How to find a Fastlane Mentor

[secretentourage]

Its easy to decide if you need a mentor or not, its a bit harder to actually find the right one. I've come with 4 things you can do or keep in mind in order to gain the attention of a mentor who is already living in the fast lane.

Will power is easy to recognize.

While many believe that they have the next great idea or simply need the right mentor to get to the next level, many lack the will to take the next step. Mentors recognize will power and confidence and often have a bit of it themselves since they most likely succeeded already. It is very typical that what they are attracted to is will power rather than skillset, as their goal is to grow your skill but it is up to you to display and ensure that they see how badly you are working to get there. Dreamers need not apply, only do-ers.


You don’t find mentors, mentors find you.


Many always seek mentorship by asking wealthy people for tips, advice, and guidance. It is very difficult for people to find mentors that way. Most mentors typically enjoy giving tips and advice and often find themselves giving basic tips but only when they see others following their advice do they actually care to give you more. Mentors typically seek you out after 4-5 casual conversations and then decide to help you by simply offering to make themselves available. Don’t push people to offer free advice, instead show them you take the advice seriously and act on it.


How to be at the right place at the right time.


There is no such thing as any mentor, but rather the right mentor. Relating to those you seek out for help is key to creating the initial connection. This doesn’t have to be business related. Instead, think of cars or fine dining/foods as common grounds. Where will you find successful business individuals with a passion for similar hobbies? Well look through the hobbies first and find common ground in your passions like at car shows and create conversation with those you want to be like. Once you find common ground, connect on social networks and show how you yourself hold common passion even if at a different level in your life. People can appreciate others who seek the same thing as themselves especially if they were at the same place you were before.


Being relatable is key.


Acting as something you are not will simply turn off most genuine people and actually make it quite difficult to find someone who genuinely wants to help you. Instead focus on ensuring people can relate to you, your aspiration and your goals. The relatibility is the key to identifying the right mentors., so make sure you stay genuine.

Let me know other things you think can help those seeking mentorship. We can keep it as a running thread to help slowlane people and bring more of them here in the fastlane.

 

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[1PercentStreet]

I love that quote.

It IS better to be alone than in bad company.

 

[Atown512]

There is no such thing as any mentor, but rather the right mentor. Relating to those you seek out for help is key to creating the initial connection. This doesn’t have to be business related. Instead, think of cars or fine dining/foods as common grounds.

This is very true. I had the opportunity to be mentored by one of the big-shot traders in oil and gas, but I know trading on that level is not one of my aspirations. I really admire the guy, but my goals are quite a bit different, and I believe it would be a waste of both our time.

I am in no way ready to BE a mentor, so therefore I feel like I should probably HAVE a mentor. I've always seen the most progress in anything I do when I surround myself with people who are better than me, so I think it makes sense to find one.

I will be working at my brewery for a few years, but my biggest life goal is to travel more. I really enjoyed the mobility I had as a poker pro, but I owe at least a few years to my brewery. I don't personally know anyone outside of poker who has the mobility I desire...so my question is this: how do you find the right mentor that probably doesn't live in your city? Does remote mentoring work very well?

 

[secretentourage]

Yes it does, but its very hard if you haven't met in person before. A small in person meeting can go very far.

 

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[ScottyMoll]

Yes it does, but its very hard if you haven't met in person before. A small in person meeting can go very far.

I completely agree! Whether it be a mentor, or like-minded person, face-to-face meetings make relationships more personal. By the way, anyone from the Los Angeles area?

 

[Brander]

Mentors appear when you show initiative. Most waste time seeking mentors, in the age of the internet, mentorship is almost passe, you can literally learn anything on your own if you are observant, tenacious and engage often by asking pertinent questions. Pick nuggets from many different people, rather then just one.

 

[Tomer David]

Hey thank you for this great tips! I got some great idea on a hobbies I have which a lot of successful people are doing and i'm sure I can find people I can relate to that can help me!

Thank you again.

 

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[Mr. Gray]

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Its easy to decide if you need a mentor or not, its a bit harder to actually find the right one. I've come with 4 things you can do or keep in mind in order to gain the attention of a mentor who is already living in the fast lane.

Will power is easy to recognize.

While many believe that they have the next great idea or simply need the right mentor to get to the next level, many lack the will to take the next step. Mentors recognize will power and confidence and often have a bit of it themselves since they most likely succeeded already. It is very typical that what they are attracted to is will power rather than skillset, as their goal is to grow your skill but it is up to you to display and ensure that they see how badly you are working to get there. Dreamers need not apply, only do-ers.


