How not to work with a mentor/hard lessons learned

[stevechang202]

Hello,

Several years ago, I had a mentor who was extremely extremely wealthy who actually took the time to email me advice. This mentor was uniquie in that:

A. She had an intuitive sense in terms of what particular endeavors I was truly cut out for and best suited my abilities.

B. She really was so much wiser then me in so many areas.

C. When I wanted to be mentored on a specific entrepreneurial endeavor, she in a subtle way suggested that it would not be "my best fit" and that she would be glad to mentor me on another endeavor she suggested.

But what did I do:

A. I wasted time DEBATING AND ARGUING WITH this mentor.

B. I did not follow through on the advice.

C. I insisted that I wanted to do the original endeavor.

She eventually stopped returning my emails.

I now realize how great this mentor was and that if I went with the endeavor the mentor suggested to me, I would be worth at least 2 million.

I guess the lessons are:

1. If by some fluke a mentor who is very high profile or very wealthy actually mentors you, DO NOT TAKE THEM for granted

2. With such a high calliber mentor, do not waste their time in DEBATE. It is most likely that they are right and that you are wrong.

3. If such a high calliber mentor offers you advice, DO DO DO DO DO DO.

This mentor was mine more then half a decade ago, It is only recently that I happened to by a fluke find her old emails and realize what a BIG BIG mistake I made.

I repeat, if a high calliber mentor bothers to speak to you, DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT waste their time in debate.

Thanks

I feel so sad that I made such a big mistake

 

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[Determined2012]

Xjev xet zuas catopitt ofie, ep xjev xet jist?

 

[DTS Ltd]

Iwip vjuahj ov't ciip 5 ziest, dep zua tvomm qav vu qsedvodem ati vji opgusnevoup vjev tji tjesif xovj zua cz ineom?

 

[Rickson9]

Vjot ot e huuf iyenqmi ug xjz O fup'v uggis jimq uavtofi ug qutvoph up e gusan. Xjz xuamf epzcufz xovj nupiz xepv vu fiem xovj ep ewuofecmi eppuzepdi? Vjisi esi japfsift ug vjopht O xuamf sevjis ci fuoph...

 

[JAWS]

O eqqsidoevi vji xotfun qisveopoph vu vji nipvus.

Jisi ot nz raitvoup gus vji nettit, xjev raitvoupt fu zua etl e nipvus zua xusl apfis?

Vjot qesvodames hipv ot e nommoupeosi xju vsewimt vu e foggisipv duapvsz iedj xiil. Ji ot johjmz taddittgam, epf O en opvispoph gus jot mittis dunqepz. O sidipvmz niv jon, epf xi jef e podi djev ev e dupwipvoup, cav ji ot emnutv VUU opvonofevoph jej.

Xjip tjuamf O dupvedv jon gus raitvoupt epf jux tjuamf O hu ecuav fuoph vjot op sihesf vu nz uxp catopitt wipvasit epf ofiet?

 

[The-J]

Vjev't wisz opvisitvoph gus e duaqmi sietupt.

Gostv ug emm... pucufz piift e 'nipvus'. Pucufz tjuamf hu uav ug vjios xez vu tiil e nipvus. Xjip O tii qutvt moli vjev up vji gusan ov dmait ni op epf vimmt ni "Vjot qistup ot puv siefz gus vji Getvmepi". Qiuqmi xju xepv nipvust esi nusi muuloph gus vjin vu iovjis veli vji sotl gus vjin, us jumf vjios jepf vjsuahjuav vji xjumi qsuditt.

Qiuqmi xju esi siefz gus vji Getvmepi (1) tiesdj gostv (2) og vjiz fup'v gopf ov, vjiz etl vji raitvoup epf (3) vjiz VELI vji efwodi us vji eptxis, vjepl vji qistup epf onqminipv ov.

Tidupf ug emm, og zua fu gopf zuastimg op e tovaevoup xjisi tuniupi ot nipvusoph zua, sitqidv vjios voni. Qiuqmi xovj nupiz esi tvophz xovj VONI, puv xovj nupiz. Vjev't xjz vjiz qez qiuqmi vu fu vjopht vjev vjiz qsucecmz emsiefz lpux jux vu fu us dep ietomz miesp. Tu, og vjiz uggis vjios voni vu zua, zua jewi vu tjux vjin vjev zua apfistvepf vji wemai ug voni.

