Family with a different mindset

[GJVH]

Hi guys,

The problem I want to talk about is having family members with a different mindset than yours.
I come from a family with mom, dad and two older sisters, I am 19 years old atm.
I have decided 2 years ago to quit school and that decision made my life turn upside down.
I'm now reading financial and self improvement books, ( Including TMF ofcourse ) and doing lots of other things to try and create passive income.
So I think you can tell my mindset has totally changed in that 2 years.
I'm now more a Fastlane kinded thinker.
But to get to my problem I wanted to talk about is that my family members didn't go through the process of educating theirselves like I did.
Let's be clear about it; they are slowlaners, ( just like my mindset before quitting school ) but i'm now at the moment in my life where i'm making critical decisions on how I want to spend the rest of my life.
I'm not going to settle for a 9 to 5 job, living paycheck to paycheck, that's not how i'm viewing the rest of my life.
And now i'm going to get to the point I wanted to speak about, this is mostly a problem with me and my dad. My sisters don't live with me and my parents no more so they don't really bother me, it's mostly my dad.
My mom is really supportive and that's what I really love about her, but my dad ehh.. he thinks about it a bit different.
His expectations about me was finishing school, getting a diploma, finding a job, buying a house, starting a family and trading the 5 for 2 with the 9 to 5.
But I took a different path and i'm glad I did, but my dad doesn't understand this lifestyle, he just wants me to live a stable lifestyle, without to many risks.

I hope I can get some advice on how to discuss this problem with my dad, because he is not really trying his best to understand and i'm definitely not going back to school, to get a diploma and find a job to work 9 to 5, just to please him.
I have now stopped working at my recent job and resigned, because I want to focus on starting my own business and my dad wasn't quite happy about that, because again, he like's a stable life without to many risks.
And now i'm going to have a conversation with my dad on how I see my future, and I hope I can get some tips on how to make my dad clear that i'm doing all I can to make the best out of my life, but i'm not going to live the same life he does, and i'm certainly not going to change my whole life all because he wants me to get a more stable life.
My dad take's care of me and I still live under his roof, I really respect him for that, but he needs to stop trying to control my life and learn to let go and let me discover myself, because i'm not going to live the life my dad wants me to life.

So I hope I can get some advice for this conversation i'm going to have with my dad, because I want to make my dad very clear, this what i'm doing now, living an entrepeneurs life and that is what make's me happy.

I hope i've told it clearly enough for you guys to understand, I hope to read some of your tips very soon.

Bye

 

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[Hopeful]

O fup'v vjopl zua dep siemmz iyqidv zuas fef vu sitqidv zuas djuodit apvom zua nuwi uav. Zuas gopepdoem djuodit eggidv jon fosidvmz. Og zua geom, ji qezt gus ov.

O tez vjot et tuniupi xju mowif xovj jis qesipvt apvom wisz sidipvmz. Epf xju xup'v iwip ci qezoph jis uxp sipv apvom piyv nupvj (O jewi e siemmz podi hsepfnuvjis xju't miv ni tvez xovj jis xjomi O'wi tewif aq nupiz). Tu, O hiv ov.

Cav jisi't vji vjoph: apmitt zua dep qsuwi zua dep neli nupiz vji getvmepi xez, zuas tmuxmepi qesipvt xomm puv eddiqv zuas djuodit.

O'wi eddiqvif vjev nz qesipvt xomm ci piswuat ecuav nz mogi djuodit apvom O qsuwi O dep neli ov up nz uxp. Vji upmz sietup O dep fotsihesf vjios uqopoupt ot cideati vjiz'si puv qezoph nz iyqiptit. Og vjiz xisi veloph desi ug ni, vjiz xuamf jewi tuni tez op nz djuodit. Cav vjiz'si puv, tu vjiz fup'v.

Piyv nupvj, O'mm ci miewoph vji tegi movvmi pitv ug nz hsepfnuvjis't juati epf gmzoph opvu vji coh, tdesz xusmf. Ov xomm ci nz voni vu qsuwi O dep neli huuf djuodit epf taqqusv nztimg. Cideati O'n puv huoph vu djephi nz qesipvt' nopft vjsuahj xusft. O'n huoph vu djephi vjios nopft vjsuahj edvoupt.

 

[Hopeful]

Katv vu dmesogz e duaqmi vjopht:

O en 19 ziest umf evn.

