is a stupid goal for a 20 something just getting started in life.
Now, I’ve been reevaluating what I want.
I want a business that fulfills me and doesn’t chase money. I want a simple home with a little land. I want a car that I know will start when I turn the key. I want a good circle of friends. I want to be well known in the community for my contributions. Anything after that is bonus points
Right now, I just want to make $5,000 a month profit from my business, enough to have an inexpensive life and save/invest the rest in my business.
I don’t care about the flashy cars, Bottle service at the club, expensive nights out, jewelry. I want the freedom.
I like nice things as much as anyone else, cars, houses, luxury. But I like fulfillment and helping people more. And if I was to only make $50k a year the rest of my life, but help people and be fulfilled, I would be fine with that.
I know I will be a millionaire, a young one, not an 80 year old one. With what I know, and through the support of a wonderful community like this, I know for a fact that I will be a millionaire.
I’ll have some nice cars, A nice home, an honest business that I can be proud of. But the “stuff” isn’t the center of my motivation anymore. Fulfillment is.
I know this is a bit “me me me” but I figured I’d share my thoughts, maybe someone who is in that position I was in can read this and get some value and a new perspective.
As far as what I'm doing right now:
I work a job full time and I do instacart on weekends and my spare time. I'm able to make an extra $2-300 (Some weeks more) a week from instacart with just a few hours of work. I use that money to fund my business.
I'm creating a digital product, and I'm currently running Facebook ads leading to an optin for a free download, which is a bunch of free value related to the niche I'm selling in.
I'm using this to build a positive relationship and send value to my community, while of course pitching my products every so often.
So far I have about 22 email subs and have spent around $50 on ads, And i started this around 4 days ago with an ad and landing page I made with a morning's work. Around $2.5 per lead isn't too bad, as long as they're interested in what I have to offer (which they obviously do if they are willing to give me their email in exchange for a piece of information only relevant to a fairly small niche). I may try and get this number down, but it's important to not get too caught up in CPL, because i'd rather have a quality lead than a cheap lead.
As I'm collecting emails and getting people to my landing pages, I'm collecting data on my FB pixel to use for retargeting and custom & lookalike audience creation.
I realize this isn't exactly the free route. I could try and start a youtube channel and compete in the ever crowded space, or join a forum or group for my niche and slowly get people on that way. But I have the extra money to spend on advertising, and $200 a week in adspend is 80 more people on my list at $2.5 an email. I'd rather speed the process up a bit with money if I have the means.
My main focus isn't to squeeze my list dry, I'm not even super concerned with making money right now. I've got the ad costs covered with my side hustle "bonus" money, and I'm using MailCheat(Chimp)'s free plan currently. I want to cultivate the best relationship with my people as possible and help them with their issues, and offer them my products to solve their issues.
What I'm doing differently this time:
I've talked a few times on this forum about how I got my start in dropshipping and had some decent success. I'm very familiar with both Facebook advertising and direct response marketing because of this. I've failed more times than I can even keep track of though, and all my failures have one thing in common; a lack of a long term vision.
I have always had shiny object syndrome. If something didn't work within a week, I would move on to something else. I always blamed the business model, when in reality I can make any business model work if I dedicate my self to it.
I still feel that pull. Even after a few weeks of this, I'm feeling the pull of shiny object syndrome. But I'm consciously ignoring it, because i know i need to be persistent.
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