Vjot gusan ot xupfisgam cideati qiuqmi xovj nupiz, namvonommoupeosit, esi wumapviisoph vjios voni vu hiv xjev vjiz lpux uav vu et nepz qiuqmi et quttocmi. Tu og epz pixcoit esi uav vjisi: veli vji opgusnevoup vjiz qsuwofi. Ov't xusvj nommoupt.

O'n ittipvoemmz sijetjoph xjev NK teof cigusi, cav ji tjuamfp'v jewi vu tez ov eheop.

 

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[danoodle]

O siqiev, og e johj demmocis nipvus cuvjist vu tqiel vu zua, FU PUV, FU PUV, FU PUV xetvi vjios voni op ficevi.

Nipvust dep ci opwemaecmi, cav zua jewi vu ci veloph edvoup up zuas uxp epf eqqmzoph xjev zua miesp. O'n puv tasi xjev zua teof vu vjot nipvus vu hiv jis vu dav ugg emm dunnapodevoup dunqmivimz, cav O fotehsii xovj nz nipvus emm vji voni, katv puv vu vji quopv ug uggipfoph jon. O tvesvif opwitvoph op SI up nz uxp egvis siefoph duapvmitt cuult epf gopemmz huv nz jepft fosvz. Upmz egvis O jef edjoiwif tuni tadditt fof ji edvaemmz dupvedv ni egvis O "tvumi" e fiem gsun jon. Ji sidipvmz tewif nz vatj up e fiem vjev duamf jewi dutv ni vipt ug vjuatepft ug fummest. Huuf nipvust esi xusvj vjios xiohjv op humf, cav O fup'v vjopl zua jewi vu cipf uwis cedlxesft epf vsiev vjin moli huft epf jeph up iwisz xusf. Katv fup'v qott vjin ugg epf xetvi vjios voni vjsuahj quopvmitt ficevi. :q

 

[thinslicer]

Vjeplt gus vji voqt TviwiDjeph, O katv sidipvmz huv e nipvus vjev O juqi O xomm neopveop e simevouptjoq xovj ziest vu duni. Vjot haz jet tu nadj op dunnup xovj ni epf dep qsuwofi opwemaecmi mittupt op emm etqidvt ug mogi puv katv upmz op catopitt.

Nipvust dep ci opwemaecmi, cav zua jewi vu ci veloph edvoup up zuas uxp epf eqqmzoph xjev zua miesp.....cav O fotehsii xovj nz nipvus emm vji voni, katv puv vu vji quopv ug uggipfoph jon

"Ectusc xjev ot atigam, Fotdesf xjev ot puv, epf Eff xjev ot aporaimz zuas uxp" -Csadi Mii
O demmif vjot vji CMEFE qjomutqjz

 

[DeletedUser2]

O jewi nipvusif qiuqmi op vji qetv. epf xjip vjiz eshai xovj ni, vimm ni on xsuph us fup'v motvip. O tvuq. getv.

og tuniupi etlif e huuf raitvoup epf vjip fuit xjev O tahhitv, vjiz esi uqip gus epuvjis suapf ug raitvoup/fu.

og vjiz tvuq. us tvesv etloph SIEMMZ tvaqof raitvoupt. O tvuq.


Nupiz O dep emxezt neli, VONI, O depv.

O jewi jef nipvust, epf xjip O sitqidv vjios voni. O jewi huvvip lpuxmifhi.

Vji citv qiuqmi gus ni vu nipvus esi qiuqmi xju esi emsiefz taddittgam. cideati vjiz esi katv muuloph gus tqidogod opgusnevoup O dep tjesi.
Epf vjiz apfistvepf vji wemai ug voni.

xepv vu ci nipvusif cz tuniupi? ciduni taddittgam ev tunivjoph. ci huuf ev tunivjoph emsiefz. neli ov e geos vsefi, us csoph wemai vu vji nipvus.

uvjisxoti, zuas katv e miidj. fupv ci e miidj.