I am in a pretty crappy situation and honestly don't know what to do. I have been going over all the details in my head for so long, got nobody to ask for help, so I decided to go ahead and finally post it here.... I have been married for 8 rocky years, always some kind of situation going on with my husband. Before we got married he was so perfect and then slowly his true colors started coming out. About a year after he staryed gambling and still does to this day, though it has gotten better. There were times where we had no food, had to borrow money for rent, etc though he made around 50-70k a yr as a pilot. We lost 2 houses, cars, filed for bankruptcy. I wanted to go back to school but he said we couldn't afford it, seriously?
The past 2 years his gambling hasn't been out of control and we live pretty good. I mean it is definetly not what it used to be and no longer do we have problems paying bills/rent/food but he still is never around, not active in our kids lives, and when he has time off it's all about him(parties, gotta see the guys, hit up the gym, weekend guy trips, etc) no time for the fam.
He doesn't support me in any of my business ideas and it seems like he doesn't ever want me to succeed because of fear that I will leave him. It's like having a free housekeeper, nanny, assistant around who does everything. Recently I found out that he's been cheating on me and it just kills me...
I take care of everything, do everything, never complain...yet it is never enough for him. I don't see much love or support from him. I am tired of being unhappy and stressed out all the time. I have no family here and I cannot support myself and 3 kids right now. I have been doing ok with affiliate marketing and some online stuff but it's not enough for me to move out yet. I have an amazing online biz idea and don't know if I should do it now or try making money other ways and start my biz once I am divorced. The online biz will be a free site which will generate most revenue through ads and with my idea it can make 50k+ a month because of the importance of the content.
Obviously I won't need any licenses to start it and maybe I can register the business or LLC as soon as I have some money coming in, so if there is no biz on paperwork and legalized he can't take it away from me right or sue for half or whatever??? I am not going to tell him I plan on divorce until I can afford to move out so for the mean time I guess I have to suck everything up and somehow get through his affair and other problems. What kins of advice can you guys give me in my situation??? I wasn't even sure at first if to post this but I don't have any close friends or family who can give me advice and I'm tired of pulling my hair out as to what to do.
The past 2 years his gambling hasn't been out of control and we live pretty good. I mean it is definetly not what it used to be and no longer do we have problems paying bills/rent/food but he still is never around, not active in our kids lives, and when he has time off it's all about him(parties, gotta see the guys, hit up the gym, weekend guy trips, etc) no time for the fam.
He doesn't support me in any of my business ideas and it seems like he doesn't ever want me to succeed because of fear that I will leave him. It's like having a free housekeeper, nanny, assistant around who does everything. Recently I found out that he's been cheating on me and it just kills me...
I take care of everything, do everything, never complain...yet it is never enough for him. I don't see much love or support from him. I am tired of being unhappy and stressed out all the time. I have no family here and I cannot support myself and 3 kids right now. I have been doing ok with affiliate marketing and some online stuff but it's not enough for me to move out yet. I have an amazing online biz idea and don't know if I should do it now or try making money other ways and start my biz once I am divorced. The online biz will be a free site which will generate most revenue through ads and with my idea it can make 50k+ a month because of the importance of the content.
Obviously I won't need any licenses to start it and maybe I can register the business or LLC as soon as I have some money coming in, so if there is no biz on paperwork and legalized he can't take it away from me right or sue for half or whatever??? I am not going to tell him I plan on divorce until I can afford to move out so for the mean time I guess I have to suck everything up and somehow get through his affair and other problems. What kins of advice can you guys give me in my situation??? I wasn't even sure at first if to post this but I don't have any close friends or family who can give me advice and I'm tired of pulling my hair out as to what to do.
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