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F*ck You Moment?

sfarieri

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I think I actually finally had my F*ck You moment that @MJ DeMarco describes in UNSCRIPTED . In April 2020, I lost my full-time job as Digital Media Manager due to covid. Since then, I've been learning new skills, reading books (The Millionaire Fastlane and UNSCRIPTED , among others), brushing up on existing skills, applying for jobs, and contemplating working on an app/working for myself.

With the job market being extremely tough and spending months without any luck at nabbing a job, I decided to get my Real Estate license and started taking the 75-hour course in December. I finished the course in February, passed the final exam, and ended up passing the state exam. As I applied for my license, I ended up receiving a full-time job offer and, after some negotiating, for almost what I was making previously at my old job, which was a lot higher than they intended to hire for. I ended up accepting but needed time to get child care. They granted me the time (about 3 1/2 weeks) and I was able to secure child care arrangements for my son. As time ticked on closer to my start date, I started getting a bad feeling about taking the job. Something just didn't sit right with me and I wasn't excited at all to begin. It was eating away at me for days, in the pit of my stomach. I've never NOT been excited to start a job before. A few days ago, I asked about the dress code just to prepare and I was informed of working hours that I was never told about. I was told during the interview that the hours would be 9-5 or 930-530, but was now just told 930-6 pm. After finding out this, I asked if they would mind if I worked through my lunch break (30 mins) so I could leave a little earlier so I can see my son during the week. He's a baby and his bedtime is around 7 pm. If I left the job a 6, I would get home maybe at 645, which makes me being able to see my son for less than 30 minutes a day every week. I didn't receive a response and waited the whole weekend without one. I get an email today saying that they have decided to go with a different candidate and that they were taking back the offer. I felt RELIEVED. I got happy. The anxiety, the eating away at me, disappeared. Part of the anxiety, I believe, was me wanting to do Real Estate since I took the time to do it, but I feared the very real possibility of having a full-time job and doing real estate would leave me to never have time for my son. He's the best thing in my life and I want time with him.

So after I received that bit of news, I felt better. A weight was off my shoulders. I could now work for myself and sell some houses. Know what I did afterward? I called up 2 of my closest friends and told them about my app idea. They were sold on it and wanted to be a part of it. We decided to have a virtual meeting about the first steps and the functionality of the app. I was focused, ready to go, and felt a lot of excitement. I felt like this was my F*ck You moment because after losing the offer, I started taking immediate action to start working on the app and am now fully committed to seeing it through. Working for myself.

What do you think?
 
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sfarieri

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I think I actually finally had my F*ck You moment that @MJ DeMarco describes in UNSCRIPTED . In April 2020, I lost my full-time job as Digital Media Manager due to covid. Since then, I've been learning new skills, reading books (The Millionaire Fastlane and UNSCRIPTED , among others), brushing up on existing skills, applying for jobs, and contemplating working on an app/working for myself.

With the job market being extremely tough and spending months without any luck at nabbing a job, I decided to get my Real Estate license and started taking the 75-hour course in December. I finished the course in February, passed the final exam, and ended up passing the state exam. As I applied for my license, I ended up receiving a full-time job offer and, after some negotiating, for almost what I was making previously at my old job, which was a lot higher than they intended to hire for. I ended up accepting but needed time to get child care. They granted me the time (about 3 1/2 weeks) and I was able to secure child care arrangements for my son. As time ticked on closer to my start date, I started getting a bad feeling about taking the job. Something just didn't sit right with me and I wasn't excited at all to begin. It was eating away at me for days, in the pit of my stomach. I've never NOT been excited to start a job before. A few days ago, I asked about the dress code just to prepare and I was informed of working hours that I was never told about. I was told during the interview that the hours would be 9-5 or 930-530, but was now just told 930-6 pm. After finding out this, I asked if they would mind if I worked through my lunch break (30 mins) so I could leave a little earlier so I can see my son during the week. He's a baby and his bedtime is around 7 pm. If I left the job a 6, I would get home maybe at 645, which makes me being able to see my son for less than 30 minutes a day every week. I didn't receive a response and waited the whole weekend without one. I get an email today saying that they have decided to go with a different candidate and that they were taking back the offer. I felt RELIEVED. I got happy. The anxiety, the eating away at me, disappeared. Part of the anxiety, I believe, was me wanting to do Real Estate since I took the time to do it, but I feared the very real possibility of having a full-time job and doing real estate would leave me to never have time for my son. He's the best thing in my life and I want time with him.

So after I received that bit of news, I felt better. A weight was off my shoulders. I could now work for myself and sell some houses. Know what I did afterward? I called up 2 of my closest friends and told them about my app idea. They were sold on it and wanted to be a part of it. We decided to have a virtual meeting about the first steps and the functionality of the app. I was focused, ready to go, and felt a lot of excitement. I felt like this was my F*ck You moment because after losing the offer, I started taking immediate action to start working on the app and am now fully committed to seeing it through. Working for myself.

What do you think?
Would this fit the F*ck you moment? @MJ DeMarco
 

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A F-U moment is transient and causes anger, but doesn't compel lasting change.
A F U event is transcendent, and does.

Your answer will only be revealed in time.
 

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What do you think?
You got good writing style. Its rare for me to read a wall of text but couldn't stop reading yours. Maybe try incorporating this storytelling into your app's promotion.
 
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sfarieri

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A F-U moment is transient and causes anger, but doesn't compel lasting change.
A F U event is transcendent, and does.

Your answer will only be revealed in time.
Ah so I think I'm referring to the event. Thank you.
 

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Sounds horrible, use it as motivation to become unscripted . That way you can spend time with your son however, wherever, and whenever you like.

''Lead life, instead of LIFE leading you'' MJ Money Demarco
 

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