You don’t find mentors, mentors find you.


Many always seek mentorship by asking wealthy people for tips, advice, and guidance. It is very difficult for people to find mentors that way. Most mentors typically enjoy giving tips and advice and often find themselves giving basic tips but only when they see others following their advice do they actually care to give you more. Mentors typically seek you out after 4-5 casual conversations and then decide to help you by simply offering to make themselves available. Don’t push people to offer free advice, instead show them you take the advice seriously and act on it.


How to be at the right place at the right time.


There is no such thing as any mentor, but rather the right mentor. Relating to those you seek out for help is key to creating the initial connection. This doesn’t have to be business related. Instead, think of cars or fine dining/foods as common grounds. Where will you find successful business individuals with a passion for similar hobbies? Well look through the hobbies first and find common ground in your passions like at car shows and create conversation with those you want to be like. Once you find common ground, connect on social networks and show how you yourself hold common passion even if at a different level in your life. People can appreciate others who seek the same thing as themselves especially if they were at the same place you were before.


Being relatable is key.


Acting as something you are not will simply turn off most genuine people and actually make it quite difficult to find someone who genuinely wants to help you. Instead focus on ensuring people can relate to you, your aspiration and your goals. The relatibility is the key to identifying the right mentors., so make sure you stay genuine.

Let me know other things you think can help those seeking mentorship. We can keep it as a running thread to help slowlane people and bring more of them here in the fastlane.

Thank you for this, it's very simple and concise!!

 

[Wolfman]

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Its easy to decide if you need a mentor or not, its a bit harder to actually find the right one. I've come with 4 things you can do or keep in mind in order to gain the attention of a mentor who is already living in the fast lane.

Will power is easy to recognize.

While many believe that they have the next great idea or simply need the right mentor to get to the next level, many lack the will to take the next step. Mentors recognize will power and confidence and often have a bit of it themselves since they most likely succeeded already. It is very typical that what they are attracted to is will power rather than skillset, as their goal is to grow your skill but it is up to you to display and ensure that they see how badly you are working to get there. Dreamers need not apply, only do-ers.


You don’t find mentors, mentors find you.


Many always seek mentorship by asking wealthy people for tips, advice, and guidance. It is very difficult for people to find mentors that way. Most mentors typically enjoy giving tips and advice and often find themselves giving basic tips but only when they see others following their advice do they actually care to give you more. Mentors typically seek you out after 4-5 casual conversations and then decide to help you by simply offering to make themselves available. Don’t push people to offer free advice, instead show them you take the advice seriously and act on it.


How to be at the right place at the right time.


There is no such thing as any mentor, but rather the right mentor. Relating to those you seek out for help is key to creating the initial connection. This doesn’t have to be business related. Instead, think of cars or fine dining/foods as common grounds. Where will you find successful business individuals with a passion for similar hobbies? Well look through the hobbies first and find common ground in your passions like at car shows and create conversation with those you want to be like. Once you find common ground, connect on social networks and show how you yourself hold common passion even if at a different level in your life. People can appreciate others who seek the same thing as themselves especially if they were at the same place you were before.


Being relatable is key.


Acting as something you are not will simply turn off most genuine people and actually make it quite difficult to find someone who genuinely wants to help you. Instead focus on ensuring people can relate to you, your aspiration and your goals. The relatibility is the key to identifying the right mentors., so make sure you stay genuine.

Let me know other things you think can help those seeking mentorship. We can keep it as a running thread to help slowlane people and bring more of them here in the fastlane.

Hello, Thanks for your advice/tips. That was good stuff. Relatibility is easy to overlook. It's tempting to try to come off as cool, rich, successful, smart, funny.... I think for me it's best to be me. People who can relate to me even if I'm not cool, rich... are the ones that would enjoy mentoring me. Greg

 

[VirginiaR]

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Its easy to decide if you need a mentor or not, its a bit harder to actually find the right one. I've come with 4 things you can do or keep in mind in order to gain the attention of a mentor who is already living in the fast lane.

Will power is easy to recognize.

While many believe that they have the next great idea or simply need the right mentor to get to the next level, many lack the will to take the next step. Mentors recognize will power and confidence and often have a bit of it themselves since they most likely succeeded already. It is very typical that what they are attracted to is will power rather than skillset, as their goal is to grow your skill but it is up to you to display and ensure that they see how badly you are working to get there. Dreamers need not apply, only do-ers.