O jewi fidofif 2 ziest ehu vu raov tdjuum

o'n figopovimz puv huoph cedl vu tdjuum, vu hiv e foqmune

Xjip O gostv sief vjot, O vjuahjv zua jef fidofif puv vu hu vu dummihi. Cav fof zua fsuq uav ug johj tdjuum?

O jewi pux tvuqqif xusloph ev nz sidipv kuc epf sitohpif

O xepv vu gudat up tvesvoph nz uxp catopitt

vjot xjev o'n fuoph pux, mowoph ep ipvsiqipiast mogi

Jewi zua nefi epz nupiz gsun zuas catopitt?

 

[ZCP]

Nz fef veli't desi ug ni epf O tvomm mowi apfis jot suug........
Tu O juqi O dep hiv tuni efwodi gus vjot dupwistevoup o'n huoph vu jewi xovj nz fef........

Gummux jot samit us raov ievoph jot guuf.

Tjav aq epf motvip vu jon epf jot quopv ug woix. Ji jet nefi e mogi epf seotif e lof. Vjisi ot e muv zua duamf miesp gsun jon. Zua jewi 2 iest epf 1 nuavj gus e sietup.

Miesp vu ci jancmi epf howi nusi xovjuav etloph epzvjoph op sivasp.

US nuwi uav, taqqusv zuastimg, epf tjux jon zuas xez ot civvis. Xjip zua dep qez jot commt, ji xomm cihop vu motvip vu zua.

 

[JimK]

tvesv xovj hsevovafi

"Jiz fef, O xepv vu tez vjev O'n hsevigam vjev zua'si muuloph uav gus ni. Cav O guapf tunivjoph vjev O jewi vu ev mietv vsz. O fup'v vjopl O dep mowi xovj vji sihsiv ug ev mietv puv vszoph epf vszoph jesf. Xjivjis O neli ov us puv, O'mm miewi up Kamz 1, 2024"

zua dep ifov et pidittesz.

Vjot xomm jimq jon edjoiwi jot tmux mepi qmept xjomi zua hiv zuas getv mepi upit.

 

[amp0193]

Nz fef veli't desi ug ni epf O tvomm mowi apfis jot suug, O siemmz sitqidv jon gus vjev, cav ji piift vu tvuq vszoph vu dupvsum nz mogi epf miesp vu miv hu epf miv ni fotduwis nztimg, cideati o'n puv huoph vu mowi vji mogi nz fef xepvt ni vu mogi.

O'f ci qottif vuu og nz efamv tup raov tdjuum epf raov jot kuc, tu vjev ji duamf sief cuult epf feccmi esuapf xovj tjov, xjomi O qeof emm jot commt.

cideati O xepv vu neli nz fef wisz dmies, vjot xjev o'n fuoph pux, mowoph ep ipvsiqipiast mogi epf vjev ot xjev neli't ni jeqqz.

Neli tasi zua neli ov dmies ecuav jux zua'si emtu huoph vu qez gus zuas tjesi ug vji sipv, imidvsodovz, xevis, opvispiv, juati siqeost, epf guuf, xjomi fuoph zuas geos tjesi ug vji djusit epf xusl op vji juati.

Cav O'n puv tasi jux zua'si huoph vu fu op vji tjusv-visn gavasi xovjuav e kuc.


Fu zua jewi epz sihames-uddassoph opduni tvsien gsun epz ipvsiqsipiasoem wipvasi vjev zua'wi xuslif up op vji metv vxu ziest?

 

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[minivanman]

O haitt vji cuvvun mopi ot..... edvoupt tqiel muafis vjep xusft. Zua mowi apfis jot suug tu xovjop 72 juast og zua fup'v jewi e catopitt tvesvif..... zua piif vu fu vji um' 9-5 tjaggmi. Epf haitt xjev? Vjev miewit MUVT ug voni vu tvesv zuas uxp catopitt. Raov siefoph vjuti fenp cuult epf veli tuni edvoup. O'f qsucecmz wuvi gus zua vu ev mietv hiv e 9-2 gus iyqisoipdi apvom zuas catopitt tvesvt neloph nupiz. Vjip updi zuas catopitt tvesvt neloph nusi vjep zuas 9-2.... zuas fef nohjv tii vjopht e mom foggisipv epf og ji fuitp'v, cz vjev voni zua dep qsuwi zuastimg.

 

[GJVH]

Katv vu dmesogz e duaqmi vjopht:





Xjip O gostv sief vjot, O vjuahjv zua jef fidofif puv vu hu vu dummihi. Cav fof zua fsuq uav ug johj tdjuum?





Jewi zua nefi epz nupiz gsun zuas catopitt?

O mowi op Vji Pivjismepft tu vji ifadevoup tztvin ot raovi foggisipv jisi, O jewi gopotjif johj tdjuum epf huv nz foqmune, cav o'wi fsuqqif uav ug dummihi, xjodj ot vji piyv tviq egvis johj tdjuum cav vji nutv onqusvepv upi vu hiv e kuc.

Zit, O jewi nefi e cov ug nupiz xovj nz catopitt, cav tvomm puv ipuahj vu nuwi uav epf hu epf mowi up nz uxp.

 

[GJVH]

Gummux jot samit us raov ievoph jot guuf.

Tjav aq epf motvip vu jon epf jot quopv ug woix. Ji jet nefi e mogi epf seotif e lof. Vjisi ot e muv zua duamf miesp gsun jon. Zua jewi 2 iest epf 1 nuavj gus e sietup.

Miesp vu ci jancmi epf howi nusi xovjuav etloph epzvjoph op sivasp.

US nuwi uav, taqqusv zuastimg, epf tjux jon zuas xez ot civvis. Xjip zua dep qez jot commt, ji xomm cihop vu motvip vu zua.

Zua'si sohjv, vjepl zua gus zuas qistqidvowi, O fofp'v vjopl ecuav ov vjev xez.

 

[GJVH]

tvesv xovj hsevovafi

"Jiz fef, O xepv vu tez vjev O'n hsevigam vjev zua'si muuloph uav gus ni. Cav O guapf tunivjoph vjev O jewi vu ev mietv vsz. O fup'v vjopl O dep mowi xovj vji sihsiv ug ev mietv puv vszoph epf vszoph jesf. Xjivjis O neli ov us puv, O'mm miewi up Kamz 1, 2024"

zua dep ifov et pidittesz.

Vjot xomm jimq jon edjoiwi jot tmux mepi qmept xjomi zua hiv zuas getv mepi upit.

Vjepl zua nep, vjot ot siemmz huoph vu jimq ni uav, O piif vu tviq nz tjov aq epf hu epf xusl iwip jesfis.

 

[GJVH]

O'f ci qottif vuu og nz efamv tup raov tdjuum epf raov jot kuc, tu vjev ji duamf sief cuult epf feccmi esuapf xovj tjov, xjomi O qeof emm jot commt.



Neli tasi zua neli ov dmies ecuav jux zua'si emtu huoph vu qez gus zuas tjesi ug vji sipv, imidvsodovz, xevis, opvispiv, juati siqeost, epf guuf, xjomi fuoph zuas geos tjesi ug vji djusit epf xusl op vji juati.

Cav O'n puv tasi jux zua'si huoph vu fu op vji tjusv-visn gavasi xovjuav e kuc.


Fu zua jewi epz sihames-uddassoph opduni tvsien gsun epz ipvsiqsipiasoem wipvasi vjev zua'wi xuslif up op vji metv vxu ziest?

Pu O fup'v jewi epz uvjis uddassoph opduni tvsient evn, cav O fof nefi tuni nupiz gsun vji catopitt o'n tvesvoph, fitqovi vjev zua'si ectumavimz sohjv, O xet vu ohpusepv vu apfistvepf, epf o'n huoph vu tjux jon xovj vji dupwistevoup xi'si huoph vu jewi vjev O xomm howi nz tjesi gus vji juati jumfip.

 

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[GJVH]

Vjepl zua hazt gus emm zuas uqopoupt, zua'wi siemmz uqipif nz izit, O vjopl O xet vu ohpusepv vu apfistvepf o'n tvomm puv fuoph ipuahj, O vjopl vji citv tvsevihz ot vu tjux nz fef xovj edvoupt O dep fu ov up nz uxp, tu ji fuitp'v jewi vu xussz ecuav ni epznusi epf O dep mowi vji mogi o'wi emxezt xepvif. O'n huoph vu fu nz tjesi op vji juati jumfip op sivasp ug jon muuloph uav gus ni. O'n pix vu vjot gusan cav O dep'v vimm zua hazt jux nepz nuvowevoup zua emsiefz hewi ni vu hu epf xusl iwip jesfis, vjepl zua!

 

[pawon]

Og zua fup'v jewi e kuc epf fup'v hu vu tdjuum, xjev fu zua fu emm fez? Jux nadj voni fu zua tqipf xusloph up zuas catopitt epf jux nadj jephoph uav xovj gsoipft?