You don’t find mentors, mentors find you.


Many always seek mentorship by asking wealthy people for tips, advice, and guidance. It is very difficult for people to find mentors that way. Most mentors typically enjoy giving tips and advice and often find themselves giving basic tips but only when they see others following their advice do they actually care to give you more. Mentors typically seek you out after 4-5 casual conversations and then decide to help you by simply offering to make themselves available. Don’t push people to offer free advice, instead show them you take the advice seriously and act on it.


How to be at the right place at the right time.


There is no such thing as any mentor, but rather the right mentor. Relating to those you seek out for help is key to creating the initial connection. This doesn’t have to be business related. Instead, think of cars or fine dining/foods as common grounds. Where will you find successful business individuals with a passion for similar hobbies? Well look through the hobbies first and find common ground in your passions like at car shows and create conversation with those you want to be like. Once you find common ground, connect on social networks and show how you yourself hold common passion even if at a different level in your life. People can appreciate others who seek the same thing as themselves especially if they were at the same place you were before.


Being relatable is key.


Acting as something you are not will simply turn off most genuine people and actually make it quite difficult to find someone who genuinely wants to help you. Instead focus on ensuring people can relate to you, your aspiration and your goals. The relatibility is the key to identifying the right mentors., so make sure you stay genuine.

Let me know other things you think can help those seeking mentorship. We can keep it as a running thread to help slowlane people and bring more of them here in the fastlane.

You don’t find mentors, mentors find you.


Many always seek mentorship by asking wealthy people for tips, advice, and guidance. It is very difficult for people to find mentors that way. Most mentors typically enjoy giving tips and advice and often find themselves giving basic tips but only when they see others following their advice do they actually care to give you more. Mentors typically seek you out after 4-5 casual conversations and then decide to help you by simply offering to make themselves available. Don’t push people to offer free advice, instead show them you take the advice seriously and act on it.

 

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[VirginiaR]

Wow I think this is one of the best insights I've seen about finding your mentor! That the mentor will find you!
I also live by the quote that the "right teacher will present himself at the right time and place. " It comes when you are ready to be taught or at a cross road where you need the right direction. Thanks for sharing! @secretentourage

 

[Jhon Valencia]

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Its easy to decide if you need a mentor or not, its a bit harder to actually find the right one. I've come with 4 things you can do or keep in mind in order to gain the attention of a mentor who is already living in the fast lane.

Will power is easy to recognize.

While many believe that they have the next great idea or simply need the right mentor to get to the next level, many lack the will to take the next step. Mentors recognize will power and confidence and often have a bit of it themselves since they most likely succeeded already. It is very typical that what they are attracted to is will power rather than skillset, as their goal is to grow your skill but it is up to you to display and ensure that they see how badly you are working to get there. Dreamers need not apply, only do-ers.


You don’t find mentors, mentors find you.


Many always seek mentorship by asking wealthy people for tips, advice, and guidance. It is very difficult for people to find mentors that way. Most mentors typically enjoy giving tips and advice and often find themselves giving basic tips but only when they see others following their advice do they actually care to give you more. Mentors typically seek you out after 4-5 casual conversations and then decide to help you by simply offering to make themselves available. Don’t push people to offer free advice, instead show them you take the advice seriously and act on it.


How to be at the right place at the right time.


There is no such thing as any mentor, but rather the right mentor. Relating to those you seek out for help is key to creating the initial connection. This doesn’t have to be business related. Instead, think of cars or fine dining/foods as common grounds. Where will you find successful business individuals with a passion for similar hobbies? Well look through the hobbies first and find common ground in your passions like at car shows and create conversation with those you want to be like. Once you find common ground, connect on social networks and show how you yourself hold common passion even if at a different level in your life. People can appreciate others who seek the same thing as themselves especially if they were at the same place you were before.


Being relatable is key.


Acting as something you are not will simply turn off most genuine people and actually make it quite difficult to find someone who genuinely wants to help you. Instead focus on ensuring people can relate to you, your aspiration and your goals. The relatibility is the key to identifying the right mentors., so make sure you stay genuine.

Let me know other things you think can help those seeking mentorship. We can keep it as a running thread to help slowlane people and bring more of them here in the fastlane.

Thanks for this post. I believe the best thing is to stay genuine.