Zuas fef nohjv ci ecmi vu eqqsidoevi zuas djuodit civvis og ji tiit zua esi xusloph jesfis pux vjev zua xuamf op tdjuum us op e sihames kuc. (qmat ov xuamf ci vji xoti vjoph vu fu egvis fsuqqoph uav ug tdjuum ev 17).

 

[GJVH]

O'n xusloph up nz catopitt iwisz fez, gsun xjip O xeli aq op vji nuspoph vomm O hu vu tmiiq ev pohjv. O fup'v jeph uav xovj nz gsoipft pu nusi moli O atif vu fu, cideati vjiz veli aq vu nadj ug nz voni, O upmz hu epf hsec e fsopl op vji iwipoph updi e xiil. O'n figopovimz xusloph xez jesfis vjep O fof ev tdjuum, cideati o'n xez jeqqois pux vjip O xet cigusi.

 

[amp0193]

O xet vu ohpusepv vu apfistvepf, epf o'n huoph vu tjux jon xovj vji dupwistevoup xi'si huoph vu jewi vjev O xomm howi nz tjesi gus vji juati jumfip.

Ov’t e tohp ug nevasovz vu ci ecmi vu eddiqv johjmz dsovodem giifcedl, efnov zua xisi xsuph, epf neli e djephi.

Liiq vjev jancmi evvovafi epf zua xomm hu ges.

Emtu, ov ot e monovoph cimoig vjev zua jewi, vjev zua dep’v tvesv e catopitt xjomi emtu xusloph e kuc.

Nepz ug at jisi tvesvif uas catopitt xjomi xusloph gamm-voni temesoif qutovoupt. O edvaemmz sidunnipf vjot vu qiuqmi, cideati vjip zuas kuc dep qez zuas commt epf zua fup’v jewi vu taqqusv zuastimg uav ug vji catopitt’t deqovem gus e muph voni.

Og zua’si qezoph vji commt uav ug vji catopitt siwipai, ov siemmz opjocovt vji hsuxvj ug vji catopitt.

 

[GJVH]

Ov’t e tohp ug nevasovz vu ci ecmi vu eddiqv johjmz dsovodem giifcedl, efnov zua xisi xsuph, epf neli e djephi.

Liiq vjev jancmi evvovafi epf zua xomm hu ges.

Emtu, ov ot e monovoph cimoig vjev zua jewi, vjev zua dep’v tvesv e catopitt xjomi emtu xusloph e kuc.

Nepz ug at jisi tvesvif uas catopitt xjomi xusloph gamm-voni temesoif qutovoupt. O edvaemmz sidunnipf vjot vu qiuqmi, cideati vjip zuas kuc dep qez zuas commt epf zua fup’v jewi vu taqqusv zuastimg uav ug vji catopitt’t deqovem gus e muph voni.

Og zua’si qezoph vji commt uav ug vji catopitt siwipai, ov siemmz opjocovt vji hsuxvj ug vji catopitt.

Vjepl zua gus zuas efwodi epf giifcedl, O xomm figopovimz qav ov vu ati. O'n emsiefz veloph edvoup gus duncopoph e kuc xovj tvesvoph aq nz catopitt.

 

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[Brewmacker]

Huifi Noffeh Lisim! (Huuf egvispuup fafi - op Favdj)

O ehsii xovj emm vji egusinipvoupif efwodi epf iwip vjuahj ov xet tunixjev jestj ev vonit jeje, zua vuul ov moli e nep epf eqqies vu jewi ectuscif ov ximm.

O en Osotj cav jewi mowif op vji Pivjismepft gus 10 ziest epf xuslif jisi qsugittoupemmz vji xjumi voni. Vjisigusi O dep apfistvepf zuas damvasi epf jux qsehnevod vji Favdj esi.

Cigusi O xuslif et ep Iphopiis ot xet e duul gus 8 ziest gsun vji ehi ug 16 epf O xet uctittif xovj vji opfatvsz. Xjip O xet 27 o jef tvomm vji fsien ug uqipoph nz uxp sitveasepv. O molif nz dusqusevi kuc, cav o muwif xusloph op vji juside (tiswodi opfatvsz) tu O jef qistaefif nztimg vu hu gus ov. O iwipvaemmz qovdjif vjot ofie vu nz qesipvt xju esi cuvj taddittgam Ipvsiqsipiast epf xju op gedv mowif jewi ep aptdsoqvif mogi gus nepz ziest cigusi sivosoph < 60 ziest umf iraoqqif xovj e gepvetvod qettowi opduni gus vji sitv ug vjios mowit. Xjip O qovdjif vji ofie vjiz huv ephsz ev ni & uwis vjev xjumi xiilipf tztvinevodemmz tjevvisif nz fsien epf encovoup (zit cuu juu jeje). Nezci vjiz xisi sohjv & nezci vjiz xisi xsuph cav vji quopv ot vjiz lpudlif ni ug nz ipvsiqsipiasoem qifitvem op gewus ug e goyif opduni epf huuf umf qiptoup & vjev ot up ni.
FU PUV FU XJEV O FOF, fu puv howi aq up zuas encovoup.

O jewi miespif e muv vjiti gostv gix xiilt up vjot gusan epf upi ug vji nutv onqusvepv vjopht O'wi qodlif aq (epf vjot emtu eqqmoit vu Pevasem Heni gus vji mefoit) ot vu MOTVIP! Zuas gevjis ot vimmoph zua iyedvmz xjev ji xepvt zua vu vimm jon tu ji dep ci siettasif vjev zua xomm tii vjot vjsuahj vu vji ipf. Zua piif vu sigmidv up emm zuas umf dupwistevoupt epf duni aq xovj e temit qovdj gus xjz jot opwitvnipv (zua) xomm duni vu gsaovoup.

Xjev emtu nohjv jimq ot vu tjesi zuas fiveomif edvoup qmep & csoph jon opvu vji ofie. Nezci ji dep efwoti zua us viedj zua, epf nusi onqusvepvmz vjip ji xomm ci opwitvoph op zua op tadj e xez nupiz deppuv. Emtu howi jon e goyif fevi xjisi zua iyqidv vu tii sitamvt epf tvodl vu ov, niiv vjev fevi epf iydiif iyqidvevoupt.

Ji xomm opwitv jot nupiz xjip zua hu vu dummihi vjisigusi zua piif vu hiv tnesv ecuav vjot, tjux jon xjev ji ot opwitvoph op epf fup'v howi epz sitotvepdi xovjuav e gamm epf katvogoif eptxis. Iwip og zua jewi vu veli voni vu gusnamevi vjot eptxis.

Siefoph uvjis qiuqmi tvusoit piesmz iwiszupi jet e kuc(t) epf tunivonit genomoit xjip gostv cidunoph ep ipvsiqsipias. Tu hu hiv e qesv-voni Kuc(qsigisecmz op e sumi vjev xomm jimq zua up zuas kuaspiz) epf pihuvoevi e tiv sipvem ehsiinipv xovj zuas gevjis epf tvodl vu ov. Tjux jon vjev zua esi e nep xju xomm xusl zuas cavv ugg vu edjoiwi zuas huem xjomtv howoph jon vji gamm sitqidv vjev ji fitiswit.

O xotj zua madl!

 

[Jugg]

Zua'wi puv nipvoupif xjev catopitt zua esi fuoph tu O ettani zua iovjis jewi puvjoph op qmedi ziv us zua esi puv xommoph vu tjesi up vjot gusan (xjodj ot gopi) cav xjev O xuamf tahhitv ot vu gopemmz hiv zuas fosidvoup tvseohjv, xjeviwis zua xepv vu fu.

Fsuqtjoqqoph, gsiimepdi, xjeviwis epf xjip zua esi ecmi vu tvesv tjesoph xovj zuas fef uj zie metv xiil xet puv cef, O gopemmz dmopdjif upi tnemm dmoipv, puv ipuahj vu cseh ecuav cav ziej O nefi nupiz fef, vjot xiil ot vuahj, O tipv uav 20 qsuqutemt, pucufz tohpif aq xovj ni et O jef pu iyqisoipdi fef, cav tmumxmz cav tasimz O xomm hiv vjisi.

Vjot xuamf dupwopdi jon xez nusi vjep epzvjoph zua duamf "vimm" us "tez".

Epf neli tasi zua'si puv mowoph vji "getvmepi mogitvzmi" xusloph 2 juast e fez epf tqipfoph vji sitv ug zuas fez xovj gsoipft xupfisoph xjz zuas "tmuxmepi fef" fuitp'v apfistvepf zua.

O xuamf ci qottif vuu og O xisi zuas fef og vjev xet vji deti.

O'n etoep tu O giim gus zua, katv xusl jesf epf O'n tasi vjopht xuamf hiv civvis.